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I realize that you mean it's particularly galling that you can get paid to study poverty, but not to, like, do anything about it, and I understand (but disagree with) the claim that getting paid to study it doesn't directly help improve the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Basically, I'm well into UMN AU by now. [more]
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MeFi comment - 7 days ago

Sugar Cream Pie SUCKS; it's a dessert where the only ingredient is basically sugar, for Christ sakes. The proper Indiana dessert should be persimmon pudding, which is awesome, flavorful, and made from a little known but native fruit.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 8 days ago

When I'm not disorganized and eating my feelings (like this week), I have a number of pantry dishes similar to those described above* but I also pick up things for a snacky supper: Good crackers - I usually get Dr. Kracker ones because they are... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

A thought - it's puzzling that it's tacky to ask for cash but not tacky to have a registry, at least if the rationale is "it's in poor taste to indicate that you expect a gift". If it's tacky to say that folks who want to get you something... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

What about Roky Erikson's cover of "If You Have Ghosts"? [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

Every time you think of the guy, short-circuit the thought and tell yourself "nothing is ever going to happen with him, ever; he is not interested". Often, folks get stuck where you're stuck because they do not want to accept that nothing... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

(Just as a side-note: even the conversations I've heard about "is drag appropriative" have been about [mostly] white gay cis men appropriating specific fashions and language either from trans women or from black gay men or black trans... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 8 days ago

Is a lawyer working with you on this disability thing? Because my mom got disability and she had a pension. (I mean, she wasn't collecting from the pension when she became disabled, obviously.) But they didn't say anything like "you have a... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Rhubarb was the official dessert of the Frowner family when I grew up in Illinois - stringy and stewed, or bitter and embedded in cake. I had no idea that it was a Minnesota thing. Maybe it's just a Swede thing. Strangely, I really like rhubarb... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Technically it's a faux pas. But I think that a lot of people don't really care any more - I know that I don't, and I can't think of anyone in my immediate social circle who would care. We'd all rather give what's wanted rather than... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Another factor in terms of the list's race and gender make-up: with some exceptions (Butler, Delany) work by women and people of color has been small press and small run, with few reprints. Until very recently, for instance, most of Joanna Russ's... [more]
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MeFi comment - 9 days ago

Cheerful, intelligent anime and cartoons - dubbed or in English
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Ask MeFi post - 10 days ago

"Have you noticed that you just told me what I think?" "Why are you telling me that I agree with you when I know that I don't?" "I notice that sometimes in conversation you respond to disagreements by saying that I just... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 10 days ago

(As far as the "what is science fiction" question: That's one of my favorite questions! And it's not as simple to resolve as you think. I'd argue that many people have an unconsidered definition of science fiction as "set in the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 10 days ago

So what's the difference? Following on vapidave's point, great SF gives me a quirky idea that I can roll around in my thoughts for a few days. Literature like Slaughterhouse shakes me up and sometimes I can't read anything for days. While I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 10 days ago

It's worth noting that the writer appears to consider people "adrift" if they are not making more than $40,000 a year within two years of graduation. I broke $40,000 about twelve years after graduation and - with the various wage freezes... [more]
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MeFi comment - 10 days ago

The thing is, you can be a dandy and not dress like a robber baron or a Jeeves LARPer. I see many dandyish young fellows on my very street, in fact, who have obviously spent quite a lot of time and effort on their clothes - but they're not rich, and... [more]
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MeFi comment - 10 days ago

Looking for queer science fiction.
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Ask MeFi post - 10 days ago

See, these are all cute clothes, but where the hell does one work in any of them? Even when I was young and punk rock, none of those would have been work outfits except maybe the dress. I can't even wear shorts to work, so any shorts... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

Along with the race hatred, there’s another obvious feature of this intro: the way it dramatizes Orwell himself, a sensitive young white man alone in a crowd of evil aliens. That habit of dramatizing himself never changes. It’s a constant in... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

Although given the number of feministy SF reading people I know it now strikes me as astounding that it is not. The thing is, most of what I have from the Women's Press (and similar stuff) is very different from the feminist SF published... [more]
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MeFi comment - 11 days ago

So what happened to all the stuff about how shitty it is to work for Amazon? How exploited the workers are and how cruel the management? I've stopped ordering from Amazon - fuck 'em, is what I say. I want more for the future than a... [more]
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MeFi comment - 12 days ago

I recently learned that someone I respected a lot as a an anti-prison-pipeline activist had declined to make a statement about Cece MacDonald when the support committee (here in MPLS) had asked her to. I was really disappointed. At the same time,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 12 days ago

The thing I always wonder about these capsule wardrobes: how do you handle office work? Like, I can sort of repeat my less noticeable pants once a week, but unless I want to wear only black pants all the time, I need at least four pairs of... [more]
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MeFi comment - 12 days ago

