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That looks like a wider shoe could help, but that particular style where the two sides lace up very close together high on the throat of the shoe - that's really difficult for high arches and insteps, in my experience of both. It's sad, sad, sad. An… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I was thinking about this thread earlier. I used - before I had any friends who did sex work - to feel that sex work was a particularly invasive kind of work, presented particular problems separate from routine misogyny, etc. I think what… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

It has always killed me how a lot of my female peers (well, preppy women who were in sororities, mostly) have worked really hard to maintain the same looks they had at 18 and 19 years old--and they do look great, honestly--and ended up marrying… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Okay, yes, looting is bad for the neighborhood in which it happens. Is everyone who handwrings about that going to kick down money or labor to rebuild stuff? If they [not so much people in this thread but the outside world] are so upset about that… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Also, maybe make a list for yourself - mentally or on paper - of the situations you consider dire enough to help out with. Obviously with your kids it's a bit different, but if you can say to yourself "I will give people money for [X type of… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Cops always abandon dangerous fucking jobs. I mean, if there's one thing I've noticed about protests, and one thing I've noticed about my heavily policed neighborhood, it's that the vulnerable groups are the ones the cops pick on. May I never… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Never, never give a exit interview in which you complain about anyone above you on the food chain. I have a friend who got very badly burned doing this, even though the malfeasance was substantial and had driven away several key employees… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

There's a world of difference between someone working sixty or seventy hours a week in interesting work that is respected and someone working sixty hours a week in boring work where you're treated badly and looked down on. Boredom, being treated… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I guess that's what bothers me the most about all this. Modern Social Justice has become, basically "Try to figure out who is the underdog in the situation and support them. Figure out who the Oppressor is and attack them". But all of… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Oh, but if their protests have actual results, that's bad, right - you can protest a speaker as much as you like, but only as long as everyone recognizes that your protest will never change anything. [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Some of us, of course, are just highly educated people who aren't getting funneled into creative or elite work; we're just working class people who have admin gigs because that's the way the ball bounces. Some of us - by which I mean me - just about… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

I don't get it... why would you cook the onions that long? A few minutes in oil with garlic before the meat goes in the pan seems perfectly fine to me. Carmelized onions are very sweet, often a bit sticky and don't taste much like onions… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

But okay, look, the moon does not belong just to the US, or just to Carnegie Mellon. The moon does not belong just to people with internet access and the right set of cultural connections to participate in this. It's a nominally… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

Yeah, de gustibus and all, but a religio-communist peasant movement motivated by an apocalyptic vision of justice sounds about as appealing as sitting down to listen to an ICP record. When it comes to communist utopias, I prefer my justice… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 weeks ago

He has been seeing an effective counselor for thirty days and he wants to quit? That is not enough time to make lasting, global changes, although it might be enough time to deal with a single, well-defined stress point. Honestly, that… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Why should our legacy be sanitized and approved by committee? Why don't we want actual, real people's thoughts up there? Isn't ancient Greek graffitti just as interesting and authentic as their statues? For example? This isn't Virgin Galactic… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Also, it doesn't matter if he wants you to stay. He's not willing to stick to a pretty simple thing - medium term therapy with a good therapist. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Janelle Monae's Dance or Die. And the last part of Q.U.E.E.N.: Are we a lost generation of our people? Add us to equations but they'll never make us equal She who writes the movie owns the script and the sequel So why ain't the stealing… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

This is like the Worst Version of science fiction. Private rocket ships are going to the Moon, where they will scribble internet garbage on its surface FOREVER, because great human artistic impulse. I mean seriously, the moon shouldn't just be… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Women's shoes? You want to figure out how to get shoes made by the old UK shoemakers - Tricker's and Crockett Jones in particular, both of which have women's lines that are hard to find in the US. If you have biggish feet and can wear the fancier… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I three have met zero people on Tinder, possibly because I have never used Tinder, although perhaps this would be true even if I did use Tinder. But is it just for straight people? All the essays I've read about it are by straight people. [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

So now, there's a part of me that says "you've been this 'you' for so long, you don't need to transition." But when I see guys who've chosen it, I feel this jealousy and anger: "Why do they get to be themselves and I can't? It's… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Also apparently when some Camp Trans activists were sold tickets to Mich Fest after identifying themselves, they were instantly harassed and the youngest girl - who was 16!!! - was yelled at and threatened by a group of grown women who should… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Although I should add that it's an interesting essay and I would gladly accept $90,000 - 110,000 a year to be the ninja of personal assistants. [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

"Overzealous feminist women attack infant for being male" sounds way more like a story of "feminazi womyn" boogeymen than a real event. It does except when you read about a bunch of grown women shouting… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

