But what about as needed meds? And jeezum crow, I am not allowed by my insurance company to refill my prescription until 28 days have passed; I now need to schedule my prescription pick up on day 28 or my credit takes a hit? Christ, I hate this country. "Go back to the USSR, commie!" my sociopathic little suburban grade school peers used to shout at me back in the Reagan era. If I could go back to the USSR circa maybe 1970, I probably would at... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:06 PM on June 23, 2011
The extensive outsourcing of wartime logistics—first put to the test during the Clinton Administration, in Somalia and the Balkans—was designed to reduce costs while allowing military personnel to focus on combat. In practice, though, military privatization has produced convoluted chains of foreign subcontracts that often lead to cost overruns and fraud.
Possibly because the "purpose" of this program was never really to reduce costs... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:09 PM on June 22, 2011
Assuming that there's no lurking reason for this to be, you know, serious - the student involved hasn't complained, there's no "she's telling people it was unwanted but won't talk to the authorities" rumor, etc - then this type of thing does a huge amount of harm to women. Because this is precisely the kind of case that convinces people that rape charges are a joke, and that statutory rape is never also regular-sexual-assault rape. Plus, of course, since this was a widely... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 5:16 AM on June 22, 2011
Because this is precisely the kind of case that convinces people that [...] statutory rape is never also regular-sexual-assault rape.
The "ha ha that one case was so dumb, I bet all the others are just as dumb!" way. The "oh well, he was 17 and she was 15 so that means that there wasn't actually rape, just kids enjoying themselves - after all there was that one dumb case where they prosecuted the two kids on a... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 5:46 AM on June 22, 2011
Okay, seriously people - this whole "black and brown don't go together" thing is always framed totally wrong. Most blacks and browns don't go together, and most brown leather things look godawful with black, but a really deep sort of chocolate blue-brown goes with black just fine. And there are lots of traditional print fabrics in African and Asian countries which incorporate black and brown. And I tend to feel that certain para-brown colors go with black -... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:26 PM on June 21, 2011
Yeah... Delaney's The Mad Man... was actually kind of world-changing for me in a lot of ways. It's one of those books I'm really glad I read, and am not sure I want to read again, although I just might one of these days just to see.
I love The Mad Man. It's definitely in my favorite few Delaney books - probably Stars In My Pocket Like Grains of Sand, The Mad Man and the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:28 PM on June 21, 2011
*sigh* And yes... Perfect Erotic Object.
The perfect erotic object is wonderful to me though because 1. Rat Korga! and 2. none of the characters are really described so that you can pigeonhole them as "this one is the sexy blond!" and "this one is an attractive muscular man" and "this one is the pudgy but nice character who pines a lot". There's so much physical description of the characters that you feel like you could... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:35 PM on June 21, 2011
Never even heard of it, but it's on my list now....weird, I felt like I had a pretty good collection of older queer SF. Published right pre-AIDS, too...I wonder, there must be some literary theory about how AIDS affected science fiction writing (I mean, other than literal novels-about-AIDS). posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:35 PM on June 21, 2011
Oh, I wish I hadn't read that. The real, true part about "have sex with the fattest girl you can find as a joke while on tour" (which band guy admits to) - I don't care which of the guy's bands did that, it's put me off Camper Van Beethoven for ever now, and I really did like that album with "Take The Skinheads Bowling". Yuck. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:16 AM on June 21, 2011
What it demonstrates is...tahdah!..that people who follow trends and who are photographed by style bloggers who follow the same trends will all wear similar clothes at similar moments. You could, of course, through in some fat girl chic from Definatalie or someone queer fashion from Bevan Brandlingham and mess the whole thing up. Not that I'd turn down a luxurious and subfusc fashionable wardrobe should anyone have one going begging. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:32 PM on June 20, 2011
or "throw in" as some people like to say. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:32 PM on June 20, 2011
I liked the scruffy Big Bird (who looked like he just crawled out of a Dumpster) the best, but then I also liked the entire set-up and ethos of the older "Sesame Street" (and "Electric Company"!) better -- dirty, polluted, scummy, with tenements as backdrops, aimless brats sitting on stoops thinking up games to play in the boring summer heat, all the adults looking like shifty drug dealers on the make, everything unscrubbed and unvarnished, half the time you're... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:09 AM on June 20, 2011
(Tangent alert: you've reminded me of a story my grandfather (who lived on Cape Cod) told about trying to buy greeting cards while visiting Texas. As far as he was concerned, though, he was only poking fun at the Texas guy's accent, but I was hearing his accent as well, and it was doubly funny because it was a conversation between one guy asking for "cahds" and another guy realizing he meant "currds".
