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The thing is, yes, activism can get pretty depressing, and it's certainly important to be able to look at stuff and say "this situation is toxic" or "this group work is not something I can healthily do right now". And this... [more]
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MeFi comment - 13 days ago

Template: I have [radical credentials that make me authentically oppressed; avoid mentioning advantages]. Sad anecdote. In the past I was so radical! I used to do [medium-difficulty things that will seem extreme to a non-activist audience].... [more]
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MeFi comment - 13 days ago

I personally would not rush ahead to do something very fancy and special that a friend wanted to do but was too broke to do and that had never occurred to me until my friend talked about it. That's bound to provoke hyper awareness of... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 14 days ago

Especially a extremely intelligent guy like the one in this example, is born to be very attractive to women. So the lesser gifted men have no choice but break him emotionally. I do not normally lol, but I lol'd. Yes indeed, this lines up... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

We do a real disservice to kids with this attitude. I wish social skills were taught in an organized fashion just as we teach other skills, instead of leaving it up to families and peers. Be careful what you wish for - you just might get it.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I've gotten emails/memos like this my entire working life. whats the story here? My immediate assumption was a story of "wow, creative class people working at fancy places with expensive chairs are supposed to be catered to... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Well they certainly are shooting themselves in the foot if they decide to cut SSI disability. There are millions of people who could not find employment during the recent economic shitfest and decided to get on disability. Cut them out and you... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I really appreciate the comments about the pervasiveness of anti-Semitism and the comments from Jewish mefites in this thread. I feel like recently in my non-internet life, I've heard non-Jewish people say some really weird things about... [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 2 weeks ago

I imagine that if your basic financial life trajectory is "broke and working a shitty, precarious job", then adding a couple of kids and just getting broker and more precarious doesn't seem that bad on the face of it, plus then [assuming... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I think it's worth noting that at least IMO, having talked to a lot of these kinds of guys over the years(and been friends with, or lived with them) that i think this guy is sort of the magneto to the young xmen of terrible nerdy dudes.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Oh, hey, I just thought of something about Aaronson's apparent inability to move past his "but I have really, really suffered" thing even when plenty of people have written to say that they recognize that he has suffered. And of course,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I just...I remember feeling the same way about race as he writes about gender in his response post. "I tried so hard to be committed to anti-racism only to be rejected and criticized....Can't you see that you're tearing me... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

The thing is, I would have a lot more sympathy with Aaronson if these were conversations he was having with close friends rather than blogular authoritativing. "I am in pain and I am sad, friend, can we talk through my feelings with the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I've been reading some fantasy novels by Melissa Scott (Point of Hopes, Point of Dreams, etc - don't let the incredibly cheesy covers put you off) and her very interesting verbal strategy is to refer to all groups by default as "women",... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

My observation of academia suggests that it is full not of absent-minded professors who just can't remember where we keep the toner or how to check their voice mail but of very bright people who do not want to know how to do what it is inconvenient... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

This really is not just lack of care or accountability; it's not just that black lives are held "not to matter" by the state. If it were any other society at any other point in history - apartheid South Africa, Weimar Germany,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

A big part of the thrill (not the only) was the idea of finding places unexplored by my group of friends and bringing those experiences home to share. And I will quickly add that I get this - it's legit to want to be able to be like... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Do not quit. Do not quit. Nope nope nope. I've been through this temp agency stuff. Your first assignments will be the yuck assignments that that no one wants - partly because they don't know what kind of a worker you are. If you quit this,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Okay, everyone is going to tell you to go to...therapy! IANYT. It's pretty common, though, to try to replicate the relationships we grew up with. It's also pretty common to try unconsciously to destroy successful relationships because the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I don't know if "saving" was the right word, but I probably would have eaten them for breakfast if there had been any left. But no, there was just a sad empty bag on the counter with a few crumbs rattling around within.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

The trouble is, I have a lot of possessions and they mostly do give me joy. If I got rid of all the (inessential - can't get rid of the interview suit or the hairdryer or the doing-unpleasant-muddy-tasks shoes, etc) joyless things I would still have... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

This is way too relationship-y for my taste. It sounds as though he spends much, much more quality time with her than with you, and all his non-practical/non-domestic stuff is with her, not you. Maybe he actually literally spends more time with her... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago


But you implicitly are. You are and MartinWisse and gorbweaver and that Bruce Crumley piece Joe in Australia link to above are all engaging in blaming the victim and tacitly saying Charlie Hebdo deserved what they got. I would rather not... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I left high school a popular kid, all without changing my interests or hobbies or most of my day-to-day. I never had to learn how to shoot a basketball or anything - all I had to do was not be a fucking child, like Aaronson. Yeah, I am a... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

