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Just like how in Victorian households they wouldn't want to learn the maids' names, or maybe the maids would have lower class names or ethnic names, so they'd just call them all "Jane", etc. One thing I like about the one percent - they… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Well, the most expensive and disruptive actions that the Soviet Union could have done are launch a full on attack on Western Europe with the largest armies in the world and/or launch a full on nuclear attack on the West with thousands of… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

In the context of the Cold War, and both being self-professed Communists, it sounds to me like MI5 were just doing their job. If one of them had turned out to be a Soviet spy (as Sir Ivor Montagu, the inventor of table tennis, did), it would have… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

If you want something that is queasy-sad (and in its own way I feel like it's more haunting than Threads) you might look at Raymond Briggs's graphic novel When The Wind Blows. Apropos of nothing at all, I wonder what would have happened… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The thing is, everyone is all always "lol fifties food", but several things occur to me: 1. Food distribution was insanely different in the fifties. The whole "almost everyone in any kind of semi-urban area has access to a… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Actually, I think aspics were a high-culture thing that became a low-culture thing - I don't have my books handy but if memory serves, you get a LOT of fancy aspics and moulded dishes in the 18th and 19th centuries on the tables of the great. Riz a… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I'm sorry, but only LA lesbians remotely resemble L word types. To the rest of us, they look like Sex & the City with bright pastels, and those are the men. This was what was so confusing to me, and has in general been confusing to me… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I have family in Indiana and visit there two or three times a year. I'll be very interested to see if the "no gays" signs start going up. Admittedly, Cummins is a big deal where my family lives and I cannot believe that they're… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

What I was trying to get at with the "kick-ass" characterization thing was that in some ways I almost preferred it when there weren't queer characters rather than having shitty, depressing, reified, palatable-to-straight-and-male-audiences… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

What happens is that slavery (and near-slavery - it sounds as though the other men on the trawlers are as close to slaves as makes no difference, if they get locked up for saying that they want to leave) is used in the periphery to keep prices down… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

It's not a "conspiracy" in the sense that evil cabals meet; it's a "conspiracy" in that it's a function of capitalism that works consistently in certain ways. Prices have to be affordable at the center because people at the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I always thought - possibly because I first encountered Bartleby as a figure for passive worker resistance - that Bartleby would "prefer not" not because there was anything wrong with Bartleby but because the work itself and the work… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

A thought - it might be worth checking in with your niece to make sure that she is finding appropriate clothes at thrift stores. Not that thrifting isn't great, but if you're a non-standard size or your town is very small or your thrift store cuts… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This is another reason why I get pissed off when I get included as Gen-X. Born in the late 70s and I never saw any of those scary we're-all-gonna-die-in-a-nuclear-holocaust movies or shows that everyone and Douglas Coupland says shaped the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(Consider food stamps, actually - food stamps are a politically acceptable way to feed people "cheaply" (although getting more and more contentious as the right gets stronger) and we certainly don't have food stamps because the government… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

We do a real disservice to kids with this attitude. I wish social skills were taught in an organized fashion just as we teach other skills, instead of leaving it up to families and peers. Be careful what you wish for - you just might get it… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Ha ha man just when I think I'm ready to ease up on the rage bucket class warrior thing I am reminded, no, this is my eternal duty, fuck that chair, fuck that launch party, burn it all Can I think this while also still liking my own… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I would sell it unless you'll have a friend who would really, really appreciate it. When I give special vintage stuff to friends (I collected stuff back in the nineties when you could find amazing things in thrift stores), I usually try to feel… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Oh hey, I went through a couple of years of super-intense hypochondria years ago and have (mostly) recovered. I do not take any meds, although I took Wellbutrin for one month back then and experienced a helpful placebo effect. Yes, it was really,… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I do know that when I'm teaching, I get a lot better results with positive feedback than with negative feedback. And I also notice that group discussions go better when we steer away from the "this is bad because" line - what invariably… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I will tell you what someone told me when I had a question about a friend's heroin use: heroin addiction is terrible, it distorts people's personalities, it breaks up friendships. I didn't want to believe that and yet everything came to pass just… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Another way to give feedback is to phrase things in terms of questions. This is a good form of feedback if you aren't sure what the correct course of action is and you want to spark a discussion. Be careful not to hide unspoken expectations behind… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

My dad made the best joke when I was a kid - we were interviewing our parents for some school project and we were supposed to ask what job they'd have if they could have any job in the world. "Philanthropist," said my dad… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I really, really wish people would read some history and then work with, like, an intelligent publicist before coming out with this stuff. When someone "obviously means" one thing but their unconscious biases lead them to… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

But the ones who blatantly flouted the system, like that engineer dude who was full aware of what was going to happen and was given multiple chances to change his mind before his resignation was accepted without penalty -- nope, that's your own… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

