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In a couple of years, you can either look back and say "oh jeez, why did I open that can of worms? I realize now that I was making it all about me and my feelings" or you can say "wow, I was so mature and exercised such... [more]
favorited 21 times, recently by stellathon, Jacqueline, bakerina, hush, lollymccatburglar, jokeefe, chicainthecity, Feisty, stevedawg, rainydayfilms, RogueTech, permiechickie, DingoMutt, everydayanewday, guybrush_threepwood, fozzie_bear, Lycaon_pictus, tchemgrrl, Yesterday's camel, The Master and Margarita Mix, Ruthless Bunny
Ask MeFi comment - 5 ½ hours ago

I actually had a couple of fights with a friend over stuff like this - my friend shared with me that Alison Bechtel's graphic novel Fun Home was hollow, devoid of feeling, pretentious and so awful that it made my friend want to punch Alison... [more]
favorited 30 times, recently by stoneandstar
Ask MeFi comment - 7 hours ago

(The idea that you have to make teenaged girls jump, shriek, and then giggle every 180 seconds I really, really wish we were not socialized to imagine the "bad consumer" as a teenage girl all the time. Who is responsible for... [more]
favorited 60 times, recently by stillnocturnal
MeFi comment - 7 hours ago

I wonder what this writer would think of a book with an even more complicated and longer-ago setting and which follows even more distant literary conventions - maybe Moby Dick or Great Expectations or something. Gutting the floating... [more]
favorited 17 times, recently by oh hey, mythical anthropomorphic amphibian, Windopaene, markr, gentian, oneirodynia, Timmoy Daen, morganw, thegreatfleecircus, JoeXIII007, sarahw, Melismata, oceanjesse, kiltedtaco, stowaway, thelonius, Potomac Avenue
MeFi comment - 10 hours ago

Getting serious about what you already like helps too. When I was in my twenties, I had all these ideas about how to be a real intellectual - I needed to read Lacan and Derrida, for instance, even though I was not especially interested in them. So... [more]
favorited 14 times, recently by thegreatfleecircus, lunastellasol, en forme de poire, RogueTech, Itaxpica, chowflap, studioaudience, holborne, feral_goldfish, mister_kaupungister, BreannaBear, hush, Wolfster, showbiz_liz
Ask MeFi comment - 12 hours ago

Honestly, I would like it if I never had to hear bullshit "that body is so gross" stuff ever again. I would love it in particular, in fact, if I didn't have to hear it about old people, the disabled, and significantly fat people,... [more]
favorited 9 times, recently by MattWPBS, ominous_paws, Sys Rq, dialetheia, dis_integration, culfinglin, Rustic Etruscan, zutalors!, en forme de poire
MeFi comment - 15 hours ago

There really isn't enough in this question to say anything for sure, and thus I'd recommend therapy - I'm not sure whether high-class talk therapy would be best since it might help you dig stuff out or whether it would just reassure you of your... [more]
favorited 14 times, recently by en forme de poire
Ask MeFi comment - 18 hours ago

"I'd like a quarter-scale rhinoceros in dark brown leather, thank you" Oh my god, I would like a quarter-scale rhinoceros in dark brown leather. Especially if it had cute little button eyes. It's a good thing I wasn't... [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by bendy, nonasuch, sukeban, zinful
MeFi comment - Yesterday

On the one hand, I really support body modifications - I think there's something interesting, perverse, powerful, radical when people decide that they're going to transform themselves in new ways. So part of me looks at these bodies - which... [more]
favorited 17 times, recently by mothershock, lollymccatburglar, Uniformitarianism Now!, you could feel the sky, ead, fook, en forme de poire, Monochrome, Rustic Etruscan, telophase, kanewai, Lexica, Greg Nog, beefetish, metaman livingblog, Stacey, limeonaire
MeFi comment - Yesterday

“Every single aspect that you can imagine that affected the airplane or our behavior in it was controlled by Abercrombie & Fitch, specifically, Michael Jeffries and Matthew Smith.” The four male crew members (models provided to Abercrombie)... [more]
favorited 9 times, recently by Gin and Broadband, litleozy, bubukaba, eeriegongs, Punctual, haltingproblemsolved, clawsoon, Ideal Impulse, DoctorFedora
MeFi comment - Yesterday

while in another context the criticism of CH would elict howls of 'stop the victim blaming' At the same time, in other contexts, saying "you just don't understand their culture, this thing which looks racist or homophobic or misogynist... [more]
favorited 25 times, recently by Neely O'Hara
MeFi comment - Yesterday

I have my reservations about children acting out parental political causes whether it is "radical brownies", "antiabortion picketers", "children's crusade for christ or ....(you name it)", manning picket... [more]
favorited 14 times, recently by daq, spinifex23, skoosh, St. Sorryass, Sheydem-tants, freecellwizard, xarnop, Freyja, standardasparagus, You Can't Tip a Buick, kelborel, stoneandstar, tapir-whorf, Jacqueline
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

