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In Paris, something terrible is happening
I just do not understand what such people hope to gain by this. It does not terrorize so much as it solidifies a country's and people's resolve against the perpetrators and their ideals.
The people who do these things - whoever they are, across political spectra - hope that hatred will be roused against their own community/belief/group so that those people will be pushed into supporting the cause. They're hoping… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 3:52 PM on November 13, 2015
Suffer the Children
(There was a very weird case in my extended family where there was a false accusation of sexual abuse in a very acrimonious custody battle. We know it was false because first the case fell apart on investigation (the child was just old enough to be verbal, so while the child's account contradicted the accuser's, the child's account was necessarily very vague owing to just barely talking) and then the accusing parent admitted that they had made it up to try to gain full… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 3:30 PM on November 13, 2015
In his recommendations to the judge, the single expert advised that Lucy should continue spending regular weekends and half the school holidays with her father, and that Tina should get counselling to help her support the father–daughter relationship. The final recommendation doubled as a warning: “Should the mother not be able to support a relationship between the child and the father or if further spurious allegations of sexual abuse arise, then I would recommend that the mother have… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 3:42 PM on November 13, 2015
It Was Not To Be.
One of the people interviewed, herself reliant on some kind of welfare (it's weird - you basically can't get welfare around here unless you have a kid; I'm curious about what she's receiving in a much poorer part of the US) said this:
The Lord says work and if you don’t work and provide for yourself then there’s no reason why anyone else should
First off, of course, that's not the Bible I grew up with, and I grew up in a… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:06 PM on November 13, 2015
“Keep Willowside Safe & Quiet: No to Guy Fieri.”
I surmise that while the restaurant is terrible, the underlying issue is social class. If he served terrible - for instance - French food while being from an UMC, WASPy background and correctly dressed and coiffed, married to an appropriate woman, he would attract no notice. There are terrible yet very sub fusc restaurants out there. He'd make less money, sure, but he'd be able to make a perfectly good living.
It's because he's a… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:16 AM on November 13, 2015
Foods, Lewis argued, are always temporal, so all good tastes are special
What a fascinating article and what wonderful recipes. I am definitely going to get a copy of "The Taste of Country Cooking", and I think I'll give those benne seed biscuits a try this weekend. (IME, you can substitute 1/2 coconut oil and 1/2 Earth Balance for lard - obviously it doesn't taste the same, but it gives a very flaky texture like lard does and carries some flavor.)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:10 AM on November 12, 2015
I have an interest in 20th century food writing and I had never heard of Edna Lewis. It's not like I'm an expert or have studied it especially seriously, but I do have books by MFK Fisher, Adele Davis, Patience Gray, etc. This reminds me of the fact that whenever I am reading about an intellectual or political field and I don't know about any writers/artists/intellectuals of color in the field, that's because they are hidden or forgotten, not because they didn't exist.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:02 PM on November 12, 2015
Honestly, though, as long as you don't overmix, you can make good biscuits. Great biscuits take work, but good biscuits really aren't that hard.
You can even make - gasp! - pretty good vegan ones. What you do is you clabber your almond milk with 1 T vinegar per cup and let it set until you can see the protein separate. And use half warmish coconut oil (cold coconut oil is so solid that it won't cream into the flour) and half very… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:33 PM on November 12, 2015
economics decide the contest, and wealth wins every time
There’s a long, uncomfortable silence. Then a tall, slim boy, who wears the sort of bold square-framed glasses that are the style hallmark of the Portland hipster, raises his hand. He’s one of the slyer and more calculating students I’ve encountered, a young man who will grow up to be smooth, which is to say, mildly subversive in the service of his own interests. He raises his eyebrows. “Sucks to be poor?”
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:39 PM on November 12, 2015
Salt and sugar not included
I have learned from the spice infographic that sour cream is a spice. This changes everything.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:26 AM on November 11, 2015
Huh. I would have guessed "corn syrup" for the USA.
Really? Why? Do you cook often? The only recipes I can think of which call directly for corn syrup are some candy recipes and a couple of candied frostings. (Note that "corn syrup" and "high fructose corn syrup" are not the same thing, either.) Plus maybe some pie fillings? I make pecan bars that have corn syrup in them, so maybe pecan pie?
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:47 AM on November 11, 2015
The Alcohol Blackout
I was not especially happy with this piece. As the story of her drinking, sure, it's fine. But it seems to suggest that the primary issue with sexual assault and alcohol is "we are not allowed to tell young women not to get drunk or they'll get raped". The article mentions but does not really discuss, like, telling dudes not to get so drunk that their judgment disappears, or telling dudes that if someone has been drinking all night, maybe it's not such a good idea to assume consent.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:03 AM on November 11, 2015
Bread Is Broken
The Tassajara all-whole-wheat recipe is a lot of work, but it produces a tasty, dense bread. Dense, mind you - think of a dense rye and then substitute whole wheat. When I bake yeasted bread, this is usually what I make. The crust is not crackly - again, it's like a dense rye.
