Comments on: Take this bullying and shove it.

Take this bullying and shove it.

thatweirdguy2 — Sun, 04 May 2003 16:24:32 -0800

Are you being bullied at work? Would you like to fight back? Finally, a site "dedicated to advancing the understanding of workplace bullies and providing the tools to defeat them." (Testimonials too!) WARNING TO USERS: While kickbully.com is intended to guide you to a better life, we take no responsibility for anything bad that happens as a result of applying the attitudes and techniques provided in this web site.

By: Johnny Assay

Johnny Assay — Sun, 04 May 2003 18:48:29 -0800

Remember, folks: when confronting a bully, make sure your epithets are properly alphabetized.

By: psmealey

psmealey — Sun, 04 May 2003 18:56:04 -0800

Thoroughly useless. As many manager bullies as there may be in the workplace, at least in my experience, there are just as many paranoid doormats waiting to find a reason to explode for real or imagined slights. Unfortunately the content here doesn't do too much to provide good, common-sense advice, and isn't all that funny either. What's the point? If you really need to know how to combat a toxic work environment and a bullying boss, go see this movie.

By: filifera

filifera — Sun, 04 May 2003 19:05:18 -0800

After reading through the whole site, I don't think it will do anything to nudge Non-escalating Verbal Self-Defense out of first place in the "how to combat bullying" category.

By: Cyrie

Cyrie — Sun, 04 May 2003 19:08:23 -0800

On the contrary, I found the link pretty useful. I recently escaped a job where I was working with/for a bully. Sadly, I didn't really recognize it until it was too late, and some of the tips on responding to aggressive behaviour and ridicule in meetings would have really assisted me if I had known about them and used them at the time. Instead, I didn't really know how to deal with the person effectively, and I ended up very unhappy - both with the job and with myself (for not being able to deal with it better and stop the other person's behaviour, or at least stop it from bothering me so much). Luckily, I did get another job in a very positive environment and I was able to leave that job behind. And watching Office Space has gotten me through many a bad day at work, although I don't know if I'd ever have the courage to tell a boss that my poor attitude wasn't that I was lazy, it was because I just didn't care. :) Thanks for the link, thatweirdguy2.

By: inpHilltr8r

inpHilltr8r — Sun, 04 May 2003 21:55:39 -0800

filifera: That's one confusing site. I'm sure there's some amazing wisdom in there somewhere, but I think it's completely blown my stack...

By: Space Coyote

Space Coyote — Mon, 05 May 2003 01:34:09 -0800

hadn't heard the expression 'blown my stack' before in relation to surfing (except for the one-handed variety). Though teh thought of having to click too many links and still remember where you came from to find anything useful is really quite apt. Too bad not everyone is a programmer and can understand it.

By: Richat

Richat — Mon, 05 May 2003 04:06:48 -0800

Another way to deal with a bullying boss: This movie might not be the best approach though....

By: raygirvan

raygirvan — Mon, 05 May 2003 05:50:30 -0800

inpHilltr8r: that's one confusing site Funnily enough, I was just thinking that about another site on the same theme, Bully OnLine. Heart in the right place and no doubt good information in there, but ... aaak. I have doubts about the usefulness of these sites anyhow; if you have a bullying management who control all the grievance procedures, the only solution is to get out.

By: quonsar

quonsar — Mon, 05 May 2003 06:10:52 -0800

of course when you get to my point, where you despise the very existence of your employers, don't really need thier money, no longer care one whit about silly-ass shit like 'making a difference', you just savor the fact that one day soon you'll tell them so in some spectacular manner yet to be determined.

By: dreamling

dreamling — Mon, 05 May 2003 06:41:42 -0800

I worked at a job where I was being bullied, worst job I've really ever had. And I felt so helpless, doing my job, and being yelled at by a person who wasn't even my boss. yah for different jobs. Sometimes though, you have to experience the bad so you recognize it earlier next time. I won't 'hang in there' as long if it ever happens again.

By: Fat Buddha

Fat Buddha — Mon, 05 May 2003 07:38:25 -0800

Well I appreciate the link , for what it's worth. The reality is bullies get away with it because, ultimately, they have the power. I was reading somewhere that it is usually the bullied who ends up leaving a job even where they have made a case and won it, so I would doubt its utility, but it is still good to know that one not utterly alone in ones plight. Ta for the link.

By: lysdexic

lysdexic — Mon, 05 May 2003 10:36:47 -0800

I prefer BullyBusters myself.

I'm wondering if bullying will become the next "sexual harrassment" ...the hot-button issue that nobody wants to stand accused of...will there be posters telling you to report your boss? Hotlines? Anti-bullying films?

By: raygirvan

raygirvan — Mon, 05 May 2003 13:28:02 -0800

quonsar I did just that - and in response they pulled the lame old trick of accusing me of stealing company property. You never get the last word.