dos & don'ts to combat sexism
August 6, 2014 12:30 PM Subscribe
posted by flex (117 comments total)
78 users marked this as a favorite
Robot Hugs: a comic on harassment
Leigh Alexander: But what can be done?
to combat online sexism
The silence of our friends is so much more painful than the noise of our enemies, and when our bosses, important figures in our field, or colleagues do not come out to condemn sexism or acts of abuse against us it can be very lonesome — we get the message that sexism is our own problem, an inconvenient issue that no one wants to get their hands dirty with.
When men condemn sexism the response is universally approving — good man, brave man. When women talk about sexism, we get death threats. Men should use this advantage to the fullest: The essays guys often write about how sexism is wrong or how they came to understand their own sexism may set examples for other men, and that’s not unimportant, but it’s basically just patting their own backs if those men are not also signal-boosting and supporting the work of women colleagues, hiring women, and bringing attention to the accomplishments of the women in their field.
Kat Stoeffel: It Shouldn’t Take Having a Daughter for Men to Care About Feminism
"No act of personal writing makes my skin crawl like when a father sits down to describe what having a daughter has taught him about the female experience. It’s nothing against dads. I love mine, and I also welcome feminist awakenings whenever and however they occur. But often the writer-dad’s newfound sensitivity is overshadowed by his prior obliviousness: He was apparently unable to empathize with women before one sprung from his loins. Did he take nothing from his other encounters with half of humanity? Not even from his mother?"
Harris O'Malley (Dr. NerdLove): Men really need to stop calling women crazy
"Men are logical; women are emotional. Emotion is the antithesis of logic. When women are too
emotional, we say they are being irrational. Crazy. Wrong. Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do... [W]hat we’re really saying is: “She was upset, and I didn’t want her to be.”"
Jay Aaminah Khan (jaythenerdkid):
*Ten ways to be a better male feminist
*Ten things male feminists need to stop saying
1. “I’m really attracted to strong women.”
2. “Consent is so sexy.”
3. “Real women have curves!”
4. “Intelligence is way sexier than looks anyway.”
5. “Men experience that kind of oppression too!”
6. “Personally, I think all women are sexy.”
7. “Don’t you think more people would listen to you if you weren’t so emotional?”
8. “But I haven’t done any of those things!”
9. “I haven’t witnessed any of what you’re describing.”
10. “But I just want to help! Why are you picking on me?”