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I don't think those tweets are especially nonsensical - they seem precisely like what a smart kid with smart parents would tweet if he lived a life of great economic privilege but was not from a right-wing/one-percenter background. I think they're… [more]
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I work around lab researchers. I've seen a lot of situations sort of like yours. My first guess is that your new position is hung up in HR and you probably don't need to worry but you do need to nudge New PI. If your place is like mine, HR… [more]
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one where my boyfriend had passed away I'd suggest looking at this in therapy. If I understand correctly, you were in a relationship and your boyfriend died. That's fairly serious. And then you got into this relationship which got much… [more]
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I am old enough to recall the frivolously expensive purchases of my youth. The ones that I would make again:' 1. Nice knives; I still have knives I bought at 19/20 with birthday money. 2. Nice pots and pans - I've had many of my pans for… [more]
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That sounds great, Frowner. It would be nice if fiftysomethings voted like they wanted to join forces with young people instead of voting, like, the opposite of that. Look, 47% of the fiftyish people voted for Obama and tend to vote… [more]
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What are typical things associated with your anxiety? Does walking alone bring up anxiety-related stuff, like a feeling of danger or too much "in the body" feelings? Walking alone in the daytime (when I'm visible!) makes me really anxious,… [more]
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In a dorm, you're sharing a room. In an apartment you won't be. (Or you shouldn't - those situations are wonderfully cheap but don't work out well.) I had mediocre roommate experiences in college (even with people I liked) but I love living in a… [more]
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At my 20th high school reunion I confessed to a woman that I had a crush on her in 4th grade. You wouldn't think something like that would still horrify someone, but you'd be wrong. And this sort of thing is why I would rather gnaw off a… [more]
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The thing is, if you're not in the kind of social world where there are people who do sex work, you've gotten nothing but messages about how bad/freaky/broken sex workers are and how their work unfits them for "normal" relationships. That's… [more]
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I much, much prefer to hang out with friends one-on-one, and I find threes especially difficult to deal with (in bigger groups, there are usually several conversations going on at once). I don't think there's anything wrong with saying… [more]
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I wish we could separate "jeans that do not flatter the body" from "things that remind us of mothers". I really dislike that whole "of course moms are frumpy and boring and have bad taste and are not sexy, and of… [more]
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Just in case: I really didn't mean "check your privilege for wanting a job you don't hate". I meant much more "it's easy to judge yourself really harshly for not being able to get a job you don't hate, and that's not realistic… [more]
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I assume that you are happy in this relationship in many ways and I assume that you're a pretty together person if you're in such a good law school. However, even very together young women can believe that it's appropriate for them to be… [more]
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There's other good advice in this thread, and I'm all about trying to have a meaningful life, and god knows that's generally not in a non-profit. But something that helps me a little bit (I have a secretarial job with great insurance; if I'm lucky I… [more]
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There is some hilarity, for me, in the fact that this woman apparently experiences her life as one of abnormal, invisible fatness and homeliness while still being thin, blond and white. I'm not sure if this is because she's had a run of bad luck,… [more]
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Okay, all else aside: the average American watches five hours a day of TV? Really? Where do they find the time? Who are these people? Is it skewed really high by retired people? Even in my most miserable depressed period (student teaching!)… [more]
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What I worry about isn't so much just getting an infection (although that worries me plenty); I worry about how much more dangerous surgery is going to become, and cancer treatment, and everything that lowers your resistance. [more]
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I try to leave out the parts people skip. I really like that - almost but not quite a paradox. The thing is, it takes intelligence and skill to write successful schlock - it took me a long time to realize that. [more]
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Low rents and high living; devastating personal problems; out in Camden every night, tight as a boiled owl. Oh my god, this was such a great essay. I mean, it's a jeremiad, but this guy - he's a few years older than me, and he's got it,… [more]
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"My wife is not attractive". That's cold. Holy crap, that's cold. If I found out that my partner flatly referred to me as "not attractive", I'd....well, it would be the start of the end of it all. Honestly, if I were you,… [more]
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A 10-mile bike ride to work or the store is absolutely doable for physically capable adults (not so much for people with physical disabilities), and not strenuous at all with a few gears. Shitty in midwest winters, but still another option that… [more]
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In theory, it means they will inventory his belongings, put them in secure storage, and give him a receipt that he can use to claim his stuff when he has a place to go. Indeed. In theory they do this; in actual fact, it can be difficult to… [more]
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I love having the option to move far away and happily availed myself of it. But more and more I realize that for many, even most, people it's weird and can be severely disruptive. The endlessly relocatable worker-cog ideal aside, you can end up in… [more]
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Frowner, I don't see anyone here arguing that anyone's pensions should be taken away. I would love to see a resurgence of pensions. But everyone is always saying the equivalent of "look at those spoiled older people living in luxury -… [more]
