Comments on: Non-F**k You!

Non-F**k You!

wendell — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 17:31:44 -0800

Metrosexuality is out. Asexuality is in.
Sure, you can joke about it, but there are Asexual support groups and even asexual dating services. And don't confuse it with celibacy/abstinence, unless you call it Involuntary Celibacy.
One survey says 1% of Brits are asexual, (it also counts only 3% with 'same-sex attraction'), but the online poll CNN attached to its story on the subject is running 6% Asexual.
Some will still consider it a 'curable condition' that is often caused by other medications. And even when you think you've got a fix, maybe not. And by the way, people you expect to be oversexed may be the opposite.
And, for the record, that anatomically incorrect puppet sex scene in "Team America" is NOT Asexual Porn.
thanks to Cory and the Boingers

By: quonsar

quonsar — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 17:38:31 -0800

this stuff just really turns me on.

By: insomnia_lj

insomnia_lj — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 17:51:16 -0800

Sad sacks.

By: jonmc

jonmc — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 17:52:25 -0800

Metrosexuality is out. Asexuality is in. No, retrosexuality is in.

By: konolia

konolia — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 17:54:46 -0800

I had a friend (a guy) back in the late seventies who was in this category. He was neither attracted to women or men in "that way." There was nothing wrong with him lookswise, personality wise, or any other wise...he just wasn't attracted to either sex. It was a bit frustrating for him, as he wondered if something was wrong with him.

By: amberglow

amberglow — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 17:58:34 -0800

They say Mayor Koch was asexual, but most of us just think closet case.

By: wendell

wendell — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 18:07:19 -0800

You might be a Retrosexual..."

By: TungstenChef

TungstenChef — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 18:17:19 -0800

Dammit, I KNEW this would have repercussions...

By: wendell

wendell — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 18:29:28 -0800

Tungsten, does that have anything to do with the Scissor Sisters?

By: onlyconnect

onlyconnect — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 19:01:33 -0800

Isn't (or wasn't -- not sure if it's still true) Morrissey openly asexual? I always figured that antidepressants had something to do with it. Interesting post -- thanks, wendell!

By: wendell

wendell — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 19:25:01 -0800

Just doing my part to put larger gaps between the political threads... this has been a pretty good day for the (dare I say it?) Apolitical...

By: interrobang

interrobang — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 20:45:52 -0800

[...]he ended up having a relationship with the girl - a sexless one, of course. "We had a physical relationship, more intimate in a lot of ways. We hugged each other a lot." I'm not at all accusing these people of being autistic, but this statement really reminds me of the title essay in Oliver Sacks' book "An Anthropologist on Mars", where the subject--an autistic woman--spurns all sexual contact, but buys herself a comfort-providing device used in the cattle-killing industry that she lays in while it presses her between two soft and confining plates. This was a really interesting article. Thank you, wendell.

By: shepd

shepd — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 20:50:12 -0800

Uhh... this is actually a surprise to you all? "OH MY GOD" cried the advertisers "Our porn-esque ads no longer have 100% effectiveness".

By: ROU_Xenophobe

ROU_Xenophobe — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 21:07:25 -0800

interrobang: assuming it's the same woman, Temple Grandin, she didn't go out and buy a squeeze-o-matic. She designed/built it and then extended the idea to animals. She's a PhD animal-scientist who designs livestock handling systems and more humane slaughter systems. She has a page up.

By: interrobang

interrobang — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 21:11:16 -0800

Yes, I think that's right, RUO_Xenophobe. It's been a couple of years since I read the book.

By: ZachsMind

ZachsMind — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 21:18:47 -0800

How about "women are too insane, men are too gross, and I'm so tired of my left hand I'm about to just detach my penis throw it in the bay and become a eunuch cuz the whole thing sucks what heinous god came up with this crap and why are there diseases and babies involved it's the dumbest concept ever screw it i'm taking up basket weaving to hell with all of you." What kinda sexuality would that be?

By: wendell

wendell — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 21:25:03 -0800

Sounds like Wendellsexuality to me...

By: gyc

gyc — Mon, 18 Oct 2004 21:28:22 -0800

I bet this is all somehow related to the rise of cuddle parties.

By: Pretty_Generic

Pretty_Generic — Tue, 19 Oct 2004 03:24:31 -0800

I am asexual. Not by choice, you understand.

By: Mayor Curley

Mayor Curley — Tue, 19 Oct 2004 04:49:30 -0800

Well researched, interesting topic. Thanks, wendell.

By: jpoulos

jpoulos — Tue, 19 Oct 2004 07:07:02 -0800

I am asexual. Not by choice, you understand. I think the term you're looking for is autosexual. :-)

By: hippugeek

hippugeek — Tue, 19 Oct 2004 12:35:00 -0800

I'd like like to point people specifically to AVEN's FAQs, links section, and (fascinating) discussion forums (including cuddle parties, gyc). The founder of AVEN is a college acquaintance of mine--having some idea how hard he's worked, it's great to see asexuality taking off in visibility.