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March 24, 2011 7:06 PM   Subscribe

Message With a Bottle is a pretty darned charming tumblr by a stay-at-home dad who writes post-it notes to himself about parenting and fatherhood.
posted by Shohn (33 comments total) 29 users marked this as a favorite

 
I misread "fatherhood" as "Facebook."
posted by grobstein at 7:10 PM on March 24, 2011


"I misread "fatherhood" as "Facebook."" See, I misread "post-it" as "pasta"
posted by tomswift at 7:12 PM on March 24, 2011


Some of those are flippin' poignant.

Excuse me, I have this saw dust in my eye...
posted by cavalier at 7:29 PM on March 24, 2011 [1 favorite]


I love the one with the cat face and the note about not being sure which one he's going to feel sorrier for when the baby catches the cat.
posted by immlass at 7:29 PM on March 24, 2011 [1 favorite]


And I misread "Message" as "Massage".
posted by rageagainsttherobots at 7:29 PM on March 24, 2011 [2 favorites]


I didn't misread anything. But after reading those pasta notes, I immediately thought that this must be a joke put on by a feminist poking fun at gender stereotypes. That handwriting, to me, screams "Girl!" But with the poop jokes, and the dry humping, I don't know. I'm conflicted.

This exercise in exploring gender bias has been brought to you by the letter mudpuppie.
posted by mudpuppie at 7:31 PM on March 24, 2011 [2 favorites]


Sends me back to reread The Story about the Baby and The Story about the Toddler.
posted by FLAG (BASTARD WATER.) (Acorus Adulterinus.) at 7:33 PM on March 24, 2011 [3 favorites]


It could be a feminist poking fun at gender stereotypes while still being a genuine stay at home dad.
posted by amethysts at 7:42 PM on March 24, 2011 [17 favorites]


Super-cute. Somehow (maybe because he's already an author), I suspect the dad blogger is using this to pitch a book proposal. But, it will be a funny one.
posted by pineapple at 7:56 PM on March 24, 2011 [1 favorite]


If it does turn out to be a book it will be the prequel to "shit my father says".
posted by greenhornet at 8:03 PM on March 24, 2011 [2 favorites]


This exercise in exploring gender bias has been brought to you by the letter mudpuppie.

We've been putting on a series of spoken word events this winter. At one event, one of our invited speakers got up and introduced himself as a musician and also a stay at home dad. At the words "Stay at home dad" he got a spontaneous and sustained outburst of applause.

Wow. So many ways to interpret that. Are we applauding because it's awesome that something he'd have been shamed for twenty years ago is now something he can say with pride? Or because he's a guy taking care of his offspring?

The one sure thing is that no woman identifying herself as "stay at home mom," of which we've had a couple, has gotten that response.

All that aside, it's awesome when one parent or both can be around to spend time with their kids at early developmental stages when it's really extra important. I know a lot of dads who stay at home these days - in my immediate social set, I actually know many more of those than I do stay at home moms, which partly says something about changing gender roles and partly a shitty economy, but it's probably a good thing for the kid that somebody can be home with them when they're so little.
posted by Miko at 8:15 PM on March 24, 2011


Give this guy a book already before this thread turns the internet into BEANS
posted by Stonestock Relentless at 8:27 PM on March 24, 2011


So, Mrs. flt and I are expecting a little monster of our own. Well, she's doing all the work, I'm just hanging around at this point. I've been getting excited about our own little pile of goo, and I've been thinking about being a stay-at-home dad. The Mrs. is fine with that, as she had to tell my mother four times in a weekend that no, she really didn't want to work part time once the baby was out of her and doing all that baby stuff like eating and pooping and screaming and sleeping. Day care is expensive, we figure, and I could try to sell my photos on the side, or do research for hire. And I was really looking forward to hanging out with the little goo monster, taking more photos, listening to music with goo beast and telling it stories, taking it on walks and whatnot. And writing about being a dad, taking pictures of our ridiculous new family member.

And then I realized I'm well on the road to being a sappy Daddy Blogger, but there are still four months before I'm actually a father. Goddamnit.

Yet, I still want to be a Daddy Blogger. A bit. But I fear for my future self. "Honey, you won't believe what the other daddy bloggers said about our little goo monster escapade yesterday!"
posted by filthy light thief at 8:31 PM on March 24, 2011 [2 favorites]


Message With a Bottle is a pretty darned charming tumblr by a stay-at-home dad

No it's not. Glurge extravaganza does come to mind, though. This kind of calculated mewling specifically fabricated to leverage the value of the human reproduction instinct is precisely what's wrong with this planet. Were I Emperor, insipid panderers like this dipstick would be launched into the surface of the sun the instant their drivel received it's first track-back.
posted by PareidoliaticBoy at 8:34 PM on March 24, 2011 [4 favorites]


I learned a new word today.
posted by ErWenn at 8:35 PM on March 24, 2011 [2 favorites]


If you run out of nursery rhymes, the theme song from "Fresh Prince of Bel Air" works well.
posted by SirOmega at 8:52 PM on March 24, 2011


> Were I Emperor insipid panderers like this dipstick [etc.]

