Two Guys Who Hate Each Other - "At A Party"
April 14, 2017 4:49 AM Subscribe
Yes, it's nice that you shared it. I'm sure that these videos were extremely helpful to you, especially the title, which is where you found out that this is not the normal way people interact with people they like, even though the people who 'like' you treat you like this. Fair play to you, mate.
posted by ambrosen at 5:14 AM on April 14, 2017 [5 favorites]
posted by ambrosen at 5:14 AM on April 14, 2017 [5 favorites]
I'm glad that you guys are both so concerned for me, it really shows the compassionate side of both of you. You both really aught to get to know each other better, clearly you deserve each other.
posted by Blasdelb at 5:18 AM on April 14, 2017 [9 favorites]
posted by Blasdelb at 5:18 AM on April 14, 2017 [9 favorites]
I have a life, so I didn't have time to watch whatever this was. It is good, however, to see the three of you hook up like this, looks like those social skills classes are finally taking hold for you.
posted by HuronBob at 5:33 AM on April 14, 2017 [6 favorites]
posted by HuronBob at 5:33 AM on April 14, 2017 [6 favorites]
Yeah, you should really know the difference between ought and aught by now. Glad you're trying new words though.
posted by tillermo at 5:37 AM on April 14, 2017 [5 favorites]
posted by tillermo at 5:37 AM on April 14, 2017 [5 favorites]
My million dollar app idea is the passive aggressive translator. It just whispers in your ear what people are really saying when they pull this bullshit.
I love your dress, does it come in my size?
You're so fat none of your clothes would fit me.
It's so nice you're still together, there really is someone for everyone.
That you can find a guy and keep him is a fucking miracle.
Remember you used to do hairdressing back in college? It's great to have a skill you can fall back on.
Your career is going to shit and you should have chosen a better major.
Of course you can have the last slice, I'm trying to watch my weight.
It's obvious you don't give a fuck about what you eat.
I have a personal trainer now. I really realy should give you his number.
You need to take few laps around the block because you look like shit.
Actually it wouldn't just whisper it in your ear, it would mimic the person's voice and blast it out at FULL VOLUME. Abusive behavior wearing a fancy hat is still abusive behavior. They think they can get away with it by being passive aggressive, when suddenly everyone at the party hears the shitty things they really mean.
posted by adept256 at 6:04 AM on April 14, 2017 [13 favorites]
I love your dress, does it come in my size?
You're so fat none of your clothes would fit me.
It's so nice you're still together, there really is someone for everyone.
That you can find a guy and keep him is a fucking miracle.
Remember you used to do hairdressing back in college? It's great to have a skill you can fall back on.
Your career is going to shit and you should have chosen a better major.
Of course you can have the last slice, I'm trying to watch my weight.
It's obvious you don't give a fuck about what you eat.
I have a personal trainer now. I really realy should give you his number.
You need to take few laps around the block because you look like shit.
Actually it wouldn't just whisper it in your ear, it would mimic the person's voice and blast it out at FULL VOLUME. Abusive behavior wearing a fancy hat is still abusive behavior. They think they can get away with it by being passive aggressive, when suddenly everyone at the party hears the shitty things they really mean.
posted by adept256 at 6:04 AM on April 14, 2017 [13 favorites]
That app sounds great! I wouldn't have much need for it, because I was socialized and can pick up on subtext, but good for you!
posted by Parasite Unseen at 6:31 AM on April 14, 2017 [20 favorites]
posted by Parasite Unseen at 6:31 AM on April 14, 2017 [20 favorites]
oh, you're all still being passive aggressive? that's cool, that's a really good way to handle anger before you learn to be massive aggressive
posted by phooky at 6:33 AM on April 14, 2017 [2 favorites]
posted by phooky at 6:33 AM on April 14, 2017 [2 favorites]
Oh, are we doing snark now? That's cool. I used to be big into snark, like you guys, but then I realized it felt so much more healthy for me not to be into snark. More authentic. But if you guys are more fulfilled with snark, then you should keep at it. I just find that it works so much better for me to say what I really mean. But that's just me.
posted by logicpunk at 6:37 AM on April 14, 2017 [16 favorites]
posted by logicpunk at 6:37 AM on April 14, 2017 [16 favorites]
It's actually sexual tension.
posted by My Dad at 7:15 AM on April 14, 2017 [3 favorites]
posted by My Dad at 7:15 AM on April 14, 2017 [3 favorites]
Funny concept. Gotta say it'd be better with one camera, done as if live on stage. The cuts and angles kind of ruin it.
posted by jeff-o-matic at 7:30 AM on April 14, 2017
posted by jeff-o-matic at 7:30 AM on April 14, 2017
This is surprisingly close to ground truth for a lot of male friendships I have.
posted by billjings at 7:31 AM on April 14, 2017 [1 favorite]
posted by billjings at 7:31 AM on April 14, 2017 [1 favorite]
That was stressful.
posted by maryr at 8:12 AM on April 14, 2017 [1 favorite]
posted by maryr at 8:12 AM on April 14, 2017 [1 favorite]
This is surprisingly close to ground truth for a lot of male friendships I have.
