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For instance, today our customer experience team works a regular eight-hour shift, not 12. We supply our employees with laptops, they don't use their own. And we don't ask prospective employees to work a trial day before they are hired. Was it... [more]
favorited 35 times, recently by haltingproblemsolved, SisterHavana, Green Winnebago, sheila t, wintermind, virago, The corpse in the library, threeants, yesster, ch1x0r, Rosie M. Banks, thetarium, fatbird, madcaptenor, vibrotronica, languagehat, Hypatia, doctor_negative, tyllwin, thsmchnekllsfascists, Blue Jello Elf, oceanjesse, Narrative Priorities, showbiz_liz, Esteemed Offendi, artificialard, rtha, xthlc, en forme de poire, tonycpsu, helpthebear, You Can't Tip a Buick, Snarl Furillo, borges, Potomac Avenue
MeFi comment - An hour ago

If he is so improved now and has seen the error of his ways, he will be a wonderful partner for someone new, someone he has not hurt and worn down. Even if you improve and change, you aren't entitled to start anew with people you hurt.... [more]
favorited 17 times, recently by sevenofspades, Selena777, redfoxtail, guster4lovers, mon-ma-tron, dialetheia, oceanjesse, emd3737, emilynoa, Beti, dacoit, angrycat, Sheydem-tants, magdalemon, Yesterday's camel, ldthomps, Martha My Dear Prudence
Ask MeFi comment - An hour ago

It's funny - everyone is always like "those idiots set fire to a puppet, I'm done*!" and very seldom like "those amazing people organized this terrific bookfair and donated all the proceeds to the Trans Youth Support Network,... [more]
favorited 18 times, recently by Proofs and Refutations, knapah, ActionPopulated, aryma, beefetish, supercrayon, hap_hazard, Kattullus, one more robot, flex, St. Sorryass, ChuraChura, Potomac Avenue, dialetheia, superfluousm, RogerB, showbiz_liz, tonycpsu
MetaTalk comment - 2 ¾ hours ago

It seems to me as if what autistic people and advocates for autism are worried about in these conversations might have to do with the pre-existing lack of "normalizing"/positive/complex portrayals of autistic people in our culture, so that... [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by jaguar, virago, magstheaxe, Narrative Priorities, Rosie M. Banks, hollygoheavy
MeFi comment - Almost 3 hours ago

I have an autistic, sometimes abusive child. He's 12, and the mind-breaking stress doesn't really let up. He's almost as tall as I am and strong enough to hurt me if he wants. If I felt that I were at a breaking point where it was starting to seem... [more]
favorited 37 times, recently by jaguar, heisenberg, EXISTENZ IS PAUSED, a fiendish thingy, skybluepink, salvia, foodmapper, corey flood, two or three cars parked under the stars, bq, The corpse in the library, feste, roomthreeseventeen, sparklemotion, revi, andraste, insoluble uncertainty, magstheaxe, BlueHorse, evidenceofabsence, haltingproblemsolved, teleri025, bakerina, tel3path, josher71, oinopaponton, Melismata, Rosie M. Banks, Cash4Lead, Lesser Shrew, Hypatia, blucevalo, Blue Jello Elf, Elementary Penguin, xarnop, emjaybee, showbiz_liz
MeFi comment - 3 ¼ hours ago


Oh God. And the speed with which this is happening is amazing. I am so sick of hearing soccer moms and Dockers-wearing dads say "that's how I roll." Jesus Christ, would those people fuck off. The thing is, I think that kind... [more]
favorited 11 times, recently by argonauta, tyrantkitty, St. Sorryass, Corinth, cadge, Uther Bentrazor
MeFi comment - 7 hours ago

I just now happened across this little review of some Bread and Puppet pamphlets, which I'll quote since it's short and I can't link to the individual bit on nplusone: In 1963, Peter Schumann founded an experimental activist puppet theater called... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 8 hours ago

That's what confused me (cis male, so in many ways doesn't matter what I think) about this. If it's a safe space for women, it's a safe space for women. If you're a trans man, you're not a woman, isn't that sort of the whole point of how everyone... [more]
favorited 23 times, recently by cybercoitus interruptus
MeFi comment - 10 hours ago

