There are quite a few trans people who are also gay or lesbian or queer or bisexual. These aren't exclusive identities. I think framing it as a choice between battling movements or placid reconciliation isn't very helpful, but I think remembering that "trans" does not equal "changes genders and then gets into a heterosexual relationship" is a good idea. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:23 PM on October 17, 2013
I mean, a lot of this kind of nonsense movement-baiting (which is what the NYT framing is) suffers hugely from not being specific enough about the people and issues involved.
Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore, for instance, isn't talking about "GLBT versus trans"; she is talking about reformism versus radicalism, making the specific comment that as it is presently constituted the mainstream gay rights movement is reformist, militarist and happy to... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:04 PM on October 17, 2013
Oh, it's Cathy Brennan, the incarnation of evil. That makes total sense.
Seriously, she's like someone crossed Camille Paglia with Henry Kissinger and stripped away the last few molecules of humor and generosity. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:39 PM on October 17, 2013
Ok, sincere question here. Is homosexual the wrong term to use now? Is queer acceptable? Or does it apply to only one group? Can straight people use the word queer or is that taboo? We are trying to be sensitive at my workplace and need to keep up with the times.
My experience of the terms:
1. "Homosexuality" is used when you need a noun and are talking formally. "Homosexuality is a modern concept which first... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:54 AM on October 18, 2013
That said, Frowner makes it more cut and dried than it is in practice with BDSM/poly stuff, which has a broader (non-theory) queer usage (at least around here) than they're giving credit for, and since I don't really consider myself queer, I don't want to police that usage either.
See, everyone I know who is "queer as in has non-heterosexual relationships at least some of the time" is pretty uncomfortable when people who have only... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:32 AM on October 18, 2013
The whole choice versus genetics thing seems like such an odd orthogonal question
I don't think it's orthogonal at all - I think that one reason that the language "we" use about gender and sexuality is such a complicated question right now is because there's such a huge range of thinking about the source of gender and sexual identity.
Is being poly hardwired? If it is, should organizing around... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:50 AM on October 18, 2013
This is a great thing to bring up, because before I had met any trans people or done any reading on transness, this was a big stumbling block for me, and I think it is for a lot of people. If I'm a feminist, aren't I meant to be denying that there is any inherent difference between men and women?
My personal headcanon answer to this question (meaning "not one that I Insist Is The Answer") is that the social is real. In 2400 (assuming that... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 11:21 AM on October 18, 2013
Most of those surprises and so on are not that pleasant - I was perfectly willing to suspend a little disbelief, for instance, when listening to that song that references the Kray brothers - but they were not nice to know. There's a certain kind of queer history person who tries to set Ronnie Kray up as a second Genet - and it's all very well to play at that, but taking it a as a serious position is repugnant.
I wonder if the book deals with all the racism in later... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:50 AM on October 17, 2013
Bengali in Platforms is just another example of pointing out an ugly emotional reality: the difficult failures of an immigrant's urge to belong. It's just like Henry Miller writing talking about the emotional world of whores while calling them cunts is proof of his empathy for them.
Actually, the reasons why "Bengali in Platforms" is a fucked up song have nothing to do with Morrissey's concerns about an immigrant's urge to belong.... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:03 AM on October 18, 2013
I don't have "excuses" for most of the way I live my life. I have "excuses" for when I hurt other people, break promises or replicate systems of oppression. I don't have "excuses" for things that are not moral questions in the first place.
I suppose my "excuse" would be that my body is mine and not thine, Mariah, and thus none of your goddamn business. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:47 PM on October 15, 2013
This reminds me of when my dentist asked me what I did to have such great teeth. "Picked my father wisely," I said, and apparently he'd never heard that one before. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:50 PM on October 15, 2013
Okay, which left? I'm pretty sure that I'm not part of what Carter thinks of as "the left" - which seems to be the lefter half of the Democratic Party, such as it is. Now, I don't mind him providing advice to the Dems (even if it's advice borrowed from 1973), but let's call it like it is. I can't think of anyone in my immediate social circle who saw this Zero Dark Thirty film, for instance. Certainly,... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:44 PM on October 14, 2013
Also, almost every time I've heard this line of reasoning, it has turned out that "pedantic moralizing" involves either a complicated understanding of history or pointing out that white dudes even on the left don't always know how it needs to go for women, people of color or the gays. Both those things, it turns out, are often "pedantic". And divisive. And after "we" create a "persuasive" leftism, "we" can sort out all that trivial shit about... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:47 PM on October 14, 2013
I think my favorite thing about this is that it's aggressively post-war. It's a grocery circular for an alternate universe where the 60s never happened and everyone just kept liking Apple Pan Dowdy. No arugula. No fair trade coffee. No artisanal anything. Just Cinnamon Johnnies and Peach Travis, forever.
