I love crows and I look forward all year to their winter flocking behavior. Once I walked through the city's main park just at sunset when thousands and thousands of crows had roosted in the trees, so many that they weighed the trees down. Another time, the Official Local Flock roosted in the trees around and down the street from my house.
I guess I'm not really sure what the problem is. People tolerate nasty, mean geese and their abominable shit and seem to consider... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 5:49 AM on February 14, 2012
Is this a white nineties revival? It's difficult to say that without it sounding really accusatory, but I'm curious. Like, is it a revival primarily by white people, or maybe a revival primarily of white music, art and fashion from the nineties? I mean, I was a punk rocker of sorts back then, from a very provincial and racist background, so what I knew of cultural production by people of color was, like, almost zero. There was Public Enemy, and that's... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:57 PM on February 13, 2012
(Oh, to clarify - what I meant was not "was there media produced by artists of color during the nineties which one might theoretically revive?" but rather "what is the content of the actually existing nineties revival and how does this relate to race?") posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:13 PM on February 13, 2012
Pretty broad brush you've got there, good luck with fitting the irish-scots diaspora of trainspotting into that.
See, it's really interesting that simply bringing up the question of whiteness is seen as accusatory - IME, that's one of the things that, like, renders it very difficult to ask questions about race and cultural production. . Also, are you really coming back with "but [white ethnic group] isn't... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:43 PM on February 13, 2012
I feel like people like Whitney Houston and Michael Jackson get drawn into this abusive celebrity machine at ridiculously young ages, then have all kinds of scurrilous abuse thrown at them about their race, whether it's about "trying to be white" or "not being black enough" or crappy anti-black racism from white people. Like a lot of celebrities, whatever secure, ordinary community they might have had gets ripped away. They're always positioned as abnormal, even if they... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:28 AM on February 13, 2012
I'm not sure I'm comfortable with some groups being available for opt out by students and others not. I can't opt out of paying the university president's pay cheque, Nothing in any university is really self sustainable.
I don't like opt-outs. I'm a froth-at-the-mouth radical, and I'd rather have some fraction of my fees go to the Right-Wing Anti-Abortion Gay-Haters' Club or whatever than have the sort of stupid, dishonest game-playing that always... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:06 PM on February 10, 2012
Maybe high prices lead to mobile phones in part, but I think mostly it's got to be driven by the inmates' desire for secrecy. They "randomly" monitor land-line phone calls in and out of prisons.
This is not true at all.
It just so happens that I know someone who is in jail (pending trial due to some really fucked-up criminalization stuff that's basically about "being alive while poor and transgendered", but... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:35 PM on February 9, 2012
Oh, yeah, the other kicker in this: many of the person I know's friends are themselves pretty vulnerable, since being young, poor trans women of color is really, really hard - employers discriminate on multiple axes, and that means no regular income which means no regular housing...which means no landline. Which means cell phones only and extra charges to talk to the person in prison. Not to mention all the "how can I make rent this month" horrible stuff. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:00 PM on February 9, 2012
There are prisoners have done bad things to whatever degree. There are also people who should not be there at all. And there are a whole lot of people who screwed up, are paying the price, but are just trying to get through their sentence with a little btg of human dignity and not necessarily contributing to the crime rate on the outside.
I think this is really important, not least because the more you dehumanize and fuck with people who committed... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:29 PM on February 9, 2012
Okay, I just have to say this because it's been gnawing at me. While I think I have a healthy non-investment in rock stars' marriages, it is so demoralizing that the way it always works is "famous dude dumps age-appropriate partner to pursue, like, way younger women". More is 53; Dushku is 31. It just makes me really cynical about straight guys and their capacity... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 5:08 AM on February 8, 2012
It's not even the divorce, because divorces happen. It's the perpetual "women approximately my own age are ugly and boring! I will use my social power to date someone lots younger because I should not be judged by the standards I apply to women my own age! "
Thank god I'm queer.
Seriously, this shit spoils music for me. I can't hear Le Tigre without thinking "band contains bad ideas about... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:43 AM on February 8, 2012
New miseries, new potentials - that's what I'd expect. The point would be to take as much advantage of the new potentials as possible while minimizing the miseries. In which case, honestly, being aware of the "ooh look new shiny!" tendency of the internet is useful, yes.