As much as I'm glad that there's a method for reducing deaths, the bigger issue seems to be that there are vast slums and no way for the poor folks in the slums to cross the tracks easily. In a sense this is about people being reckless, but it's also a disaster of capitalism. I wish that societies would put a little less effort into massaging the effects of inequality and more into ending it. (Around here, for example, they could cut out those crap "hey men of color... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 4:37 AM on June 20, 2011
I still don't understand the concept of a "sexual identity." Is that like if I'm polyamorous but want to be in a monogamous relationship? Or if I'm into BDSM but my wife is vanilla? Or does it only apply to religious gay folks?
I always figure that "sexual identity" is a concept of the now - it doesn't have some kind of truth status, it's not eternal, but used lightly it's a very, very helpful way to negotiate the world in which we... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:04 AM on June 17, 2011
So what is the difference between identity and orientation?
The thing is, these terms are convention, not science.
"Orientation" is a political term - to my mind - which makes the argument that you're "turned towards"/attracted to men or women naturally and unchangably. I kind of provisionally believe this in the short term - you can't up and decide that today you're... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:15 AM on June 17, 2011
Of course. What do the therapists in the second article mean by "straight identity?" By my interpretation, they mean "in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex." Am I interpreting it correctly?
I'm sorry we're talking at cross purposes - I feel like maybe I'm accidentally belaboring things that you already know just fine and maybe sounding like a jerk about it.
I had interpreted that more as... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:31 AM on June 17, 2011
Except I was thinking of the first article, so I was wrong! Oops, sorry about that. I read them in reverse order to the post. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:33 AM on June 17, 2011
I don't know, I think that molecular gastronomy is kind of neat - like something out of mid-period Samuel Delany, Stars In My Pocket Like Grains of Sand or something. Setting aside the financial issues involved, what's wrong with spending time creating this kind of thing? (Unless we're going to argue that this fellow should be out staffing the soup kitchen instead of being a professional chef, etc.)
I am intrigued by the mention of his rivalry with... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:41 AM on June 16, 2011
Isn't there a lot of research which suggests that the thundering herds were an artifact of specific environmental and hunting practices by native people? Changes in the Land and 1491: New Revelations of the Americas Before Columbus both talk about this, IIRC.
Not that this justifies virtually exterminating the buffalo at all, much less as part of war against indigenous people - it's just fascinating to me that many of the things we assume are... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 11:57 AM on June 15, 2011
So this dude is all "fire teachers!" "continue to test a lot every year!" and, amazingly, "let great math professors develop software to teach math, so we don't need so many teachers". Basically, bigger class sizes, more precarity and less face time with students.
It's funny - everyone had a terrible teacher, and everyone assumes that teacher was shielded by a corrupt union, and everyone would like that teacher to be... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:04 AM on June 15, 2011
I wouldn't even begin to know how to make a list like this. (Except that Tony Judt would never, never be on it.) Also, surely there is more great non-fiction that is not in English/by ancient Greeks? posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:43 PM on June 14, 2011
Come to that, why would you even make a list like this? To what purpose? I could read all of these that I haven't read already, and they would not provide me with a coherent understanding or history of anything. You might conceivably make a plausible list of, say, the 100 greatest books about modern English history, or travels through Asia in the 19th century, etc....even a list of the 100 greatest English-language novels makes more sense.... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:46 PM on June 14, 2011
I like the list and I very much look forward to reading what's on it that I've not read. It doesn't have to be much more complicated than that.
But you're not learning anything. A "non-fiction" book read in a vacuum is pretty much the equivalent to a novel - you don't have the means to judge whether it's at all accurate or not, what it's responding to...jeez, I love Goodbye To All That, but it 1.... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:41 PM on June 14, 2011
But you're not learning anything.