(I actually have my own amusing tangent on that flaming-puppet thing - I was there with a friend, and at first the whole crowd was just standing there in shock looking at these two-story-tall flames leaping up out of the crowd. We were both... [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by Kattullus, poffin boffin, ldthomps, ThatFuzzyBastard
MetaTalk comment - 10 hours ago

If I am spending £200-300 on a pair of shoes I expect them to be made to measure. Is that a reasonable expectation, or would I have to pay more for that? That's not quite possible how you mean it. Truly made-to-measure shoes require the... [more]
favorited 7 times, recently by lalochezia, Monochrome, bpt
MeFi comment - 13 hours ago

IMO, it's difficult to compare US-made shoes like Aldens and AE and Walkover and Rancourt to English-made shoes. English lasts and sizing are different, for one thing - you can take a brogue boot from Alden and it will be...um...blobbier and... [more]
favorited 13 times, recently by fermion, bpt, djeo, Uniformitarianism Now!
MeFi comment - 13 hours ago

Actually, I think I feel good about being "afraid" to say things here...that is, I think I've learned to think more strategically about conversations and since I'm naturally pretty heedless and impetuous and "but surely you want... [more]
favorited 12 times, recently by Mister Moofoo
MetaTalk comment - Yesterday

So... say I'm in London for another week and I wear a US women's size 7.5 and love queer/gentlemanly shoes in my size that hold up forever. Do these brands make stuff that small? The folks selling Aldens laughed at me when I asked in Michigan,... [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by deludingmyself
MeFi comment - Yesterday

Maybe the heterosexual dynamics are different. But in my experience with men, it's more than possible to stare at one's partner and be blown away by how beautiful they are without said action being dehumanizing or leading to sexual coercion. I... [more]
favorited 13 times, recently by involution
MeFi comment - Yesterday

If you haven’t heard them, statistics suggest that you will enjoy their cover of “I Heard It Through the Grapevine” and nothing else. Indeed. (I mean, I like "Shoplifting" and "New Town" a lot.) I have lost my... [more]
favorited 26 times, recently by Mrs. Rattery
MeFi comment - Yesterday


Everyone is just astounded when they and their friends get old. For me it was that my parents had this whole narrative of "Frowner you are so old, you are Too Old for [trick-or-treating at 12; going back to school at 24; behavior that... [more]
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MeFi comment - Yesterday

I wonder if in bigger cities people could do a furniture co-op of some kind and buy from the manufacturers and sell at cost-plus-renting-a-distribution-space. As far as this ""$1500 sofa" business goes - part of what frosts me... [more]
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MeFi comment - Yesterday

Part of the grim surprise is the way that the age of your music collection creeps up on you. No, the trick is to have been collecting old music from the very beginning. Then your music collection has always been old. Although... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 days ago

I kind of think this is how people who were 40 in 1996 felt about 25-year-old me's love of Belle and Sebastian; like "you LIKE this? This stuff with strings tenderness that sounds like the worst of the 70s easy-listening music we developed... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 days ago

Actually, there is this shock that I can't get over - that people who are not otherwise intellectually serious or left-wing have good taste in music. That really was not true in my social circles when I was growing up. I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 days ago

I always assume that I am being unconsciously influenced by the ads that I see, or that I am simply picking up brand names - so that when I go to the store, even if I don't know anything about the different brands of crackers or whatever, at... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago

I'm not sure if you mean "cool new music" as in "just released" or as in "new to you" here but the most fun I have in record stores these days is hunting through old stuff I've never heard of before. In this... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 days ago

I never approve of anything and am always ready to find the reason why something you like is politically unsuitable. [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 days ago

I imagine that if your basic financial life trajectory is "broke and working a shitty, precarious job", then adding a couple of kids and just getting broker and more precarious doesn't seem that bad on the face of it, plus then [assuming... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 days ago

(I mean, I just can't hear new music the way people who are tuned in hear it - there's obviously a lot of there there, but I can't access it.)... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 days ago

I think most people have the entirely correct understanding that they're too boring and unimportant for anyone at Whisper itself to try and blackmail, and that the people they know in real life who might be enticed to do so are far too... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 days ago