Okay, look, I just have to say that there is nothing wrong with Apple Pan Dowdy.
I think that I may start identifying as an... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 4:36 PM on October 13, 2013
So, okay, is anyone else kind of creeped out by RPF? (I mean, creeped out in a different way than so many - including me - are totally creeped out by mpreg.) I recognize that this is a somewhat inconsistent argument but it seems like a story about a totally fictional character, even one played by an actual human actor, is somewhat less, I dunno, pushy and intimate than a story about actual humans who are really alive. It just seems weirdly intrusive to spend a lot of time... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:15 AM on October 10, 2013
RPF feels squicky and creepy, I thought this was just taken as a given.
Okay, maybe I'll rephrase my question in stronger form if that's the case. Or even make it not a question. I think RPF is kind of a bad thing and that people should not write it. I am more than a little squicked by it; I actively think it's a bad thing, even though it's also sort of a decadent-future-culture thing that would fit neatly into a John Brunner novel.... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:20 AM on October 10, 2013
The Bible is literally RPF.
You know, I think that's a really specious argument. Very little is known about the historical Jesus. It's not as though the various writers were sitting around in Gethsemane nudging each other about whether Jesus created fishes...or pornography! Nor is the audience for the bible anything like the audience for fic. Certainly, some people read both - I read fanfic and modernity theory myself - but... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:31 AM on October 10, 2013
Also, slash RPF in that particular fandom is no more and no less than regular heterosexual delusions which culminated in a fan attending a convention in a wedding dress and physically assaulting one of the stars, or fans tweeting death threats to the stars' wives.
Oh, of course, absolutely. The reason I find the "but they are really the gays" stuff annoying is that I believe very strongly (as a gender-nonconforming/trans-type... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:35 AM on October 10, 2013
It's made-up stories about famous people fucking.
Which is why the Bible isn't actually RPF. Not a lot of conventionally "real" people in the Bible; only some fucking and much of that offstage, which is not characteristic of RPF at all; hardly any romance except David and Jonathon or Ruth and Naomi. Also, the people in the Bible are not famous a priori; they're famous because they are in the Bible. It's as if someone... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:42 AM on October 10, 2013
Columbus may have been an awful person (sounds like it), but him being less awful wouldn't have saved 90%+ of the Native Americans, who died of disease.
Well, of course. And if it were merely a series of accidental pandemics like the Black Plague, it would be a huge global tragedy and we would look at it as we do the plague. It would be horrible and sad and we would all mourn how much had been lost of lives and cultures. And it... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:19 AM on October 10, 2013
The thing is TFA happened because the teacher-training system isn't very good. I went through it at a fancy private school that boasted about how special and rigorous its program was, and it was one of the worst mistakes of my life*.
The argument always goes "TFA does a bad job and feeds union-busting and privatization" "Well, yeah, regular teacher training programs are full of stupid people and they don't prepare you to teach either,... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:40 AM on October 10, 2013
The River In Reverse is really good. Of course, that's because it's about something other than internal romantic bullshit.
It's funny, Elvis Costello's juvenile vaguely misogynist romantic bullshit is so good - normally I don't bother with that whole ressentiment/rotating-cast-of-girlfriends genre, but I love pretty much every album up through Spike. And then it's all bleah, with... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:14 PM on October 9, 2013
And also because of the excellent contributions of Allen Toussaint
Oh, yes, of course - I didn't mean to slight Toussaint at all! He's such a remarkable guy, and I guess really the album is "about" something at least 50% because Toussaint himself has always been about something.
