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They Won’t Magically Turn You Into A Lustful Cockmonster
All good enough, although I really wish that white folks would not do that whole "anti-gay person of color, gay is the new black!" thing. It is very rhetorically tricky to compare oppressive situations without derailing or saying something ignorant, and (IMO) it's in very poor taste for white people to tell people of color how they ought to be thinking about race. I mean, I know for a fact that there are at least some GLBTQ… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:45 PM on September 7, 2012
Design is first and foremost a philosophy, a system of values
Two men, four surnames
I guess I feel like Ellis is maybe a more realistic and less bourgeois writer than Wallace; Ellis-esque work seems to have more potential for generating real, serious, non-reformist social critique; Ellis's work is much, much less comfortable than Wallace's. Wallace is middlebrow and sophomoric, mistaking detail for insight. Infinite Jest would be a much better book if its engagement with politics weren't so silly, and so would virtually everything else… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:59 AM on September 6, 2012
Now that I think about it, here's what I find the difference between Ellis and Wallace to be (leaving aside, you know, differences of style): Wallace is project-driven. Wallace wants people to strive to better themselves in this extremely middle-class, sincere, intrusive way. Wallace feels that you can get at people's interiority and that it's complex and windy and basically sympathetic. Ellis...does not. Ellis is much more "people are very simple - greedy, stupid, hedonistic, violent.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:09 PM on September 6, 2012
Consider the cruise ship piece, which I liked a lot. Every anecdote is about how pointless the available activities are, and how simple obvious things you'd do with a boat -- start the engine, chum for sharks -- are unexplained or impossible. Finally he removes himself from the whole thing by locking himself in his room and reading for the rest of the cruise. It's the ultimate expression of his superiority; he cannot be bothered to feign participation.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:47 PM on September 6, 2012
You can make the case that that isn't necessarily as true of fiction as it is of technical writing, but it struck me as a good idea. And DFW is most definitely writing to impress his audience.
How do you prove this?
See, I find Wallace a really easy writer - if I had to have a long wait at the hospital or something, any book of his except Infinite Jest (which still makes me queasy) would be an excellent and… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:49 PM on September 6, 2012
Lestat, Eric Northman, Tohrment and Dracula aren't the only bloodsuckers at the library
Okay, this has convinced me that I am going to get an ereader. I love physical books and I don't like the idea of having no books if I break the reader or if, you know, total social collapse happens and there is no more tech support. But I hate and fear bedbugs far, far more.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:11 AM on September 5, 2012
Shulamith Firestone, sprung from her own head
Actually "incubate children in artificial wombs" was a relatively common idea among futurist-minded second wave feminists - you see the idea in the anti-racist utopia in Marge Piercy's Woman On The Edge of Time and in the intro to Women of Wonder. And honestly, if you assume that you can successfully and safely replicate the womb 100%, why not? The issue is that we can't - and that the techno optimism which still informed… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 3:08 PM on August 31, 2012
Chore list of Champions
Not that it's not cute and charming, but it sure does sound like "while my wife is pregnant I will do three pieces of light housekeeping and refrain from making unnecessary mess, but once she has a baby to raise I go back to doing no light housekeeping and not really worrying about dropping bits of paper, because cleaning is women's work."
If I were a dude and had a wife and were afraid she'd read this, it would be because I would fear being summarily… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:57 AM on August 30, 2012
All exotic white girls look the same to me
Has it been terribly rude for me to tell people that their new haircut looked nice, or that they made a funny joke? Is there some deeper difference I'm missing here, or is it just that "exotic" is a term that's now being absorbed into the fugue of racism?
I think it's really psychically tough to say to yourself "this thing that I have always assumed was okay to say and think actually isn't okay and I need to… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:56 AM on August 28, 2012
Er, that was perhaps a little too long. Sorry about that.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:57 AM on August 28, 2012
I don't know a better word for 'has a large vocabulary and uses it precisely'. If you have a suggestion, I'm all ears.
See, this is where one needs a sense of social context.
Yes, Obama is an extremely gifted speaker (and that's how I would put it). And it's true that "articulate" captures some of "gifted speaker". But it is also a famous example of a compliment/insult… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:34 AM on August 28, 2012
Vis-a-vis "but why can't I call you eloquent?"
Tact is good and fine, but honesty is far more important. We've lost sight of that fact.
"Honesty" is always social.
I think one of the features of privilege is the experience of getting to say whatever you want whenever and however you want to say it. In extremely misogynist situations, men call the shots about… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:35 AM on August 28, 2012
The problem with stuff like this is, if you truly take it to heart, if you really feel the guilt like the authors intend that you do, you start to be afraid of opening your mouth and restrict yourself to speaking to people outside of your cultural group in minimal, non-engaging ways. I think an end to the conversation is just as bad as a misguided one.
