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(My ambition is to write a fantasy novel about an accountant, and accounting. I actually have a vague, nebulous plot idea around which to organize this, having to do with the folk tale about the sorcerer whose heart is inside a casket inside a duck... [more]
favorited 23 times, recently by subversiveasset, sauril, The Outsider, bettafish, webmutant, Chipmazing, viggorlijah, books for weapons, RakDaddy, Kattullus, misfish, oh hey, daq, Carillon, Lemmy Caution, Lexica, Gilgongo, Pirate-Bartender-Zombie-Monkey, leotrotsky, Malla, moonmilk, suelac, beefetish
MeFi comment - 38 minutes ago

But that's not confined to women is it? Picture a man in a stained t-shirt with a beer gut, BO and food between his teeth. Now picture him toned and in a nice outfit and smelling of aftershave. I find it really hilarious (or actually,... [more]
favorited 13 times, recently by Uniformitarianism Now!
MeFi comment - 51 minutes ago

And at this point in my life, I have driven myself to a state where I won't read anything unless it's by Terry Pratchett, Daniel Pinkwater, or J. R. R. Tolkien, or Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency; I won't watch anything besides My Little... [more]
favorited 40 times, recently by CyborgHag
Ask MeFi comment - 53 minutes ago

There's a sense that blacks are violently unpredictable, that's what TV told me, anyway. You know that white kid in the Louie clip isn't going to murder you with the same certainty that you know this black kid might murder you. My problem... [more]
favorited 25 times, recently by milk white peacock, waxbanks, an animate objects, Lexica, EXISTENZ IS PAUSED, Uniformitarianism Now!, edheil, Neely O'Hara, almodis, zutalors!, MartinWisse, daq, tyllwin, litera scripta manet, yaymukund, internet fraud detective squad, station number 9, bakerina, en forme de poire, beefetish, Greg Nog, Phire, lord_wolf, obliterati, Acheman, Divest_Abstraction
MeFi comment - 2 ¼ hours ago

Okay, I know this is the metafilter question par excellence, but are you in therapy? Because unless you are really deep-down okay with this pattern for the rest of your life, ie you would really, truly prefer to be basically single but with... [more]
favorited 7 times, recently by blackzinfandel, hush, obliterati, Sa Dec, virago, box, Wolfster
Ask MeFi comment - 2 ½ hours ago

I mean I know you can't say "Hey the women dress like ladies here" but you might want to think about what the existing culture is and how much being outside of it is likely to be a problem in whatever position you're interviewing her for.... [more]
favorited 18 times, recently by yueliang
Ask MeFi comment - 8 hours ago

And now we (some of the collective 'we' anyway) are becoming able to pay with our phones at the store, and get discounts on things that non-smartphone owners can't get. With health apps we'll be able to optimize our activities. We'll increasingly... [more]
favorited 9 times, recently by ikahime, armoir from antproof case, kandinski, sylvanshine, headnsouth, bird internet, ryanshepard, Sangermaine, lakersfan1222
MeFi comment - 11 hours ago

It's not harmful to state what POC already know unless they've never heard it put straightforwardly or wanted to pretend these prejudices don't exist. See, this isn't what I've heard from friends of color, which is what's shaped my... [more]
favorited 7 times, recently by Lexica, Space Coyote, beefetish, daq, Phire, kewb, obliterati
MeFi comment - 11 hours ago

This is a very good point and actually why the US does not have diplomatic relations with Canada -- if we were to do so, Canada would be crushed under the ideological might of our ramshackle health insurance system and in two years they would have... [more]
favorited 13 times, recently by Lexica, threeants, daq, squinty, twist my arm, Chutzler, Kitteh, Aya Hirano on the Astral Plane, dis_integration, freecellwizard, symbioid, tonycpsu, the dief
MeFi comment - 12 hours ago

In an unfreezing of relations between the US and Cuba, you distrust the US? Funny. Why yes, out of two dubious states, I do distrust the greater power more, funnily enough, particularly in the wake of NAFTA. If Obama is doing this because... [more]
favorited 18 times, recently by Lexica, Camofrog, daq, fredludd, qxntpqbbbqxl, AElfwine Evenstar, Chutzler, Kitteh, Aya Hirano on the Astral Plane, ursus_comiter, standardasparagus, librarina, George_Spiggott, symbioid, mrjohnmuller, allthinky, clockzero, blucevalo
MeFi comment - 12 hours ago

I will be interested to see whether "anti-Euro opposition leader" Alexis Tsipras, who seems to be a perfectly decent moderate Greek leftist with a pretty solid political background can...dun dun dun....bring down the eurozone. He would be... [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by threeants, brokkr, You Can't Tip a Buick, clockzero
MeFi comment - 12 hours ago

I lived in Beijing in 2001 - 2002 and the air quality was...well, I'm sure it wasn't great, but honestly, it beat the hell out of Shanghai in 1996 -97, and the winter winds absolutely scoured the skies. My dominant impression of Beijing in the late... [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by aryma, joseph conrad is fully awesome, Michele in California
MeFi comment - 14 hours ago

