Activity from Frowner

Showing comments from:
Displaying comments 1 to 50 of 3527
"This is the guy you’ve been talking about in all those pages."
I think that there's a niche for a romance novel about a guy who is a romance novel cover model. For whatever reason he can't find love, various hijinks ensue, chandelier heroism, some larger plot arc, etc. Perhaps he finds himself encountering the same woman cover model every few shoots - he's forced to embrace her but she doesn't like him because of [misunderstanding] and she has troubles of her own. But the hijinks bond them, love ensues, etc.

Or, or....okay, he's… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:42 AM on October 9, 2015
I have a friend who is both an English major and super into romance novels. I've been hearing a lot about Lord of Scoundrels, which she says is quite good. I was flipping through it while hanging out one time and while the prose was serviceable more than memorable, I thought it was nicely observed and pretty darn engaging.

i thought that horse one was going to go in a very different direction and i thank you most sincerely for choosing… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:47 AM on October 9, 2015
Maybe I should try writing a romance novel. Genre fiction generally interests me anyway and some of the lighter SF and fantasy that I read definitely has romance novel qualities (Cecelia and the Enchanted Chocolate Pot, those Melissa Scott swashbuckling-magician-detectives ones).

One of the nice things about genre - just like with fanfic, actually - is that the quality range is all over the place. You can feel confident that… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:54 AM on October 9, 2015
That last interview is really interesting because quite a lot of it is him talking about how he can't eat what he wants, how that's difficult and how if he could do anything he'd retire to Oregon, go fishing and eat chocolate. It's interesting because somehow it has this offstageness to it, like he may play the kind of physically imposing guy who never gives a thought to his appearance and is just, like, all ruggedly sexy and stuff, but we all know that… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:16 AM on October 9, 2015
Although generally I am not drawn to dudes, I would totally go out with a tiny foppish anxious man who wore heels, assuming any kind of social compatibility. We could....ride bikes at 3 in the morning! I frequently like people's mothers!
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:44 AM on October 9, 2015

Problem: "the American public has become more consistent and polarized"
Gridlock means new laws can't be passed. But the old laws keep chugging along, and the government keeps governing, and life goes on, basically. I'm not sure the current ideological deadlock is impacting the average voter enough to even pay much attention.

This stuff is sure impacting anyone who is not solidly in, let's say, the top 20% economically. People are getting poorer, services are getting shittier, our infrastructure is getting worse, and the… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:48 PM on October 8, 2015
My dad says that society collapsed in 1992 and no one has noticed. I mean, he's serious. I think what he's getting at is that economic changes radically remade the world to the point where many of the things that he values (stable, strong unions, for example! not having drones! welfare for the vulnerable! ) are pretty well gone to the point where people have trouble even imagining what it was like to take them for granted.

I think the world keeps ending. It's not that… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:44 AM on October 9, 2015

A vision perpetually deferred
Guy Zero, are you my housemate? If so, could I remind you about mopping the stairs? Also, sorry about your ice cream.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:12 PM on October 8, 2015

"Women blame women for things that have nothing to do with them."
Nicki Minaj is so smart and funny, and she really seems to be good at saying what she really thinks as part of her public persona - I don't quite know how to express that, but she seems to be really good at being tough and direct and saying difficult things while still in celebrity mode. Also, I enjoy how she changes up her look - she seems to get a lot more complaints about that than white pop musicians do, though, like she's supposed to be the same forever.

I've got… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:44 AM on October 8, 2015
"What are your thoughts when people speculate that you thrive on the drama of this situation?"

Or even, "You've often spoken about the challenges faced by women pop stars. Do you think gender plays into it when some people speculate that you thrive on the drama of this situation?"

Interviewing is difficult; I've done it and I don't do it often because I'm no good at it. But it seems like one could research Nicki Minaj's… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:01 AM on October 8, 2015
I mean, some pop music just isn't very smart, and some pop musicians tend to go all stupid or formulaic in interviews. But the least little google reveals that Nicki Minaj not only has some interesting ideas but is perfectly willing to share them online. Why not interview her like any other serious creative person? (I mean, I know, because she's a Black woman pop musician who talks about sex, ergo she must be treated like she's kind of stupid and bad and like she relates… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:06 AM on October 8, 2015

Twenty Hours and Ten Minutes of Therapy
This was really excellent. It brought up a lot of feelings for me, too! Thanks for posting.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:45 AM on October 8, 2015

Cake is one of the major food groups
I have made a plan - I am going to save up and go to England and Scotland. (Not to slight Wales, Cornwall, etc, but I don't think I'll have the cash or the vacation time.) I'm really going to do it. No frivoling about with the savings this time. I'm going to go to the Tate and all the left wing bookstores and the People's Palace and about a million botanic gardens and everything else arts-and-books-wise I can squeeze into ten days split between two countries.

