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“I was the only one who saw her for what she was ... a freak!”
Which explains why the films made them fat, right? Bigoted, indeed.
Oh, most of them are fat in the books, too - Rowling is clearly working the Diana Wynne Jones tradition of "being fat is the outward sign of being a bad person unless you're too thin, in which case you are also a bad person".
And then there's the whole bit about how we can tell taht Dolores Umbridge and what's her name the reporter and Beatrix… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:06 PM on June 25, 2015
In the tradition of how Pride started, I interrupted his speech.
From that article linked by roomthreeseventeen:
And even before they wind up in custody, the ICE agency consistently discriminates against LGBT individuals during detention decisions. A Center for American Progress Freedom of Information Act report found that in 70 percent of cases, LGBT individuals were recommended release or provided release as an option. But because ICE officers have the final say, they choose to detain LGBT people more than two-thirds of the… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:47 AM on June 25, 2015
ACA passed "to improve health insurance markets, not to destroy them"
Well that's that settled then. Never again shall we have to worry that this law will be in any way molested, eviscerated. or otherwise clusterfuck-ified
But the longer it's in place, the harder it will be to dislodge, because the more conservative voters will be affected by it. My dad was saying that this reminded him of the creation of Medicaid in the 1960s - that the conservative rhetoric was very similar, but now it has too much impact to be easy… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:58 AM on June 25, 2015
The king of all opiates, and a killer drug crisis
Having read the first article, I would like to know what the social risk factors for opiate addiction are - almost everyone in the story seems to come from a pretty messed up (and mostly poverty-stricken) situation. That's not to say that no one from happy, well-off situations ever gets addicted to opiates, but when I start hearing about how there's a lot of prescriptions floating around for chronic pain conditions and how people are selling their used fentanyl patches, I… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:23 AM on June 24, 2015
Can I just clarify here, and maybe ask that people read somewhat carefully?
Having read the first article, I would like to know what the social risk factors for opiate addiction are - almost everyone in the story seems to come from a pretty messed up (and mostly poverty-stricken) situation. That's not to say that no one from happy, well-off situations ever gets addicted to opiates, but when I start hearing about how there's a lot of prescriptions floating around… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:40 AM on June 25, 2015
Tragedy at Emanuel AME...again.
Somewhere George Orwell writes - to paraphrase - that if extreme hatred and resulting pathological behavior are proof in themselves of mental illness, then extreme generosity and resulting socially beneficial behavior are also proof of mental illness, since both are defined by their extreme deviations from the norm and unusual understanding of self-interest/self-preservation.
What strikes me is that even if the "commit violence by yourself… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:03 AM on June 18, 2015
The cowboy clowns just can't get past their own belief that they, in any of these terrifying situations, would have the presence of mind and ability to react if they were faced with this sort of violence
Because naturally, a society where we are all constantly prepared to take down an armed killer - at home, at school, at fucking bible study - is absolutely the best society we could possibly have! If we consider the places where people are happiest… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:11 AM on June 24, 2015
Full cast and crew
What Cooks Illustrated says is that the Lodge enamel cookware is almost as good as Le Creuset.
I have a giant Le Creuset ding-and-dent stockpot, and it's very, very nice. It heat evenly (no hot spots) and holds a temperature well; it's large and deep enough to cook a very large soup or stew but its diameter is such that it's easy to work with, unlike my other tall and narrow stockpot; the lid fits tightly and really holds heat and moisture inside well; it's… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 4:56 PM on June 22, 2015
I think Lodge has some US production again, and as for the Le Creuset, most of the actual enameled stuff is French as far as I can tell. They also make some (very good) ceramic and other stuff from China.
I prefer to buy stuff made in situations with fair compensation for labor, but I'm not totally comfortable with recommending that everyone who wants cast iron cookware should be prepared to pay $300/piece. It's not like there's a lot of fantastic non-cast iron and… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:04 PM on June 22, 2015
"I think we have to respect when people say, 'No—that is enough.'"
I found it creepy, but I also think that there's a lot of creepiness and no satisfactory resolution about this issue. I have a relative who defaults to mumbling "I want to die, I want to die" when they have a bad day....they're dwindling in the grip of a decade-long terminal illness, and it's pretty bad. That's creepy, if you like.
"If you're sufficiently unhappy the national health service will help you find a doctor to help you… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:51 PM on June 22, 2015
I think it's at least possible that assisted suicide is an expression of ableism, and that troubles me quite a bit.