I have to say, Elvis Costello has always been pretty smart about who to collaborate with. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:52 PM on October 9, 2013
So, uh, should I be buying a lot of canned food and gallon tanks of water or something? What the hell is your average citizen supposed to do in the event of economic collapse?
I'd expect the problems to be more people-being-broke-and-homeless than Thunderdome - basically, the recession squared. Plan to do whatever you would do if you lost your job and were suddenly utterly broke and so were many of your friends. Would you squat your house until the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:00 PM on October 9, 2013
It's tempting to fear that we really are wading into a Guns of August (perhaps Guns of November) scenario
Honestly, what this reminds me of is France before WWII. If you read Janet Flanner's coverage of the various political and financial crises and scandal (in Paris Was Yesterday, which starts out being all about Josephine Baker and surrealist poets and flowers and ends up being about disaster, corruption and the run-up to war) the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:09 PM on October 9, 2013
My sense is that a lot of the faculty don't think that most of what I do has a lot of value, mostly because they think that students either should be able to figure things out themselves or don't belong in college. It's not that they want to do it themselves. It's that they want to go back ot the days when students didn't receive a lot of advising and they either sank or swam on their own. And I guess that's kind of a philosophical question.... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:52 AM on October 8, 2013
Upthread, someone was talking about how an administrator of equipment should be under the "shared authority" of research faculty. I would be interested to know how this could work, since a few scenarios come to mind:
1. The best one, where faculty authority is clearly defined, does not extend to day-to-day decision-making and is renewed via annual meetings (or biannual, whatever). So faculty would have authority to decide about equipment purchases and broad... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:52 AM on October 9, 2013
Just idly, on the burger front - we had homemade hamburgers probably three times a month when I was growing up because they were pretty cheap and I can't get over this idea that the Frowner family burger is identical to that at McDonald's. They sure don't taste the same - a thicker burger cooked as the eater requested it and a totally different, more robust texture along with a much more individual and deeper sear. Plus regular cheddar - just cheap... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:36 AM on October 2, 2013
A thing that I wish we could stop having in metafilter threads: the part where people who due to highly unusual circumstances, skills or preferences can do something that is difficult/complex/messy/time-consuming try to convince people not in unusual circumstances that they could do it if only they tried harder, and what is more, they should do it. It is certainly one of the most seductive types of comments to write because writing about... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:28 AM on October 7, 2013
I believe that the Mexican drug war is a lie. But that doesn't make it a capitalist adventure. You're conflating capitalism with greed and exploitation, but they're not equivalent. In any case, although VikingSword chose that pullquote to put above the fold, this is probably a derail.
The situation in Mexico is absolutely a capitalist adventure. Why do I say this?
This isn't just about drugs - it's about making money by theft... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:16 AM on October 7, 2013
Will this be another thread where we all humble-brag about how we don't really care much for refrigeration and would be happy with a dorm fridge did circumstances permit?
I like having a decent sized refrigerator. I do not like working a long day and stopping at the store every day, or cooking from dried ingredients every time I haven't just been to the store.
MFK Fisher has this absolutely harrowing... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 4:19 PM on October 6, 2013
Perhaps, too, as an anarchist I can say this: capitalism is popular because, in part, it makes life better and easier. It also makes life worse and crueler and in the main I do not care for it, but the anti-technology strain in this kind of article is really irritating - as if it were sheer selfish laziness that prompted people to want to be able to refrigerate food to begin with, and as if there's something morally wrong with wanting a varied diet. What is next? Perhaps the idea that the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 4:48 PM on October 6, 2013
The American, without really being able to explain it, insisted on an entirely massive double-door thing, and would not allow it to be covered to look like the rest of the kitchen.
I've seen pictures of really nice, fancy kitchens where the fridge is hidden, and it just looks really weird to me. I like wood paneling, I like all that Shaker and Japanese design where Stuff Is Not Out All The Time, but I don't like... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:59 AM on October 7, 2013
In a weird way, this makes me think of the lack of care given to young women of color in the music industry whose personae are based on exaggerated sexuality. Miley Cyrus is named in this letter as a vulnerable young woman and this is, I suspect, largely on account of her whiteness. Not because anyone shouldn't be considered and treated with care - it's not that she shouldn't be treated with care because young women of color are not, but that some people... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:13 AM on October 3, 2013
I'd say that the more you talk about what you read, the more likely you are to remember it. Of course, what you "remember" ossifies a bit - you develop "talking points" that detach a little from the experience of the book itself, there's a danger in putting things into precise words.