How are you in your personal life? It's the rare person who is a pushy loud-mouth only at work. Or even a chatterbox only at work. Ask a trusted friend if you're not sure. How is the criticism delivered and what is being asked of you?... [more]
favorited 5 times, recently by Jesse the K, rpfields, stoneandstar, wwax, St. Peepsburg
Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago

Um, how is religion being mocked, or a target in any way in that (shitty) cartoon? My point was that I think that if we examine what folks are defending as "it's okay to mock Islam", it's very often stuff like this, that is racist... [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by Neely O'Hara
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

Frowner...but they are also very familiar figures to me, some of them in the personal sense as friends of friends, but also as people I've read and enjoyed for many years. I feel devastated - both on a personal/emotional level, but also because I... [more]
favorited 15 times, recently by Neely O'Hara
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

Not that I want to get in the way of a high-end Arthur Conan Doyle porno or anything, but you don't need to use a quarter scale leather-covered rhinocerous with cute little button eyes for anything; you just put it in the corner of the... [more]
favorited 1 time, recently by Potomac Avenue
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

Did I really just read an entire article about the creation of Oregon as a whites-only territory that did not mention the indigenous people who were already living there? It did mention violence against native people in passing, but yeah.... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by Jesse the K, Gnatcho
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

Frowner, let's be less vague in talking about the history of the French left. What party was resolutely, presciently, against holding onto the colonies, and defied racism before it was fashionable to do so? The communists. Which party is least... [more]
favorited 24 times, recently by Neely O'Hara
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

I love rigorous discourse about things that matter. I could do without the smattering of shame that often comes bundled with it as a rhetorical device. But this has a tremendous amount to do with knowing your audience, and knowing... [more]
favorited 127 times, recently by i feel possessed, Uniformitarianism Now!, Mooski, you must supply a verb, scrump, naoko, LucretiusJones, enkiwa
MetaTalk comment - 2 days ago

Is Charlie Hebdo actually left-wing? The sense I've always had is that there are elements of "left" in it and it's put together by people who were of the sixties/seventies left. But the left in France groups together a different... [more]
favorited 160 times, recently by Neely O'Hara, salix
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

This makes me wonder if "working class" is defined differently in the UK. I'm assuming a council estate is similar to a housing project, and the "working class" people I know are very proud to NOT live in housing projects. Like,... [more]
favorited 29 times, recently by Phire, glasseyes, saulgoodman, padraigin, joseph conrad is fully awesome, RakDaddy, carping demon, EXISTENZ IS PAUSED, Martha My Dear Prudence, transitional procedures, avocet, Narrative Priorities, communicator, oceanjesse, ursus_comiter, Sangermaine, xarnop, daq, skybluepink, thegreatfleecircus, thsmchnekllsfascists, fearfulsymmetry, tel3path, LucretiusJones, Faint of Butt, arrjay, lalochezia, _paegan_, Kitteh
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

This was a very specifically political set of killings - Charlie Hebdo ran a long series of cariacatures of Mohammed, produced an issue supposedly edited by Mohammed, reprinted some of the Danish cartoons that caused so much controversy, etc.... [more]
favorited 112 times, recently by salix
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

"Your body is not appealing to me" is not the same as "your body is disgusting [as a body]". Admittedly, "shaming" people for having a highly socially-desirable body type isn't quite the same thing as shaming... [more]
favorited 6 times, recently by Sys Rq, jpolorolu, en forme de poire, psoas, culfinglin, LindsayIrene
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

This reminds me of a Pat Barker novel, The Century's Daughter (also published as Liza's England. (Pat Barker wrote the Regeneration trilogy about WH Rivers, Siegfried Sasson, Wilfred Owen, anti-war Britons, shell shock, WWI and stuff.) It... [more]
favorited 10 times, recently by forgetful snow, joseph conrad is fully awesome, virago, dhartung, enn, nangar, oceanjesse, Sangermaine, wenestvedt, holgate
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I think comparing Israel to Nazi germany, while tasteless and insensitive, is not necessarily anti-semitic, depending on whether the behavior your talking about is actually comparable to something that happened in Nazi germany. What I... [more]
favorited 20 times, recently by Proofs and Refutations, vasi
MetaTalk comment - 3 days ago

O hey, I hear you! I am not in IT, but I share a lot of your stresses. I hope you are actively working on getting a therapist. I mean, when I decided to find a therapist, it took perhaps three weeks from getting recommendations to sitting on... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by en forme de poire
Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I'll also just go ahead and throw it out there that literally nobody in my life has ever said "you looked better before you started working out!" to me. Before, people mostly told me they were "concerned" about my body or... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by zutalors!, en forme de poire
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