Does your boyfriend struggle with anxiety, especially about being very precise with language? Is he reluctant to promise about other things, or to say things like "we will definitely go to Maine next June"? I could see a certain type of... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

We had one year where we had about a million boxelder bugs and they got in the house - for some reason they really liked the back steps that year. After that, I've only seen them occasionally. Check and see if there's a particular window or other... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

The worst real-life example of this I've ever seen ....was a production of Moliere for high school students with rap interludes. This was in the early nineties, a production by a (completely white and very obviously not part of any... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 days ago

You know what I think? I think you should wait a little longer, until you get the job situation sorted out and until you see if this headshot business pans out. You're under a huge amount of stress because you've just graduated and are unemployed -... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 days ago

(That's why Frowner emphasized "legal immigrants I emphasized legal immigrants mostly because I wanted to highlight that the attitude toward immigration needs to change - there will be undocumented people here (so I really should have... [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 days ago

And then I started wondering - exactly what is this downswing in the birthrate going to do to Social Security 20-something years from now when I retire? Of course, one could just allow in a bunch more legal immigrants, who are very... [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 days ago

How does anyone delude themselves into thinking that any company anywhere has their best interests at heart? This isn't exactly the question that I have, because since so many people do it, it's obviously not just "lol... [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 days ago

I think that a lot of critique of sex work hinges on a belief in a stereotypical and unlikely kind of "romance". No one would be saying that this girl is damaged or too transactional or whatever if she'd let some clown persuade her into... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

I don't know - as a masculine-of-center person who does not identify as a woman, I am really uneasy when trans men and other trans masculine people not only assert our right to be in women's spaces but consciously or unconsciously take advantage of... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

That can be really tough, especially if you ancestry is spread across many countries. I have Irish, British and Bavarian ancestry, and though I do look shockingly similar to Ludwig II I feel no real connection to any of those countries. My roots... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Well, in the past couple of years I've gone from dressing in a really sort of hopelessly depressing baggy shirts and uninteresting pants way wherein I felt (I now realize) bad and hopeless and sexually unappealing to dressing in a sort of... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

As someone who is usually (incorrectly) read as a butch lesbian (and thus gets a lot of the same treatment that butch lesbians get), I find the hostility to this essay shown here suuuuuupppper interesting. One thing I've noticed -... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

I mean, I have in many respects gotten used to occupying the social position of "woman". I see the flyers for the cis and trans women's bike repair nights, for instance, and it takes me a minute to remember that I can't go -... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

This is just based on a cursory google, but it looks like there's one place in the LA area (at least) that will do the "put your stuff in a moving truck, we fill the moving truck with Vikane and kill the bedbugs" thing - here is the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

I think college is a little different both because it's all-encompassing and four years long (so you could easily start college thinking, as lots of the guys in the article did, that you weren't sure if you wanted to transition, weren't ready... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

The woman with the tattoos ... I just don't know. To act like your conscious decisions to modify your appearance are comparable to being non-white is bizarre. Yes, you "like to" change your appearance that way, but you did have a... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Furthermore, I know the intended vaccination coverage has changed. For most of my life, vaccination against influenza was only strongly recommended for at-risk groups (Elderly, otherwise ill, health care workers, etc. ) It's only recently that... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

I saw the early nineties Koons exhibit with the photos of him having sex. (And I saw it with my parents, for which we all should have received a medal.) It was way too much Koons at one time. I also saw the Fluxus exhibit around the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Everyone is always from Glasgow - Alisdair Gray, Orange Juice, Charles Rennie Mackintosh, everyone. It's awful. Some time in the next two years I plan to visit Scotland so that I can see for myself whether, like, Edinburgh and so on even... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

I am a butch/genderqueerish woman. If I could afford an alternative I would not wear combat boots to an interview, but ...the interview behavior is probably more the issue than the shoes; she may not have had better shoes and figured... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

The one time I definitely had a bad flu, I was in Shanghai and I was so sick. I picked it up on the train coming back from Beijing at New Year's and I was all alone in the teacher housing. I was in my early twenties and probably healthier... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

You know what? I've seen some penises in my time and they did not blind me. I am alternately bemused and disturbed by this whole "there is a penis in the locker room! Whatever shall we do?" line. If there's someone staring at you... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

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