The Good Men of #metoo
November 13, 2018 5:09 AM Subscribe
A brief, heartfelt, exploration of the important role of dedicated men in supporting the social upheaval and (sometimes painful) struggle that is the #metoo movement. Poem included.
This post was deleted for the following reason: We've had a lot of #metoo posts and discussions, and this isn't really bringing anything particularly new or interesting to the table -- taz
I am a woman and I am for giving men space to speak about what they are doing to help, but this isn't that. I don't want to be seen for my "true feminine power", I want to be seen as a human, and to have EQUITABLE rights and opportunity.
*sigh*
posted by wellred at 5:34 AM on November 13, 2018 [6 favorites]
*sigh*
posted by wellred at 5:34 AM on November 13, 2018 [6 favorites]
About time we heard from the men for once.
posted by Segundus at 5:35 AM on November 13, 2018 [1 favorite]
posted by Segundus at 5:35 AM on November 13, 2018 [1 favorite]
I mean I suppose I do appreciate the general sentiment? In the most general of ways? But as mentioned above, as soon as I hear this about the "new and ancient archetypal feminine power" :
The power that nurtures life, that builds community, that can tame the wilder excesses of masculine ego.
I am like NOPE nope nopeity nopeski. The idea that "femininity"'s job is to civilize/tame/train "masculinity" is a big part of the WHOLE PROBLEM. Tame your own fucking selves.
posted by theatro at 5:40 AM on November 13, 2018 [2 favorites]
The power that nurtures life, that builds community, that can tame the wilder excesses of masculine ego.
I am like NOPE nope nopeity nopeski. The idea that "femininity"'s job is to civilize/tame/train "masculinity" is a big part of the WHOLE PROBLEM. Tame your own fucking selves.
posted by theatro at 5:40 AM on November 13, 2018 [2 favorites]
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It's just that when I see phrases like "to find the new and ancient archetypal feminine power", alarm bells go off. I've seen words like this used so many times by men who came of age in the 60s and 70s, embraced a lot of New Age stuff, and then proceeded to put women on pedestals and do the whole goddess-worship thing, while at the same time still being slightly creepy and boundary-crossing in all kinds of ways.
In no way am I saying that this guy is one of those people; most of what he's saying seems respectful enough, and probably comes from a sincere place. It's just that these kinds of words aren't really helpful. Dude, women mostly just want to be treated like people, and this goddess-worship stuff is really just another kind of objectification, and isn't helping. I say this as another man who's trying to do the right things.
posted by pipeski at 5:25 AM on November 13, 2018 [4 favorites]