My goal:… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:37 AM on October 6, 2015
stop by in Manchester and we can have an Eccles cake vs Chorley cake masterclass

I'd like that - not least because I made some Eccles cakes and they turned out distinctly unsatisfactory, possibly because of bad ingredient quantity conversion, and I want to see what they're like when made properly. (I have made sad, or desolate cakes many times, but they're very easy.)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:46 AM on October 6, 2015
Okay, if there's no window screens I'm definitely traveling when things are proper cold out and the windows will be closed. (No window screens!! - Old-fashioned is one thing, but bats in the house is quite another.)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:59 AM on October 6, 2015
somehow I don't think that an entire nation besieged by bats in its homes would say, "if only we had some way to prevent this," and then shrug its collective shoulders and go back to shooing bats

My housemate - a data set of one - who is American, no less, and who removed his window screen for reasons known only to himself, seemed to be happy enough shooing bats. If him, why not an entire nation? His great-great-grandparents appear to have… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:09 AM on October 6, 2015
Okay, English people, what do you do about rabies, huh? I just checked this so-called "National Health Service" of yours (sounds a bit Red If you ask me) website and they say that your bats, like ours, harbor rabies. If your houses are full of bats, and your cats are full of bats, how come you're not full of rabies? When we had bats get in while we were sleeping, here in the great state of Minnesota, we got rabies prophylaxis and our cat had to have a rabies booster each time.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:42 AM on October 6, 2015
Maybe the pigeons that come into the kitchen overnight kill the bats? Or maybe you're just supposed to make pigeon-bat stew, and this is ze famous English cuisine, no?
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:40 AM on October 6, 2015
Our houses are not full of bats, but even if they were: we don't have rabies here, we eradicated it.

I should clarify that I don't actually think there are bats in houses except perhaps as an isolated event. Even in my bat-prone American house (attic, eaves, permeable, wooden, old, under-maintained) we get bats only every couple of years. And when everyone was so blase, I remembered that the UK had eradicated rabies and assumed that bats weren't of… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:05 AM on October 6, 2015
Oh, and a raccoon. Let's not forget the raccoon.

I also saw a fox in the backyard once, and we've had lots of visits from turkeys. Not in the house yet, but I'm sure it's only a matter of time.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:08 AM on October 6, 2015
With the screens and the lights - I wonder if this is a feature of a cooler climate. In the summer, we here have to have the windows open all night, because that cools the house (and then we close up in the daytime. While it's true that I could turn off all the house lights and then open all the windows to cool the house, that would be kind of a nuisance. (And in our house, with people with overnight work, it wouldn't do at all.) Plus, lots of night-flying bugs.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:35 AM on October 6, 2015
Okay, is the UK just so tiny that it is scoured by refreshing sea breezes and hence has comparatively little flying insect problem? If so - what with the cake, the temperate climate, the shoemaking tradition, the vestiges of the NHS, etc - I will be willing to marry a lonely and/or poorly organized fellow mefite of any gender for citizenship.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:47 AM on October 6, 2015
Dear God, sometimes Metafilter comments feel like a dog worrying at a bone. But but WINDOW SCREENS won't somebody think of the WINDOW SCREENS why don't you English people have WINDOW SCREENS you must be DROWNING IN INSECTS. WINDOW SCREENS.

Since I started this - sorry! - I actually thought of it as a bit funny, because it's such a trivial and obviously situational issue. Sort of a "well, I would love to go to the UK so I could visit the Tate… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:01 PM on October 6, 2015
From an outsider's perspective: I actually got a couple of cookbooks by Elizabeth David after reading both MFK Fisher and Doris Lessing's comments on how she helped change British food post-war. They make rather interesting reading.