With one exception, my first friends of color were friends I made… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:01 PM on August 28, 2012
Pawns in the War on Drugs
What strikes me immediately is how the corrupt and violent state of our prisons is used to pressure people by the very state that runs the prisons and makes sure that they are violent and corrupt. "We run our prisons in such a way that of course you will get raped and beaten in jail, so do what we say or else. Not that we're going to rape you or beat you personally or anything, no, we just maintain the apparatus."
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:27 PM on August 28, 2012
One of the officers threatened Shelly with prison—a particularly terrifying prospect for a transgender woman, who would be sent to a male facility—and then offered her a way out: she could set up her dealer, Qasim Raqib, and walk free that same day. She agreed.
See, this is why I think the whole prison system is basically fake: It's just a machine for employing cops and guards and court personnel and suppliers, a… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:46 PM on August 28, 2012
This Will End in Tears
Oh, the saddest songs? The saddest songs are, in no particular order:
The Water Is Wide/Wild Geese (Ann Hills, can't seem to find it online)
A Pair of Brown Eyes, which is much sadder than Waltzing Matilda to me although it too has that theme of the persistence of war and loss
One more bottle to drink, by Billy Childish
And virtually every song on PJ Harvey's Let England Shake. "Hanging On… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:34 AM on August 24, 2012
Oh, if you are looking for a relationship song that is sad, No Looking by the Raincoats has always struck me as pretty darn sad. It's a translation/reworking of a poem by Jacques Prevert, but it is about a million times sadder than the poem.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:11 PM on August 24, 2012
It's funny, "The Cool, Cool River" isn't sad to me at all*. In my head, I picture a people under tremendous pressure and moving towards revolution - it makes me think of the indigenous and labor organizers in Mexico, like in Chiapas or Oaxaca or of the Guatemalan resistance. I think of the cool, cool river as the force of the ordinary people, people becoming, the urge people have to just be alive and be all right. The wild, white ocean better watch out, that's what I think. To me… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:39 PM on August 25, 2012
Portland and Brooklyn,read and weep:
But the whole point of this kind of article, culturally, is to bully people into liking or disliking something through fear of being a hipster, of not being hip enough or of having their identity challenged in some way. Economically, it's link-bait; culturally, it's actually about sustaining a "hipster" mentality - the mentality that what's important in life is performing your identity correctly through the correct modes of… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:16 PM on August 25, 2012
One Direction Tumblerites vs the world
alby: Sort of. There's an interesting conversation to be had about how the way a medium shapes the discussion that takes place within that medium; the nature of fannish content production has shifted dramatically in the process of the migration from LJ to tumblr.
I would be interested to hear more thoughts on this. I have thoughts of my own!
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:18 AM on August 24, 2012
The main African American character in the novel is referred to as a "beast-man."
Samuel Delany actually wrote a fantastic and somewhat under-read series of, yes, sword and sorcery books (Neveryona, Escape from Neveryona, Return to Neveryona, one other one) in which the dominant people who run the fancy slave-holding, conflict-rife, cultured and interesting empire are brown people and the barbaric slaves are white. That's not the main point of the books, but I'd say that they are much more realistic about how and why racism (and in this instance slavery)… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:26 AM on August 22, 2012
Oh my god, I read that Requires Hate thing linked upthread. This book is so much worse than anything I had hitherto read about it suggested. It's just un-fucking-believable. I swear - if you have not read extensive excerpts from this book you will simply not believe it! It's so full of racial resentment! It puts me in sympathy with the future world where the white people are oppressed - I'd be totally down with oppressing the white folks who produce this kind of thing… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:15 AM on August 22, 2012
I am so delighted by seeing this mentioned, and so confused by it being mentioned in a young adult science fiction thread, that I may have to take the rest of the day off to find my copy.
Actually, as a young adult (okay, here's a thing - we don't really describe 12-14 year-olds as young adults, but they read YA, right? I think of a young adult as someone old enough to live as an adult on their own, so at least 16 and probably older)...anyway, back… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:55 PM on August 22, 2012
Facts Didn't Get In Their Way
I don't think this phenomenon is unique to men, and don't care for the term 'mansplaining.'
But the point is that there is a particular kind of explaining that is sexist - that's rooted in male socialization. Men are socialized to assume that they are knowers and explainers, that what the world wants is more male explaining (instead of female explaining or something that is not explaining), that they are entitled… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:58 AM on August 21, 2012
Set phasers to "Hulk Smash!"
