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This is leaving aside those of us, however, who can't afford to buy a pair for $300 all at once, have no vision plan, and if those break, we can't drive or carry out basic daily functioning. I buy several pairs at once from Zenni and have the... [more]
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My last dozen pairs have all cost me less than $30, lenses included. The focus on Warby has also struck me as strange, since it's not the first with the business model and not even close to the cheapest. Just goes to show what a little PR can do... [more]
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Here is a thing (and I think I may do this myself, although my family didn't arrive until after the Civil War - but we benefited materially from racism and Jim Crow because we had less economic competition and a clear narrative about whiteness as... [more]
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Is your roommate (is this college and you share a room? or is this a housemate?) an anxious person? I could certainly see a situation where you have an uptight/judgy/provincial/anxious college roommate wished on you by student services. If that's... [more]
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Yeah, they'll make a fortune on those boots, I bet. They're probably all union-made, US-made and they're a style that's super fashionable right now. I don't know - I wouldn't buy shoes that old. Everyone is all "oh, good shoes last for a... [more]
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I'm always reminded of what Doris Lessing wrote about her observations of the Second World War: that everyone was having a great time. The down side was that you could be killed, if you were an actual soldier, RAF pilot, etc - but outside of the... [more]
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If I were you, I'd try to do some thinking (possibly with a therapist) about your extremely narrow spectrum of attraction. When it's that narrow, and that troubling to you, this suggests that what underpins the attractions isn't healthy. (I... [more]
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See, I have Saphir renovateur. I have renovateur-ed a variety of items. And I still wouldn't buy fifty year old shoes without handling them first, no matter how goodyear welted they were - especially fifty year old shoes that hadn't been... [more]
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I think it would be great if we could have discussions about this stuff where the conversation wasn't derailed when people who bother to ask questions and seek discussion are passive-aggressively told they're too stupid to participate and that... [more]
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Actually, if I can post an email from My Partner The Culturally Danish Danish-American: Okay, here are some other things: 1. When we look critically at the relative social position of people of Scandinavian descent, it's important to recognize... [more]
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You've never heard "dumb Swede" jokes? I mean, sure, there's not real, ongoing prejudice against Swedes or Norwegians now, but a lot of them settled the Midwest, and I can't help but wonder if the stereotypes of the strong, taciturn... [more]
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My, isn't this a friendly thread to be a Dane in. I'll just fuck off now. My partner is a Dane. I have been to Danish cultural events. "Filthy Danes" is a quote, in fact, from a Danish TV show - said by the Swedish villain, which... [more]
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Doesn't this echo back to LogicalDash post, Cultural appropriation is what you call the reuse of other cultures' symbols when you disapprove of it. No, it means that I am queer and I work a union gig which I am fucking lucky to have - and... [more]
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Tell that to a medieval woman who couldn't get a dowry. Socioeconomically, in the West's history some women certainly were forced to join monastic orders. And during many of our own various inquisitions and witch hunts, women certainly were killed... [more]
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Given that Otzi the Iceman, a European from ~3,300 BC has tattoos, I'd say tumblr is a bit off on that one. The thing is, tattooing as a modern Western practice by white people is pretty clearly traceable to maritime contact with Polynesian... [more]
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So wait, you didn't choose to cancel it, someone "up the ladder" chose to cancel it? Why are you on the hook financially for this? If the people up the ladder are refusing to pay any compensation to your friend, it's certainly... [more]
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Consider the cruise ship piece, which I liked a lot. Every anecdote is about how pointless the available activities are, and how simple obvious things you'd do with a boat -- start the engine, chum for sharks -- are unexplained or impossible.... [more]
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Once you've been there a year or so, you'll probably start to have some more intellectual energy - or at least, I've found that to be the case. It definitely is a trade-off, though. Sometimes I really regret not becoming an academic, because... [more]
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Now that I think about it, here's what I find the difference between Ellis and Wallace to be (leaving aside, you know, differences of style): Wallace is project-driven. Wallace wants people to strive to better themselves in this extremely... [more]
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What is your reasoning for not wanting her to go to the wedding with you? That would clarify a lot of stuff. Is it just that you're looking forward to it and being responsible for her will be stressful and cramp your style? Or that she tends to... [more]
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O hai, I have almost exactly this problem with the exception of not being an academic librarian (although that sounds like a perfect job). I wear: pants from the Gap, mostly - right now the tapered-leg ones. The "skinny mini" ones... [more]
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Stick it out for four years. You can use that half pay as your base for going to LA (or wherever) and finding cool part-time/entry-level/specialized work. Or stick it out for four years and go back to school somewhere cheap, then start over doing... [more]
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The more I think about this, the more I think that the only way to handle it is to assume the best of the guy - he's not actually a cheating type, he's having some weird identity crisis, he would actually be horrified if he ended up cheating and... [more]
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Would a woman who tried to kill her ex-girlfriend ever be so publicly and passionately lauded as a valiant defender of womens' rights because hey, look, she's totally great and trustworthy aside from that whole pesky "attempted murder"... [more]
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You really go through life thinking stuff like this? And sometimes saying it out loud? Even worse that than! I've been known to read books which make these arguments! And have conversations with friends in which they talk about their... [more]