Whoah there, tiger. Just because someone shat in your Wheaties doesn't mean you have to eat them, you know? You can just go get another bowl.
posted by pts at 9:03 PM on March 24, 2011 [7 favorites]


As a current SAHD, this is damn funny. The one that hit me most was that "when you stay at home w/ a kid long enough, the days start to lose their 'feel'"

It's true. I'm on month 4 right now, and have really lost the love of TGIF because my daughter's schedule doesn't change on weekends.
posted by Amity at 9:10 PM on March 24, 2011 [2 favorites]


I've offered numerous times to be the stay-at-home dad and let my wife go back to work but she won't hear it. I think that's because despite all the time-sucking hard work it is to raise two little rugrats all day long, at the end of the day, when your two year old gives you a big hug and says "i duv doo mama" (I love you mama) well, it makes it all worth it.

Most days all I get is "daddy going work?" which makes me wish I was a millionaire so we could both be stay-at-home parents.
posted by jnrussell at 9:50 PM on March 24, 2011 [2 favorites]


My version was 'Message on a Bottle.' It involved a sharpie and drunken wit. Was not quite as charming or as well documented.
posted by From Bklyn at 3:31 AM on March 25, 2011


No it's not. Glurge extravaganza does come to mind, though. This kind of calculated mewling specifically fabricated to leverage the value of the human reproduction instinct is precisely what's wrong with this planet. Were I Emperor, insipid panderers like this dipstick would be launched into the surface of the sun the instant their drivel received it's first track-back.

First reaction: "PareidoliaticBoy is one of those people, huh? What a dink."

Two seconds later: "I would have had a similar reaction just two years and four months ago, and deep inside I know there's some warrant for cynical reactions to public displays of parenting. And I promised myself that I'd never become one of those smug, 'I'm part of a special group' parents. WHAT HAVE YOU BECOME, CURLEY? WHAT HAVE YOU BECOME?"

Now if you'll excuse me it's time to wake my special little angel up and give her some milk.
posted by Mayor Curley at 3:51 AM on March 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


First belly laughs of the day. Thanks for that.
posted by nickyskye at 4:21 AM on March 25, 2011


Wait, what about patty cake? "Pat a cake"...no way!
posted by ifjuly at 5:22 AM on March 25, 2011


If it does turn out to be a book it will be the prequel to "shit my father says".

"Shit my son makes"?
posted by papercake at 6:54 AM on March 25, 2011


"I would have had a similar reaction just two years and four months ago, and deep inside I know there's some warrant for cynical reactions to public displays of parenting. And I promised myself that I'd never become one of those smug, 'I'm part of a special group' parents. WHAT HAVE YOU BECOME, CURLEY? WHAT HAVE YOU BECOME?"

I thought it was cute and I have no desire at all for a rugrat of my own. But I'm willing to get over my pose of public curmudgeonliness on occasion.
posted by immlass at 7:02 AM on March 25, 2011


Well, I am a stay-at-home-parent and I thought it was pretty 'meh'. Put me in whatever camp you want.
posted by Megami at 7:24 AM on March 25, 2011


This is relevant to my interests. And funny, too.
posted by gnutron at 7:42 AM on March 25, 2011


I liked it, but there is that sense in the back of my head that this is certainly an idea to hang a book deal on.

But, I chuckled knowingly at some of the post-its. So, carry on, I suppose.
posted by papercake at 8:24 AM on March 25, 2011


Related: @DadNeedsADrink. "Fixing a $2 toy sword with an $8 tube of glue. Because the rules of economics don't apply to parenthood."
posted by Nelson at 9:40 AM on March 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


Is anyone else weirded out by the sorority-girl handwriting?
posted by sid at 4:27 PM on March 25, 2011


The real question is, is this a Doctor Who joke?
posted by you're a kitty! at 4:47 PM on March 25, 2011 [1 favorite]


Is anyone else weirded out by the sorority-girl handwriting?

I don't know that it's necessarily "sorority girl," but it's feminine I grant you. But so is my dad's. Some men have pretty handwriting.
posted by Mayor Curley at 5:16 AM on March 26, 2011 [1 favorite]


At least this isn't about bringing babies into bars...
posted by Wuggie Norple at 7:14 AM on March 26, 2011


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