In summary, the evidence is strong that men have
evolved psychological mechanisms dedicated to
solving the complex problems posed by success at
short-term mating. These include a desire for sexual
variety, the tendency to let little time elapse before
seeking sexual intercourse, and the behavioral
willingness to consent to sex with strangers. In
addition, men, but not women, appear to lower their
standards dramatically in the context of short-term
mating (Buss & Schmitt, 1993); show a marked
decrease in attraction to a sex partner immediately
following sexual intercourse with a short-term sex
partner, a psychological phenomenon hypothesized to
facilitate a hasty post-copulation departure (Haselton
& Buss, 2001); report exaggerating the depth of their
feelings to gain sexual access (Haselton, Buss, Oubaid,
& Angleitner, 2005); and report that they would have
an extramarital affair if they knew that no one would
find out (for reviews of this evidence, see Buss,
1994/2003). In sum, the evidence for evolved
psychological adaptations in men for short-term
mating is substantial.
"Was not COMPLAINING about not getting hit on, not ASKING to be hit on,"
eugenen: Huh. As a veteran of many New Pornographers concerts, I can attest that there is never any shortage of male shrieks of "I love you, Neko!" from the crowd.
Maybe the lesson is that guys are too chickenshit to do more than worship from afar.
I know it seems contradictory, but as an ugly lady I can assure you that sometimes the lack of unwanted attention can be as stinging as the lack of wanted attention. Like, "WTF is wrong with me that construction workers will whistle at my friend by not at me." I don't want guys to harass me on the street, but at the same time I have been taught that I am a failure if they don't.
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