My first was in 1983. We were 13.
This isn't at all newsworthy, but then Access isn't at all news (much as their editors might try to disagree). This is sort of like trumpeting the basic benefits of the telephone in 1965, but if the little old ladies that read that thing find it cute, what's the hurt. It's all good, it's all good.posted by aaron at 11:54 PM on February 11, 2001
People get just as shafted by relationships online as by those in real life, but that's ignored, usually.
Hear, hear! Long distance relationships (can) suck horribly. They can cause you to inflate the potential of the relationship far, far above anything that's truly possible in real life. "Oh, if only we could be together in person! *wistful sigh*". You don't get to hash out the day-to-day living stuff that makes or breaks most relationships. This Fantasyland effect can be cruel and crushing.
Meeting people online just isn't novel anymore. I, for one, met my ex-husband (and numerous ex-boyfriends) online. Big fucking deal!
For what it's worth, for those who haven't had the misfortune to experience it, getting DUMPED online really sucks, too. Been there, done that, kicked self repeatedly for idiocy, moved on.
It would be interesting if one of these stories focused on more meaty issues - what is it about meeting/getting to know each other online that makes it different from in person?
One thing I've noticed is that it's easy to think you know the person better than you do. Especially if there's a long delay before you meet in person, it can be utterly dizzying to have your expectations shattered completely.
In another way, it can help those of us who are very nervous in person to open up in ways we might never do otherwise.
But of course such stories don't dig very deeply - instead we get a very cute picture of a very cute couple who has already been featured in a big national magazine.
Yes, it's nice (and more power to 'em, wish 'em all the happiness in the world, etc), but... it's just not that interesting to me personally, the second (third, fourth) time I hear about it.posted by beth at 12:17 PM on February 12, 2001
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