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Congratulations! Now You're Both Jerks!
Yes I do not care for Wolverine's claws.
The way to handle this conversation is thusly:
"Oh, yeah, I would love to have claws" or "No, I would not want to have claws because [reasons]" or "oh, no, I totally loathe Wolverine" or "yeah, I'm super interested in clawed characters - have you ever read [either Neuromancer or The Female Man depending on your audience] - I always wonder if… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:37 AM on October 10, 2014
Sex is sex, but money is money.
I think that a lot of critique of sex work hinges on a belief in a stereotypical and unlikely kind of "romance". No one would be saying that this girl is damaged or too transactional or whatever if she'd let some clown persuade her into getting married and having a baby at twenty while he was cheating on her, gone into debt for her wedding and then gotten dumped/abandoned by the clown who doesn't make enough money consistently enough to pay child support. That woman would have made… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:06 AM on October 10, 2014
Possibly so, but I could pretty definitely say that about her banker clients as well, but we regard that as a moral flaw of the system. you might be able to get pretty far with screwed up ideas about sex and money (eg, Eliot Spitzer), but it's not considered a healthy way to live.
I was thinking this morning about how screwed up my own ideas about sex and money are...or really, sex and value. And I didn't get hundreds of thousands… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:02 AM on October 10, 2014
The Cafeteria Wars
It sounds as though a core problem is the way lunch is served in schools - kids get very little time for lunch (25 minutes to get food, eat, toss food away), schools may not even have actual full-service kitchens and (if my experience is anything to go by) they are woefully understaffed. So yeah, if the choice is between frozen pizza (which is at least sort of palatable when heated in an industrial oven and is quick to serve and quick to eat) and a tray full of random… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:28 PM on October 9, 2014
Rise and Shine
I would like Japanese breakfasts going forward pls.
When I lived in Shanghai, our campus/staff-residential-area had a little breakfast-preparing-guy alley where you could get jian bing (the premier breakfast food of all time) and giant shumai and both pork and vegetable baozi, among other things. I did not eat there often because I knew that a steady diet of jian bing would probably kill me, but OMG, jian bing.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:50 AM on October 9, 2014
Jandek and Lustmord and Geto Boys, oh my
That's an exciting list! Or perhaps I am biased because World of Echo would possibly be my nomination for best album of the eighties. Cannot wait to listen to the stuff I haven't heard.
It would be interesting to see a list compiled by women and focusing on work by women - this list reads like my most cerebral music nerd dude friend compiled it (I actually went and checked the byline to make sure he didn't have anything to do with it) and while his taste is awesomely… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 4:47 PM on October 3, 2014
seriously? I've got it. Had it since ... the 1980s. Always felt more gimmick than anything. Sandinista yt is at least nine times as relevant.
Arthur Russell is amazing and hugely underrated. I was so thrilled when they re-released his stuff in the early 2000s, because before that basically all I'd been able to find was "Tell You Today" and the other stuff on the Ze records compilations.
The thing… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:08 AM on October 4, 2014
Or maybe it's just that what the Clash is doing on Sandinista - or what the Mekons are doing with So Good It Hurts, etc - has been so completely absorbed that it seems "easy", kind of like we all always-already have encountered certain basic pyschoanalytic concepts (repression, disavowal, the idea that we have motives that we ourselves can't immediately perceive) because they've been so completely absorbed into the culture.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:14 AM on October 4, 2014
It was really looking at the nineties list that convinced me that there's a woman problem with these - I counted ten albums out of 100 where I was sure there was a woman involved in the band and only two which seemed really to center women. I'm sure the actual count is higher because I'm not familiar with all the music and because the nineties list has to be clicked through one by one, but it's clear that there's not a lot of majority/all women bands on the list, and not a lot of women centered… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:57 AM on October 4, 2014
It's not all that easy to 'just cook healthier meals'
I hadn't thought about the impact of just-in-time scheduling on cooking.
