Well, see, bay, all good Victorians have known for over 150 years that women have no interest in sex. None. Ever. So, see, a woman would never have sex because she wants to, but because she's forced into it (or persuaded, or cajoled, or emotionally blackmailed -- all being different levels of force)... "used sexually", if you will.
And, naturally, men cannot restrain themselves from being the brutes that they are, just as women can't avoid not being interested in that stuff... at least, not without said women selling out to the patriarchy and peddling themselves.
Of course, this theory leaves unexplained the phenomenon of, "I could ask him/her out... He/She seems interested in me... But what if it's all in my head, and they say no? I'd just die!" But, hey, why should easily observable behavior get in the way of a theory that fires you up from inside, eh?
Meanwhile, back on the planet I live on, one called "Earth" -- head for Sirius, take a left, can't miss it -- men and women both enjoy, dislike, are frightened by, and are ennobled by, sex... with about a equal balance between the genders of thought, emotion, outright lust, and foolishness.
Your mileage may vary. Some settling may have occurred in shipment. :)
posted by th3ph17 at 3:23 AM on November 29, 2000