And Beijing was such a beautiful city in so many of its aspects, too, well located and well laid out on the points of the compass, easy to navigate, temples and ancient stuff that survived the Cultural Revolution (unlike in Shanghai, where there's... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by joseph conrad is fully awesome, Michele in California
MeFi comment - 17 hours ago

Is it *really* the right thing? I suppose it's the "right thing" to some degree, but I worry about the implications for Cubans being subject to US Imperial interests now. That said I do think it's the right move, I guess I just distrust... [more]
favorited 7 times, recently by daq, qxntpqbbbqxl, Chutzler, ...possums, symbioid, allthinky, General Tonic
MeFi comment - 18 hours ago

What a strange framing, as though they are mutually exclusive. Of course they're not necessarily mutually exclusive, but historically, when the US has made "morality-based" interventions in small-state situations, it's... [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by you must supply a verb, AElfwine Evenstar, lalochezia, allthinky
MeFi comment - More than 18 hours ago

Isn't this just a version of Freud's repression hypothesis? Yes, it is - but TLP is a Freudian, as far as I can tell. Who reads Freud now, though? (I mean, I have, up to a point. At least TLP isn't asserting that women invented weaving... [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by edbles, daq, obliterati
MeFi comment - More than 18 hours ago

"Small people, big world"? You want Melissa Scott's Point of Hopes and its sequels....The queen is very old and must name her heir before the stars change and cast the kingdom into upheaval. The children of Astreint are vanishing... [more]
favorited 2 times, recently by beefetish, honestcoyote
MeFi comment - More than 18 hours ago

As to this epic business - Tolkien wasn't writing an epic the way the-people-who-were-Homer were, or the Beowulf poet was. He wasn't "documenting" a bunch of legends and quasi history from his own time, with the assumption that the world... [more]
favorited 10 times, recently by cosmic owl, emjaybee, gentian, glasseyes, happyroach, zinful, heatvision, harriet vane
MeFi comment - Yesterday

"Who does the dishes in Minas Tirith" is important (and if the Orcs are eating dinner in Minas Tirith something has gone either very wrong or very right, depending on your ideas about Orcs....perhaps you're thinking of Minas Morgul?... [more]
favorited 28 times, recently by cosmic owl, Chipmazing, kaiseki, vickyverky, naoko, C. K. Dexter Haven, gentian, Pink Frost, happyroach, nebulawindphone, mordax, bq, zinful, Uniformitarianism Now!, ocherdraco, heatvision, litleozy, transitional procedures
MeFi comment - Yesterday

When you divorce - and I bet you'll divorce - remember that you owe your wife financially, big time. You're acting out a cliche - dude gets married, wife goes through the hard times while he makes a success, there's finally some money and he's out... [more]
favorited 142 times, recently by Chipmazing
Ask MeFi comment - Yesterday

(As far as the "what is science fiction" question: That's one of my favorite questions! And it's not as simple to resolve as you think. I'd argue that many people have an unconsidered definition of science fiction as "set in the... [more]
favorited 33 times, recently by Chipmazing
MeFi comment - Yesterday

I think "Fred" isn't the question here. Can you take things slow with Fred? How do you know him? If you really like him - well enough that you'd date him even absent James - could you see him casually for a while? The issue is that... [more]
favorited 11 times, recently by hush
Ask MeFi comment - 2 days ago

The goat makes me sad. However, I have decided to believe that all Swedish straw goats compose a hive being or collective entity, so that when one goat is torched, overall goat consciousness continues unabated.... [more]
favorited 7 times, recently by sister nunchaku of love and mercy
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

This really is not just lack of care or accountability; it's not just that black lives are held "not to matter" by the state. If it were any other society at any other point in history - apartheid South Africa, Weimar Germany,... [more]
favorited 48 times, recently by feral_goldfish
MeFi comment - 2 days ago

A lot of people seem to consider food poisoning to mean anything more serious than mild indigestion. Like, if your food poisoning lasted three hours and then you made a complete recovery, it probably wasn't. I had food poisoning that... [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by awesomelyglorious, mumimor, en forme de poire
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

Here is something I was told but have no proof of: that after the 1968 democratic convention protests, a guy never came back. The person who told this to me believes that he was killed, accidentally or on purpose, by the police and... [more]
favorited 3 times, recently by busted_crayons
Ask MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I think it's interesting to hear so many people refer to this as a "living/fair wage", but when you actually read the nitty-gritty, what are they talking about? "Private school", "a 2, 3 bedroom apartment in a good... [more]
favorited 33 times, recently by RobotLunch
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

On another note - a restaurant can raise its prices, right? It's not like they're going to say "oh, well, we put this menu up in 2011 [or whenever] so I guess we'll just charge 2011 prices unto the end of time". No one is going to... [more]
favorited 16 times, recently by RobotLunch, Snarl Furillo, junques
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I hope he's getting lots of shame. And I have to wonder whether he would have pulled this with a restaurant run by white people. This is, no lie, my year of realizing that Americans are disgusting, immoral people, especially the white... [more]
favorited 28 times, recently by RobotLunch, guybrush_threepwood
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I am also intrigued that you call out pointy fingernails and sea witch as alluring. I think there's a strong tradition of the alluring "grotesque" - it's the allure of the grotesque that gives it power and also makes it hated,... [more]
favorited 18 times, recently by ThatCanadianGirl, KathrynT, daisyk
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