I am happy to see this article because it suggests that the gluten-free thing is going to return to being a thing only for people who have various wheat-related health/medical… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:58 AM on November 10, 2015
Some things are better with white flour, too - it's not just a trick of the man. Whole wheat baguettes aren't worth the paper they're written on (I mean, as baguettes; they're often perfectly decent rustic loaves), and I know someone who recently tried to make whole wheat croissants. I usually sub in 1/4 whole wheat flour in cakes/cookies/etc, but I recently made some pecan bars with a partially whole wheat shortbread base and while the topping was tasty, the base was kind… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:03 AM on November 10, 2015
"So here's my practical advice. In lieu of acts of god and any other kind of divine intervention, the best way to store bread is well wrapped in plastic and/or foil in the freezer, whether sliced or not, then reheated in the oven. If you don't want to deal with reheating the bread, wrap it well in plastic and/or foil and keep it at room temperature; it won't be as good the next day, and it will only get worse from there, but you should be able to eke some extra life out of your… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:17 AM on November 10, 2015
Wish I had an insufferable grilled cheese.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:38 PM on November 10, 2015
Social Change in the Best Word Book Ever
It's nice to see someone who was able to integrate challenges to his worldview without having a big spoiled screaming fit about it. Maybe he felt grumpy about the criticism - I don't know; I always feel grumpy about criticism myself - but he belted up and took action.
"Cat In Danger" should totally be a spy movie of some kind, featuring human-sized cats living in a world of cats....and intrigue!
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:37 PM on November 10, 2015
Living and dying on Airbnb
Just curious: What would have happened differently if this happened at a licensed hotel (or what would have prevented it from happening at a licensed hotel)?
I've stayed in a reasonable amount of hotels over my lifetime, some of them a bit sketch, several with actual swings, and none of them had swings hanging from two-years' dead trees. You don't have large dead trees around on hotel property; you get your trees taken care of by an arborist. Because… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:41 AM on November 9, 2015
I mean honestly, I get cold shudders thinking of trying to take paying guests at our house. Not only because they would complain and we need a lot of work to get things to where I'd feel even sort of good about it, but just because of the liability and the potential for things to go wrong, and the mismatch of expectations.
We have guests regularly, but they already know what they're getting into.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:00 AM on November 9, 2015
Is the point that companies and corporations are more trustworthy than random strangers? People often act as this is the case, but my experience suggests it's not.
"More trustworthy" in the sense of "not lying a lot about stuff" or "not bombing Cambodia", no. "More trustworthy" in the sense of "unlike a private citizen, you will have a professional inspect your property regularly", yes.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:05 AM on November 9, 2015
Does this mean you would never stay overnight at a friend or family's house on a visit?
With a friend, I have a fairly good idea of what I'm getting into. I have friends with whom I would never stay, because their standards of cleanliness and safety aren't up to my preferences. I also know that it's not purely a commercial transaction - they have an interest in not putting me in a room full of mouse droppings because they expect that we'll continue… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:28 AM on November 9, 2015
I have to say, the HH Holmes "murder castle" story mentioned above is pretty...well, it makes me far more of a fan of hotel regulation than I ever thought I would be. Essentially, the guy murdered at least 26 and possibly several hundred because he was able to build an entirely unregulated and uninspected commercial building and because there was no reliable way (given the technology of the time) of checking on his many allegations that his victims had just "gone to stay with… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:06 AM on November 9, 2015
In terms of "why do we like hotel inspections but drink water from strangers at marathons", that's because trust is situational.
People giving you water at a marathon don't stand to make a profit by giving you poisoned water (although I suppose a serial killer could try). The baseline state of water in Boston is safe and drinkable, even when it's coming out of the taps. There's a clear tradition of giving out water in which people know they are… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:59 AM on November 9, 2015
Renting a room or sofa from some random person via AirBnB may not do anything to enrich the people at that maid level but odds are the people you're renting from aren't financially at the point where they're part of a building ownership group. Even if they're people with the financial wherewithal to get an entire unit which they can use exclusively to rent out they're still not at the level of the people running large multi-unit rentals.
But the thing… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:15 AM on November 9, 2015
The thing is, there are already sections of society that host strangers routinely, for various reasons. When I was an activist, it was routine to be told that housing would be provided by allies
But "Joe from Bread and Puppet plus the PM Press managing editor will be sleeping on your floor" just isn't the same as "random person", and I know, for I've hosted many a traveling puppeteer and novelist at this point. It's not risk-free,… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:55 AM on November 10, 2015
Hallowed be thy bane
They also believe that interper-sonal harm is more ‘‘mean’’ and deserving of harsher punishment than non-religious children. Thus, children who are raised in religious households frequently appear to be more judgmental of others’ actions, while being less altruistic toward another child from the same social environment, at least when generosity is spontaneously directed to an ambiguous beneficiary.
