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It's worth noting that the writer appears to consider people "adrift" if they are not making more than $40,000 a year within two years of graduation. I broke $40,000 about twelve years after graduation and - with the various wage freezes... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The thing is, you can be a dandy and not dress like a robber baron or a Jeeves LARPer. I see many dandyish young fellows on my very street, in fact, who have obviously spent quite a lot of time and effort on their clothes - but they're not rich, and... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

See, these are all cute clothes, but where the hell does one work in any of them? Even when I was young and punk rock, none of those would have been work outfits except maybe the dress. I can't even wear shorts to work, so any shorts... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Although given the number of feministy SF reading people I know it now strikes me as astounding that it is not. The thing is, most of what I have from the Women's Press (and similar stuff) is very different from the feminist SF published... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

So what happened to all the stuff about how shitty it is to work for Amazon? How exploited the workers are and how cruel the management? I've stopped ordering from Amazon - fuck 'em, is what I say. I want more for the future than a... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I recently learned that someone I respected a lot as a an anti-prison-pipeline activist had declined to make a statement about Cece MacDonald when the support committee (here in MPLS) had asked her to. I was really disappointed. At the same time,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

No, Melville settled that question when he intentionally left the chapter about Moby Dick being a post-human artificial intelligence from an alternate future where whales had wiped out humanity out of his original manuscript. If I were... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

You think this is true love and fate and destiny and the only person you can ever be yourself around. I promise you that this is not. One of the weirdest things about having enough relationships/crushes/etc to see a pattern in my life is the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago


You should be an accountant for a grant-based or state-funded organization - our accountants tell people no all the time! No, seriously. It's the best of both worlds - you have to say no to administrators and regular folks and so on, but you don't... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The thing is, of course, that Orwell is the old original born with a purpose. He's writing to do things - his big essays are intended as interventions that will achieve something, like his letters to Partisan Review are intended to sway... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Honestly, I walked (and walk) alone all over the place by night. I have never had a problem, even when I was young and wore dresses and heels every single day. I think that in many parts of the country (basically, outside cities with New York... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

It's funny - I thought this piece was pretty good, and frankly, not to put too fine a point on it, I'm a queer person who came out late and had a lot of problems identifying what I wanted. I could easily see myself having drifted into an... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

so the government will subsidize those items....in a punitive, half-assed, still-insufficient way that allows their cronies to skim off the top and justifies endless invasive "nudging" of the lives of the poor.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Do not quit. Do not quit. Nope nope nope. I've been through this temp agency stuff. Your first assignments will be the yuck assignments that that no one wants - partly because they don't know what kind of a worker you are. If you quit this,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I think it will become clear fairly quickly if this is going to work or not - give it a few more months. I once broke up with a smart, non-intellectual person because we didn't have enough in common...and it was exactly that. We didn't... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Actually, one thing I notice about a lot of post-collapse dystopias - they are really utopias because the Big Intractable Bad (global capitalism, the surveillance state) has broken down. Small groups of local heroes can overthrow the local... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago


Perhaps we need to two lego administrators sets - one contains secretaries, accountants and the person who makes sure that your equipment line is backed out of the indirect costs (there aren't quite enough of those sets to go round, which is why the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Oh, always bring spare gloves in the winter - pick up, at minimum, a couple of the $1 stretchy pairs from Target. For one thing, you can share them and for another you never know when you'll need them. (I think that some of this "make sure... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Oh, so cute! Their tiny plastic grant budget problems!!! When the lego adminstrators set comes out, they can have one where the Lego administrators eyeball the lecture nibbles and consider the number of attendees at the start of of the lecture... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

You could consider teaching abroad, after some preparation. I taught composition at several fairly good colleges in mainland China and could easily have parlayed that into teaching composition plus literature/reading-difficult-texts. Most people... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(I would be shocked - like, really, worldview-upendingly shocked - if the Sherlock showrunners build in an overt romantic relationship. Partly because I am An Old, relatively speaking, and partly because I think that they can make a lot of money by... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

A red clip meant “leave me alone.” A green clip, and you’d soon be making friends. This is so brilliant. I wish I could wear such kind of clips for everyday interactions. The whole "old fans versus new" thing really... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(The thing is, if your relationship is such that "if you loved me you would have sex with me right now regardless of what you want or how you feel" is primary way of getting sex, you have a bad relationship. There are all kinds of ways to... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I am not a doctor, I am not your doctor and I think going to the urgent care is a good idea. At the same time, that is a very unusual location for a deep vein thrombosis, since it doesn't seem to be over one of the major deep leg veins. It's... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago


