The case against marriage
June 29, 2007 12:40 PM   Subscribe

"I'm never getting married." Citing her dislike of engagement rings, bachelor parties, and obligatory marital sex, self-described feminist blogger Jill Filipovic swears off marriage, at least until she finishes law school. Some agree; others take a contrary view.
posted by myeviltwin (28 comments total)

This post was deleted for the following reason: Uh, that's great for her, but this isn't a very good post for Metafilter. -- cortex



 
Ok, I apologize for this. But why the hell should I care? Marriage is a negotiated thing, doesn't have to include any of the things mentioned. Why are people agreeing or taking a "contrary view". B fucking D
gyob
posted by edgeways at 12:44 PM on June 29, 2007 [4 favorites]


Who car-- oh, yes, what edgeways said.
posted by boo_radley at 12:47 PM on June 29, 2007


The one thing about law students is they never shut up about law school.

It seems to define them in a weird, cultish sort of way.
posted by four panels at 12:48 PM on June 29, 2007 [3 favorites]


Also, I'm a self-described nordic death-magic-sex-god. Nobody cares what you self-describe as.
posted by boo_radley at 12:48 PM on June 29, 2007 [4 favorites]


The one thing about law students is they never shut up about law school

For the record, I just never shut up.
posted by allen.spaulding at 12:51 PM on June 29, 2007


What do engagement rings or bachelor parties have to do with getting married?

The Wife and I had none of the standard stuff that goes along with a wedding and we seem to be doing pretty well.
posted by quin at 12:51 PM on June 29, 2007


boo-urns!
posted by Mister_A at 12:51 PM on June 29, 2007


who I want to be forever bound in marriage with

I hope that she learns proper sentence construction in law school.
posted by amro at 12:52 PM on June 29, 2007


YOUNG FEMINIST WOMAN MAKES SAME DECISION THAT LOTS OF YOUNG FEMINIST WOMEN MAKE EVERY DAY

Hmm, gotta trim the headline down a bit, but that about sums it up.
posted by Mr.Encyclopedia at 12:53 PM on June 29, 2007 [1 favorite]


So fucking what.
posted by mds35 at 12:55 PM on June 29, 2007


"obligatory marital sex"

HA! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!


HAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

whew! okay, but seriously. who is this?
posted by shmegegge at 12:55 PM on June 29, 2007 [2 favorites]


She's wrong! WRONG!
posted by mazola at 12:57 PM on June 29, 2007


Citing her dislike of engagement rings, bachelor parties, and obligatory marital sex, self-described feminist blogger Jill Filipovic swears off marriage.

Bachelors Worldwide Mourn
posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson at 12:58 PM on June 29, 2007 [3 favorites]


p.s. - marriage is only sexist against women if a woman marries a sexist. it is, in fact, legally binding sexism against men regardless of who the man marries.
posted by shmegegge at 12:58 PM on June 29, 2007


is now a good time to complain about her looks?
posted by Stynxno at 12:59 PM on June 29, 2007


That's nice for her that she has the choice to opt out. And to get throw a tantrum about it, too. God bless America!
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 1:01 PM on June 29, 2007 [1 favorite]


i just founded bachelors anonymous: just for today, i'm not getting married.
posted by bruce at 1:01 PM on June 29, 2007


Yawn. Who hasn't thought this. Give her ten years or so.
posted by M.C. Lo-Carb! at 1:04 PM on June 29, 2007


NEWSFLASH: Some guys are assholes

I'm going to swear off marriage because girls in the past expected me to buy everything for them, treated me like I was disposable, or thought I was just an accessory that was supposed to nod while she talked about how much of a bitch this other girl was.

Oh, you mean I can keep looking for a nice girl? well, ok then, nevermind.
posted by slapshot57 at 1:05 PM on June 29, 2007


I would like some obligatory sex, please.
posted by frobozz at 1:05 PM on June 29, 2007


Entitled white boys used to be entertained by Italians and blacks. Now it’s naked women.

No, we've always found naked women very entertaining.
posted by jbickers at 1:06 PM on June 29, 2007 [1 favorite]


is now a good time to complain about her looks?

Yes.
posted by myeviltwin at 1:06 PM on June 29, 2007


Let me guess, she thinks she's in 1907, not 2007?

She's wrong. This is 2007. Nobody cares.
posted by aramaic at 1:06 PM on June 29, 2007


I thought she had her own fucking blog so I didn't have to read it.
posted by probablysteve at 1:06 PM on June 29, 2007 [3 favorites]


OOO, look at me! I'm so special! I don't fit the mold! Go Powerpuffs!

Seriously, has she not heard about the sexual revolution? The shit's been around for 50 years. There isn't a single anemic original thought in her blather.
My question is, why is this on Metafilter? Myeviltwin, as of April 2 there are estimated 428,182,264 web pages on the net. Surely you can find something more interesting than some brain farts of some chick in New York.
posted by c13 at 1:09 PM on June 29, 2007 [1 favorite]


Wow - lots of penises getting a bit teste in here!
posted by It's Raining Florence Henderson at 1:09 PM on June 29, 2007 [1 favorite]


Shame she got the Clery act thing wrong about EMU. Having done some background interviews etc., there's a lot more to that case than will ever come out in the press, and the Ann Arbor News really did a hatchet job on EMU. (Sorry, her prior entry interested me more).

"That's nice for her that she has the choice to opt out. And to get throw a tantrum about it, too. God bless America!"

C'mon, Blazecock, you're free to opt out of marrying someone you don't love too, and could always choose a loveless, sexless life, if you wanted. (But yeah, the I'm-a-bold-unmarried-iconoclast thing does speak to heteronormativism, doesn't it?)
posted by klangklangston at 1:09 PM on June 29, 2007


This post will be interesting when she gets engaged.
posted by OmieWise at 1:09 PM on June 29, 2007


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