Honestly, if you read MFK Fisher you realize that while British food may not have been all that hot prior to the late sixties or so, American food wasn't that compelling either. The US had a bit of an edge because of a stronger economy… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:41 PM on October 6, 2015

The Smartest Building in the World
I am an admin. Due to staffing issues, I was virtually hot-desking this summer, moving among multiple desks and trying to work at each one. I lost so much time moving my stuff, getting settled, packing up, etc. Certain conditions of my low-tech-ish work - like, I use paper - made this extra difficult, but I was surprised by how everyone I worked with thought that because lots of our systems are online, I ought easily to be able to work from anywhere, and it oughtn't to… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:33 AM on October 6, 2015
As to women and combi-offices: I wonder if they are worse for women because people feel a lot freer to interrupt women, so when there's no door to close, women get even less time to concentrate.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:38 AM on October 6, 2015

Sick of Comcast? Five Bucks, and It's Gone
Is this something where you provide your data to a random company and they hire someone at piecework rates to make your calls for you? Because if it's that, I know several unemployed people I'd rather pay directly to do my concierge work.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:57 AM on October 6, 2015

“The only way to survive is by taking care of one another”
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:33 AM on October 5, 2015

"We need to value women’s work and put our money where our mouths are."
I have a friend who just started working at a no-tips place (and they make a big thing about it), and she really doesn't like it - she's making less than she did at her tipped gig. It would be great to pay more for your meals and not tip, but I definitely want to see a strategy for making sure that workers make the same rate they do with tips. For instance, with tips, someone might average an already not that great $10/hour, but at the without tips place, the hourly wage is $8.25. If we are… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:52 AM on October 4, 2015
And this still holds taking the back of the house into consideration. What I'd expect no-tips owners to do is to set a wage for everyone that - perhaps - is a marginal improvement on back of the house wages but well below what people made with tips, because that's what it seems like is happening at the place I'm familiar with. Basically, because the public will be all "ooooh, $8.50 an hour is MUCH more than $2.30, you are so generous!" they won't realize that for front of the house… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:04 PM on October 4, 2015
I don't think you're positing that restaurant owners don't use the current regulations -- or flat-out ignore them, as in this very case -- to screw over vulnerable workers, but it sure sounds like it.

Well, you're correct that I wasn't - look, I have no problem at all with doing away with tipping, or with paying more for meals. What I worry about is a badly crafted "reform" that ends up with front of the house staff making less per hour -… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 4:58 PM on October 4, 2015

Facebook is just going to do whatever the f— it wants to me. And to you.
Every time anyone has presented plausible real-world security concerns about real-name policy to Facebook, they've just gone all la-la-I-can't-hear-you. I suspect it's ideological and yes-man based, just because it's so in line with what big tech entrepreneurs usually do - the whole "we know better than you because we're rich and in tech" business. But it's no different from what those Peeple women are doing, really, the idea being that no one is entitled to keep anything about… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:26 AM on October 4, 2015

The race
This happened here (well, in St. Paul and I'm in MPLS) last Thursday. I was out of town and didn't even know. In the time I have lived here, I have known personally two people who actually witnessed police shoot and kill unarmed mentally ill people. One case was just like this one, where the guy's family called the cops because they were afraid the guy would hurt himself. I know two people who each saw this happen! It has happened a lot here!

I guess you could argue… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:19 PM on October 2, 2015
I've been to some Black Lives Matter and Black Liberation Project protests (I'm white, just ftr). I'm not at all intimately involved in it - I've met a couple of the more involved people, like, once in passing. What miyabo points out about public space is so true - it sometimes feels really weird because you'll be on this march and the space around you will be virtually empty, it's like marching to nowhere for nothing.

This is especially true… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:24 AM on October 3, 2015
It's just, it should not be that hard to work out police protocol for taking down someone in the grip of a mental illness who is armed only with a rock or a screwdriver or nothing at all without killing them. The cops here have had at least twenty years to work something out - that's how long I can remember this stuff happening, virtually always to people of color. Even if you for some reason decide to start the clock when I started going to anti police brutality protests, they have had… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:41 AM on October 3, 2015

“I’d rather that everyone… could just stay obscure”
"Except for the people who feel unsafe there because of the harassment and attacks they face for being who they are.

Just how much liability would metafilter face if sites were liable for comments? How much would it increase the mods' work (and their anxieties)?

You know that this kind of law is almost always used most and hardest against marginalized people. It will be used maliciously by the right… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:52 AM on October 2, 2015
Any editorial control by the host ex ante to the posting of content should preclude Section 230 indemnity.