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(Also, it just seems insane to me, the amount of ressentiment in this whole discourse - "oh, I hate working class blue collar democrat baby boomers because their union got them a pension deal, what can I do to help the Republicans and our… [more]
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Wow. How incredibly clever. I am blown away. [more]
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I really like this. It's like a really good fanzine from the nineties somehow. [more]
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Let's take bacon as an example... 30 to 45 minutes or so with a coffee maker, but five to seven minutes with a stove. Sometimes people are like "Oh, you must be stupid... Don't you realize that it's much more efficient to cook with a stove!!!?… [more]
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I would not do this, personally. First, given how the economy is and how it seems likely to be, I think it's really unwise to abandon steady, well-paying work with no clear employment plan. Second, you're going to California, which is… [more]
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Do take note that she cooks a cat with the coffee maker. No joke. It took me a while to be confident that this was a joke (although the photo where she is holding up the "dead" cat is pretty clearly posed, with a surprisingly… [more]
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this is the first miracle he needs for his eventual canonization. can i be appointed as the advocate before the sacred congregation for the causes of saints if i'm not catholic? Obama municipality. [more]
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Maybe (probably) it's because I'm bitter from my own slightly fucked up childhood but anything that has a whiff of "this is not your problem, dear, this is MOMMY'S problem. See how much more mommy suffers!" just creeps me out a bit… [more]
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This was a great essay - thank you for linking it! I'm especially interested in serious amateur scholarship like this. And the writing style was, I thought, very good - fluid and distinctive without being affected or cloying. [more]
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He sounds like a doofus and a bad fit - early in a relationship, it's appropriate to praise everything to the skies (as honestly as possible, of course) even if it's not precisely your favorite art form/food/etc. You sound like you… [more]
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The Forbidden City is actually right next to Beihai Park, which is Very Large For That Type Of Thing. The Forbidden City itself, IMO, seems much bigger than it is. I've biked past and around it many times (sadly, not in recent years) and walked… [more]
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One weekend day can be a "work day" - I do ALL THE THINGS on Saturdays. I get up around 7, go for a bike ride, stop at the grocery store on the way home, do laundry and dishes, clean stuff and take care of any administrivia, bake some… [more]
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I just want to come back in and say that I am angry at your mom. I mean, I am really angry. She threatened to kick her daughter out for being gay - that is super, super shitty. I've known plenty of terrible parents who wouldn't stoop… [more]
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On the other hand, this makes me feel great about having a pink collar "career" in a large midwestern city. "At least I don't need to attract venture funding and I have my own house with my own room and everything, and I don't… [more]
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China Mieville's novel The Scar has, like, two big upending plot reveals plus an amazing set piece of an Epic Geologic Thing that upends your expectations even though not the characters'. [more]
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I also thought about this more (on the way to work, no less) and I wanted to add, anarchist husband: In addition to consulting our wishes, beliefs and dreams, I think that as anarchists we have to be aware of our weaknesses, both individual and… [more]
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I hate to say this, but we had a medium-large silver maple removed from between our house and the neighbors' and the bill was $4600. Our initial estimate was $6000 and the guy was able to figure out a way to use a cheaper kind of crane and a large… [more]
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I keep find myself thinking about the brutal and miserable life of farm laborers (so brutal and miserable, in fact, that it looks pretty bad even in light-hearted and nostalgic books like All Creatures Great and Small) and I imagine a… [more]
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You poor kid. I'm so sorry that all this stuff has happened. I know it can be so, so hard to reconcile seeing our parents as real people who - on one level - did their very best to raise us and were just human people with flaws, and on the other… [more]
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The thing is, a LOT of humor by an oppressed group about the oppressors is pretty rough-and-tumble. If you're an oppressor-class person who isn't awful, you may well feel bad. I mean, all those "white women are such ugly mayo-faces who think… [more]
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"What's surprising is that we find that most people seem to endorse hierarchy when they think they're attractive and oppose it when they think they're not," Belmi said. It all depends on whose ox is gored - that's the great… [more]
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As I recall the episode (-and, true I haven't read the Hyphen article) the gist of what the episode was about wasn't defending 'Truth'. It was about demonstrating how difficult the concept of truth in fact is and how 'Truth' basically doesn't… [more]
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Okay, I can tell you something from within the radical left, based in many years of experience: No matter what Fox says or how the media tries to spin it, there is absolutely zero fucking traction on the left for mass violence… [more]
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A lot of travel looks just like the postcard and you're not missing that much if you don't see it in person. Honestly, there are five-minute sights. I've been to a couple of Famous Chinese Places (ruins, mostly, and god knows, the… [more]
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Another thing that occurs to me - this dude might very well be an academic bioinformatician whose specialty is something that is not at all related to predicting AD. Academic specialties are....pretty specialized. And sometimes people who… [more]
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I enjoyed the Harry Potter books, but there's nothing in them that, to my eye, suggests that Rowling had the kind of meticulous, detailed world-building in mind when she wrote them that many of the books' fans want to speculate about. That is, I… [more]
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