I was at a poker game a few years ago with an old work friend and some of his friends that I didn't know that well. One of the guys got very, very drunk and his antics eventually pissed off one of the other guys so much that he staged a confrontation, they yelled at each other, and the drunk guy eventually stumbled back to his place. The thing that struck me is that afterwards, the fight-starter kept using sentences that started like, "Man, I love the guy, I'd take a bullet for him but --" and then trailed into a bunch of personal complaints that didn't have that much to do with him being drunk this one time. It was pretty obvious to me that he actually loathed the drunk guy, but the forces of male bonding in friend groups like that put such a strong emphasis on everyone getting along and being part of the group that he felt like he had to preface everything with a disclaimer about how they were great bros despite that not remotely being the case.
posted by Copronymus at 8:27 AM on April 14, 2017 [5 favorites]
I was at a poker game a few years ago with an old work friend and some of his friends that I didn't know that well. One of the guys got very, very drunk and his antics eventually pissed off one of the other guys so much that he staged a confrontation, they yelled at each other, and the drunk guy eventually stumbled back to his place. The thing that struck me is that afterwards, the fight-starter kept using sentences that started like, "Man, I love the guy, I'd take a bullet for him but --" and then trailed into a bunch of personal complaints that didn't have that much to do with him being drunk this one time. It was pretty obvious to me that he actually loathed the drunk guy, but the forces of male bonding in friend groups like that put such a strong emphasis on everyone getting along and being part of the group that he felt like he had to preface everything with a disclaimer about how they were great bros despite that not remotely being the case.
posted by Copronymus at 8:27 AM on April 14, 2017 [5 favorites]
This is actually supersuper handy? Like, now I can with evil intent recommend the series to my passiveagression rivals at parties! "Omigosh, no way, Kelleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Love this SO MUCH, we SO need to catch up! Hey, know what, though, this sux so hard because I have to jet, but I've been meaning to make you one cool recommendation: have you seen the TwoGuysWhoHateEachOther vids? I really think you'd really like them! No, no, no, I know, so busy, right? That's so cool, though, SO great to see you out."
posted by Don Pepino at 8:31 AM on April 14, 2017
posted by Don Pepino at 8:31 AM on April 14, 2017
I was actually stuck in the middle of something like this last night. It was a little bit more (supposedly) good-natured teasing and didn't descend to anything physical, but I was quite happy to go home earlier than usual!
posted by Samarium at 8:57 AM on April 14, 2017 [1 favorite]
posted by Samarium at 8:57 AM on April 14, 2017 [1 favorite]
Reading these comments before watching the linked video was alarming.
posted by amtho at 9:42 AM on April 14, 2017 [18 favorites]
posted by amtho at 9:42 AM on April 14, 2017 [18 favorites]
There was a great series of columns about this kind of interaction called The Underminer. Eventually it was a whole book.
(Also I could have sworn I remembered reading comments on an elena ferante post here that went on an annoying tangent into the idea that male friendships are totally straightforward and positive compared to womens' -- but now I cant find it so maybe I made it up.)
posted by mrmurbles at 10:13 AM on April 14, 2017
(Also I could have sworn I remembered reading comments on an elena ferante post here that went on an annoying tangent into the idea that male friendships are totally straightforward and positive compared to womens' -- but now I cant find it so maybe I made it up.)
posted by mrmurbles at 10:13 AM on April 14, 2017
Reading these comments before watching the linked video was a big time saver.
posted by buzzv at 2:35 PM on April 14, 2017 [2 favorites]
posted by buzzv at 2:35 PM on April 14, 2017 [2 favorites]
The "Behind the Scenes" video is ridiculously boring. As in don't watch it even if you've got a lot of time on your- hey do you still have that job? You were junior.... something, can't remember, I can't even remember if you liked it. Those were our best nights at the bar when you told me all of those horrible stories about your boss. And you put them on Tumbler too! Hilarious! Too bad you worked for Tumblr. I'm still working but my wife may get laid off soon - you'd probably know this better than me, what's unemployment like these days?
Edited for weird grammar.
posted by bendy at 9:04 PM on April 14, 2017
Edited for weird grammar.
posted by bendy at 9:04 PM on April 14, 2017
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