I also hadn't thought about the need to cook something that everyone will eat, and how this reduces cooking to the least common denominator - if you can't afford much food, you can't really afford to cook several sides on the assumption that everyone will eat some of something, and you can't afford to try something if you aren't sure how it will turn out. I imagine, too, that if you've gotten home… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:05 PM on October 2, 2014
I just think that if your life is really stressful and tiring and there's no meaningful possibility of it ever being any different because you'll always be stuck in low-wage insecure work and shitty housing and unreliable transit options and only ever getting to buy/use/wear whatever is the cheapest, then you simply might not have the heart to fight to get your kids to eat the kale or whatever. You might need to use up all your fight just to get through the day as it stands.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:15 PM on October 2, 2014
Am I serious about how we'd be better off having old ladies from Mumbai cooking us Indian food, rather than eating the crap that the USDA would approve for us? Absolutely. It would be healthier.
Well, if what we mean is "some regions have a culture of healthy, popular street food, and we will hire some of the people who cook this food as consultants and perhaps as skilled staff/program directors, providing appropriate compensation,… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:30 PM on October 3, 2014
The best "unlikely allies" story you've probably never heard.
I want to see this so bad. I wish stuff like this got released in the Midwest - we have, you know, the gays here too.
Interesting though not unexpected that the politics gets downplayed. That's something I've noticed in almost all semi-popular documentation of past radical movements - their actual radicalism gets downplayed both to make them more palatable to contemporary audiences and because (I think) people just can't fucking get their heads around the idea that… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:38 AM on September 27, 2014
It's going to show in Minneapolis (well, in Edina actually) for a week starting on October 10. I am going to buy tickets as soon as they are available. Woo-hoo, I never get to see the movies I want to see and my favorite bands never tour here, so this is great.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:55 AM on October 3, 2014
Cats drink water "as if they're doing the equations in their head."
Our cat used not to drink much water. I started putting containers of water around the house in the hopes that she'd drink from them and discovered that her favorite kind is the basic mid-sized transparent plastic takeout container tub - she really likes plastic, and she likes to be able to see out of the dish when she has her head down. When I started putting her drinking bowl on my dresser so that when I am at home lying in bed she is up higher than I am and can keep an… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:57 AM on October 2, 2014
She also chases our pitbull puppy around the house. She is maybe 8 pounds and he must be almost 30 by now and she's roughly the size of his head, and he is terrified of her. Like "won't walk down the stairs if she's lying on them" scared.
That second thing had nothing to do with water, but the sight of her chasing our dog around the house is hilarious and I had to share.
Next door has a cat, and next door has chickens.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:18 PM on October 2, 2014
Spotlight on HAY
I...er...I would love to hold a jam-tasting party, as long as I didn't have to make the jam. That's not actually a bad idea, in fact, since virtually all my friends can eat jam - I could make some various vegan and gluten-free things to have the jam with, and I could make a jam-based ice cream topping and we could have, like, coconut sorbet with it, and I could make a salad dressing that contained a little of a tart jam. I bet if I got a jar of some kind… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:01 AM on October 2, 2014
Cooking is really stupid.
Actually, this was what made me sad:
Last night my boyfriend brought home prosciutto, melon, bread, some Saint- André cheese and a mixture of olives and feta in a little oil and vinegar that they sell at our local supermarket and which, along with just enough salad to ward off disease, I would be perfectly happy to live on.
