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In what is surely a sea-change in British mores, people in the UK, according to new research, now average 13 hugs per day, which last an average of 9.5 seconds each. Now on a monthly basis, the formerly reserved inhabitants of that scepter'd isle… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

ugh do not hug me, anyone, ever. Just thinking about all this hugging is creeping me out. I suppose that I could accept a hug from a medical professional who I'd never see again, just like when I'm sick I want everyone I know to leave me… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

Is it just that people have a problem with criticism / analysis from the social justice POV full stop, or... what? Genuine question. I just thought they were interesting reads. See, this is why I think tumblr is a bad system rather… [more]
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Okay, from that Slate Star Codex post: Race relations are at historic lows not because white people and black people disagree on very much, but because the media absolutely worked its tuchus off to find the single issue that white people and… [more]
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Isn't this just a version of Freud's repression hypothesis? Yes, it is - but TLP is a Freudian, as far as I can tell. Who reads Freud now, though? (I mean, I have, up to a point. At least TLP isn't asserting that women invented weaving… [more]
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Also, now that I think about it, when I was told what materials we needed for a purchase on an institutional card, I was told "invoice" and "packing slip"...."receipt" is not the language used here. [more]
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I lived in Beijing in 2001 - 2002 and the air quality was...well, I'm sure it wasn't great, but honestly, it beat the hell out of Shanghai in 1996 -97, and the winter winds absolutely scoured the skies. My dominant impression of Beijing in the late… [more]
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I can't be having with this. I suppose in a hundred years we'll have a touching commercial about Auschwitz or the Killing Fields so that we'll buy whatever the ruins of humanity are still buying at that point. The whole thing leans on… [more]
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Here is an account by one of the leaders of the German soldiers' revolt which ended the war and established the Weimar Republic. It's on marxists.org, but I found the introduction to be pretty reliable and the stuff I've read on there generally to… [more]
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I'm already tired of the outrage about outrage. Slate and Scott Alexander have beaten this drum over and over. I mean, I am tired of the whole "oh no the feminists are tearing each other apart!!!" and "when you call… [more]
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"Who does the dishes in Minas Tirith" is important (and if the Orcs are eating dinner in Minas Tirith something has gone either very wrong or very right, depending on your ideas about Orcs....perhaps you're thinking of Minas Morgul?… [more]
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However, I would like to ring in 2015 with some way to feel less outrage. One thing I liked in the Slate piece was the little rage/outrage etymology. I think I'm about outraged out, and I need to find ways to interact with the news and… [more]
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Whites are more confident than ever that their local police treat blacks fairly There is something really, really wrong with white people - the more I think about my own experiences as a white person and the more I feel like I'm able to… [more]
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In an unfreezing of relations between the US and Cuba, you distrust the US? Funny. Why yes, out of two dubious states, I do distrust the greater power more, funnily enough, particularly in the wake of NAFTA. If Obama is doing this because… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

It's not harmful to state what POC already know unless they've never heard it put straightforwardly or wanted to pretend these prejudices don't exist. See, this isn't what I've heard from friends of color, which is what's shaped my… [more]
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But that's not confined to women is it? Picture a man in a stained t-shirt with a beer gut, BO and food between his teeth. Now picture him toned and in a nice outfit and smelling of aftershave. I find it really hilarious (or actually,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

And at this point in my life, I have driven myself to a state where I won't read anything unless it's by Terry Pratchett, Daniel Pinkwater, or J. R. R. Tolkien, or Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency; I won't watch anything besides My Little… [more]
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Okay, I know this is the metafilter question par excellence, but are you in therapy? Because unless you are really deep-down okay with this pattern for the rest of your life, ie you would really, truly prefer to be basically single but with… [more]
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I mean I know you can't say "Hey the women dress like ladies here" but you might want to think about what the existing culture is and how much being outside of it is likely to be a problem in whatever position you're interviewing her for… [more]
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And now we (some of the collective 'we' anyway) are becoming able to pay with our phones at the store, and get discounts on things that non-smartphone owners can't get. With health apps we'll be able to optimize our activities. We'll increasingly… [more]
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This is a very good point and actually why the US does not have diplomatic relations with Canada -- if we were to do so, Canada would be crushed under the ideological might of our ramshackle health insurance system and in two years they would have… [more]
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I will be interested to see whether "anti-Euro opposition leader" Alexis Tsipras, who seems to be a perfectly decent moderate Greek leftist with a pretty solid political background can...dun dun dun....bring down the eurozone. He would be… [more]
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And Beijing was such a beautiful city in so many of its aspects, too, well located and well laid out on the points of the compass, easy to navigate, temples and ancient stuff that survived the Cultural Revolution (unlike in Shanghai, where there's… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

Is it *really* the right thing? I suppose it's the "right thing" to some degree, but I worry about the implications for Cubans being subject to US Imperial interests now. That said I do think it's the right move, I guess I just distrust… [more]
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What a strange framing, as though they are mutually exclusive. Of course they're not necessarily mutually exclusive, but historically, when the US has made "morality-based" interventions in small-state situations, it's… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