No, Melville settled that question when he intentionally left the chapter about Moby Dick being a post-human artificial intelligence from an alternate future where whales had wiped out humanity out of his original manuscript. If I were... [more]
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MeFi comment - 12 days ago

You think this is true love and fate and destiny and the only person you can ever be yourself around. I promise you that this is not. One of the weirdest things about having enough relationships/crushes/etc to see a pattern in my life is the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 13 days ago

Seeking book recommendations on abolitionist movement in the UK!
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Ask MeFi post - 13 days ago

You should be an accountant for a grant-based or state-funded organization - our accountants tell people no all the time! No, seriously. It's the best of both worlds - you have to say no to administrators and regular folks and so on, but you don't... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 13 days ago

The thing is, of course, that Orwell is the old original born with a purpose. He's writing to do things - his big essays are intended as interventions that will achieve something, like his letters to Partisan Review are intended to sway... [more]
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MeFi comment - 13 days ago

Honestly, I walked (and walk) alone all over the place by night. I have never had a problem, even when I was young and wore dresses and heels every single day. I think that in many parts of the country (basically, outside cities with New York... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 13 days ago

It's funny - I thought this piece was pretty good, and frankly, not to put too fine a point on it, I'm a queer person who came out late and had a lot of problems identifying what I wanted. I could easily see myself having drifted into an... [more]
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MeFi comment - 13 days ago

so the government will subsidize those items....in a punitive, half-assed, still-insufficient way that allows their cronies to skim off the top and justifies endless invasive "nudging" of the lives of the poor.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Do not quit. Do not quit. Nope nope nope. I've been through this temp agency stuff. Your first assignments will be the yuck assignments that that no one wants - partly because they don't know what kind of a worker you are. If you quit this,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

There are a couple of things that seem to turn up in answers to this type of question that bug me a little - 1. How much work should a relationship be? Honestly, I know a bunch of non-readers with whom, if we were the only queer/genderqueer... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I think it will become clear fairly quickly if this is going to work or not - give it a few more months. I once broke up with a smart, non-intellectual person because we didn't have enough in common...and it was exactly that. We didn't... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Actually, one thing I notice about a lot of post-collapse dystopias - they are really utopias because the Big Intractable Bad (global capitalism, the surveillance state) has broken down. Small groups of local heroes can overthrow the local... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Rare, interesting, awesome dance tracks needed!
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Ask MeFi post - 2 weeks ago

And it's worth considering that in the US, at least, straight dudes are not expected to be the objects of desire. The straight male body is very often framed as disgusting, something that women put up with - the official narrative that... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Perhaps we need to two lego administrators sets - one contains secretaries, accountants and the person who makes sure that your equipment line is backed out of the indirect costs (there aren't quite enough of those sets to go round, which is why the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Oh, always bring spare gloves in the winter - pick up, at minimum, a couple of the $1 stretchy pairs from Target. For one thing, you can share them and for another you never know when you'll need them. (I think that some of this "make sure... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Oh, so cute! Their tiny plastic grant budget problems!!! When the lego adminstrators set comes out, they can have one where the Lego administrators eyeball the lecture nibbles and consider the number of attendees at the start of of the lecture... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

You could consider teaching abroad, after some preparation. I taught composition at several fairly good colleges in mainland China and could easily have parlayed that into teaching composition plus literature/reading-difficult-texts. Most people... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Maybe the heterosexual dynamics are different. But in my experience with men, it's more than possible to stare at one's partner and be blown away by how beautiful they are without said action being dehumanizing or leading to sexual coercion. I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

(I would be shocked - like, really, worldview-upendingly shocked - if the Sherlock showrunners build in an overt romantic relationship. Partly because I am An Old, relatively speaking, and partly because I think that they can make a lot of money by... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

A red clip meant “leave me alone.” A green clip, and you’d soon be making friends. This is so brilliant. I wish I could wear such kind of clips for everyday interactions. The whole "old fans versus new" thing really... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

(The thing is, if your relationship is such that "if you loved me you would have sex with me right now regardless of what you want or how you feel" is primary way of getting sex, you have a bad relationship. There are all kinds of ways to... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I am not a doctor, I am not your doctor and I think going to the urgent care is a good idea. At the same time, that is a very unusual location for a deep vein thrombosis, since it doesn't seem to be over one of the major deep leg veins. It's... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

At some point in the aftermath, did a reporter ever go back to the clerk who called the cops and ask him why he was being a racist jagoff? It's a minor footnote, but all (justified) cop-blaming here is letting someone else off the hook. I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Particularly hilarious Soviet cartoon about movie making
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MetaTalk post - 2 weeks ago

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