I went to sleep rested, un-buoyed by success, and un-flattened by failure. I thought of the snail genius, and how… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:07 AM on September 30, 2014
George Orwell actually had a "let's have a socialist Britain after the war" proposal which involved being able to sign up for meal drop-off and have someone else pick up the dirty dishes after, with both cooking and dish washing to be done at a central depot. He felt that cooking by individuals was mostly wasteful - particularly of women's time - and that kitchens tended to be inefficiently designed, require too much cleaning, etc. (Admittedly, I don't expect that… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:13 AM on September 30, 2014
Why "F* You, Pay Me" Is A Necessary Mantra
On My Butchness
As someone who is usually (incorrectly) read as a butch lesbian (and thus gets a lot of the same treatment that butch lesbians get), I find the hostility to this essay shown here suuuuuupppper interesting. One thing I've noticed - about both men and straight people! - is that even though I am a veritable marshmallow of a human being, my very existence seems to shout "discipline case" at them. Just being… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:18 AM on September 28, 2014
About two years ago, J Crew - fucking J Crew! - ran an add with a butch woman in it. She wasn't on the front, and it was all "look at those among our marketing staff who happen to to be young, slim and conventionally good-looking...but there she was, butch as all hell, men's shoes, blazer and a fifties haircut. I'm telling you, I don't even identify as butch or as a woman, but I was so stoked that I promptly went out and got a used version of those very same loafers on… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:47 AM on September 29, 2014
I beg forgiveness in advance if the question is offensive, but do you mean in a physical sense, or the way you perceive yourself coming across to others on the aggressive-passive scale? 'Cause I've never met you, but I've been reading you for a while now, and unless you turn into someone else when you are away from your keyboard, you are anything but a marshmallow. I mean, if I had to choose a person I'd never met to partner with against an angry mob, you'd top the list.… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:57 PM on September 29, 2014
"None of this is a competition."
The thing is, much criticism of Beyonce doesn't seem to come from great familiarity with her work or with womanism, or from feminists of color. It mostly seems to come from white women who have given her videos a cursory inspection, and it seems to carry a weirdly disproportionate emotional charge. I've read a couple of "for these detailed and close-reading-based reasons, I am skeptical of the usefulness of Beyonce's feminism" essays, and they just don't seem to get the same kind of… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:19 AM on September 29, 2014
Is there a comprehensive online resource for DTWOF strips, or will I need to buy actual made-from-paper-usually-stored-on-a-bookshelf books?
The comic as it exists today is semi-comprehensive - I think all the actual sequential strips are collected, but she also did a lot of little one-off things with the characters here and there.
Only some of her strips are online.
There is this collection, but it's… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:52 PM on September 24, 2014
I think I liked Are You My Mother? best because it doesn't have nearly as coherent a narrative, and it doesn't wrap itself around family the way that Fun Home does. They're both fantastic, amazing books that absolutely expand what graphic novels can be expected to do, and they're both beautiful and evocative books. I think Are You My Mother? is more difficult to read and pushes the reader toward a more complicated reading. (I don't… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:40 PM on September 24, 2014
I Am More Than OK With Not "Having It All"
partly because my pronounced queerness meant I was generally off the hook
I never really thought about it until now, but....the reason no one has ever asked me when I'm going to have kids is because I am exceedingly visibly queer, and get read as butch woman all the time, and therefore, of course, I must be incapable of/uninterested in having children, or else my sex life is too squicky to contemplate or something. Fortunately, I have absolutely… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:11 PM on September 24, 2014
that’s like adding three more Floridas, inhabited entirely by seniors.
I'm not rich and I'm never going to be rich. If I could be assured of decent health care and enough money to live on, sure I'd want to live past 75. But as it is, I'm pretty sure that I'll be left miserably alone and disabled in a warming world, or possibly agonized and demented in some charity home where I'll get bedsores full of maggots. All I'm hoping for anymore is some kind of bloody revolution before I die so that at least a few of those one percenters get what's coming to them, and… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:12 AM on September 18, 2014
Aging isn't the same as disability, even though there are overlaps in experience. I know younger people with disabilities and, for the most part, their conditions are relatively stable and fairly predictable - a decent and well-run society could easily make their lives more convenient, secure and comfortable. With aging, it's the fact that you know there's going to be a big crisis but you don't know when it will happen or what it will be, or how much control you'll be left… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:26 AM on September 18, 2014
That's not aging, except in the sense that we're all aging. My brother's 30-something friend got hit by a truck crossing the street and had a devastating head injury, which she was in no way economically or otherwise equipped to deal with. My mom's cousin just had a stroke in her 50s. There is no magical switch that gets flicked at 75 that makes one suddenly susceptible to random medical issues.
