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Women's shoes? You want to figure out how to get shoes made by the old UK shoemakers - Tricker's and Crockett Jones in particular, both of which have women's lines that are hard to find in the US. If you have biggish feet and can wear the fancier... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

It occurs to me that if large percentages of the population really could break their metabolisms through variable but basically healthy/non-processed diets, we'd have some evidence from history - various nomad/gatherer populations whose diet... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I know, as I say, lots of anti-vaxxers. Nice people, engaged in the community, smart, creative. Generally people who have had a lot of bad run-ins with the medical establishment or the law or both - people who have been treated very... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I surmise that the vast majority of small children I know socially are not vaccinated - my circles have far more than their fair share of anti-vaxxers, which depresses me. But I've gotten into so many arguments where I am the lone person saying... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I have had this problem! And it's a two-fold problem, not just yours. Especially when one is young (and it's likely that you are, since the whole "you are so condescending with your big words and everything" bit is something one is more... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I think you should take the job. There were two points in my young day when I turned down "unsuitable" jobs and each time, it made things harder. (And that wasn't in the recession.) It didn't destroy my life or smash up my relationships,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

My salad days have only begun!
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Ask MeFi post - 3 months ago

I'd be interested to hear from anyone in the know about where/whether people were rehoused and whether the privatization of the flats (in 2002 - well before they were knocked down) affected anything. In the US, at least, when social housing is... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Believe me, it's horrible. My mother has a rare form of early onset dementia. We've been very fortunate in terms of my family's ability to care for her, she has suffered far less than many people do - and it's still unbearably bad. Whenever... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I should add here that I've a problem with anxiety - I've seen therapists in the past though I've never stuck through with treatment, as bad a reflection on my character as that is. Why don't you stick with treatment? What could be... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I'm confident that this guy will do well - and it certainly looks like his interests and focus merit Ivy admission - but that essay doesn't strike me as particularly well-written or insightful. Mostly it says to me "here is someone who -... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Okay, first, OMG, where did you get those grey boots with the ghillie lacing and the holes? Here is what I would do: I would wear the grey flats because I think those look best with that dress, but I would sneak the boots along in the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

( I add that when I eat what all the calculators say should be maintenance for someone of my activity level and weight, I gain weight. Even when I was eating 800 calories a day every day for a year while exercising a lot, back in my teens, I did not... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I add that if Janet does get rabies prophylaxis, having it at your doctor's office and not the ER lowers your costs a lot. Re the story linked in mr vino's comment - those costs are bizarre and atypical. I'm not sure if that's a regional... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I've had rabies shots after exposure to a bat. It was Not That Bad. I had two shots in the ER - the first regular shot and the large immunoglobulin shot, which was miles less uncomfortable than I expected. I had the other two shots at my doctor's... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

A counterpoint: the second photo is cute! I mean, you're a bit too young and way out of my league looks-wise - and in New York! - but I think it's nice to have a non-make-up, non-party photo. Profile reads as a bit hyperactive to me, maybe... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

"Ideological diversity" doesn't mean "hire contrarian [member of group] who cozies up to the right". That's either extreme privilege, cluelessness or tokenism going on - Klein probably hasn't bothered to familiarize himself with... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The American, without really being able to explain it, insisted on an entirely massive double-door thing, and would not allow it to be covered to look like the rest of the kitchen. I've seen pictures of really nice, fancy kitchens where... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Latkes - actually I was thinking about this and it might be nice to have a post on the blue with some good links about some of the whole "gender presentation/masculinity/misogyny/privilege" business. There's so much there - how to talk... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I, personally, have a very complicated relationship with my masculinity, and I personally, find it problematic to focus on my own masculinity in light of living in world with enormous suffering that is more enormous for the great majority of... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I mean, I'm not actually "a masculine gendered woman"; what I am mostly is a fat person who has trouble being touched, that's a far more accurate and important statement about my embodiment than anything specific to gender. I'm usually... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

but I'm curious about why the second topic should be verboten Because it moves the discussion from how a particular group of queer people become visible through clothing choices to a general "if only we didn't have gendered... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Just for information's sake: ways that I, a white person who is frequently read as a butch woman, am invisible/hypervisible: People sometimes just plain old look away. I am sometimes in situations where people are embarrassed by me or for me.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Could we not turn this into a referendum on the reality of this woman's experience or a diatribe about how awful clothes are? For preference, I would rather not talk about how the company's dress code is illegal - butch women (or people like me who... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Oooh, everyone should read the Berlin comics by Jason Lutes. Although since they have been coming out at longer and longer intervals since 1996 I'm not sure they'll ever be finished, which makes me sad. But there are several simply great queer... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Perhaps, too, as an anarchist I can say this: capitalism is popular because, in part, it makes life better and easier. It also makes life worse and crueler and in the main I do not care for it, but the anti-technology strain in this kind of article... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