I just want to put a little pressure on this idea. It may be true as far as many conditions go, but I know from my own family's experience that unmanageable pain and slow cognitive decline - even with very, very good care and family support - can still cause intelligent, morally serious people to wish they could kill themselves.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:30 PM on June 22, 2015
Citing examples of people who have benefited or might benefit from euthanasia doesn't mean that euthanasia can't sometimes be improperly applied.
Yes, precisely, just as citing examples of people who might be forced to kill themselves doesn't mean that some people can't - legitimately and seriously - want to kill themselves. My point being that these are two very separate issues, and in these conversations here, I feel like we never… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:55 PM on June 22, 2015
Ban Ki-hypocrite, more like.
“I’ve been trying to work out what a Tory feminist is, because I keep seeing photographs of female Tory MPs in the newspapers, wearing T-shirts with ‘This is what a feminist looks like’ on them. What, like a T-shirt? How can a T-shirt look like a feminist? A T-shirt looks like a T-shirt, doesn’t it? It should say, ‘This is what a T-shirt with “This is what a feminist looks like” written on it looks like.’
That’s what it says on the front, anyway, of the Tory… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:40 PM on June 22, 2015
This is a fantastic list. Back before Ferguson, I had been thinking of making an ask mefi to try to get more resources of this kind, and I am only sorry that this list is the product of such a terrible, terrible year. (It's been a shit year, right? It's not as though there weren't police murders and freelance racist violence before, but seeing the protests in Ferguson getting put down, and seeing refusal after refusal to indict - seeing that white people in this country really are consciously… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 3:53 PM on June 20, 2015
Opening up a national conversation: Ruby Rose and gender/sexual fluidity
I am sure she's a lovely human being but I am really not entirely happy with the whole "boyish white butch women with basically fashion model features are attractive to straight women" thing, partly because (while I'm a little fat and old for 'boyish' and don't identify as a woman) I certainly sometimes feel like straight/"bicurious" women think of people like me as Men Lite, or Like Men But Better or something. It's not that they're attracted to "women" or… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:25 PM on June 19, 2015
If you talk to American people, they smell like freedom
So okay, how much of the "Americans wear puffy shoes and tacky clothes and are always loud" business is a perception error? When I worked abroad, no one except other native English speakers ever identified me, my partner or my immediate coworkers as American at first guess - and people would guess, all the time. Everyone thought that we were German or maybe Swedish. And even the other anglophones told us that we didn't "seem" American because we weren't… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:53 PM on June 14, 2015
I was actually working abroad when September 11 happened - although I was in a place where I couldn't get a lot of media coverage and missed much of the immediate fuss. This was at a time when I was trying to decide whether I'd stay abroad and really try to make my life outside the US. I ended up coming back for a variety of reasons (which, in retrospect, was absolutely the right call - friends who stayed in that area ran into a whole bunch of economics and logistics… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:57 AM on June 15, 2015
Well, you can observe it - it might even be an interesting observation - but observing it in a finger-shaking "these men dress like boys [of their culture], why aren't they dressing like men [of my culture], clearly this has IMPLICATIONS" way turns the conversation from analysis into mere grumping, even when it's global north people talking about other global north people.
I think - based on my own ability to say dumb things about other places! - that it is… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:39 AM on June 18, 2015
As long as I can remember, I've wanted to be someone else
After looking at the photos on this site
Looking at that site, basically everyone gets turned into an elf as much as their physiology allows. Some of the after photos don't look human - I mean, they look pretty, and I don't think that people need to look human...but they're still eerie. I keep thinking about if you were involved with someone who got a lot of plastic surgery like that, or if you got a lot of… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:09 PM on June 16, 2015
I know you're heavily into social justice and not intentionally racist or anything, but that statement comes off as pretty unconsciously racist.
Point taken. Now that you point it out, my comment starts to sound like creepy cyberpunk-era asia-fetishization, and I should have thought about where my idea of "elfin" was coming from.
Looking again, too, I see that you are right and the vast majority aren't "elfin" at all by any definition.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:11 PM on June 16, 2015
So, in short, I apologize for being creepy and dumb.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:13 PM on June 16, 2015
(Also - because now I started thinking about it I feel really dumb - it's not my business to comment on [or evaluate]real pictures of real people's faces in any case, especially in ways that are unkind and dehumanizing, and I would never feel good about judging someone in this way in real life. If anyone read my comment and felt bad, I doubly apologize.)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:27 PM on June 16, 2015
"But this love of food hasn’t translated into a love of cooking."
god someone HERE was like "oh if you save your pineapple tops they will grow into NEW PINEAPPLES in like 2 years" and iirc i flipped the fuck out
I am intrigued by this premise. I mean, I can buy my own pineapples on an as-needed basis, but if I saved my pineapple tops and grew my own pineapple plant in my living room, how neat would that be? "Oh, that? That's my pineapple plant."