What I hear, anyway, is that it's best to do all this stuff while you're young (but have finished growing) - you're more resilient and heal better. I know everyone means to be complimentary to this girl, but I wish the conversation didn't keep… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Also, on mature reflection: you don't know enough about her relationship with her parents to consider telling them, and you don't know what's pushing her to use. I assume some people end up using heroin basically because they have addictive… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I mean, some of these are pretty funny. (The duvet one, but perhaps that's just because my house is so cold.) But the framing device is just the usual "whatever women's sexual desires can be imagined to be is wrong". If women… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

also, do women think that being involved in saintly humanitarian endeavors make you more attractive to potential partners? that's not something i've ever thought about before. Saintly humanitarian endeavors - certain kinds of saintly… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I am also intrigued that you call out pointy fingernails and sea witch as alluring. I think there's a strong tradition of the alluring "grotesque" - it's the allure of the grotesque that gives it power and also makes it hated,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I actually had a couple of fights with a friend over stuff like this - my friend shared with me that Alison Bechtel's graphic novel Fun Home was hollow, devoid of feeling, pretentious and so awful that it made my friend want to punch Alison… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(Every time anyone gets all techno-utopian on me, I start talking about Google's military robots and asking people just how they think those are likely to be used and on who. It cuts that "don't be evil" and "but but smartphones"… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I've found lots of USB sticks (at work - people tend to leave them) and all I've ever done is open them up to see if I can quickly identify the owner. (I have a duty of care here, as a lot of them belong to students.) It's just not...… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Vis-a-vis wine jello: it just so happens that at the bottom of this page are recipes for claret jello and rum punch jello. I mean, they're Victorian so they're called "jellies", but they're jello. IIRC my Victorian novels correctly,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

What I'd like to know - will we ever be able to have a Ghostbusters film with two black Ghostbusters? (Or, for that matter, Ghostbusters played by other actors of color? That is what seems so freaky-deaky to me in all this. Even when I was… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(Also, pre-packaged foods were a Thing far before I had originally realized - pimento cheese, for example, dates back to the late 19th century and is the result of improved canning and distribution of pimentos. But there's lots of twenties and… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Personally? If a friend of mine buddied up to a person I sincerely believed to be a rapist and my friend was all "well, he only rapes women he knows really well, so I'll just tell women that they shouldn't date him"....I would… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

It all ties in with an underestimated undercurrent that shapes the Silicon Valley more than anything else: the counter-culture of the 1960s and the deeply anchored roots of San Francisco's hippie movement. A-ha-ha-ha, Der Spiegel,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

You should not do this. I know someone who did this, and it came back and burned them in a LOT of ways. What happens is that people will leave that company, you may encounter them elsewhere in new roles (you'd be surprised!) and they will remember… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I mean, call him if you must - but I am afraid this relationship may be over. Not through your fault, even though texting people is a bad way to communicate emotional stuff, but because you were dating a guy who did not respect your time or… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

When you divorce - and I bet you'll divorce - remember that you owe your wife financially, big time. You're acting out a cliche - dude gets married, wife goes through the hard times while he makes a success, there's finally some money and he's out… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

To me this sounds like "weird guy with poor boundaries who says something that sounds - on paper - way more inappropriate than it actually was". I would say that unless you literally, actually think that Bob is going to do something to… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I only hand wash my dishes with natural, sustainably harvested sea sponges, because I just care a little more about my kids than most people Yes, and guess which gender of parent will be doing most of the hand-washing going forward? I bet… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

but like holy shit we are nowhere close to that world as reality and god what I wouldn't do for like a chair that doesn't fuck with my lower back issues, won't fall apart in three years, and doesn't cost more than $50 new And I mean in… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Asking $13 million in donations to pay off the state...I'm not sure Bakunin would approve. Being extorted $14 million by the state in order not to displace a large and important community - that's what I see going on here. Of course, I'm… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Are you sure these are your people? Anarchists can be mean as fuck, they're all insecure inside, there's a lot of gender bullshit no matter how queer everyone is. I have quit a couple of "anarchist" social circles (I mean, I'm… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

To Google's credit, they stopped taking DARPA money shortly after being bought. So I don't think it would be fair to say Google has "military robots". Heck, even with military funding, I don't think Boston Dynamics ever put a weapon on… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(Part of what strikes me as significant here is the inability to enjoy more casual sex with someone who isn't 100% your most ultimately attractive person ever - especially the part about things being painful. That suggests for a variety of TMI… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

If I were you, I'd try to do some thinking (possibly with a therapist) about your extremely narrow spectrum of attraction. When it's that narrow, and that troubling to you, this suggests that what underpins the attractions isn't healthy. (I… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Getting serious about what you already like helps too. When I was in my twenties, I had all these ideas about how to be a real intellectual - I needed to read Lacan and Derrida, for instance, even though I was not especially interested in them. So… [more]
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