Although I was trying to set up an OKCupid profile a while back and I kept bogging down on the questions - I kept thinking, for example, "I am not spiritual and wouldn't date a... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:13 AM on February 7, 2012
There is sort of a philosophical problem with online dating, but it's a philosophical problem with How We Live Now, so it doesn't seem like a reason not to use online dating services - anyway, the idea that all problems - and all people - are subject to a bit-by-bit analysis and that you can create a list that accurately represents a person, and that this is the most true source of knowledge about people. Turning people into technology, I suppose, or commodities. That you... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:46 AM on February 7, 2012
Maintaining a devoted customer base over the lifetime of a product is a difficult prospect, something people train all their lives to figure out.
See, this is very interesting - the naturalness with which folks analogize themselves and their relationships to consumer products. I suggest that this is a comparatively new phenomenon, that "the brand is YOU!" is pretty much the result of a dramatically different interpretation of human purpose and subjectivity. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:59 AM on February 7, 2012
Even Alain Badiou should know better than to believe that a few silly hyperbolic ad slogans can encapsulate a new social reality.
Of course there isn't anything that encapsulates all aspects of human experience, but when you have a new and pervasive way of thinking about what people are and how they experience the world, and what makes for good human relations, that's a big deal. It's not so much "if only I personally can... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:57 AM on February 7, 2012
I'm sorry, but I feel like they kind of glossed over the part where he was keeping a pregnant heroin addict locked in his home, resulting in false imprisonment charges to which he ultimately plead guilty.
Look, there are very few perfect victims in jail - by which I mean white, photogenic, well-spoken, middle-class people who obviously did not do the thing they're accused of. This fact is routinely used to cover up abuse of... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:38 PM on February 6, 2012
(To clarify - the media is far more interested when white people are abused, not that white people deserve abuse less by virtue of being white) posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:39 PM on February 6, 2012
... if science increasingly erodes its last refuges (the beginnings of a deterministic theory of human behaviour might be doing that already) then where do we go for value?
The deterministic theory of human behavior is itself a value. If you spend a lot of time around scientists (which I do, as it happens) you quickly realize that while research is often broadly useful, it certainly isn't a rational enterprise clearing away the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:55 AM on February 6, 2012
I seem to have been raised by parents who carefully concealed their French nationality to the point of speaking with a Chicago accent.
As much as I disapprove of all this "here's how to be a good parent! No, here! Let's use another nation as a stick to beat US women with!" routine, I am a bit confused by what the article assumes are the norms of US parenting. My family was a bit odd and authoritarian in some ways, but I never felt that our day to day lives... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 3:28 PM on February 4, 2012
Remember when Jimmy Kimmel challenged parents to give their kid a terrible Christmas present yt and tape it and upload it to YouTube?
There was about 1 pair of kids that I'm pretty sure most people would not mind having as their own kids. But a number of the other kids were just awful: high strung, whiny, humorless, and demanding.
I can't imagine having the time or energy to have children or teach them how to... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 5:16 PM on February 5, 2012
I have an aesthetic distaste for programs like this one, even though I tend to like classical music more than I like, say, Beyonce. It just seems so contemptuous, like we're all supposed to snicker about how the yout' are so stupid and so uncultured that we can drive them away by playing intellectual music! It's of a piece with that thing where older folks will sometimes drive around playing classical music really, really loudly on their car stereos,... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:40 AM on February 3, 2012
It's of a piece with that thing where older folks will sometimes drive around playing classical music really, really loudly on their car stereos, thinking that they are just being hiLARiously transgressive.
Not familiar with that particular thing. Maybe they're just upping the volume for deafness on account of being old?
Oh, I have ridden in the car with an older folk doing this - and by older, I mean "older than teens and... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:42 AM on February 3, 2012
I was totally taken aback by that. My initial reaction was: "That would never happen in America. Instead, the mayor would say that the homeless people should have known better than to try and sleep outside in this weather instead of going to a shelter. And then the city govt would take stronger measures to make sure that 'improper use' of subway stations didn't increase during the winter months."
Absolutely. Here in liberal Minneapolis/St... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:54 AM on February 4, 2012
Many of these dealbreakers make me think "but that wouldn't bother me if I liked the person enough"...but perhaps that's because I tend to know people fairly well before we actually progress to dating.
Vis-a-vis books: None the less, I wouldn't want to date someone who doesn't read much because a lot of what I talk and think about is stuff I'm reading, and it's not very general things along the lines of "I'm reading a book about abortion politics, let's... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:16 PM on February 3, 2012
Speaking from direct, personal experience... Minnesota in the mid-80s to mid-90s was the land of Mondale and Humphrey--with a handful of extremist conservatives. It was a place dominated by lilly white people and snowy landscapes. The population had a penchant for doing good deeds. One of them was attracting people of different cultures who had serious needs. First, the Hmong, then Korean adoptions, then South Asians, then Somalis.