We all know that guy - I know a "that guy" who actually changed himself (by conversations, reading feminist books and a lot of self-reflection and hard work) and is, seven years later, a much nicer and happier person with a wonderful long-term girlfriend. Every time this comes up, I want to remind folks that if this is you or if you think it might be you, you can absolutely stop, change and fix your life.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:58 AM on August 9, 2012
In my experience it all seems a lot more okay when you're 18-19 and lack the life experience to know better and the men in your social circle are all telling you it's okay because we've known him forever and yeah he's a little weird but he's always nice to US etc etc.
But honestly, this kind of thing persists in certain regions and subcultures - I'm really shocked by what my thirty-ish graduate student friends (especially out East) tell me about how… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:23 AM on August 9, 2012
But it is a pet peeve of mine that happily-coupled people—like these letter writers—seem to often place normal single-person behavior in the same category as sexual harassment and sexual assault, as though the fact of not being in an established relationship and seeking a partner were inherently creepy.
I assure you that at every party I ever attended back in the days when I dated fellows, the guys who were in the headspace of "I want to get laid… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:34 AM on August 9, 2012
I don;t think there is anything inherently wrong with making sex jokes or even asking a woman to expose herself as long as it is going on between two consenting adults. The problem starts when one consenting adult has no fucking clue what other consenting adults are into. One adult is having difficulty navigating all the subtle cues that let him know that the other adult is into whatever is happening. If the guy only did this with women who were interested in this, he would be fine. The… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:41 AM on August 9, 2012
I think, also, people are reading this differently from me, e.g. Frowner's summation of "I want to get laid tonight doesn't matter who as long as she's attractive enough that I can get it up" is not how I read it—I read it as "I would like to meet someone at this party, who might eventually go out with me and sleep with me." Certainly it is possible that I am misreading it.
In the interests of internet honesty, I will say that I… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:49 AM on August 9, 2012
it also came from a long history of feminist discourses which basically said that every expression of male heterosexual desire is directly complicit in some form of sexual violence against women.
And thinking that through carefully is your responsibility as a good ally.
I'm going to be as sincere and experience-sharing as possible because I believe this is really important:
As I've said elsewhere on… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:13 AM on August 9, 2012
(A momentary derail: Sometimes I read blogs by POC and they are upsetting to read.
I wanted to clarify that the upset that I might feel in that situation is nowhere near how upsetting it is when some poor kid gets shot by the cops, or some other instance of racism - it's not that my little sadfeels are AS IMPORTANT AS RACISM. I just wanted to express how it feels to be a self-critical holder of privilege in a situation where… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:24 AM on August 9, 2012
Because I can hear the knees jerking: Frowner avoided saying that you should not critique feminists who are wrong. They said you should not make the critique about them--neither your own, new critique, nor the body of critique that the discussion is about.
I will however add something I should have said in my whiteness analogy: it's really important to be careful when you assume that someone is wrong when they're talking about how they experience… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:31 AM on August 9, 2012
(Thank you for the compliments, custardfairy and Mooski and Catchfire. I freely admit that my comments owe quite a lot to the blogular wisdom of others!)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:44 PM on August 9, 2012
(I'd suggest that there are also 'whitesplaining', 'cisplaining', etc - that each word highlights the particular form of privilege in play, and that's why it's valuable. The dynamics that drive racism rhyme with the dynamics that drive misogyny, but they are not identical. I mean, I can't mansplain, for lo I am not a man and do not have social, institutional and emotional structures cementing my identity into place, but I have noticed that this does not prevent me from whitesplaining.)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:28 AM on August 15, 2012
The Reproducibility Initiative
No, this is a terrible, terrible idea. (I have some expertise in research funding) Here's why:
1. It will add an INSANE amount to university research expenses - that means either that a $250,000 NIH grant will suddenly be $150,000 for the actual research and $100,000 for the replication or else what used to be a $250,000 grant will need to be a $300,000 grant. Or else the schools can eat the cost - from where? Tuition? Slashing jobs?… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:54 PM on August 14, 2012
You’ll never be Chinese
This interview with Dongpin Han, a historian who grew up in rural China during the cultural revolution, discussing his book, The Unknown Cultural Revolution: Life and Change in a Chinese Village was interesting, and there's a transcript of an interview. He is very positive on the educational reforms and other aspects of the cultural revolution, and very negative on how these have been rolled back with the transition to state-capitalism in China.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:20 PM on August 10, 2012
Some Shoppers Are More Equal Than Others
yeah? How about if target gave your neighbor 10% off, because he's wealthier and more likely to be a lucrative customer? Is that still cool?