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Also, I thought that Miley Cyrus in a baggy unicorn costume (which for some reason I remembered as a rabbit costume) video to be one of the creepier white-person-cultural-appropriation videos I've seen. Like, let's take twerking - which is about... [more]
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I've reread Frowner's comment several times trying to see what I missed and I can't see how Frowner is NOT saying that if a white person wants to attend a Big Freedia show they are probably racist. If you thought Frowner was joking I would draw... [more]
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The lovemaking was as desperately hot as it was desperately heartbreaking. We were both so thin, so battered, so covered in both fresh and aging scars. “We look so beautiful,” Keri said, catching a glimpse of our bodies in the mirror as she rode... [more]
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Making a "grand bargain" with a bunch of corporations is no bargain at all. We know that a "bargain" with corporations basically means "let's give you tax incentives; once you've wrung everything you can out of us, you'll... [more]
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Don't you think when we get to this point (I mean, the author of the linked piece is a young white woman who is criticizing white people for not liking certain aspects of black popular culture while at the same time criticizing another young white... [more]
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However, his actions sound like a guy who is not in love with you, and isn't yet your partner. He doesn't say he loves you. He doesn't act like he loves you. He isn't especially solicitous of your welfare. This may change over time, and it may not.... [more]
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Some things I would be interested in on this topic: 1. More specifics about whiteness, masculinity, "authenticity". I mean, I know a lot of trendy white people in their twenties, and they are mostly obsessive Big Freedia fans - this in... [more]
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I have been told that it is the new "list from your phone" thing - a lot of people who don't know what they're doing list things very quickly and the mere quickness of the process tempts people to be sloppy. I've noticed this too.... [more]
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This all brings back how shocked, shocked I was that my random senior year roommate in college (random because some changes in plans meant that my previous roommate arrangements fell through) had a poster of some boy band she'd never heard... [more]
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I had an immense poster for Todd Haynes' "Poison". I worked for a the sort of movie theater that sold espresso, and was unbearable. I would totally have killed for that poster. I think I would have been unbearable if I... [more]
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My first apartment? Well, technically my first apartment was so very small that all the wall space was either radiator, door or bookshelf. My first posters were one of Morrissey back before I knew how racist he was and one from that... [more]
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-You never bathed, were always drunk. "on my" you think "how little things have changed." Oh gosh, I had a Crass poster. I'd forgotten that. It was the blow-up doll one. My terrible secret as a punk is that I... [more]
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I think there's a lurking class and accessibility question here - like, where the hell did people get all these amazing art posters? We had a very narrow selection vended by some pothead-looking dudes, and then I later had occasional trips to... [more]
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The "note to redditors" is hilarious but also very sad. What a great list! I am going to share it with an SF class I facilitate. Happy to see Aliette De Bodard on there - she is a really terrific and very unusual writer.... [more]
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Here is what I would suggest: a good therapist. You need to work through this stuff - where do your feelings of ugliness come from? Why do you hang out with such fucking jackasses? (That "and they are disgusted by my sex life" thing -... [more]
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You're doing literature, so you'll be on the west bank? Or the east? If you're on the west (you'll know it because it's the side with the colorful sixties apartment towers) you could go to the Hard Times for lunch. The Hard Times is a legend, an... [more]
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At the 2008 Republican National Convention in Minneapolis, police conducted peremptory raids on the homes of protesters before the convention had even started. Police broke into the homes of people known to be activist rabble-rousers before they... [more]
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It's funny - I tend to be most interested in an intellectual tradition which is skeptical of the enlightenment and the unified subject, tends to decry virtually everything that has actually been achieved in terms of social justice as being reformist... [more]
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I once volunteered at a place where we found a single bedbug - virtually certainly a hitchhiker from a client who lived in an apartment owned by our local slumlord. We did not get an infestation. It is possible. (What's more, I bet we had other... [more]
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This turned into a total bunfight (I am a fan of Graeber's work and read CT, so I saw it in real time). What I felt was going on under the surface was really a clash of two world views - the technocratic liberal CT house position and Graeber's... [more]
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"Alpha children wear grey. They work much harder than we do, because they're so frightfully clever. I'm really awfully glad I'm a Beta, because I don't work so hard. And then we are much better than the Gammas and Deltas. Gammas are stupid.... [more]
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Kickstarter always strikes me as being heavily mythologized - like, "all it takes to do a complex project is money and a dream!!!" and "we can ipso facto do things better than the Big Guys, with their infrastructure, institutional... [more]
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I was kind of hoping that he jumped in on the side of the sperm whales. Not as some kind of neutral observer of nature's murderers attacking the gentle, hippie giants of the seas. Tsk.... [more]
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God, I'm old. I saw Clueless with a friend while home from college for the summer. I thought it was great, actually. On technical points it glorifies wealth and bad values in general....but so does Emma, and Emma has always... [more]
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Ammonite, by Nicola Griffith, a sorta-classic adventure story with a mystery and a lesbian society. One of the best escapist-adventure-y SF novels I've read. Triton, by Samuel Delany. Also his novel Stars In My Pocket Like Grains Of Sand - that... [more]
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