You must become your father, but a paler, weaker version of him....Begin by whispering, in front of a mirror, for thirty minutes a day. Then tie your hands behind your back for thirty minutes a day, or get someone else to do this for you. Then, choose one of your most deeply held beliefs, such as the belief that your honors and awards have something to do with you, and abjure it. Friends will help you abjure it, and can be telephoned if you begin to backslide. You see the pattern, put it into practice. Fatherhood can be, if not conquered, at least 'turned down' in this generation—by the combined efforts of all of us together. Rejoice.
You must become your father, but a paler, weaker version of him....
For Wilson, society took a wrong turn when it viewed the ideal role of policing as detectives solving a crime or a system following clear rules agreed on in advance. The real purpose of the policeman was to preserve order, pushing the limits of his or her authority in an improvisational, eternal combat against an almost self-conscious disorder.
Likewise, without the above formulation, #nodads often appears to be less a non-hierarchical project than an elaborate inside joke, a sort of #seapunk for those who spend less time at the Cove. Whether this is stems from the nature of social media, those ‘curating’ the hashtag, or some patriarchal longing on behalf of the dadded, I’m not really sure, but it’s an issue that seems to be worth reflecting on, and one that’s (perhaps accidently) reinforced by the vagueness of phrasings like “Those who are spoken to by #nodads.”
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