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These days middle class liberals seems far more concerned with equity than equality; with ending discrimination on the basis of irrelevant characteristics like gender and sexuality rather than ending poverty. It's certainly worth reading... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

What kills me is that all this stuff about the US training torturers and supporting torture regimes was well known in this country in the eighties and nineties. People protested it, people went to jail, the FBI investigated and harassed the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

I always figure that a lot of people think torture sounds fun - to perpetrate, not to endure. I think a lot of the people who commit torture enjoy it. I think that's why, at root, it's so difficult to stop people - because the kind of moral... [more]
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MeFi comment - 6 days ago

Culture doesn't just arrive from the sky; we're not condemned to "having sex equals letting people be horrible to you if that's their thing". Edison is making the argument that, while various fetishes are okay in various pre-specified and... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Are words and phrases like "nuts," "insane," "bonkers," and "off their rocker" considered equally borderline offensive? Yes, yes they are. Because they are all different ways of saying... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 7 days ago

I had wondered if there weren't undercovers involved out there. I felt like there wasn't much point arguing about it without any information - and there's always the possibility of anarchists doing fool things, if I may say so as an anarchist - but... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Could you elaborate on this point, Frowner? I'm not sure what you mean. I will try! I hadn't thought this all through quite like that until just now. "White discourse" is a vague term. I think what I'm trying to say is... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Sincere question, not at all intended to distract from the more important questions but since there's a new Garner thread, maybe there's some room in this longboat for it - why don't white people much seem to care about police brutality against... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

"steering them away from prepackaged food and frozen vegetables" Unless someone plans to steer me toward an extra $100 a month, I'm going to keep eating frozen vegetables, thanks.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

When I was little - and I had two working parents, and a stable home where all but one weekly meal was always home-cooked from scratch - salmon was a luxury. (Now I'm vegan-with-lapses, I don't eat salmon.) Salmon was a treat, and we had it... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

It's interesting that we get trapped, over and over again, in this box of regular old neoliberal assumptions - so it's moralizing and recipes on one side, and "but but but" on the other, because making cooking non-horrible for many people... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Oh, yes, I talked to Literature on the phone the other day and it was indeed very hurt that I had not yet finished either Dhalgren OR In Search of Lost Time, and I haven't even started that copy of Lord of the Rings in French that I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

I began to feel hurt and to have real doubts about whether we were a good match. I said this to him. He then said it was very important to him to have me in his life, I am special, he likes the reflective conversations we have, but I was blowing... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

Is it just that people have a problem with criticism / analysis from the social justice POV full stop, or... what? Genuine question. I just thought they were interesting reads. See, this is why I think tumblr is a bad system rather... [more]
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MeFi comment - 8 days ago

Also regarding Tumblr (and with apologies for multiposting), see these three excellent comments from Frowner. Thanks, er, oops, er...those comments said pretty much everything I said in the comment I actually made in this thread...except... [more]
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MeFi comment - 8 days ago

I think one thing that tends to happen is that individual corners of the internet tend to develop highly specialized analysis and vocabulary - often very good analysis and vocabulary, I consider that I've learned a lot from the much-demonized... [more]
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MeFi comment - 8 days ago

Somewhere Samuel Delany, the great, great writer and literary theorist, remarks that everyone is doomed to make a noisy, scary emotional spectacle of themselves in public about three times in their lives - he's talking sobbing, flailing bizarre... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Okay, leaving aside the "is it art" question, which is obviously dumb, I wonder about how the economy plays into the 6.5 million price tag. Hasn't art in general become - like central London real estate, etc - more of aa place where the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Frowner, what do you mean by "actively"? I mean that 50% of white people are confident that their local police treat blacks fairly....after months of police killings in the news. More white people are convinced of this now... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

The article actually says that many women who have pregnancy denial don't put on much weight or get a characteristic belly - per the article, it's possible that there is a mental/endocrine connection sort of the reverse of the hysterical pregnancy.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

(Since people said kind things about these two comments, I want to add: these thoughts are the results of reading Andrea Smith, WEB DuBois, Bell Hooks, James Baldwin and many tumblr things by black tumblr-ites and tumblr-ites of color, also from... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Oh dear no I don't care for that new chelsea boot either. AE makes some dubious choices sometimes. The chisel toe RM Williams chelsea boots are very, very nice - more elegant and better made than AE, in my opinion, although there's certainly some... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Template: I have [radical credentials that make me authentically oppressed; avoid mentioning advantages]. Sad anecdote. In the past I was so radical! I used to do [medium-difficulty things that will seem extreme to a non-activist audience].... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

And yet, inexplicably, there are feminists who spend their time denouncing Beyonce instead of Dunham. At the bare minimum, Beyonce isn't going around conning people into performing for free at her shows.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

The thing is, yes, activism can get pretty depressing, and it's certainly important to be able to look at stuff and say "this situation is toxic" or "this group work is not something I can healthily do right now". And this... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

