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February 8, 2015 9:25 AM   Subscribe

A powerful essay from Sarah Ditum on gender and her daughter...all our daughters. “Am I girly-girl or a tomboy?” she asks sometimes, and I can never tell from the way she asks which of them she wants to be: she knows that to be a girly-girl is to belong (she has learned from experience that getting “girly” right will be rewarded and protect her from certain kinds of sanction), but she knows too that “boy” things are laudable and tomboyishness has a cachet that girliness does not.

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You did a term of judo, then you stopped because some boys in the class began shoving the few girls who attended. They didn’t tell you this was because you were a girl, but it was because you were a girl: they decided this class was their space, so they pushed you around till they pushed you out. “Push them back, and harder,” I wanted to say – you are going to grow up tall and powerful, and right now most boys your age are smaller than you – but fighting is only going to get you in trouble, and anyway, in a few years their violence will exceed anything you can offer.
posted by amanda (0 comments total)

This post was deleted for the following reason: This blog post comes off as a bit weird, promoting "girlyness" but also weirdly transphobic towards tomboys and isn't going over too well, sorry. -- mathowie



 

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