The problem for me is that I'm painfully shy when it comes to sex. I get embarrassed so easily! Rational or not, I can't even bring up what I like because I'm too terrified of being made fun of. I haven't really had much trouble with this in the past because past boyfriends were a bit controlling, which worked perfectly for me in the bedroom.

In other words, it wasn't a problem in the past with previous lovers but it is with the current one. Why is my... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 1:49 PM on July 17, 2008

I understand that the division of longer posts is useful for both browsing and NSFW link purposes, but does the actual appearance of [more inside] at the end of a line affect anyone's to-click-or-not-to-click decisions?

I don't think the "more inside" affects my decision to answer a question, it just acts as a reminder that there is important information that I should read before I attempt to answer the question.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 9:12 PM on July 14, 2008

This was fun whenever I did it last. Yes.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 7:18 PM on April 14, 2008

Sweet. Glad you liked it.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 8:01 PM on May 27, 2008

(So, why didn't we all just upload our mixes, and suspend with the cost and folderol of making mix cds?)

Some of us actually like making and getting mix CDs.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 11:55 AM on June 3, 2008

I got everything from Jade Tree.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 3:21 PM on July 10, 2008

For future reference, you may want to bookmark this site that gives the 13 rules for the use of the apostrophe.

Finally! A website that tells me how to use apostrophes! Now I'll never make a mistake again!
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 11:15 AM on July 10, 2008

It would be nice to keep in mind that with deletions you are not only screwing over the one who make the original post, but the ones who take it seriously enough to put good-faith effort into making a meaningful response--24 such responses in this case.

It's really not that hard to determine whether a question is chatfilter or not. It's pretty cut and dried. If you answer a question that is chatfilter, you run the risk of people complaining about the... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 1:16 PM on July 3, 2008

I hated that post. But what I hated more than that post is the notion that it was some sort of shining example of what everyone else is failing to live up to. Baloney.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 10:49 AM on July 3, 2008

I guess what I find so damning is when people don't weigh in to agree (because that would be phrased more like a "oh yes, so-and-so is right"), but weigh in to say something to the effect of "DOOD OMG UR WRONG" (like they're the first person to think of it ever) when several people before them have said the exact same thing.

If I was thinking about doing some stupid shit, and made a post which recieved one actual answer telling me... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 6:24 AM on July 1, 2008

A.

Everything in B is all smooshed together and hard to read as a result.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 1:17 PM on June 18, 2008

My comment, which was deleted, merely read, "So, what does your daughter think about this?" Perfectly f'ing valid question. If the daughter doesn't care, what does it matter? The OP is having a simple "can't see the forest through the trees" problem, likely because SHE PAID $85 FOR TOY BLOCKS.

Save the outragecaps, please. People who spend more money than you would on things are still entitled to 1) get the things that they were... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 2:48 PM on June 3, 2008

Why is it, in fact, unhelpful to tell the OP to take her daughter's opinion into account?

Because the OP doesn't want help with that.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 2:51 PM on June 3, 2008

I don't own a saw, because I never have the need to saw anything. If someone gave me a saw, I'd use it as much as the saw that I currently don't own.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 12:01 AM on June 4, 2008

Look it's that place where people use food to describe colors! Oh, how very! Oh, isn't it just the bees' knees? "Mustard yellow", ha, that is positively perfect! Who would have thought to use commonly-seen items like mustard to describe colors! Genius!
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 10:01 AM on June 2, 2008

So I'm thinking you don't really have a callout here

I'll call something out. When more than one person start using an account, that's not cool. Especially when that account posts to AskMe, then you don't know who's using the account, which makes it harder to answer the question. Especially when the two people using the same account ask/answer questions about each other.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 4:20 PM on May 15, 2008

I see no reason to stop doing that

I'm not entirely certain that one-word themes were used exclusively, but if they were, and people ended up not really motivated to write songs for them, then THAT is the reason to stop doing that: people aren't motivated by one-word themes. A one-word theme to me is like a blank page: uninviting and challenging, in a bad way. Let's have some themes that are more than one word (in addition to whatever else people are suggesting).
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 10:27 PM on May 12, 2008

I don't see this as being a problem, or even that big of a deal. If every thread required a "Thanks!" it would start to get lame and meaningless. If there's a specific AskMe you want to know about, then MeFiMail the asker. If they don't answer, it means that they don't want to tell you any more than they have.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 8:13 AM on May 3, 2008

"Oh, this is stupid because mumble mumble mumble. . ." Like, who cares? If you don't find a post interesting, why don't you post an interesting link instead?