I would be interested to know more about this… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:07 AM on November 9, 2015
Basically all this boils down to "humans are not very effective in doing what we think we're doing, but we have great capacity for hurting each other and being unfair without even understanding what we're doing". Which is what depresses me about the whole show - what's the point of even having humans when it seems like it takes serious contemplation to get through, like, ordering a sandwich without being unfair or perpetuating microaggressions.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:14 AM on November 9, 2015
The Economics Behind Grandma's Tuna Casseroles
While we're on the topic of nebulously curried items:
MFK Fisher has this story about how she was home alone with her little sister and decided that she would make delicious, delicious curried eggs; and she was going to be all grown up, etc, and increase the amount of curry powder vastly. Eggs, burningly inedible; shame, lasting; career as a food writer, begun (at least per her).
She unfortunately learned them as "Hindu eggs", as the… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:18 AM on November 9, 2015
“It’s clearly possible and highly probable..”
What "mistakes" did Neruda, Victor Jara and the countless other abused and/or murdered victims of the Pinochet regime make that cause them to be "responsible" for the "consequences"? I'll grant you that Allende should have armed his followers as they begged him to do - that was a mistake, if you like. What a breathtakingly fucked up thing for the Guardian to say.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:03 AM on November 7, 2015
It's not those kids on your lawn, it's you.
Yep, my parents voted Republican and rolled in wealth - they voted for notable Republicans like Jimmy Carter, for instance, or Senator Simon from Illinois, and supported such famous conservative causes as abolishing the death penalty. And the incredible wealth they earned as assistant manager in an office supply store and junior librarian - why, how dare they think they deserve their full social security benefits!
I too, a Gen X-er, have been both… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:21 PM on November 6, 2015
This type of article just frosts me so fucking much - when I consider how hard my parents worked, and how hard many of their cohort worked, and I consider how many Boomers I know socially from lefty/political/union stuff who are fucking poor, I just cannot stand smug asshole prognostications from some columnist (himself almost certainly making way, way more than my parents ever did).
It's fake class politics, that's what it is - pretend that all… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:27 PM on November 6, 2015
"We failed you."
What strikes me about Erika Christakis's email is how banal it is - clearly, she hasn't actually read or grappled with anything significant about the issue. That's insulting - she's setting herself up as someone who can send out this de haute en bas email when she hasn't done any homework, as if all the other students, activists and theorists, particularly students, activists and theorists of color, haven't given the matter any thought.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:26 PM on November 6, 2015
how Uber is turning customers into unpaid, ruthless middle managers
See, maybe it's important to protect people from garbage cab drivers, but it's equally important to protect cab drivers from garbage people who act as described above:
I've done driving for both Lyft and Uber. It's not just the ratings, it's the arbitrariness of them. I've gotten dinged for:
-Wearing too much cologne (I don't wear cologne and am allergic to scents)
-Not having a scent in the car
-Car is too… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:09 PM on November 5, 2015
"Professionals" generally have, oh, professional associations to advocate for them, plus a reasonable amount of job security. I would be perfectly happy with a class of cab drivers who had cab-PhDs, who were represented by the powerful American Association of Professional Drivers and who therefore had a number of entrenched rights and privileges, several high-impact-factor journals, etc.
If we're all going to be professionals rather than… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:58 AM on November 6, 2015
"I would say there’s a lot of wariness among scholars."
Anyone would think that they were currently just giving away NSF awards to anyone who rolled in the door with a study about paper airplanes in medieval Lesotho or something, when it's actually pretty damn hard to get any kind of substantial state funding right now. Basic research, especially, is suffering. We're shorting the scientists of 2025 because we're not doing the groundwork now that they will need then. Never mind the stunted careers of talented research PIs and the… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 3:21 PM on November 5, 2015
This is true and a guaranteed income is nice but even most tenured American scientists are not paid salary for the summer months and a portion of research grants typically filled in that gap.
This seems to vary so much from field to field and school to school - here, where I do some financial stuff that pertains to grants/funding/applications/effort, tenured faculty are paid 100%, and while they are strongly encouraged to bring in a percent of salary,… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:13 AM on November 6, 2015
I think that there are situations where there isn't a good answer, and all you can do is try to abide by bigger principles and recognize that it's going to suck. You can't say "we respect your teenage wishes on principle as long as they go along with what we want and as long as we feel that the people around you are reasonable". If you're going to respect teens' wishes in general, you have to take the risk that a kid is making a serious decision for the wrong reasons or without full… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:00 PM on November 5, 2015
Let's face it. If this was Scientology saying to a kid they needed to forsake modern medicine and audit themselves past cancer we'd be calling for the organization's dismemberment. But because it invokes almighty god we leave it the hell alone.