"Small people, big world"? You want Melissa Scott's Point of Hopes and its sequels....The queen is very old and must name her heir before the stars change and cast the kingdom into upheaval. The children of Astreint are vanishing… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

As to this epic business - Tolkien wasn't writing an epic the way the-people-who-were-Homer were, or the Beowulf poet was. He wasn't "documenting" a bunch of legends and quasi history from his own time, with the assumption that the world… [more]
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(As far as the "what is science fiction" question: That's one of my favorite questions! And it's not as simple to resolve as you think. I'd argue that many people have an unconsidered definition of science fiction as "set in the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

I think "Fred" isn't the question here. Can you take things slow with Fred? How do you know him? If you really like him - well enough that you'd date him even absent James - could you see him casually for a while? The issue is that… [more]
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The goat makes me sad. However, I have decided to believe that all Swedish straw goats compose a hive being or collective entity, so that when one goat is torched, overall goat consciousness continues unabated. [more]
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A lot of people seem to consider food poisoning to mean anything more serious than mild indigestion. Like, if your food poisoning lasted three hours and then you made a complete recovery, it probably wasn't. I had food poisoning that… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

Here is something I was told but have no proof of: that after the 1968 democratic convention protests, a guy never came back. The person who told this to me believes that he was killed, accidentally or on purpose, by the police and… [more]
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I think it's interesting to hear so many people refer to this as a "living/fair wage", but when you actually read the nitty-gritty, what are they talking about? "Private school", "a 2, 3 bedroom apartment in a good… [more]
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I hope he's getting lots of shame. And I have to wonder whether he would have pulled this with a restaurant run by white people. This is, no lie, my year of realizing that Americans are disgusting, immoral people, especially the white… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

Okay, I call contradiction on all this: first, because in the Lord of the Rings, there is no fucking viable economy, there's no mechanism that explains how things get made or distributed (except, partly, in the Shire). What's both irritating and… [more]
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Because I can hear the knees jerking: Frowner avoided saying that you should not critique feminists who are wrong. They said you should not make the critique about them--neither your own, new critique, nor the body of critique that the discussion… [more]
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it also came from a long history of feminist discourses which basically said that every expression of male heterosexual desire is directly complicit in some form of sexual violence against women. And thinking that through carefully is your… [more]
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I think one lurking issue too is that a lot of folks including me have rather undertheorized understanding of "femme". And I think femme-ness is a difficult concept, and there's a whole bunch of stuff entwined with it that's about… [more]
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I think what I take away from the linked piece is that it is totally unconscious on the part of the guy. He's not cynical. He really, sincerely believes that he believes his beliefs. And I surmise that among the men who are [sort of] like… [more]
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I just find it hilarious that everyone goes on about Tolkien's "worldbuilding" - and I mean, I love the Lord of the Rings - when it's one of the most loosely-built fantasy worlds I can think of. This is a strength, of course - you could… [more]
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These days middle class liberals seems far more concerned with equity than equality; with ending discrimination on the basis of irrelevant characteristics like gender and sexuality rather than ending poverty. It's certainly worth reading… [more]
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What kills me is that all this stuff about the US training torturers and supporting torture regimes was well known in this country in the eighties and nineties. People protested it, people went to jail, the FBI investigated and harassed the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

Are words and phrases like "nuts," "insane," "bonkers," and "off their rocker" considered equally borderline offensive? Yes, yes they are. Because they are all different ways of saying… [more]
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I had wondered if there weren't undercovers involved out there. I felt like there wasn't much point arguing about it without any information - and there's always the possibility of anarchists doing fool things, if I may say so as an anarchist - but… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

Sincere question, not at all intended to distract from the more important questions but since there's a new Garner thread, maybe there's some room in this longboat for it - why don't white people much seem to care about police brutality against… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

"steering them away from prepackaged food and frozen vegetables" Unless someone plans to steer me toward an extra $100 a month, I'm going to keep eating frozen vegetables, thanks. [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 months ago

When I was little - and I had two working parents, and a stable home where all but one weekly meal was always home-cooked from scratch - salmon was a luxury. (Now I'm vegan-with-lapses, I don't eat salmon.) Salmon was a treat, and we had it… [more]
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It's interesting that we get trapped, over and over again, in this box of regular old neoliberal assumptions - so it's moralizing and recipes on one side, and "but but but" on the other, because making cooking non-horrible for many people… [more]
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Oh, yes, I talked to Literature on the phone the other day and it was indeed very hurt that I had not yet finished either Dhalgren OR In Search of Lost Time, and I haven't even started that copy of Lord of the Rings in French that I… [more]
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I began to feel hurt and to have real doubts about whether we were a good match. I said this to him. He then said it was very important to him to have me in his life, I am special, he likes the reflective conversations we have, but I was blowing… [more]
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