Sorry, that came across as extremely snotty. I don't mean that you personally can't get anything out of the books or shouldn't read them. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:43 PM on June 14, 2011
(that's what the cyclists like to call us, right? cagers?)
Me neither, and I ride in the occasional critical mass, etc etc. We do usually refer to you as "cars" rather than "drivers"....or rather, I don't especially because I bum rides off friends as needed, so tend not to slag on drivers. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:44 AM on June 14, 2011
Having grown up on the beach, and spending bazillions of hours in the ocean, I can say this without hesitation: the sharks are always there. Fly over a beach and you'll see lots of sharks in and around swimmers and surfers.
Oh god, this isn't literally true, is it? The sharks aren't actually there amongst the swimmers in the shallow waters, lurking unseen - they're out in the deeper water, right? I am having a truly horrible mental image of a beach... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:51 PM on June 9, 2011
(I guess they are.) posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 12:51 PM on June 9, 2011
The family is not a good metaphor for the state. The way legal decisions work is not parallel to the way family decisions work. The way interests must be considered among state actors is not the same as the way interests are considered among family members. The feelings we have about family members are not the same as the feelings we have about fellow citizens. The president does not stand in the role of father to the nation; neither does Congress.
On preview, yay, rusty. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 11:23 AM on June 9, 2011
"What is identity?" is always a question with political implications. If I argue that being queer is innate, then de-gaying people is wrong and there's some traction for equal rights; if I believe that sexual identity is completely fluid and situational, then I can argue that it's better for society if queer folks use the fluidity of their sexual identity to perform straightness, and I can say that it's not cruel or abusive to try to de-gay people, because you're just lobbying them... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:35 AM on June 9, 2011
So identity is relational.
It's not necessarily that identity is relational - I could argue, for example, that public policy about gay rights should be determined based on an assumption of "innate" sexual identity because saying "sexual identity is fluid so if someone feels coerced to perform a particular identity it is really no worse than being "coerced" to get a job and pay rent". It's that the... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:49 AM on June 9, 2011
"because otherwise you end up saying "sexual identity is fluid so if someone feels coerced to perform a particular identity it is really no worse than being "coerced" to get a job and pay rent"" posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:50 AM on June 9, 2011
I don't wear a helmet. I didn't grow up wearing one; my head is hard to fit; I commute to work at a front desk job and can't have helmet hair; I find helmets distracting and seem to hear and see less well when I have pressure on my head. I am a very cautious cyclist who depends heavily on looking and listening - a lot of people seem to focus on going very fast (which seems reasonable to me) or want to wear one earbud from an iPod.
I too have a friend who dented a... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:34 AM on June 9, 2011
(Oh, I meant to digress on racism and perceptions about bike safety but didn't - that's why I mentioned that my friend was white - I wrote and deleted a bit more about racism and fear but forgot to delete that.) posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 8:35 AM on June 9, 2011
(Just parenthetically, I kind of wish this article didn't go all "dudes and their genetically-determined hard-wired territorialness over their ladies!" at the end. Also, the "all white women are fascinated by black actors having sex while all white men are repulsed" bit was a bit unappealing.) posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:49 AM on June 8, 2011
While I'm baffled by people who are reacting to the whole "women leaned forward while men leaned back" issue by saying "what's this about 'leaning forward' if you think something's hot" (poetic license, people, ever hear of it?), I was myself skeptical of this being "proof' of his claims -- but for a different reason.
Namely: how do we know that the men were recoiling because of race? Maybe it was just a matter of, "ew, watching a... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 11:04 AM on June 8, 2011
1. "Anti-intellectualism" among the young is only to be expected - when I was in my late teens and early twenties I did not have much mastery of the facts I'd learned, any way to theorize about them or enough theory to identify things I wanted to know but didn't. I felt threatened, honestly, by people who knew more than I did. I had few models for acquiring in-depth knowledge and no sense of how to distinguish reliable information from iffy.
I really hope she survives this, and I hope the same for the other protesters. I am so moved by their bravery, I wish there was something I could do.