Yes, but the odds change so much as you age. That's the… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:50 AM on September 18, 2014
(And again, that's where personality and access to care come in - I don't like avoidable risk, personally, and I don't trust this society to do right by me when I'm vulnerable. As un avoidable risk starts to climb, there comes a point where it seems better to get out while the getting is still good. Some folks are very sanguine in the face of risk and/or are confident that they'll have family or state care, so it's not an issue for them.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:54 AM on September 18, 2014
This would be pretty cool in a sort of 1960s science fiction utopia setting - think of it, a future earth dotted with arcologies, interesting farming initiatives and artists, hermits and vacationers in their little dumpster houses. It is concerning when a young rich white guy with a community platform (and with tenure, I assume based on his position) starts his sustainability moralizing with "we can all live with a little less". Many, many people… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:17 AM on September 17, 2014
When I was younger, I actually got a kick out of going to the laundromat - I could carry a week's worth of clothes and towels using a big backpack and a bag, and I would just bike over. I'd spend 1.5 hours reading and idly people-watching and then head home. Neither my job nor my classes required fancy clothes, so as long as I folded everything and then unpacked it right away, I didn't even have to iron. It was pretty sweet. And that was because I wasn't short of cash, didn't have a family and… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:00 AM on September 17, 2014
"the first service layer on the shared economy"
Just like how in Victorian households they wouldn't want to learn the maids' names, or maybe the maids would have lower class names or ethnic names, so they'd just call them all "Jane", etc.
One thing I like about the one percent - they seem utterly devoid of anything resembling a sense of irony, which is just as well since a ruling caste which itself had some "humanizing features" would be even harder to take.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:23 AM on September 16, 2014
That linked "Homejoy" story is quite something.
Walker sits at 13 out of D.C.’s 42 cleaners with a 4.6; almost all 5s, except for a woman who complained that he hadn’t gotten the mildew entirely out of her shower grout.
Yes, indeed, the less they pay you, the more they think they own you, and that's because low wages are themselves a sign that you are less human - if you weren't an ownable commodity,… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:28 AM on September 16, 2014
There is however a lot of innovation in tech for government, like Code for America, that Govtech Fund thing, etc. It'll help enormously if we can "disrupt" government bureaucracies, meaning employ fewer people administering them.
Yes, because it's not like people employed by the government spend money or anything. Paying people doesn't do any good, unless they're tech entrepreneurs. We should totally do our best to get as much work as… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:33 AM on September 16, 2014
The awful cult of the talentless hipster has taken over
I really, really want to like Will Self, partly because as far as I can tell he looks almost exactly like Magneto, my very favorite mutant, and partly because his most recent novel really looks awfully interesting, and partly because going through life named "Will Self" seems like a burden of its own and partly because since he was named "Will Self" for years I thought he had something to do with Henry Rollins, and then I got him confused with Nick Hornby… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:37 AM on September 15, 2014
I don't quite understand about these tiny New Statesman columns - they're clickbait and all, but it would be so easy to make a good rather than polemical and sure-to-be-ignored argument here. I can't imagine that Self hasn't read all those old Baffler articles from the mid-nineties, or Thomas Frank's embookified dissertation, The Conquest of Cool, all of which trace an actual history of changes in cultural projection which would make this… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:50 AM on September 15, 2014
It's really pushing it to be fifty-something and say you're Gen-X. Usually I see Gen-X as defined as born 1965ish to 1980ish. I had always thought that the defining factor was coming of age in some form during the 1980s. If you were born in 1960, you really came of age more in the 70s.
But Self talks about going nightclubbing and using substances during the mid-nineties, when he would have been in his mid-thirties - I think he probably… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:56 AM on September 15, 2014
Also, many commenters in this thread seem not to know that as a writer Will Self is a well known provocateur and satirist. I've never cared that much for his books, honestly, but I would never take his writing at sort of naive face value.
But it's such low-grade provocateur-ing! "I know, I'll insult George Orwell, that will really be an incisive critique that will....er...do… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:40 PM on September 15, 2014
Much as I dislike his work, I've still gotta give the guy props for getting fired from The Observer for shooting heroin on the Prime Minister's private jet.
