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June 25, 2007 9:57 AM   Subscribe

Brides get trashed
posted by nuclear_soup (40 comments total) 1 user marked this as a favorite

 
Little too whitewashed for my tastes.
posted by Peter H at 10:21 AM on June 25, 2007


I like nothing better than seeing a good "Photobucket: bandwidth exceeded" gif.
posted by pharm at 10:23 AM on June 25, 2007 [1 favorite]


Is this the female counterpart to wastin' food?
posted by danb at 10:48 AM on June 25, 2007


Wow, hotlinking instead of hosting the images yourself when you own a domain?

Classy.
posted by beaucoupkevin at 11:05 AM on June 25, 2007


I was thinking the same thing, beacoupkevin - perhaps the site is run by tween girls accustomed to linking from Myspace?

It's these slipping standards with the youth, I say...
posted by coolhappysteve at 11:09 AM on June 25, 2007


In case the wedding wasn't enough of a display of conspicuous consumption! Better to donate the dress if you're not interested in keeping it, says me.
posted by mendel at 11:11 AM on June 25, 2007


My wedding dress got quite dirty on the bottom from outside pictures, and part of it ripped after we were far into the party festivities. It was really not in good shape.

That was one factor in my decision to splatter it with fake blood and go as a zombie bride (along with zombie groom husband) for Halloween that year. Why not get more fun out of it?
posted by agregoli at 11:18 AM on June 25, 2007


Call me a big softie, but this one is romantic as fuck.
posted by LordSludge at 11:32 AM on June 25, 2007


These pictures aren't a whole lot more original than your typical wedding pics - ghostly water bride...how romantic! How unique! The average cost of a wedding in the US has gone over $30,000. This is just one more example of that kind of craziness.
posted by pomegranate at 11:35 AM on June 25, 2007 [1 favorite]


I was hoping for something more... DerelĂ­ct.
posted by eddydamascene at 12:06 PM on June 25, 2007


Call me a big softie, but this one is romantic as fuck.

If you mean "an Obsession ad in Vogue", then I agree.
posted by DU at 12:18 PM on June 25, 2007


The average cost of a wedding in the US has gone over $30,000. This is just one more example of that kind of craziness.

I agree, which is partially why I posted this, even though I thought some of the pictures are pretty good (although not all), I thought it might make for good discussion.

At first, I thought it was a kind of cool idea, becuase I thought it was a free thing that people did after their weddings to make a statement and to maybe help a photographer build a portfolio, but then I realized that this is something that people pay more money to do. I think some of the pictures are neat, but making this just another thing to pay for only further fetishizes weddings in general, which is totally out of hand. I'm getting married this year, for super-cheap, not that the wedding industry hasn't been doing things to try and change that every step along the way. I mean, I've gotten (unsolicted) mail about everything from dog-outfits to wedding toilet paper, no lie.
posted by nuclear_soup at 12:27 PM on June 25, 2007


I mean, I've gotten (unsolicted) mail about everything from dog-outfits to wedding toilet paper, no lie.

How did the wedding industry get your address? I got married on the cheap and we didn't hear word one from anyone. Granted, it was almost 10 years ago, but still.
posted by DU at 12:36 PM on June 25, 2007


How did the wedding industry get your address?

Someone I know gave my info to David's Bridal, and it was all down hill from there
posted by nuclear_soup at 12:42 PM on June 25, 2007


While i'm a fan of flying in the face of traditional/demure bridal etiquette, something about this doesn't sit right with me. The photography is striking, but I agree with some of the comments above... the whole thing smacks of conspicuous consumption and pointless wastefulness. (Probably the same reason i don't like to see people smashing guitars.)
posted by tugena13 at 1:15 PM on June 25, 2007


If a person can't muster enthusiasm for a life in which they don't get to be an empress for a day, they probably won't survive the Zombie Apocalypse.

That's what makes agregoli's idea such a beacon of revolutionary spirit.
posted by hermitosis at 1:17 PM on June 25, 2007 [2 favorites]


Well, it was an idea born out of the fact that my husband is making a zombie movie, but I still relished destroying the dress (which is still in my closet, ripped and covered in fake blood). Such a ridiculous sacred cow, like so many wedding things.
posted by agregoli at 1:59 PM on June 25, 2007


Hermitosis -

Make that Inevitable Zombie Apocalypse and I'm right there, brother...
posted by Samizdata at 2:16 PM on June 25, 2007


I'm a fan of alt-f in Las Vegas, who for the longest time would have to hire models and buy dresses to do what he envisioned. Now his brides are disappointed if he doesn't make them lie down in a puddle or whatever.

He also rightly points out that weddings are just the one time most of us are allowed to hire a photographer to take pictures of us outside a high school portrait. The dress is merely a costume. The wedding simply an excuse for professional photography.
posted by Mozzie at 2:25 PM on June 25, 2007


Pity... I'd love to donate my ex-wife's handmade dress to SRL. If I still had it...
posted by Samizdata at 2:40 PM on June 25, 2007


(which is still in my closet, ripped and covered in fake blood)

That's so sweet. You can save it for your daughter!
posted by nax at 2:51 PM on June 25, 2007


You can save it for your daughter!

You know, I hear lots of people talk about saving their wedding gown for their daughter.
I haven't once heard of a daughter wearing her mom's wedding dress at their wedding.