Actually, this whole… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:05 AM on June 16, 2015
Let me tell you about my trouble with girls
I think what surprised me most about this was that the guy is seventy two years old and still talks about his trouble with "girls". That might be part of his trouble with girls, actually.
Joking about gender segregated labs? Pretty tasteless, also good luck with that, research-wise.
Joking about how awful it can be to mix romance and research? Appropriate for hanging out with friends and lamenting one's singleness… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:26 PM on June 12, 2015
I know this shouldn't be the surprising part, but Tim Hunt's wife is a scientist! This is how he thinks about the person he married?
You know, if my partner were all over the internets talking about falling in love with people at work, I might not be best pleased. I had assumed that he was unattached and unbeloved.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:35 PM on June 12, 2015
inappropriate sexual behavior, including both actions and comments, is in fact an issue with senile dementia.
Isn't that when things are a bit further along, though? I mean, I would not expect the one relative I've had whose dementia progressed to personality changes to have been able to give a talk or attend a conference at that point. (I do believe that real personality changes can come with dementia, based on my experience with this relative. I… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:01 PM on June 12, 2015
There's another forgotten factor here - what about all of us who provide research support? The admins, accountants, grant managers, etc? All these scientists swanning about in lab coats being irresistible and all - I'm telling you, a human subjects protocol staffer can fall in love and cry just as well as any lab tech.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:22 PM on June 12, 2015
So I guess everyone will have to work in total isolation, is what I'm saying.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:23 PM on June 12, 2015
And also, having someone cry when you're trying to get your IRB documents processed? Bad scene!
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:23 PM on June 12, 2015
If he's not hitting on them and treats them as respected colleagues, having feelings doesn't seem like a burn-at-the-stake kind of (thought) crime.
How true this is! How often I get little crushes on...well, not co-workers generally, but certainly fellow volunteers, people in workshops I've taught, etc.
But you know what? When I'm actually, like, giving remarks about my volunteer work or running an event, I don't stand up on… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:42 PM on June 12, 2015
(Just for the sake of clarity, when I wrote "I don't stand up on my hind paws and talk about how difficult my little crushes make my work or how I'm always falling in love with people junior to me" I was thinking of Hunt - I don't find my little crushes to make my volunteer work difficult and I don't find myself falling in love with junior people. It's more of a "minor crush on workshop attendee or fellow event coordinator" thing.)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:00 PM on June 12, 2015
...and by calling him a 'weenie', you make anyone who identifies with him (older white dude scientists who secretly don't feel comfortable working with women) defensive, rather than leaving them open to the idea that maybe they could learn something. People can't learn when their defenses are up.
No, people who want to learn need to control their defensive reactions, particularly to very mild verbal rebukes/marks… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:18 PM on June 12, 2015
Alanis in Chains
Anyway, back in the early 90's there were a number of popular female acts - PJ Harvey, Bikini Kill, Sleater-Kinney, Sonic Youth with Kim Deal, Juliana Hatfield, Bjork, Babes in Toyland...
I think the question is "taken seriously by whom", because each of those groups/artists was taken seriously by a different group, and with the exception of Bjork, none was really mainstream. (Kim Deal was part of Sonic Youth - sort of mainstream - but… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:02 AM on June 12, 2015
It occurs to me that when you encounter a bunch of pop music significantly after the fact, the cultural landscape of that music tends to be obscured.
So, for instance, when I'm listening to music from about 1980 - 1988, it's all basically a giant jumble of eighties stuff - sure, I can distinguish the social position of, like, a Madonna track from that of an Arthur Russell number, but there's a huge amount of stuff in the middle where it's all, like, Orange Juice and… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:14 AM on June 12, 2015
And really, you can see how superior music access is today - there's no reason that a girl right now could not get into old nineties music and listen to Alanis Morrisette and Bikini Kill and Lush and L7 and The Blue Up? and Huggybear and Mazzy Star and Madonna, whereas in the nineties it would have been really difficult to listen to a similarly broad range of music from the late seventies and eighties (especially music by women! when I think of the endless trouble I went to in looking for old… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:22 AM on June 12, 2015
That world is gone now. That world where who you know, and what music you can listen to, is limited by your luck and your dedication – it's been replaced by one where that stuff is all a lot easier. I don't say the current generation simply doesn't use music as a subcultural signpost; but I gather that they're more aware that you can't exactly say you like to list to (say) real indie rock and have it mean something social and political.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:34 PM on June 12, 2015
I'd just need to exercise more, and hide my shell-cordovan boots
We all missed our window - the Men In The Straight-Edge Castle are getting evicted and moving on.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:37 AM on June 12, 2015
"like lighting a birthday candle on an unbaked cake"
I dunno, I initially assumed that by "neck tattoo" she meant something really large and obvious on the front of her neck. I do sometimes see those on people and they give me a little bit of pause. They're almost always on people who seem to have had few life choices to begin with, it's their business anyway and I don't actually think they look bad, so whatever, but I do notice.