On the other hand, have you ever thought about what it would feel like to be hugged by Chris Evans? Because I have. A lot. Long ago I dated a guy who was really built - he lifted heavy objects for a living, had played sports in... [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by skoosh, Uniformitarianism Now!, virago, en forme de poire
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Also, if you want to read a really interesting book about the UK in the seventies, which was when the groundwork was laid for Thatcher and her horrible ilk, you could do worse than When The Lights Went Out: What really happened in Britain in the... [more]
favorited 12 times, recently by joseph conrad is fully awesome, virago, tychotesla, Sangermaine, daq, bakerina, thsmchnekllsfascists, nikitabot, ocherdraco, beefetish, tel3path, biffa
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Karl Lagerfeld has a sad life, I always think. He's so brilliant and talented - and he really is, I have never really liked contemporary Chanel, but he is awfully, awfully good and zeitgeisty - and all this skill and brilliance and being-widely-read... [more]
favorited 16 times, recently by cosmic owl
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

I'm not entirely happy with saying that because Aaronson is uncomfortable with certain aspects of masculinity he has a lot in common with trans people. He seems uncomfortable with masculinity because he can't succeed at it - he's denied what he sees... [more]
favorited 61 times, recently by Salamandrous
MeFi comment - 4 days ago


“I do believe that if we have information about your emotional experiences we can help you be in a more positive mood and influence your wellness,” she said. She had been reading about how to deal with difficult experiences. “The consistent... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Karl Lagerfeld actually did a lot of very interesting fashion-y stuff - if you want a trashy yet very informative book that's equal parts Karl Lagerfeld bio, Yves Saint Laurent bio and general popular culture in late sixties through... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

When I see a movie about an actual person or event where a queer life situation has been changed to make it more comprehensible/relatable for a straight audience, I feel really upset. It's as though the actual events of queer lives are not... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Isn't this really basically a bad singularity? Where we all teach ourselves to comply with feelings that machines want us to have? I mean, if we're all having appropriate feelings in sync with what the Google-NSA-Facebook-industrial-complex... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Oh hey late-twenties Frowner! I tell you what, this time don't have a breakdown at 29, lose a year to depression and then have a slow, miserable climb back to functionality! No, seriously: 1. If you are having truly intrusive and painful... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Frowner brings up several other matters in comments -- how Marxism and other ideologies fare with respect to the ties between real movements and intellectuals; why certain ideologies appeal to certain demographics; how sucessful various historical... [more]
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MeFi comment - 8 days ago

"how do you know it wasn't police PRETENDING to be black bloc guys?" My answer would be that anyone who knows anything about how undercovers operate would know that this is not how the cops would do it - if cops were... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

The thing is, yes, activism can get pretty depressing, and it's certainly important to be able to look at stuff and say "this situation is toxic" or "this group work is not something I can healthily do right now". And this... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Template: I have [radical credentials that make me authentically oppressed; avoid mentioning advantages]. Sad anecdote. In the past I was so radical! I used to do [medium-difficulty things that will seem extreme to a non-activist audience].... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

I personally would not rush ahead to do something very fancy and special that a friend wanted to do but was too broke to do and that had never occurred to me until my friend talked about it. That's bound to provoke hyper awareness of... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 10 days ago

Especially a extremely intelligent guy like the one in this example, is born to be very attractive to women. So the lesser gifted men have no choice but break him emotionally. I do not normally lol, but I lol'd. Yes indeed, this lines up... [more]
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MeFi comment - 10 days ago

We do a real disservice to kids with this attitude. I wish social skills were taught in an organized fashion just as we teach other skills, instead of leaving it up to families and peers. Be careful what you wish for - you just might get it.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 10 days ago

I've gotten emails/memos like this my entire working life. whats the story here? My immediate assumption was a story of "wow, creative class people working at fancy places with expensive chairs are supposed to be catered to... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

Well they certainly are shooting themselves in the foot if they decide to cut SSI disability. There are millions of people who could not find employment during the recent economic shitfest and decided to get on disability. Cut them out and you... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

I really appreciate the comments about the pervasiveness of anti-Semitism and the comments from Jewish mefites in this thread. I feel like recently in my non-internet life, I've heard non-Jewish people say some really weird things about... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 11 days ago

I imagine that if your basic financial life trajectory is "broke and working a shitty, precarious job", then adding a couple of kids and just getting broker and more precarious doesn't seem that bad on the face of it, plus then [assuming... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

I think it's worth noting that at least IMO, having talked to a lot of these kinds of guys over the years(and been friends with, or lived with them) that i think this guy is sort of the magneto to the young xmen of terrible nerdy dudes.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

Oh, hey, I just thought of something about Aaronson's apparent inability to move past his "but I have really, really suffered" thing even when plenty of people have written to say that they recognize that he has suffered. And of course,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

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