I would find that much more appealing if I hadn't had to deal with junkies shooting up in the bathroom of the bookstore where I used to volunteer - that is, it's a delightfully funny story (bold as brass! shooting up when the PM was right there! fuck you, authority, I am living an authentic life of… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 4:43 PM on September 15, 2014
I'm only into Jean-Georges's early stuff.
I think that this guy may have the wrong kinds of friends.
I once was young and now am not so old, as the fellow says, and I can testify that it's perfectly possible to run around in snob bohemian circles while still doing things you authentically enjoy and can afford - so possible, in fact, that I have never really encountered all this "pressure" to collect all the things and go all the places. I did have a couple of record snob guy friends in my twenties,… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 5:02 AM on September 15, 2014
So the cultural kingdom is, once again, Brooklyn. Huh. I'll be sure to mention that next time it comes up.
Admittedly, it would have had a lot of chuckle value in 1960, and will no doubt have some incredulity value in 2035.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:07 AM on September 15, 2014
Do people gather in very large groups at restaurants, then? Except when I lived in the maybe 175-square-foot place, I don't think I've lived anywhere where I couldn't entertain three or four friends.
Going to a restaurant does mean that you don't have to do any dishes, though.
I know very few people who have the kind of discretionary income where you can afford fun meals out regularly, though, so inviting people to meet you at a restaurant is considered kind of poor form.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 9:25 AM on September 15, 2014
I could totally throw a $200 dinner party without having it look particularly costly - good ingredients from the co-op, enough reasonable wine for a mid-sized group, good coffee for afters. I can remember spending north of $100 on a dinner party for five in richer days. (Admittedly, the last time I had a big group over for dinner we made radically inauthentic yet tasty tamales and the total cost was probably under fifteen dollars.)
The thing is, I hate being at… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:43 PM on September 15, 2014
Redder and redder, and prettier and prettier.
Yeah, there were Honeycrisps in the store this weekend for four dollars a pound. And this in Minnesota, although I'm assuming the price will fall as the season progresses.
I got some nice-looking Braeburns instead and they are quite good.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:42 PM on September 15, 2014
"massive quantities of barely edible fried items" (p. 200)
I only really have experience with Red Lobsters - it's been many years since I've eaten at an Olive Garden - but I have several relatives who live in places where Red Lobster is the only non-fast-food restaurant option, and they like to go out to eat when I visit. IME, the quality of the food actually does vary by how well-run the place is - is your broccoli mushy or crisp? was it obviously past its prime when cooked? are things overbaked or overfried? does the deep-frying oil get changed… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 1:27 PM on September 15, 2014
"How can I make the person eating this lose his goddamn mind?"
Well, the balloon sounds like an ill-conceived thing, it's true - but isn't the problem with these things the way they represent inequality rather than the things themselves? They're all wonderfully silly, of course, but they also have this sort of 1960s techno-socialist-utopia feel to them, as if of course we're all going to get to the point where we "work" one hour a day, Iain Banksian AIs take care of all of our needs and we spend our time… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 8:55 AM on September 15, 2014
(The thing is, as the middle class declines, being able to save up for a $500-$1000 "treat" twice a year becomes a rarer and rarer thing. Spur-of-the-moment international getaways? All that stuff? The only people I know who can really do that have two very solid incomes, relatively little education debt and maybe one child - I'm talking a household income north of $70,000 if no kid, north of $100,000 if kid. I'm not saying that people on this thread can't do it, or that you're some… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 10:06 AM on September 15, 2014
Sex slavery in America
What struck me - other than how incredibly resilient she is, and the fear that not everyone is as resilient - is her point about how much money people have to have to buy girls this way. You always think that the movie villain/SF-dystopia evil rich dude who abuses people is just this sort of...cartoon figure. But actually there must be plenty of them out there, making big money and buying young people to abuse just because they can get away with it - one of the side effects… [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 2:34 PM on September 14, 2014