I feel like we all really, really need to internalize how contemporary capitalism/government/legal stuff is about taking from the vulnerable to give to the powerful. We fought for a long time to get redistribution going the other way via social services and labor rights, but basically the… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:14 AM on August 10, 2012
Perhaps I shall tell you about my local Target. I live in Target's home town, and if I choose to bus to downtown Minneapolis, I can go to the palatial flagship Target on the main shopping drag, where they have everything plus a few extra experimental special things. This is not my local Target. My local Target is shitty. It's the inner city one where the poor folks go. It is understaffed even though it's incredibly busy. The pharmacy is always a giant clusterfuck, even… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:06 AM on August 10, 2012
What do you mean, "contemporary"? That's the way it's always worked. That statement is no more true of twenty-first-century America as it is of fifth-millennium BC Mesopotamia. Doesn't have anything to do with capitalism. Or, if it does, then it's just a feature of the way the world is inherently, not some New Thing we've done.
That's a much, much larger question and too big for this thread, but I find the "let's flatten the history of… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:14 AM on August 10, 2012
Early abolitionist David Ruggles
"Cats are a part of our life, they amuse people, and make a nice atmosphere for us."
Russian Ark is awesome - I've watched it twice and it's really definitely a big-screen film. I assumed that there were allusions that I could not get, but the feel and sweep of the film is amazing. I am not a skilled film person, so my opinions are not informed ones, but it reminded me a bit of parts of Fanny and Alexander in tone. Sort of a big and more than personal sadness combined with elegance and sweep.
However, I would… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:34 AM on August 9, 2012
There is no Mr. Hyde
I haven't read the actual story (not a big fan of Stevenson) but I know that in the Robertson Davies novel World of Wonders the story is described this way, and the reader is led to believe that the actor who wants to give a psychological rather than melodramatic interpretation of the book (an interpretation in line with the OP) is a Bad Person. I imagine that Davies himself was a more sophisticated reader of the text, but I bet that there are lots of people who are familiar… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:30 PM on August 8, 2012
High earners in France consider moving in response to 75% tax
Didn't people make noises like this in the seventies when d'Estaing was elected? And few of them fled. The people who are actually willing to up stakes and leave France, its culture, the amenities available to the wealthy, its education system and its medical care are actually kind of few. Mere sabre-rattling, I think.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:50 AM on August 8, 2012
"...he has been fairly clear that he is simply a boy who sometimes likes to dress and play in conventionally feminine ways."
A boy who insists on wearing a skirt seems to be asserting the importance of gender norms, not eroding them.
See, this risks slipping over into "but trans women are just reinscribing teh patriarchy" reasoning - where when someone asserts that they want to do a particular thing, it is read as meaning "this thing is based on some kind of Deep Truth About Gender, not just on my preference". But when I, assigned female at birth, wear… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:34 AM on August 8, 2012
(Also, most of the kids I know mostly wear hand-me-downs or thrift store stuff or presents - it's actually cheaper to be able to use a wider variety of hand-me-downs rather than a gender-restricted sort. You don't need "two wardrobes" (or a double-sized wardrobe) to incorporate boys' and girls' clothes any more than I keep "two wardrobes" because some of my clothes are men's.)
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:37 AM on August 8, 2012
I've just had a thought: when I took child development classes as part of an abortive attempt at teacher-training, we were told pretty clearly that around age 3 kids "naturally" developed a lot of anxiety about which gender they were and "naturally" divided things into 'boy' things and 'girl' things, plus worked hard to avoid things of the opposite gender. This was taken (at the time, about 1998) to signal that gender was so deeply ingrained, by whatever mechanism, that it… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:46 AM on August 8, 2012
I don't see how it's possible to read his deep investment in appearing "girl-like" as something that is not "based on some kind of Deep Truth About Gender." At least, based in some kind of Deep Truth about his perception of his own gender. The very last thing he is saying when he dresses up as a Princess is "oh, I don't care at all about the cultural associations between this outfit and gender-normativity: I'm just wearing whatever I happen to be in the mood to… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:47 AM on August 8, 2012
We're changing our image.
And dentists, come to think of it! You could improve the lives of MANY homeless people by staffing a free, full-service dental clinic....but of course, if we started giving free and desperately needed care to homeless people, it would be harder to justify withholding it from the working poor, and there goes your labor discipline, and whoops, that's the end of capitalism as we know it.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:54 PM on August 7, 2012
I am not certain that unsourced suspicions about social services, and a sense that the people who work at them shouldn't get paid for their work, helps the homeless either.
I can only offer the critique in The Revolution Will Not Be Funded and a lot of experience trying to help my friends get medical care, plus a shit-ton of really shocking interactions between my working class friends (or other… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:26 PM on August 7, 2012