But all this person wanted was a small cursive word on the side… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:18 AM on June 11, 2015
On reading this thread: I really didn't realize the depth of disapproval that people still have about tattoos - Minneapolis is, IIRC, a city with a larger than average percentage of tattooed people, so maybe that's messing with me, and I have a friend who has - no, really, it's true! - genuinely lovely stick and poke tattoos on her fingers and wrists. I wouldn't really have any opinion about someone with a little cursive name on their neck and would be surprised to find that… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:17 PM on June 11, 2015
I actually like "back of the neck under the hairline" tattoos and had no idea this was considered such a terrible thing. It's a great place on the body for a tattoo - a nice, symmetrical spot - and it seems like one gets saggy there later than in many other places. It seems like one of the natural decorative points on the body - although to tell the truth, I think the base of the spine/"tr--- stamp" location is a nice place for a tattoo as well, and am baffled by when… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:44 PM on June 11, 2015
Mac or PC? Coke or Pepsi? Peanut butter first, or jelly first?
Headphones over ear buds, all the way and forever. I don't trust people who wear ear buds because it means they either don't get wax in their ears, which means they are aliens; or they actually like getting earwax all over their property, which is revolting. Earbuds are uncomfortable to the point that they actually hurt, never fit properly (who are these freaks with perfectly circular earholes?), don't stay in place, are penetrative, and they don't make you look like a doctor (which is… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:26 AM on June 11, 2015
There are two kinds of people in the world - people who think about Venn diagrams and people who don't?
There are two kinds of people in the world, splitters and lumpers. All the rest are lizard aliens in human disguise, especially the ones who sometimes split and sometimes lump.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:13 AM on June 11, 2015
I am completely willing to believe that other people find the Apple earbuds painful, but how? What are you doing with them? They just sort of...sit there on the top/exterior of the ear canal. (And now I realize that I've forgotten mine and will either have to elliptical today in a haze of angry boredom or just do weights. I think I'll just do weights. Elliptical is the worst.)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:45 AM on June 11, 2015
Haha, funny joke! I get what you're saying, but earbuds simply do not sit on my ear canal.
This is so interesting. Every once in a while the earbuds will fall out if I am...ahem...exercising so vigorously that my very ears are full of sweat, but in general they stay put very well as long as I'm doing an activity at a steady pace with my head relatively level. I had hitherto viewed this occasional falling-out as a failure of either the… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:16 AM on June 11, 2015
This is why we can't have nice things
My historical period, properly understood, includes yours.
Okay, look, I have long given up on acquiring a PhD and can thus enjoy these for their own sakes. I make this argument about my various favorite historical periods all the time. I also enjoy making the one where the seventies start in 1968 and don't end until the mid-eighties, and therefore your historical period doesn't even exist. Any argument of periodization where we… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:19 PM on June 10, 2015
"'Excuse me,'" I said, using my bony ass to crush his thigh."
I have a question I'd like to ask those with strong opinions about "manspreading": is the objection to men taking up more than on seatspace (and the associated air space above and in front of the seat) in any circumstances or only to doing so when the bus/train becomes sufficiently full that it is either impossible or difficult to find an alternative seat? In other words, if someone sits down in a relaxed pose with their legs spread in a nearly-empty carriage (such that, by… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:16 AM on June 10, 2015
The most important new trade agreement is also the most secret.
You know, secret negotiations would not be so bad if there were a protracted national debate and some kind of meaningful public vote over the result, such that lay people who were interested in the treaty would have a chance to find out about it, appropriate resources for understanding it....and a chance to vote the damn thing up or down. As it is, we have a virtually entirely unaccountable government negotiating in secrecy, only high information voters who have an interest… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:53 AM on June 10, 2015
The God of this world is riches, pleasure and toys
I'm taking this to mean that we're edging ever closer to my dreams of a "Wolf Hall" playset.
If I had a teeny tiny Thomas Cromwell I would be so happy. He could sit on my desk next to my teeny-tiny Magneto to keep Magneto company. I think they would have a lot to talk about.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:45 AM on June 9, 2015