Now that I know I'll never have an academic career, I've been able to stop caring about mastery of a large body of books. Honestly, what if I read a book and there's... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:08 AM on October 3, 2013
(If I may add - I would like it very much if those of us who actually are secretaries were not treated in crappy, sexist ways either. This conversation very often has a strong undercurrent of "it's so sad that women who are smart and accomplished get treated like secretaries, when only secretaries should be treated like stupid fluff-for-brains who made the Wrong Career Choices, because after all... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 5:44 PM on October 1, 2013
There was that made-for-TV zombie movie a few years ago where the dead all came back...to vote the Republicans out of power. I feel like the movie had European funding.
I think the whole "it's easier to envision the end of the world than the end of capitalism" thing that gets attributed to Zizek originated with Frederic Jameson.
Honestly, I don't find it "utopian" when people are all "zombie-ridden hellscape is the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:01 AM on October 1, 2013
And I should add that the next step knows no party lines, either, which is that the indulgence of the fantasy is (to crib a term from Zizek) always-already part of the system, always-already coopted by the reality from which we wish to escape. Watching a zombie movie is participating in capitalism and arguably even pacifying oneself against one's realities through escapist entertainment. Buying a bunch of mail-order tactical shit in the deluded belief that YOU will be the one who makes... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:16 AM on October 1, 2013
Also, I think zombies are popular because they encompass a lot of concerns rather than because there is one primary explanation for their appeal. (Om nom, encompassing!) posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:18 AM on October 1, 2013
For a bit more on phages, here is Pub Med link to a short history/review of phage therapy. Phages are actually pretty neat (I work with/for someone who works on phages, although I'm a secretary and not a scientist) and my impression is that were they only profitable, they'd be a lot more widely used. They have potential as anti-bacterial treatment in humans, for instance.
When we ship bacteriophages, we have a whole page of "this is just a... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:20 AM on October 1, 2013
That Toast piece is vaguely reminiscent of Donald Barthelme, only a Barthelme story would have had more wolves and been a little less depressing. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:46 PM on September 25, 2013
The thing is, a LOT of humor by an oppressed group about the oppressors is pretty rough-and-tumble. If you're an oppressor-class person who isn't awful, you may well feel bad. I mean, all those "white women are such ugly mayo-faces who think they can dance" humor on tumblr makes me feel bad. It does. It's intended to - that's not its primary intent, but it's not intended to be something that gives me a happy little chortle. It would be pretty bizarre, in fact, if I responded to... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:03 PM on September 24, 2013
But why? I mean, I can see how it's fun to make fun of the people who you regard as your oppressors, but it seems like the benefits are low, and the risk of collateral damage is high. And just saying "Close the browser and walk away" seems dangerously close to deciding "Nothing those people say matters."
But you're implying that all messages are intended for all people. Many messages are... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:20 PM on September 24, 2013
That maybe this whole thing isn't as cutesy-harmless as it's being made out to be, because it serves to shame, mock, silence and erase real victims of real problems?
I think there's an assumption in this whole conversation that feeling good and comfortable has a moral value. So if there's humor that makes you feel bad or uncomfortable, that's a moral problem; if there's humor that does not tread very softly around painful topics, that's also a moral... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:45 PM on September 24, 2013
In my short time there I was elbow to elbow with women of every age, race and religion. Our differences were myriad, but what we had in common was obvious — prison khakis, steel-toed shoes and an eight-digit inmate registration number. What was universally important to all of us were our lifelines to the outside world — our spouses and partners, our friends and family, and for many women, their children.
The thing that is so weird to me about this is... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:27 AM on September 24, 2013
Have you seen the show? This isn't really what it's like at all.
I have, actually - I mean, just a couple of episodes. It's a pretty good show. But it's from a reform angle, and it's intended as an argument for better prisons and a recognition that "prisoners are people too and don't think you're better because you're middle class and white". There's also, IMO, some power/knowledge problems in how this kind of show is situated... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:50 AM on September 24, 2013