If you are seeing people you've seen before, try to remember something about them and ask about it - "how is the widget business this year?" "Last time we talked, you were telling me about your cat - how is your cat?"... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 10 days ago

Can you just bring a baguette and chevre plus maybe an alternate spread? I actually organize (got stuck with it when I came onboard, haven't had the heart to stick anyone else with it) a large, optional potluck at work, and when people want... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 11 days ago

(Crongratulations, you've just invented money. Just so that everyone is clear on this point - in theory this is how one "invents" money; historically this is not how money developed. If you were using a sharing system on... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

One thing I wish could happen at these protests, based on having been a white person at a number of them: I think someone (in consultation with the organizers and choosing the best person to say this kind of thing, whoever it is) could say, at the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

I'm always reminded of what Doris Lessing wrote about her observations of the Second World War: that everyone was having a great time. The down side was that you could be killed, if you were an actual soldier, RAF pilot, etc - but outside of the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

There was one glorious day in about 2009 when I sold all my Derrida. Writing and Difference! Of Grammatology! Specters of Marx! Limited Inc! And that big book of interviews I'd try whenever I had a long bus trip. All, all went down... [more]
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MeFi comment - 12 days ago

I just could not believe that Shimer is the worst college in America under any circumstances, because Adam Kotsko teaches there, and everything he writes about his teaching and his classes sounds simply fantastic. I'm a pretty hard core atheist (not... [more]
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MeFi comment - 12 days ago

I just think it's a shame because there are lots of deeply passionate people that care a lot and might be a little more thin-skinned, less actively hostile, generally not as demonstrative, and interested enough to ask lots and lots of questions... [more]
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MeFi comment - 13 days ago

I've never thought he looked fit. Kinda flabby, shapeless limbs dressed in ridiculous tank tops and short-shorts? Zero apparent muscle definition? He almost looks like the epitome of the new trendy term, "skinny fat." And this is... [more]
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MeFi comment - 14 days ago

I guess, but I think this is probably equally true of all people. As humans, we want the world to make sense, and we want to feel that our actions matter. It seems kind of fucked up to put that on bourgie middle class college kids, as if people... [more]
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MeFi comment - 14 days ago

Never do this! You laudably want to be real about struggles you faced - but the place for that is not your permanent record. And it's not like the struggles were a giant secret, right? Also, never put health information in a permanent... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 14 days ago

"how do you know it wasn't police PRETENDING to be black bloc guys?" My answer would be that anyone who knows anything about how undercovers operate would know that this is not how the cops would do it - if cops were... [more]
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MeFi comment - 14 days ago

The facial expressions were the best part. The other stuff struck me more as "hairstyles of the past 100 years if they were designed to make you look beautiful by the standards of 2014", which I think is totally legit and interesting in... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

All my supermarket check-outs are "guilt-free", because feeling guilty about food is not helpful. Some days I think "hey, it was entirely nutritionally appropriate to buy what I bought, including that chocolate bar" and... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

This looks like great advice - I'll just add how I make cauliflower rice, which is the only carb/starch substitute that I have found which I really prefer to things like pasta and rice. Set a pan with a relatively heavy bottom to heat on... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

It's a nicely self-deprecating joke, but: the fact that I make a lot of money and some of my worst childhood tormenters have jail records does little to lessen my therapy bills. My tormenters were mostly rich kids from posh backgrounds -... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Well, it sounds like you may not always have been dating guys who had female friends; maybe some of these "needy" friends were more of a women-I'd-kind-of-like-to-hook-up-with or... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

(The only young adults I know who are married with kids and a house are upper middle class, have decent jobs and really wanted that kind of lifestyle. I think there's several factors in play here and they get confused: first, the economic... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

From the comments: Oddly enough, the majority of their drinks are on the FODMAP (allergen and inflammatory foods) list, so they aren't really all that healthy See now, I said to people, I said, back when this whole FODMAP thing started... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Do a lot of Australians travel abroad for work? I've met tons and tons of Australians working in Asia, and it seemed like a much more casual thing than it was for me (I too was working in Asia.) Like, on one job, I met a number of Australians who... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I may be wrong, but I would expect an even more angry response from the average American to the idea "Americans don't get passports because their country is so fucked they can't even afford to leave" than I would for the current... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I don't have a passport, because I don't have a chunk of money to spend on getting it renewed and it is vanishingly unlikely that I will have enough money to travel outside the US in the next five or ten years, if ever. This whole "oh,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

You know, if you want to support your mother in being healthy, you might want to look at the stress in her life - if someone is miserable at work, frantic about bills, in a lousy relationship or simply bearing the entire weight of taking care of the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Why eat a "tofu-beef", when you can have a vegetarian cous-cous? Or a sandwich with "vegan sausage", when you can have a hummus sandwich, or a sandwich with tomato, grilled aubergine and lettuce? Why eat anything at all with... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

See, I like almond milk, which makes me sad due to the water thing and due to the carting-the-bees-around-to-fertilize-the-almond-blossoms thing (I'm always surprised that people consider almond milk vegan). And I have so many friends who are... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

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