Isn't it a little disingenuous to tease someone for being selfish for not saving something, when we all know it will never be used again?

(I know you were joking, but still)
posted by Tbola at 3:02 PM on June 25, 2007


I thought it was great. My wedding dress is hanging in the closet; there is no way my daughter (23, college, dating) is going to wear it. She's not "traditional" in any sense of the word. I say Trash the Dress, it's YOUR day. Yeah, the money is already SPENT. You are never going to get it back. I think it is very romantic.
posted by wafaa at 3:03 PM on June 25, 2007


agregoli You either came to my last Halloween party or, damn, there are a lot of people out there with bloody wedding dresses making horror movies with their husband.

SELF REMINDER: must...start...making...creepy...stuff...for..fall
posted by Muddler at 3:04 PM on June 25, 2007


Oh, and I'd also like to point out that I think this picture is fucking hot.
posted by Tbola at 3:04 PM on June 25, 2007


HA HA !- Tbola, I really, really hope you meant for that to link to the bandwith exceeded tag.
posted by Muddler at 3:10 PM on June 25, 2007


Isn't it a little disingenuous to tease someone for being selfish for not saving something, when we all know it will never be used again?

1. Not teasing-- she should save it for her daughter
2. Don't think she's selfish, and um, she DID save it.
3. She already did use it again.
4. I will stop making jokes now, as this medium is not subtle enough. Apologies if I came off as a jerk.
posted by nax at 3:51 PM on June 25, 2007


Gee, thanks for the new fetish!
posted by penciltopper at 5:24 PM on June 25, 2007


No.

Buy beautiful things and treasure them, or buy useful things and use them, but buying beautiful things and deliberately trashing them? Things you paid a lot of money for? Things somebody else would treasure? As if it were deliciously transgressive? You're just an asshole.

Bring me the bucket!
posted by Methylviolet at 7:24 PM on June 25, 2007


I'm going to use this thread primarily as an excuse to mention that I got married yesterday.

To make it vaguely relevant: The dress, bought used for $20, was a mid-thigh length black vinyl one. It remains untrashed, and will likely see much future use whenever such apparel is appropriate.

We are poor but sexy.
posted by kyrademon at 11:33 PM on June 25, 2007


Awesome photography. Such a change from the usual "glamour photos" common with weddings.

If I remember correctly, my sister wore my mother's wedding sari to her graduation. I don't think any of us cousins getting married would wear second-hand outfits; usually in our culture the family makes a big deal out of gifting the couple with new clothes.

I want those photos for my wedding, whenever that is. I've already picked my photographer (one of my best friends) and I'll pay him top dollar to get me photos that are interesting and not the typical wedding sort. He's talented and I want to support him like he's supported me, dress be damned.

The ball outfit that got me my first boyfriend was a mix of Medieval Fayre and Salvation Army. I think I had the most original outfit out of anyone there. Why spend so much on a dress just for the sake of spending so much? But at the same time, hey, it's YOUR party - do whatever the hell you want with it.
posted by divabat at 5:30 AM on June 26, 2007


I'm wearing the jeans I got married in right now.
posted by handee at 5:30 AM on June 26, 2007


Also: they're not hotlinking as such - most likely they saved the photos in their own PhotoBucket account and linked from there. PhotoBucket's been having problems lately though.

They could also have a domain name, but be on a free host of some fashion.
posted by divabat at 5:31 AM on June 26, 2007


The Photobucket links work if you copy the URL to your browser's address bar. (Or at least it did that one time when I just had to know what the "fucking hot" picture was all about...)

I'm not sure what that means, but it smells like stolen bandwidth. Or burnt chili. I can't tell.
posted by LordSludge at 6:43 AM on June 26, 2007


Even if I did want kids (which I most decidedly do NOT, no thank you, no way, NEVER), I wouldn't save a wedding dress for a daughter - what's the point? I also have never heard of anyone's daughter wearing or even being interested in her mother's wedding dress. I do still have it in my closet - I was thinking next it could be photographed in a cemetary nearby, and then I might cut it up and use scraps for art projects.

Muddler - I don't think we did anything for Halloween last year (this was two years ago, actually, the bride and groom zombie. We got married in October, about three weeks before Halloween) so it wasn't me at your party!
posted by agregoli at 7:13 AM on June 26, 2007


i donated my wedding gown to a breast cancer research charity the day after we got married. A crafty friend-of-a-friend has used hers to make quilts and other projects.

It's your dress to do as you wish, but most of those photos are really corny.
posted by pinky at 7:32 AM on June 26, 2007


My fiance just bought her wedding dress last week. $800 cheap. Total cost of the wedding thus far - $22,000. Getting to be with the hawtest girl I've ever known for the rest of my life - priceless.
posted by Bageena at 9:24 AM on June 26, 2007


$800 cheap! Goodness. I think mine was $100.
posted by agregoli at 9:53 AM on June 26, 2007


The one person I know who wore her mother's dress did so at her mother's insistance, and apparently, it was a completely miserable experience.
posted by palmcorder_yajna at 12:26 PM on June 26, 2007


My wife wears her wedding dress often... but then, while a formal dress, it's not a traditional wedding style, so it doesn't look as weird as wearing a standard style wedding dress would to, say, a company party.
posted by wildcrdj at 11:58 PM on June 26, 2007


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