I emailed every email at the Syrian embassy I could find, on the theory that if she's being held by someone who is directly responsible to the regime they may be less likely to kill her the bigger the public outcry is. If they're freelance paramilitaries or "will no... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:05 PM on June 7, 2011
It'd be easy to spout off some lazy sitcom tropes about marriage and sex and how they seem to be incongruous, but I struggle to understand, honestly: where does this level of resentment come from? I've BEEN in that relationship:
Honestly, for me it's popular culture that makes me really not want to have it off - has very little to do with chores or emotional intimacy and everything to do with the fact that once the thrill of novelty is gone I can no... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:54 AM on June 6, 2011
I've always (quietly, personally) categorized fatherhood in with terminal illness, floods, boils, Windows Vista, and the like.
I simultaneously like my friends' kids and am pleased that they're happy and have this completely contradictory "OMG having kids will mess up your life so why are you doing it!!!" feeling every time I see a pregnant stranger. I attribute this second reaction to my own personal fear of intimacy,... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 2:03 PM on June 3, 2011
To this USian, the acceptability of "chav" in the UK has been astonishing, shocking and disappointing. It's so clearly about the resentment of any working class person who does not make an attempt to conform to middle class norms - if it's not, why is the absolutely farcical behavior of the British hereditary aristocracy accepted but people get all worked up about a few tacky hats and some drinking? Prince William dressed up as a Nazi; the royals pop out with all... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 6:29 AM on June 3, 2011
Oh, and about working class status symbols - what really offends the middle class is when working class status symbols either trash something rich people used to own (Burberry in the UK; the thing of poor people driving old Cadillacs that helped mess up the brand in the US) or when the working class status symbols aren't an imitation of rich people, so that rich people can't automatically have higher status in that hierarchy.
and they would beat you up for walking in front of them
I have no problem with a critique of the whole beating-people-up thing. But it's always working class violence that's described as pathological; when a working class kid beats someone up, it says something about the working class as a whole, but when a middle class kid shoots up a school, it's mental illness or a tragedy or an individual gone wrong. Working class... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 7:13 AM on June 3, 2011
Actual people get more worked up about how travelers have a tendency trespass on your property and steal all your shit. My sister-in-law lives on a farm in Co. Laois, and they have a TERRIBLE time with travelers around those parts.
But the thing is, the rhetoric of working class violence is used to muster a consensus among people who don't experience (or only trivially experience) the violence in question - there's a big difference between "I... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:48 AM on June 3, 2011
While I think that mainstream Egyptian culture has some specific problems about gender that are a lot more dramatic and overt than those in the US, it is worth noting that police rape and sexually abuse women in the US fairly regularly. As I've said before here, I know several young women protesters who were strip-searched (and in one case filmed) in front of an audience after a faked-up arrest during the 2008 RNC convention - no one else in that batch of arrestees was strip... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 9:01 AM on June 1, 2011
When I lived in Shanghai in the nineties, I observed these things:
- Han Chinese students who praised Hitler as a nationalist leader and who either did not know about or minimized the Holocaust - I suspect partly because Han people are encouraged by the state to believe that they are superior to other ethnicities in China and violence/expropriation of minority people happens all the time in Tibet and Xinjiang.
- A group of Japanese exchange... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 10:17 AM on May 31, 2011
You know, police target vulnerable people who are less likely to be believed. I, for example, am not very likely to be raped by a cop - I'm white, I'm middle class, I don't drink or use drugs, I am not a sex worker, I am in full possession of my mental faculties at the moment and I am [ahem] no longer that young. Police target drunk women precisely because they are less likely to be believed and less likely to handle evidence collection [ugh] correctly. posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:33 PM on May 27, 2011
If you're going to slander an entire profession of public workers, it would be great if you could include a citation or a link or something.
The tricky bit is that police are rarely convicted and complaints are rarely made because the victims are poor, messed up or already marginalized, and civilian review boards (like ours in Minneapolis) are routinely weakened and defunded. So yeah, I can't. I have spent a lot of time doing various... [more] posted to MetaFilter by Frownerat 1:45 PM on May 27, 2011