It just shows to go you...I was thinking "gee, this lady sounds kind of interesting...I would like to go on a date to eat Ethiopian food and discuss neoliberalism". The sense I got from her writing was much more that it's... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Honestly, the thing quoted upthread where he talks about his wife, who is Asian, in comparison to his friend's wife, who is white....that was really fucking creepy. I assume that he just doesn't grasp that he sounds like your classic racist... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Don't say anything. You wouldn't poke or pry into other aspects of your son's sexual, romantic or bodily life - even if you knew he was sleeping with someone you would not ask what he did in bed; you would not ask for minute details of any dates;... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

What is it that you want your students to get out of this exercise that they can't get from a less potential-clusterfuck topic? Unless it is specifically important that your students respond right now to this particular fraught issue, why not choose... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I think that it's worth looking at the cartoon about the kidnapped girls that infini links above. It shows some of what is meant by "mocking religion" and I think it's not what a lot of mefites have in mind. I am not saying this because... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I would go with gently used shoes on Ebay or via a consignment store. I know that squicks some people, but if you seek out reliable sellers and make sure there are lots of pictures, you can do quite well. I've bought a couple of unsuitable pairs... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

When I ask my friends for their opinion on my dating profile (coming soon to an Ask Metafilter near you), half of them say, oh, no don't include your unusual hobbies, you'll come across as too weird! But the other half say, oh, you must include... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I get the sense here that my standards for dates are...not normal. I mean, if someone were all "and blah blah Crass album [....] blah blah book about historiography..." my assumption - absent other social cues - would not be... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I think this is a very bad idea unless you really know your students and there is a high level of trust in the class - and even then, I would not. Reactions to the fact of there being a drawing of Mohammed might vary from Muslim to Muslim, but it... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I personally rarely meet a parody of William Carlos Williams that I don't like. Which is odd because I like William Carlos Williams just fine, and I actually like that plums poem. Although I did not like it when my housemates ate all my special... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I really don't care for the "I can clearly see that you are just trying to be quirky" thing because - while I suppose there are times when it might be beyond a doubt - it usually just reflects the observer's ideas about what is "too... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

"Well he's kind of a friend, basically when I don't want to go all the way back to the Beaches I just let him do whatever and he lets me sleep over." That makes me, actually, kind of sad. Admittedly, a bullet dodged for you.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I always thought I identified "he" as a genderless pronoun and was perfectly comfortable with "The Rights of Man", "when the candidate is confronted with ten potions, he must...." and so on. It was only when I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

People can be from the opposite poles of the earth, one can eat rocks while the other only water, and one can like things when they are burning while the other cannot abide a thing that is not frozen, and if neither of them want to get married or... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

How is your French? Because what I see is CH using these figures to make a political point that has nothing to do with mocking of the figures depicted. Please be more careful - we don't need more disinformation, especially in a sensitive situation... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I have handled Aurora shoes - they were very nicely made and used great leather but seemed prone to stretching as they are unlined and also if you have a high arch or a foot that is thick top to bottom, they may not be a good fit - they have a very... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

What kind of shoes do you want? For shoes to be truly resolable, they need to be welted (there are ways to resole some other kinds of high-end shoes if you have the original last, but for the purposes of this question...). Most of the time, I have... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Also, I think that while there are lots of terrible white-people names (and IME, all those Jayden/Braden names are white), the whole "names spelled funny lol" conversation is shadowed so strongly by the racist... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Okay, I absolutely deplore firebombing people because they disrespect your religion. But honestly, I think it's an asshole move - and given French colonial history, a racist one - to lead with "let's lead off by disrespecting your religion in a... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

See, these are all cute clothes, but where the hell does one work in any of them? Even when I was young and punk rock, none of those would have been work outfits except maybe the dress. I can't even wear shorts to work, so any shorts... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

'Round here, Carhartts are what the smelly kind of slightly older green anarchist is wearing out, since they were trendy up through a few years ago and they never really die - inasumuch as anything is trendy when worn by green anarchists. I mean,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

The thing I always wonder about these capsule wardrobes: how do you handle office work? Like, I can sort of repeat my less noticeable pants once a week, but unless I want to wear only black pants all the time, I need at least four pairs of... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I really like this idea. It seems to embody an understanding of the future that is totally gone - that the world will persist sort of as it is today until the very end; that there will be an "end" of the world that is immediate and... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

As for the laundering...from my limited experience, you can do this without the washing machine. I grew up poor, had poor relatives, and am old enough that some people still used cloth because that's what they've always done. I could be... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

To continue - the key part is having the colors work for you - color can convey seriousness and dressiness in otherwise more casual clothes. Are you distinguishing between "dress shirts" (stiffer collar, meant to be worn with a... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

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