Once, a friend made me diarrhea fudge. I said "Yuck, this tastes like diarrhea." My friend said "Oh yeah? If it's so bad, why don't you make some fudge?" I told him "Because making fudge is hard. But just because I can't make good fudge doesn't mean that I... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 1:13 PM on April 17, 2008

I thought his comment was ironic because it was about how he fearlessly calls out posts that he thinks are boring, and yet the comment itself was basically devoid of content and, well, boring.

Ha, I don't "fearlessly call out posts that I think are boring", but if you want to think that comment was boring, you're more than welcome to. It won't bother me.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 1:28 PM on April 17, 2008

There's a choice we're making
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 1:46 PM on April 17, 2008

Just find love for the dick and there you shall find peace.

Flagged as sexy.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 2:41 PM on April 17, 2008

It's like when you see two people get in a fight, and one of them makes an accusation against the other one which turns out to be false. And then the one that made the false accusation sincerely apologizes for it and some of the people that witnessed the fight go over to him and say "I'm glad you apologized for that. That was a good thing you did, there."

To paraphrase Chris Rock, that ain't a good thing, that's just some shit you're... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 2:22 PM on April 16, 2008

You're a junior in a liberal arts program and you think you've got a career?

35 years after having had a vasectomy, you want children? Have you picked up a new trophy wife, or something, HuronBob?

Wow, someone's got his panties in a knot over this. I guess we hit some sort of nerve.

#1 is a joke, from yesterday.
#2 is slighty rude, and it's from January.
#3 uses a phrase that... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 8:40 AM on April 8, 2008

Maybe, but maybe you could be a little nicer Hildegarde

After like 10 seconds of bloodhounding, it looks like you don't like the "You're a junior in a liberal arts program and you think you've got a career?" comment in the thread you started, so you went a-hunting for proof that the person who made that comment is some sort of serial jerk, but came up waaaaay short.

Boohoo, someone made jokes about liberal arts... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 8:47 AM on April 8, 2008

So is it chatfilter?
favorite X?
I'll go first?
no problem to be solved?
open ended unanswerables?
the deal with X?
let's talk about X?

I'm going to file it under "open ended unanswerables". Seriously, if your question was "How many laws pertain to the following 15 pieces of information about my life", then the question would be answerable, albeit very very... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 3:51 PM on April 7, 2008

The part where it definitely becomes chatfilter for me is here when jjjjjjjijjjjjjj basically says that Eminem is putting on an act, and that what he is looking for are examples that are less staged.

But when talking about songs, they're all in a sense fiction to some degree. Especially the example given in the OP. I mean, that Cody Chestnutt guy isn't REALLY a pimp trying to convince girls to be prostitutes. It's a story song, just like Eminem's. It really seemed like... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 12:44 AM on April 4, 2008

And it probably wouldn't have raised an eyebrow despite being formatively fairly similar.


People in that thread are debating the nuances of sexism vs. misogyny. I think everyone can agree on violence.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 9:25 AM on April 4, 2008

But it's one thing to be vocally frustrated and another altogether to actually delete comments.

Yeah, only one will actually make people think twice about posting a tired, unoriginal meme that has long since stopped making anyone laugh.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 6:35 PM on March 31, 2008

I'm gonna take one right on the chin here and complain that MetaFilter just ain't what it used to be. I'm an idealist, and harbor the hope that maybe we can actually discuss the problem. HAHA. No, seriously.

Anyway, take the time to read the Jeremiah Wright thread. Then take the time to read the NYPD thread. Both recent, both charged topics, and both threads going downhill fast.

As an experiment, go back through the archives.... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 1:33 PM on March 26, 2008

Surely you guys can tell the difference between citing an example and making a full-blown call-out, can't you?

Maybe it was a really poor example. Not as bad as James Taylor, but pretty bad nonetheless.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 3:26 PM on March 26, 2008

1 Answer that is generally unhelpful or non-topical
2 Answer that is inflammatory/constitutes a personal attack on the OP or another commenter
3 Answer that is obviously a throw-away joke which the poster expects will be deleted

It might cut down on #3, but there is SO much gray area on what constitutes breaking #1 and #2 that banning people would cause more headaches than it would solve.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 9:13 AM on March 19, 2008

I've done it on occasion, checked back, joke gone, system worked, slept well.

Posting a joke in AskMe does not bestow asshole[sic] status.

That's like saying "Why that can't be asshole behavior! That would mean that I'M being an asshole!"