On a not-fertility matter: I find that when I have big life events coming up - whatever they are! even positive ones, like a trip! - I experience heightened and persistent anxiety about stuff. If there is something big and obvious to worry about, I... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I just had another listen to "Tubthumper" and it occurred to me, first, that it is basically "Timebomb" (which is off their last "non-sell-out" album) recast in a more melancholy mode - "Timebomb" is about... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I am frequently read as a woman. I am not a woman. I have trans woman friends who are sometimes read as men when they are not men. It behooves one to be a bit thoughtful about offering things to "ladies" - if you offer me something... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The general situation I am looking to avoid is when I stand and embarrass the other person or myself or both when they refuse the seat and I remain standing. So wait, they refuse the seat and you don't sit back down? That's confusing to me.... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

One thing I noticed about that website: they don't seem to write much about women. I counted one woman musician (in a duo with a dude) in the first two full pages of articles, except for the woman in Perfect Pussy. I think Marcuse's... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Before I read through all the comments and the interesting academia.edu pdf, I just wanted to say that this is really, really interesting and thanks a million for posting it!... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

My dad has always said that things really were pretty bleak. But at the same time, a lot of that stuff you're seeing is left-wing critique, or at least liberalish. What strikes me about stuff from the seventies (born in 1974, me!) is... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This stuff is weird for me, a lifelong gender nonconforming girl now woman. I had a hard time even reading the article although it has smart things to say. I find gender presentation so fucking boring when I think about the stuff people are going... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I would be concerned. I would not minimize this. (I am a queer person of indeterminate gender identity, trying to figure out this whole transitioning thing.) I think the people who are saying that this doesn't sound serious are not really... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

but don't some people not follow that sort of narrative path? (Particularly with people who are more genderfluid or who are not very strongly associated with one gender in the first place?) If so, doesn't this mean that the discussion of the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Also, this woman is some brave. I don't know what I'd do if I were hired into an organization with bifurcated dress code like that, but I doubt I'd be as hard core as she is.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I'm sort of weirded out by this, since it seems to rely on the idea that women are these naive listeners who don't collect records or know, apparently, anything about any sort of music at all, and it's sort of "authentic" and yet... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

No, It wasn't too bad having the gravel picked out from under the skin on my legs and knees; the doctor was able to get me in the next day, and only one knee got seriously infected. The scars were gone by the following Spring. Ha, yes.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Okay, I have a suggestion - if you are "not attracted" to Asian men, seek out media in which Asian men are portrayed as attractive - for whatever "attractive" means to you, whether muscular or geeky or chivalrous or funny, etc -... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Dumpstering depends a lot on what you're dumpstering, so to speak. I had no concerns about the imperfect lemons, bagged bread in a heap with other bagged bread, bags of apples, sealed packages of yogurt which had expired that day and spent the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

They never seemed to seek any sort of outside help from people knowledgeable about feeding large groups of people, homelessness outreach, or supply chain management (or legal advice, or health codes, or...) but I suppose that would go against the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

It's tricky to negotiate this kind of thing. Doing it out of a private house really isn't a great idea. I know from my social circles that you can run the occasional (perhaps monthly or even biweekly) free meal for ~30 out of a private house... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Will this be another thread where we all humble-brag about how we don't really care much for refrigeration and would be happy with a dorm fridge did circumstances permit? I like having a decent sized refrigerator. I do not like... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I just can't agree. One of the most difficult lessons for me as a white person from a the US, for instance, has been that I just shouldn't flail away naively about other people's cultural production, saying whatever I feel, rushing in to talk... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Oh, Baby_Balrog, I wish I had previewed - I would have held back on my comment. I'm so sorry that such a sad thing happened. [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I went on strike with my union when I felt that striking was a bad idea (I felt like we were not strong enough to win any concessions, which proved to be the case). The whole reason unions work is that the boss knows that all the workers will... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I think that couples like this (okay, and then I will knock off posting in this thread for a bit) are common because of the language around music listening and collecting. I've spent much of my adult life as the one female (or... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

If you've been working on yourself (as you say), is it possible that you're not as in tune with these people as you were? Maybe your role in the group actually was "the difficult one" and now you're not so difficult anymore and the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I know this is marked answered, but I want to point out that if you were to go and make a ton of money, it would change you. And you'd have to participate in grossly oppressive systems in order to do so, even aside from the effects on... [more]
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