But it seems like that didnt happen with the Somalis.
I don't feel that this is true at all. I think that some Somali folks have had a hard time being accepted because of anti-black racism and because of bias against Muslims. But I live in a neighborhood with lots of Somali people and there are tons of Somali businesses - some serving mostly Somalis, some more general. There are also a number of Somali hires at my job, and of... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:19 AM on February 3, 2012
I remember reading an article in Gourmet back in the eighties - when I was a mere slip of a girl - in which the writer talked about how he was going on some intentionally super-high-cholesterol kick, eating all these fancy but terrible-for-you foods in large quantities and a short timespan. He said that he'd been to the doctor and had found that he had a really fast metabolism and extremely low cholesterol and specifically dis-recommended his project to most people. I am... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:54 AM on February 3, 2012
I'm struggling a little to believe that anyone actually said that, whatever it means. It sounds more like what Ware thinks they ought to have said.
Huh. To me, this sounds like the most plausible one - or at least the one where there's the most possibility for not having it as a regret.
Although I am weirdly reminded of Peter Beagle's deeply... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:33 AM on February 2, 2012
It's interesting that lists like these are used as sort of a hedge - a way to make even death fit neatly into the practical middle class approach to capitalism. They turn death into just one more thing where you have a checklist - Make sure I don't regret not calling mom! Make sure I don't regret not going to Hawai'i! And they extend death through life, right? Your whole life becomes an exercise in "how shall I prepare to regret nothing on my deathbed?" When by contrast you could... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:49 AM on February 2, 2012
It's interesting that lists like these are used as sort of a hedge - a way to make even death fit neatly into the practical middle class approach to capitalism. They turn death into just one more thing where you have a checklist - Make sure I don't regret not calling mom! Make sure I don't regret not going to Hawai'i!
Okay, it's poor form to quote oneself, but I realized that I hadn't expressed my thought very well (and lord knows I don't want to... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:11 AM on February 2, 2012
(armchair Marxists polemicize
I always wonder how one transitions from "armchair Marxist" to some other kind. Like, do you literally have to run a marxist state or can you just engage in social justice and community activism based on marxist principles? Not that I personally am a marxist, of course. And I would classify myself more as an "in bed reading the internet anarchist" since honestly the armchairs at my house are not as... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:01 AM on February 2, 2012
"last year, I read a paper that advanced the idea that "back in the day" — by which the writer meant the 1990s — people didn’t commit adultery, and homosexuality didn't exist."
I just want to point out that I, a deeply nerdy person who actually read a ton of 19th century novels in their teens and who enjoyed almost everything assigned in high school lit classes with the exception of A Member of the Wedding, once... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:23 AM on February 1, 2012
It says they've found some new names for workaholism - it's now called "meaning" and "passion".
The rhetoric of "meaning" comes to the fore now because
1. Most people can't have "meaningful" work under capitalism as it's presently constituted - seriously, the folks harvesting tomatoes and washing diapers in the retirement home and scrubbing the toilets at the mall and working the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:26 PM on January 31, 2012
The article presents a large amount of evidence that Ravi was, in fact, deliberately harassing his roomate, did, in fact, attempt to tape his roomate having sex and broadcast it to as many people as he had access to via Twitter, and did, in fact, do this because he was disgusted by the idea that his roomate was having sex with another man. After he found out his roomate was on to him, he moved to cover his tracks and encouraged Wei to lie to the police. I don't see how the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 11:21 AM on January 30, 2012
If there is tacit agreement that individuals as old as 18 are still "half-formed," careless babes, we should up the age of majority rather than extend a special understanding to a particular few. What I see developing is a strange, counter-intuitive pattern in which the meaner, more spiteful and premeditated the behavior, the more likely it is to attract claims that it's just "kids being kids." Even if those kids can, e.g., enlist in the armed forces and... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:43 PM on January 30, 2012
Thank goodness we just found our little cat hunting mice in our yard. She was so tiny and skinny that you could see all her ribs, and so anxious and tired that she literally fell asleep in my arms when we finally built enough trust to pick her up. Now she is the boss of our creaky old Victorian, which I suppose would not have passed muster with the shelter since we're still fixing it up. She goes to the fanciest vet in town and eats only the best food from the yuppie pet store (while we shop... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:47 AM on January 30, 2012
I've always had a soft spot for Old Fritz ever since I learnt his asshole father forced him to watch the execution of the man who was almost certainly his lover, Hans Hermann von Katte. It's a wonder that Fritz did not govern as a monster after that experience and turned out as well as he did.