That "repeating the cycle" article is fantastic - it's a long essay that links the history of lesbian exclusion in feminism to trans exclusion and then goes into a long history of just how the MWMF became actively anti-trans… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Well hey, I'll weigh in on this as a....hm....I guess sometimes I describe myself as butch, sometimes as genderqueer. Back before I got it all sorted out, I used to refer to myself as a butch straight woman. Funnily, in my twenties when I was… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

As someone who is usually (incorrectly) read as a butch lesbian (and thus gets a lot of the same treatment that butch lesbians get), I find the hostility to this essay shown here suuuuuupppper interesting. One thing I've noticed -… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Well, Lyn-Lake is different, and by different I mean "super gentrified". Like, I barely recognize the place and I used to be over there weekly. I recently had a simple but extremely tasty dinner at Tofu House. We got… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Also, have you thought of taking in a show at the Trylon? They seem to have taste that is, like, diametrically opposed to what I want to see, so I don't get over there very often, but it's a charming and delightful and tiny space. Buy your… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I do university admin support. Everyone's reports are always late. Unless these are reports which are essential to the immediate function of the school or to continued receipt of grant money (ie, if the reports are not submitted by today, you will… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Noooooooo, not even a little bit creepy! Yes, far more people should make things like this! Totes....adorbs. [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Maybe I've been around "too many" genderqueer people, but I found this quite boring and unoriginal. "I'm wearing a green cotton dress" and "I go shopping in the women's department at the GAP"? Who cares. This breaks… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

It strikes me that you have a lot of financial power in this situation - it sounds as though your parents have only what you give them? (I'm sure you feel obligated to give them money, but still, they're out on the street if you don't.) Could you… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I actually get a huge kick out of Karl Lagerfeld. He is the only person in the world who can say that he doesn't like fat people, short people, ugly people or intellectual conversations but still seem like an adorable little troll puppet to me. I… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I get reminded, too, that I am not as full a member of my institution as a straight person - that it's okay to debate my humanity, but that no one is ever interested in or paid for debating the humanity of straight people. [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Dear anyone upset about the idea of being photographed through the window of your home: close your blinds. Where does this stop, though? Do I need to close my curtains during the day (I don't have blinds per se) because someone with a… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I surmise that the vast majority of small children I know socially are not vaccinated - my circles have far more than their fair share of anti-vaxxers, which depresses me. But I've gotten into so many arguments where I am the lone person saying… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

What he is, though, is an absolutely fascinating person who lives life entirely on his own terms. I think he's also a hell of a lot smarter than most give him credit for. Also, kind of intensely tragic and alone. If you have not read The… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I have several webbed toes and an accessory spleen. I also have a damaged painting by a minor pre-Raphaelite painter which I inherited from a relative, although here "have" is used in a different context and this does not reflect any other… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 weeks ago

....Back in the day, there were a bunch of green anarchist dudes who were convinced that fighting each other was a way to build up skills for fighting the man. They had a lot of ideology about toughness, willingness to use violence, etc etc. One… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Also, dude, your job is teaching. Firing a competent teacher because they were once on an optional committee and were late with some reports? That would be looney tunes - think about replacing you, the odds of getting someone competent who is a… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

One thing that I hope your daughter will pick up in some way, whether from you or from other resources: it is okay, and can even be healthy, for her to look at porn/sexual stuff. This issue often gets framed as "men all naturally want… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Is the Yoga song/video taking this piss? I can only say what I see in it, but what I notice immediately: 1. Janelle Monae in her usual position somewhat outside the main narrative of the video, playing the "romantic lead"… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

My family is responsible for unleashing a lot of crazy nonsense on the world and when the revolution comes I will fully accept my spot near the front of the line, just give me a cigarette and a blindfold so I don't have to spend my final minutes… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

I can see why this was necessary for the time, but today's feminism feels so much more comfortable to me. I think it's worth looking closely at "the time". The more I read about feminisms, it seems like there's always been… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

The new video is wonderful. Given that I am a prudish person and definitely not the ideal listener for songs about, like, the allure of someone's yoga pants, that's saying something. Janelle Monae and her collaborators really are… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 weeks ago

Also, very honest question: Is spending $130 on slacks or $240 on a jacket generally considered normal, for professional wear? I have not even once spent more than $5-7 on a pair of pants, so this concept is very foreign to me. However, I would… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

Boys under five were/are able to attend the festival with their mothers; boys from 5 - 10 are enrolled in a day camp thing called "Brother Sun" and I believe boys over 10 are not allowed. To be totally fair, I know someone who worked… [more]
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MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

I think that - absent some significant mitigating factors that you do not describe - your husband and your husband's friend are actually doing things that would make anyone insecure. They would make people feel insecure in an ordinary… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 4 weeks ago

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