SubscribePark said a 12-year-old referee refused to return this year because of the way Kinahan treated her last year.Not only are the referees only 12 years old, but the coach actively heckles them?
"Kinahan told the Herald last night his letter was a mix of 'suburban satire' and a challenge to compete.
'I stand by my comments. This isn’t two hours of free babysitting,' Kinahan said."
Lastly, we are all cognizant of the soft bigotry that expects women and especially little girls, to be dainty and submissive; I wholeheartedly reject such drivel. My overarching goal is develop ladies who are confident and fearless, who will stand up for their beliefs and challenge the status quo. Girls who will kick ass and take names on the field, off the field and throughout their lives. I want these girls to be winners in the game of life. Who’s with me?Maybe he should look to be a girls rugby coach next. I think this might go over better there.
"I am a parent whose child was coached by Mr. Kinahan last yr.
Lets all take a deep breath here. For those that dont recognize the humor in his email, you are certainly missing the mark and over reacting (agreed that this dry sense of humor is not appreciated by everyone).
Firstly, this is an email that went to the parents - not the children. Although this is the first introduction to the coach (and done by email and where body language, tone of voice, and humor are lost in words as most emails are), one only has to go to a game to see he really does care and motivates the team with a great sense of comradery - more so than many other teams across all sports I have watched over the years. Granted coaches have different sytles in doing so but this seemed to hit the mark last year with all the parents supporting the team and cheering our little girls.
Shame on you parents who brought this to the board without giving him a chance to go to a practice and/or talk to parents such as me. Many of you take for granted the sacrifice we coaches make, (I have volunteered for 10 years now), all unpaid and have to listen to parents gripe and moan about their children to us. To those of you, I implore you to get up and volunteer and not criticize those that do.
If ever once he would have stepped over the line, as a coach and parent, I would have been the first to react. That also stands true for the harrassment of any other player or referee for that matter. All that was said was in good fun and not meant to hurt. If it did it was not intended nor meant that way.
For those of you that expresses an opinion here today, save it unless you know him. It is unfair and not right what you and some parents of scituate have placed judgement on without knowing the whole story.
Do you see any of the parents from last year protesting, blogging, contacting the board or media? I havent seen anything but maybe I am not in the flow. If I am correct, doesn’t that tell you something?
If you have an editorial in the scituate mariner, please feel free to post this along with his resignation letter which, amazingly, he took the higher road."
"League registrar Chris Park told the Patriot Ledger of Quincy that some parents understood the tone of the e-mail. Others did not, and complained. Park says Kinahan has a 'wry, sarcastic' sense of humor..."*
"Spectacular.... too bad these girls will have their coach replaced by some Starbucks sipping, Land Rover driving parent with no love and/or knowledge of the game. But on the bright side, everyone will get a trophy and there will be oranges for all during timeouts. I'd let my daughter play for this man in a heartbeat."*
We should try to get that Dean of St Paul's Cathedral in London fired too- he wants us to solve the Irish problem through eating babies!For the avoidance of doubt, the email was largely (albeit not completely) meant in jest Get that? It was not completely meant in jest. He's sort of serious. So the question is how sort of serious he is. And I don't think it's out of the question that he's sort of serious enough for it to be a problem.
When do they start nowadays?I know of a place in my town that offers soccer "classes" for eighteen-month-olds, although I suspect they don't actually do anything that the rest of us would recognize as soccer. They don't actually play games until they're three.
"According to my wife, my emails get too wordy, so for those of you read [sic] too slowly, are easily offended, or are too busy, you can stop here. For the others……"
1. This should be fun, but winning is more fun than losing, and we want our girls to win.Yes, they're seven years old. Were you without understanding of the feeling of winning and losing at seven? Of course you weren't. You wanted to WIN, and this guy clearly cares for his team, and understands that they want to win. The fucking piece of shit parents who demand that their childrens' sports not keep score apparently think that the kids are too dumb to be able to keep score themselves, and treat their kids' pastimes as a time-waster instead of an opportunity for their kid to become, you know, good at something they enjoy.
2. Being good takes effort, and I will make sure they put in the effort.
3. Competition is good. Claiming that participation is enough lowers the bar to an unacceptable level, and misses the point. Competition is the crucible for self-betterment.
4. (this one is important) Competition will instill a sense of self-esteem in your girls, which surely must be part of the reason for paying the money and putting them into the sport in the first place, and I, the coach, plan to honor that by overriding the belief that girls and women should be demure, by teaching and training them to kick ass.
Some say soccer at this age is about fun and I completely agree. However, I believe winning is fun and losing is for losers. Ergo, we will strive for the “W” in each game. While we may not win every game (excuse me, I just got a little nauseated)And here's why:
The fucking piece of shit parents who demand that their childrens' sports not keep score apparently think that the kids are too dumb to be able to keep score themselves...Navelgazer is quite right in understanding that the kids can keep score for themselves even if their parents don't. And, what he and all of those who are so supportive of this coach have missed, is that the kids *ALREADY KNOW* the difference between winning and losing. My three year old daughter, who has never played in a competitive sport in her life, has recently taken to challenging me to races, and when she *amazingly* wins she shouts gleefully "I WIN! YOU LOSE!". Perhaps the fans of this coach think I should be showing exactly how futile her little challenges are by beating her every time? Motivate her by making her repeatedly taste the humiliation of losing?
“The e-mail – which suggested players be fed undercooked raw meat for strength and prepared parents to see some blood – has inspired hundreds of articles and blog posts across the country, with many applauding it as an attack on the political correctness that has smothered youth sports in recent years.
… For some fellow coaches, the e-mail was an example of crossing the fine line that exists for those in youth sports.
‘I’m sure he didn’t mean the things he said,’ said Tom Reske, whose team recently received an MIAA sportsmanship award. ‘But it’s a different world than it was 25 years ago, and you’re scrutinized for everything.’
Reske said that while the words may have offended some parents, the underlying message is a good one.
‘It’s good to have passion, and it’s good to want to win,’ he said. ‘But it’s a fine line, and you could say one thing that offends a parent, and all hell breaks loose.’
Terry Murphy, who was Kinahan’s assistant coach last year, said the comments have been grossly blown out of proportion.
‘I’m amazed by what people are trying to make this,’ said Murphy, who said the e-mail’s final point about the strength of girls in sports is more indicative of his coaching style than the other jokes.
‘At the end of the year, a lot of girls sign up again because of (Kinahan),’ he said. ‘If we can’t have a little bit of humor involved in youth sports, or any sports, that’s pretty sad.’
Several team parents also circulated e-mails and expressed support for Kinahan, including those who have had him as a coach in previous years.
Christopher Walker, whose daughter played for the team last year, said they received a similar e-mail that most found humorous.
‘When you see it, and realize it is in jest, we thought the e-mails were pretty amusing,’ Walker said. ‘His coaching style is one in which he encourages and motivates the girls. The parents never gave him a chance.”
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