I wonder if he's read Orwell's smaller work - the As I Please columns and so on. I actually like those a lot better - and return to them much more often - than his bigger work and certainly his novels and most of the "big" essays. For... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I don't think so. If he'd been wearing an immaculate suit and perfectly groomed, they'd have behaved just the same. Just ask the legions of well-dressed black men who have gotten the same treatment. Oh, I'm not saying that the cops only... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Oh my god, the animated part where the Tick says to Arthur while they are dangling from a rope and need to build momentum, "Swing with me, Arthur, swing!" - and then swing music starts playing, OMG, that alone almost makes me feel that... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Also, ten hours of volunteering plus a two hour meeting every week is too much - I know that's just your example, but if people are doing that much work, you have too few people. (Unless it's a super-urgent issue with a clear end point, or the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I was thinking about how I've been "objectified" all my life - even though I have never been sexually attractive to very many men, and now am basically sexually invisible as a butch person of indeterminate gender. But the reason I say that... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

An unmarked black van, with a bunch of burly 30 to 40 somethings wearing and putting on Black Bloc gear. This is from way, way upthread, but if you see something like this, those people are not anarchists, they are not Black Bloc,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

And one last thought that I meant to include in my previous comment, and then I'll knock it off - there's something really perverse in the "men are so gross" narrative, because it teaches men that women should have to have sex with... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

IIRC, Freudians were very big on female narcissism, right? Of course, there's a very simple explanation for female sexual "narcissism" - if you grow up being taught that being desired is the measure of your worth, and you... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Rarely do I pass up an opportunity to stick my nose into the cops' business. If I see a police officer violating some minor law (something that would get a normal person in trouble, like blowing through a stop sign or turning right on red in a no... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Well since I was 1 month old at the time and thus my recollection of events is somewhat murky, I will bow to the memories of old more experienced readers and assume this is one of those books whose recognition grows over time. Because Russ,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Until about six months later when I was on my way to work and opened the front door to find my yard full of police, some squatted down behind shrubs, some at the edge of the house, and it turned out there were a bunch of them in the back yard and... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(To clarify my anecdote: the study area was in a location where no one could have seen who was making noise if they were making noise, so the noise complaint itself could not have been motivated by race, and we knew there wasn't any noise; also the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

In Ferguson, young demonstrators are finding it’s not their grandparents’ protest: "“We were trained when we marched. We were taught if they spit on you, just wipe it off and continue marching. But we are dealing with a new breed of youngster.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Also, the no-failiest thing I've ever made (that wasn't candy - would you be interested in candy recipes?) is these Cooks Illustrated raspberry bars. I make them vegan by subbing in any kind of vegan butter, and I double the quantities of jam and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

What I was really thinking was "what is objectification", and it occurred to me that "objectifying" is usually framed as "using something as an object of desire" and that's where the confusion comes in, because it's... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I have lived in Chicago and Minneapolis. Things I miss about Chicago: good Italian, good Greek, good French, good Polish; broad choice of independent bookstores; multiple neighborhoods that basically do the same thing but different (ie, there... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(In the commercial porn that I have seen - which I'd say is a reasonable and representative sample circa maybe five years ago, plus another reasonable and representative sample when I was in my late teens/early twenties - I'd say that my take-away... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I was part of a volunteer project whose website got a couple of these emails years and years ago. I didn't manage the website, so I only heard about this in meetings. But the group pretty much looked at the emails, decided that they were a bullshit... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Oh my god, that poor little girl in the Connecticut case. I bet there are a hundred queer youth organizations who would work with her to organize housing, therapy and education if she could just be gotten out of state custody. I mean hell, she can... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

On a not-fertility matter: I find that when I have big life events coming up - whatever they are! even positive ones, like a trip! - I experience heightened and persistent anxiety about stuff. If there is something big and obvious to worry about, I... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I think that if you're mostly talking about being around Evergreen, there's a lot more latitude about how you dress in any case. I'm also not entirely comfortable with the "no one must wear anything that reveals [body part] because it might... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Dude, yes you can wear a skirt. I think there's an argument about capitalism which might run like "as cis men become more and more able to wear/use previously 'female' items such as skirts and make-up, they take on all the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

So far, I feel like we're talking like "kids" is "boys". (And of course, the linked piece is about a son.) I surmise that it's going to be a lot more likely that girls will be looking at really standard, male-centric... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

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