Would this mean that if you moderate at all you're liable and if you don't you're not? Or if you run a site where anyone can post anything you're not liable, but if you curate content you're liable? How would this impact, e.g., metafilter? What happens when one of us goes off the rails and a post or comment that looked innocuous if… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:59 PM on October 2, 2015
So any editorial control before the posting of content - by that you would mean if I wrote a post and the mods edited it, they would not be indemnified, but if they suggested ways in which I could edit it, they would be? And if someone posted a crappy comment which was allowed to sit, the site would be indemnified, but if the comment was partially edited the site would not be?
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:07 PM on October 2, 2015
If we're literally talking about "if you edited it, then you're liable, but if you don't, you're not", I'm not sure how much help that would be, but it does seem like a clear-cut enough deal (as long as "edit" doesn't mean something weird like "fixed a broken link") that it seems like giving it a try wouldn't be bad.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:27 PM on October 2, 2015

Welcome to 2015, gentlemen. Everyone is on their phone all the time.
There once was a time when women weren't supposed to read novels, either, because novels - and remember that this meant, for instance, Pamela, so things we'd consider classic and important today - pulled women away from the real world and put too much focus on emotions and individuality. Women also weren't supposed to be reading, because they ought to be anticipating and meeting others' needs.

(Admittedly, this critique of novel-reading did get… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:57 AM on October 2, 2015

nobody likes to be reminded, even implicitly, of his own selfishness.
In case people are wondering - I had posted an anecdote about a home invasion that I experienced. The situation was very scary and weird.

I realized after posting that I had unintentionally written a sentence in a way that could be read as really callous and racist, even though my original intent had been to highlight the racist assumptions underpinning how I had learned to think about crime. I asked the mods to delete it because it was written in a way that I felt… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:19 AM on October 1, 2015

Common Peeple
"If you haven’t registered for the site, and thus can’t contest those negative ratings, your profile only shows positive reviews." says the article. I would like to believe this means no-one would be stupid or naive enough--or arrogant enough--to sign up for it. But I don't have that much faith in people.

I originally took this to mean "your profile will only show you positive reviews" - ie, someone could post a negative review, but… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:05 PM on September 30, 2015
This just seems like a hilariously terrible idea, too. But also super mass-surveillance-y.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:06 PM on September 30, 2015
Seriously, this is giving me a panic attack. Tech savvy mefites, please tell me that this isn't something where there could be a whole huge file of random, stupid or slanderous material about someone in an easy to locate, allegedly integrity-possessing site that would be, for instance, accessible to potential employers. This just seems like it's going to be incredibly useful for....jeez, outing trans people, promoting the stalking and harassment of independent journalists, basically ruining… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:15 PM on September 30, 2015
This is actually literally from their FAQ, apparently:

EXCLUSIVE - From the Peeple FAQ

Q: Can I start someone else's profile?
Yes. You will need their cell phone number to start their profile and they will receive a text that you were the person to start their profile and that they should check out what you said about them on our app.

Q: Can Google pick up on anything from the app?
… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:23 PM on September 30, 2015
Part of what's repulsive about this is that the "character" that they intend to be used as "currency" simply means being as generic, conformist, market-friendly and trend-following as possible. They don't mean being honest or thoughtful or scholarly or having actual integrity or standing up for others or speaking truth to power or sacrificing something in the interests of a greater good - because being any of those things means that some people will dislike you for terrible… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:24 PM on September 30, 2015
Now we’ve innovated again and made Peeple, which is the next generation of recruitment in an app where you can find talent geographically through key word searches and see how talented they really are professionally as commented on and rated by their peers.

So basically, this really is a tool for HR, is what we're saying, and that means that Joe Stalker writes something horrible or starts a campaign of the horribles and his victim is suddenly unemployable. What a world!
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:32 PM on September 30, 2015
Okay, I freely admit that with a lot of this internet stuff, I find myself wondering just how people who seem to have so few critical thinking skills have accrued so much power. I generally tend to assume that the various makers-of-terrible-internet things are smart and amoral, but an awful lot of them just seem to be stupid and immoral, and that seems much worse, somehow.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:57 PM on September 30, 2015

Making Adult Friends Is Easier Than We Think, Harder Than It Should Be

I think about this in the context of Minnesota, which can be very difficult for newcomers. It's possible to make friends, but it takes initiative and understanding.

Okay, I read that article. Do people in other states really invite people that they know slightly from the gym to hang out? People that they chat with in the check-out line at the co-op? I had never thought of myself as especially Minnesotan on this front,… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:02 AM on September 30, 2015
You're allowed to talk at the gym?

You betcha - I once asked someone if she could move her stuff slightly so I could reach my locker!
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:12 AM on September 30, 2015

Page: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 ... 71