If you know and love somebody who is gay and LDS (or Christian), your job is to love and nothing more. Let go of your impulse to correct them or control them or propel them down the path you think is right for them. Do what you need to do to move past that impulse. Do not condemn the choices your loved one makes.
Being gay does not mean you are a sinner or that you are evil. Sin is in action, not in temptation or attraction.
God is not judging you. He loves you. Turn to him. He has a plan specifically for you. He wants you to be happy
He couldn’t love you any more, and he is proud of you for your courage.
Why would a loving God create Josh (or any other gay person), give them non-harmful desires, and then command them not to act on those desires? It's the cruelest thing I can imagine.
As a man, I have a natural desire to sleep with as many women as possible, and yet acting on this instinct is frowned upon
sez you. I am a man, I don't think "as many women as possible" is "natural."
One of the sad truths about being homosexual is that no matter what you decide for your future, you have to sacrifice something. It’s very sad, but it is true... «snip» ...If you choose a same-sex partner, you are sacrificing the ability to have a biological family with the one you love.
One of the sad truths about being homosexual is that no matter what you decide for your future, you have to sacrifice something. It’s very sad, but it is true.
I also promise that pressuring them to live the life you want them to lead will only hamper their ability to make a genuine and authentic choice for their own future, be it what you hope for them or not.
Also I am unaware of any traditional sexual ethics that valorize having sex with people you are not attracted to.
I am gay. I am Mormon. I am married to a woman. I am happy every single day. My life is filled with joy. I have a wonderful sex life.
No longer finding someone attractive is a completely different case from marrying someone that you both are not attracted to, *and* believe that you could not possibly, ever, under any circumstances whatsoever, be any more attracted to them than you are to a sister or a shoe, owing to intrinsic and (almost)ineradicable qualities of your spouse.
Josh: Well, I guess that means we're gonna skip dinner...
Lolly: Skip dinner? Um, I don't think so. I just threw up. Now, there's more room for dinner.
Josh: You just threw up, and now you're ready to go get something to eat? You are awesome.
It was at that moment I was pretty sure I wanted to marry this girl.
Here is the basic reality that I actually think many people could use a lesson in: sex is about more than just visual attraction and lust and it is about more than just passion and infatuation. I won’t get into the boring details of the research here, but basically when sex is done right, at its deepest level it is about intimacy. It is about one human being connecting with another human being they love. It is a beautiful physical manifestation of two people being connected in a truly vulnerable, intimate manner because they love each other profoundly. It is bodies connecting and souls connecting. It is beautiful and rich and fulfilling and spiritual and amazing. Many people never get to this point in their sex lives because it requires incredible communication, trust, vulnerability, and connection. And Lolly and I have had that from day one, mostly because we weren’t distracted by the powerful chemicals of infatuation and obsession that usually bring a couple together (which dwindle dramatically after the first few years of marriage anyway). So, in a weird way, the circumstances of our marriage allowed us to build a sexual relationship that is based on everything partners should want in their sex-life: intimacy, communication, genuine love and affection. This has resulted in us having a better sex life than most people I personally know. Most of whom are straight. Go fig.
Goofyy: "The Bible says it's wrong to do sex against one's nature. "
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