Okay, I call contradiction on all this: first, because in the Lord of the Rings, there is no fucking viable economy, there's no mechanism that explains how things get made or distributed (except, partly, in the Shire). What's both irritating and... [more]
favorited 16 times, recently by vickyverky, naoko, nangar, gentian, Pink Frost, glasseyes, happyroach, bq, zinful, Uniformitarianism Now!, heatvision, We had a deal, Kyle
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

Because I can hear the knees jerking: Frowner avoided saying that you should not critique feminists who are wrong. They said you should not make the critique about them--neither your own, new critique, nor the body of critique that the discussion... [more]
favorited 41 times, recently by Mila
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

it also came from a long history of feminist discourses which basically said that every expression of male heterosexual desire is directly complicit in some form of sexual violence against women. And thinking that through carefully is your... [more]
favorited 128 times, recently by Mila
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I think one lurking issue too is that a lot of folks including me have rather undertheorized understanding of "femme". And I think femme-ness is a difficult concept, and there's a whole bunch of stuff entwined with it that's about... [more]
favorited 12 times, recently by glass origami robot
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I think what I take away from the linked piece is that it is totally unconscious on the part of the guy. He's not cynical. He really, sincerely believes that he believes his beliefs. And I surmise that among the men who are [sort of] like... [more]
favorited 65 times, recently by naoko
MeFi comment - 3 days ago

I just find it hilarious that everyone goes on about Tolkien's "worldbuilding" - and I mean, I love the Lord of the Rings - when it's one of the most loosely-built fantasy worlds I can think of. This is a strength, of course - you could... [more]
favorited 11 times, recently by glasseyes, bq, Pope Guilty, Uniformitarianism Now!, adrianhon, h00py
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Yep, we are! As long as I don't try to have kids, get married, or buy a house, I can kind of just go along my merry way. Since I don't need to stockpile hundreds of thousands of dollars in order to do all of these things, I am free to work a job... [more]
favorited 42 times, recently by Lexica
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

These days middle class liberals seems far more concerned with equity than equality; with ending discrimination on the basis of irrelevant characteristics like gender and sexuality rather than ending poverty. It's certainly worth reading... [more]
favorited 4 times, recently by justsomebodythatyouusedtoknow
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

What kills me is that all this stuff about the US training torturers and supporting torture regimes was well known in this country in the eighties and nineties. People protested it, people went to jail, the FBI investigated and harassed the... [more]
favorited 11 times, recently by Anhedonic Donkey
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

I always figure that a lot of people think torture sounds fun - to perpetrate, not to endure. I think a lot of the people who commit torture enjoy it. I think that's why, at root, it's so difficult to stop people - because the kind of moral... [more]
favorited 10 times, recently by Anhedonic Donkey
MeFi comment - 4 days ago

Culture doesn't just arrive from the sky; we're not condemned to "having sex equals letting people be horrible to you if that's their thing". Edison is making the argument that, while various fetishes are okay in various pre-specified and... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Are words and phrases like "nuts," "insane," "bonkers," and "off their rocker" considered equally borderline offensive? Yes, yes they are. Because they are all different ways of saying... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 5 days ago

I had wondered if there weren't undercovers involved out there. I felt like there wasn't much point arguing about it without any information - and there's always the possibility of anarchists doing fool things, if I may say so as an anarchist - but... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Could you elaborate on this point, Frowner? I'm not sure what you mean. I will try! I hadn't thought this all through quite like that until just now. "White discourse" is a vague term. I think what I'm trying to say is... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Sincere question, not at all intended to distract from the more important questions but since there's a new Garner thread, maybe there's some room in this longboat for it - why don't white people much seem to care about police brutality against... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

"steering them away from prepackaged food and frozen vegetables" Unless someone plans to steer me toward an extra $100 a month, I'm going to keep eating frozen vegetables, thanks.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

When I was little - and I had two working parents, and a stable home where all but one weekly meal was always home-cooked from scratch - salmon was a luxury. (Now I'm vegan-with-lapses, I don't eat salmon.) Salmon was a treat, and we had it... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

It's interesting that we get trapped, over and over again, in this box of regular old neoliberal assumptions - so it's moralizing and recipes on one side, and "but but but" on the other, because making cooking non-horrible for many people... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

Oh, yes, I talked to Literature on the phone the other day and it was indeed very hurt that I had not yet finished either Dhalgren OR In Search of Lost Time, and I haven't even started that copy of Lord of the Rings in French that I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 5 days ago

I began to feel hurt and to have real doubts about whether we were a good match. I said this to him. He then said it was very important to him to have me in his life, I am special, he likes the reflective conversations we have, but I was blowing... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 6 days ago

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