No, we leave it the hell alone because the autonomy of the individual is important and precious, and the autonomy of the spirit should be respected wherever possible, even as we recognize that people do things… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:08 PM on November 5, 2015
Perhaps it is more appropriate to compare this situation with someone who is mentally ill, who is threatening his or her own life, and is committed to a mental health facility for observation, with or without their consent.
I just really do not like the implication that someone who meets standard criteria for being mentally stable must be mentally ill because they are willing to die for a belief that I don't share. There's no suggestion anywhere in… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:46 PM on November 5, 2015
I doubt he was shown every religion and its beliefs past and present and given the choice to believe what he wanted to believe. He died because of his religious beliefs given to him by his family, because he knew no better option.
But again, while it's important to give people as many options as possible, "I feel that you didn't have enough options therefore your choice is invalid" isn't acceptable. I mean, I myself have… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:34 PM on November 5, 2015
This is dangerously close to undermining everyone who has ever grown up in these sick systems and made the very difficult and dangerous choice to get out. Not to mention the even more dangerous choice to talk about it and shine a light for anyone else hoping to get out, but too scared to say so openly. You're a long-time MeFite so you know well that there are several of us who did grow up in these systems and did in fact recognize how sick they are.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 4:31 PM on November 5, 2015
Well, yes, we have always known that our cat thinks that the lynx on the Taste of the Wild venison/salmon food bag is a picture of her. And we often greet her with "who's a tiny lion? Is it you? It's YOU!!!"
I am Parent Cat and Gratifier of Whims. My longest-running housemate (Food Ape #2) is Stupid Peer Cat. Our other housemates (Food Apes 3 and 4) are Addled Kittens Who Require Monitoring.
For instance, our cat will tolerate… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:53 AM on November 5, 2015
The cat treats live on the highest shelf of one of the tall bookcases in my room. Every once in a while, the cat will attempt to get up there by climbing the side slats of the bookcase like a ladder. She invariably ends up dangling from her front paws about two shelves below the treats. She only does this when I'm in the room, too, presumably as a kind of Deprivation Theater more than an attempt to get the actual treats. They're not even especially good treats - her real… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:24 AM on November 5, 2015
I have had cats and greyhounds for several years now, and the greyhounds are so big that they exist at a completely different scale.
For our cat, chickens seem to be this way - too big to see as birds. Our neighbors got chickens, you see, and I was all thrilled for Dr. Cat, thinking that she'd have hours of fun chittering out the window at them, but she doesn't even really seem to see them. One of the people next door (since moved out) had a fierce… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:55 AM on November 5, 2015
The owls are what they seem
Through all the self-discovery, these birds don’t for a moment drop their so-serious visages.
This is a darling video, but I think that the writer does not quite understand how owl faces work.
I do wish my career path had taken me to rooms with owls, though.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 3:11 PM on November 4, 2015
There's No Pill For That
Okay, where is this "Bright" thread? A casual search reveals nothing but the fact that people call all kinds of things bright on metafilter.
I mean, I surmise that this is not going to be like that thread, but I'm curious now. It has the feel of long-ago metafilter - perhaps we as a site should forgive ourselves?
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:19 PM on November 4, 2015
going from that to hard work is, well, hard.
I think the question about smarts and work has to be "what happens to [a particular person] to keep them from the kind of hard work that you need to turn raw smarts into either a career or a life-sustaining passion".
I'm willing to take this LW seriously and say that yes, maybe having a giant braaaaaaiiiinnn is part of their problem. It seems like as a society we… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:58 PM on November 4, 2015
What is your most awkward moment?
What I like best about this is that I've realized that there is something embarrassing that I do that I do not agonize about. Like, when someone is all "have a safe trip" and I am all "you, too!", and they're not going anywhere, I just think it's kind of funny and do not feel that I can never again fly Delta.
My particular thing is handing the desk person at the Y my bus card instead of my Y card and then being all distracted by… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:37 PM on November 4, 2015
Casting a Wide Net: 17 Possible (but unlikely) Next Bond Reimaginings
A marginalized-person Bond would be great - contra Laurie Penny, although I think that what she says about Bond is true in large part - because a marginalized person Bond would be an excellent opportunity to explore to what degree marginalized people can be incorporated into capital and empire. To paraphrase Penny, Bond does represent toxic imperial evil and how it's tied up with white masculinity.
However, we're all post-imperial… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:24 PM on November 4, 2015