When they figure out time travel, I am so going to destroy history by going back and making this not happen. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:28 AM on January 25, 2012
80000hours makes a related argument. Rather than emphasizing changing the system from within, they make a utilitarian argument for the amount of good a wealthy person can do, essentially suggesting people become professional philanphropists.
Not to knock some wealthy people I know who've supported good local causes, but:
1. The process of becoming wealthy (or being integrated into any strongly ideological system) changes... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:11 AM on January 25, 2012
The draconian regulations around the prescription painkiller that he takes - vicodin - are such that he typically goes a week or two between refills, so every time he gets, yes, physical withdrawal symptoms. Every time he has to suffer for no god damn reason. Every time he has to go back on vicodin, which makes it very difficult to get to sleep for a couple days on its own.
This kind of thing, yes. I am far, far more worried that I'll get cancer or... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:24 AM on January 24, 2012
Oh, dude, I love Disco Inferno! Although they have one of the most misleading-on-first-hearing band names ever. "Even the sea sides against us", "a crash at every speed", wow, they are so brilliant. (I'm not sure when "dude" became my cri de coeur of enthusiasm, though. Perhaps it's better than 'woot") posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 3:27 PM on January 23, 2012
You know, I think there are a lot of French marxists who would consider this only too, too appropriate. American imperialism, Disney, fascism, etc etc. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:06 PM on January 23, 2012
Okay, see, I just had a flash of insight. The thing is, back before the internet, developing a nerd level of knowledge about a non-standard topic was really difficult - whether the topic was the work of Spinoza (which is still sort of difficult) or the history of Legos or the minor record labels of the early seventies. That information was really specialized and it was all on tiny pieces of paper and old magazines and specialist books somewhere. I remember, for crying out loud, that it was... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:44 AM on January 22, 2012
For those adverse to such a commitment of owning something, and instead interested in an abstract way to rent a Brooklyn apartment, I'll give you my PayPal address if you send me a message.
Not to be all "you people just don't get it" but you really, really don't. Christiania means something to anarchists and anti-authoritarians worldwide, for example. Giving money to get the state off their backs - I don't need a "share" to want... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:50 PM on January 17, 2012
Asking $13 million in donations to pay off the state...I'm not sure Bakunin would approve.
Being extorted $14 million by the state in order not to displace a large and important community - that's what I see going on here. Of course, I'm an anarchist, so I believe that the squatters are entitled to the land and shouldn't have to pay at all. I don't give a good goddamn what Bakunin would have said, because I am an anarchist and not some... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:33 PM on January 17, 2012
Do you know what? Some fucking asshole stood on my porch in the dark some time between 10pm and 6am and patiently unpicked the pinlock seat-securing thing and took it. We're down the street from a place where a lot of punk bike types congregate, and a connection said that there are unethical punk bike types (which is not to impugn all punk bike types by any means) who cannibalize bikes for parts, justifying it with "clearly no one rides that bike"....I surmise that... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:35 PM on January 13, 2012
If the individual girl scout is participating in the program, you can buy the cookies and have them sent to deployed troops. you know, to save your waistlines.
As much as I hate all of our military engagements and believe that people usually come out of the military worse than they go in, I will totally send our troops cookies, because nobody should be stuck on [probably miserable, scary] deployment and miss out on cookies too. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:01 PM on January 11, 2012
Weird. I've never had trouble when traveling as a vegetarian - sometimes it's meant that lunch is onion rings and a salad, sometimes it's meant grilled cheese - more often, it's meant "stop at the grocery store and pick up the ingredients for a nice little cheese and cracker plate plus a spinach salad".
If you're complaining that the food outside major metropolitan areas can be icky if you don't take enough time to figure out where to go... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 11:41 AM on January 11, 2012
Has there ever actually been good fantasy literature with well-crafted prose but a constructed, compellingly real world?
Everyone should at once read Samuel Delany's Neveryon books, which have the additional advantage of being a commentary on the early days of continental philosophy's rise in the US, and also being in parts and very sadly about the early days of the AIDS epidemic. Seriously, they are sword-and-sorcery... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 11:17 AM on January 11, 2012
I'm really interested in the idea that videos like this are intended to "start a dialogue" or "help build awareness" and all that jazz. I love the videos, but I find it really jarring that the majority is so quick to take ownership of them. Straight girls, I don't think the video is for you. I think it's for other gay men like me. This guy basically made a documentary about interactions between me and my roommate, but would I ever show this video to her? Hell no.... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:31 AM on January 11, 2012