Surprise, surprise. You're being an asshole. Just because you could try harder and be a BIGGER one doesn't mean that it's okay.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 12:06 PM on March 20, 2008

spoErdt (some people of EVERY race do that)
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 9:40 AM on March 13, 2008

I mean, if this is all just a big story on my part, why not post something at least somewhat related to her story? She was much older than me, self-sufficient, married, a professional. Now she's become exceptionally creative writer and is pretending to be a girl who lives in a completely different country with a completely different story?

If someone got caught in a lie which was well-documented on the internet, I would think that the LAST thing they... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 6:12 AM on March 11, 2008

treat her like YOU would like to be treated, folks.

In all instances in life, the way I would like to be treated is "as awesomely as possible". Treating people awesomely who behave like douches reinforces that it's okay to act like a douche, and I'd really prefer if people didn't get the idea that acting like an ass is somehow acceptable. Rather than treat her how I'd like to be treated, I think that she should be treated fairly: that is,... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 10:37 PM on March 11, 2008

AskMe would be sooooooooooooooooooo much better if people refrained from "I don't really know, but" type answers. No one is forcing you to answer these questions except yourself.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 3:31 PM on March 7, 2008

So the only way for me to respond to vacapinta was to do so in a MeTa thread.

Well, there's also MeFiMail.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 8:05 AM on March 8, 2008

Example: Postulate a discussion about the political question re: how gays should be treated within the context of our legal system.

A. Gays should have rights because of my Dog!
B. Gays shouldn't have rights because of my God!
C. Drugs can help them!
D. Monkey on a stick!

These kinds of comments should be disrespected because they are not contributing to the discussion.... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 9:35 AM on February 29, 2008

Sort of like how I wouldn't be chummy with a KKK member just because they were forbidden from saying bad things about black people inside a local social club.

Hammer, nail, head.

Yeah, no one's saying be chummy with someone, but to act like that person is CONTINUING the behavior that you hate is misleading. If you hate someone's behavior, and the mods say "Hey, someone, stop behaving like that" and they DO, to keep... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 11:27 AM on February 29, 2008

That ranting about not being able to rant is, in effect, a coy and slippery way to rant about gays.

Only if it's clear that her views on gays is the thing that she was forbidden from talking about. I thought she wasn't supposed to talk about Christian dogma in general. I didn't know that she was some big homophobe from back in the day until this thread.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 3:18 PM on February 29, 2008

Damn people, let's not do the whole Texas thing again.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 6:53 AM on February 26, 2008

Nonono, I said NOT do the whole Texas thing again.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 7:03 AM on February 26, 2008

You nontexans are FAST, yo.
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 7:03 AM on February 26, 2008

I guess where I disagree there is that I think that "some people are afraid of dogs for a variety of reasons" is the default, and I don't think there's evidence presented that blacks are any more or less likely to be afraid of dogs. It's like asking why some Hispanics don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. Sure, there are some Hispanics that don't wash their hands, just like there are people of all races who don't wash their hands, but I haven't noticed a... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 9:43 AM on February 26, 2008

I feel weird about oddly presumptuous questions

But by the same token (ha), so many answers to these questions are presumptuous as well, just in the other way. So many people will answer a question like "Why do some people of [Group A] behave like [this]?" and people will answer with some variant of "People in [Group A] are no more likely to behave like [this] than people who are not in [Group A]."
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 2:02 PM on February 26, 2008

I think I get what you're trying to say but I'm not sure why you're saying it.

I'm saying it because maybe someone will read it and stop giving reactionary, crappy answers to questions. No matter the reason behind saying it, pulling out the "People of Group A are no more likely to engage in behavior X than people not in Group A" card is presumptuous (by which I mean "presuming that your interpretation of a limited non-random sampling... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 3:39 PM on February 26, 2008

Yes, you're going to have to deal with people telling you that Texas is racist until Texas stops being racist. It hasn't, even though many of its citizens have.

Our state stopped being racist last week. There's a party on the 29th; we were just about to send out an e-vite. We're so proud!
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 7:17 PM on February 26, 2008

Can you please cite the specific things I've said or done online that led you to make that obnoxious comment?

Oh dear. You don't remember, do you? Memory loss can be a sign of alcoholism.

(keedkeed)
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 12:56 PM on February 24, 2008

But what that "boxcutter" title was supposed to suggest is that this kind of question should be discouraged not because it asks about something illegal, but because it falls into a large category of "questions about concealing lethal weapons" that is generally bad, whether the weapons themselves are or are not specifically illegal. How can I hide my rat poison? How can I secretly carry a gallon of gasoline and a lighter? etc. I think it's on this "just a bad... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by 23skidoo at 5:03 AM on February 23, 2008