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If it was the female version in underwear wouldn't we just be doing a riff on objectification? Perhaps. As far as I know, though, there isn't some kind of forced choice where "sculpture of a white person in underwear, choose male or… [more]
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It's not even so much that "oooh, everyone will be triggered every time they walk by the statue". It's that when you place a statue in a public space, you're making a choice of that particular statue instead of others. You're… [more]
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Also this kind of sorta-squick realistic/parody art bugs me because I think there's this assumption that everyone everywhere always needs to be made uncomfortable in public spaces. That's one reason I'm not into this kind of exhibit - it… [more]
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I think that on some level, I've made the unconscious decision that I don't think I want to have a child that matures inside of an increasingly unhealthy body, who's going to be passively eating processed crap because of his/her mother's poor… [more]
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I could take Frowner's Scotland trip for half her quoted price. And I probably wouldn't choose Scotland as a destination, when a flight to Central America is half the price. But Frowner doesn't have to travel the way I travel. How? I… [more]
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I love William Gibson and Bruce Sterling, but I wish they didn't have to be so goddamn right all the time, the future is here and it's scary and weird. I was actually just thinking that I loathe Neil Stephenson with a red-hot fiery… [more]
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While I'd say that covering airfare is not the hosts' responsibility, it's also important for hosts to accept that guests may not be able to afford airfare and not get upset. That's the thing that frustrates me about expensive weddings - not so much… [more]
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Wow, 100 grams of sambal oelek contains about 48 fucking percent of one's recommended maximum daily sodium intake. On the other hand, your average sambal oelek jar contains 221 grams - and while I'm sure some enthusiasts could consume half… [more]
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On another note: perhaps I'm just feeling my age, but it's weird to look at this article (these dudes are only about four years older than me), see the photo from 1996, think "yes, that's just how everyone looked, I think I even had that… [more]
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Gentrification is a funny thing, and I feel like it can only be tackled at the structural level. I assume that there's a small number of people who have enough money that they have a very wide range of choices in housing and food - people who can… [more]
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If this were me, I would fudge the truth a little bit and - the next time she starts advising you - I would say, "Oh, I don't want to talk about nutrition, I think about it all the time anyway" and then change the subject. Don't make it… [more]
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Here's a thing: at certain times of my life, I've been successful with a "Six days of the week are No [Thing] days but one day of the week is a [Thing] day". On Thing day, I buy only so much Thing as I can reasonably consume that day,… [more]
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I interpreted that as "being very concerned with searching for motive is a Western thing" not "motive itself is a Western thing", which would be pretty silly unless you meant "everything is Western except the Dao" - like,… [more]
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Oh, you should read Nicola Griffith's novel Ammonite (adventures of anthropologist on The Planet of Women Only Due To Mysterious Past Event). And Peter Beagle's incredibly, insanely, unjustly underrated The Folk of The Air (adventures… [more]
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Yeah, 'cause governments have consistently proven themselves much more trustworthy than corporations throughout history. And they have guns. The thing is, government-funded research works differently than corporate research - the… [more]
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My cat went through a phase of doing something similar - she would attack my feet if they were bare (sometimes I sleep in socks) and stuck out from under the blankets. I have no idea why, but she got bored after a while and stopped. I think that… [more]
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Are you going on actual dates? I feel like there's two pieces here: First, the idea that self-worth is both highly contingent and consistent across milieux - ie, the idea that when you were fat and had no career you obviously… [more]
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You're getting older, and as you get older a lot of people around you will get wiser. That whole "I am only into you as long as you don't love me back" thing is much more common among younger folks with less relationship experience,… [more]
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When I was in high school there were these two punk girls - one in my grade and one a couple of grades down - and their mom let them have their hair however they wanted. Their mom did some stuff with my girl scout troupe back when I was in girl… [more]
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Leaving all conversations aside, I spent perhaps on hour playing with these world map quizzes and I feel like it really sorted out some geographical confusion for me. Am I totally sure exactly which is Lithuania, which is Latvia and which is Estonia… [more]
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(I add that if I wanted to go to Scotland with a partner - so that it wasn't just me alone - that would be, like, a $5000 minimum, otherwise known as several months' gross wages. I'm not saying it's impossible, but it's a pretty frivolous… [more]
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In Western Australia, Bali has been the traditional bogan holiday as long as I can remember. Considering this is a city with only 1.6 million people in it those passenger numbers are god damn astounding. Perth to Bali is in the region of US$160… [more]
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You interest me strangely, Sara C. Trip insurance on a five day trip to a safe anglophone country is for chumps, and booking six months out is ridiculous. If I were desperate to go to Scotland, I'd start planning this in early October for a… [more]
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I love the moderation here. I used to do a little part time moderation on a small site and it was goddamn hard and I wasn't very good at it, so I find the smoothness and grace of the moderation on metafilter extra impressive. Why, just this morning… [more]
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(People - including me - say "I don't care, I'll be dead by the time climate change is really terrible" because we're fairly sure that there is nothing on god's green earth we can do to prevent it and almost nothing we can do to protect… [more]
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It occurs to me that if large percentages of the population really could break their metabolisms through variable but basically healthy/non-processed diets, we'd have some evidence from history - various nomad/gatherer populations whose diet… [more]
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I know, as I say, lots of anti-vaxxers. Nice people, engaged in the community, smart, creative. Generally people who have had a lot of bad run-ins with the medical establishment or the law or both - people who have been treated very… [more]
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I have had this problem! And it's a two-fold problem, not just yours. Especially when one is young (and it's likely that you are, since the whole "you are so condescending with your big words and everything" bit is something one is more… [more]
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I think you should take the job. There were two points in my young day when I turned down "unsuitable" jobs and each time, it made things harder. (And that wasn't in the recession.) It didn't destroy my life or smash up my relationships,… [more]
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I'd be interested to hear from anyone in the know about where/whether people were rehoused and whether the privatization of the flats (in 2002 - well before they were knocked down) affected anything. In the US, at least, when social housing is… [more]
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Believe me, it's horrible. My mother has a rare form of early onset dementia. We've been very fortunate in terms of my family's ability to care for her, she has suffered far less than many people do - and it's still unbearably bad. Whenever… [more]
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I should add here that I've a problem with anxiety - I've seen therapists in the past though I've never stuck through with treatment, as bad a reflection on my character as that is. Why don't you stick with treatment? What could be… [more]
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I'm confident that this guy will do well - and it certainly looks like his interests and focus merit Ivy admission - but that essay doesn't strike me as particularly well-written or insightful. Mostly it says to me "here is someone who -… [more]
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Okay, first, OMG, where did you get those grey boots with the ghillie lacing and the holes? Here is what I would do: I would wear the grey flats because I think those look best with that dress, but I would sneak the boots along in the… [more]
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( I add that when I eat what all the calculators say should be maintenance for someone of my activity level and weight, I gain weight. Even when I was eating 800 calories a day every day for a year while exercising a lot, back in my teens, I did not… [more]
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I add that if Janet does get rabies prophylaxis, having it at your doctor's office and not the ER lowers your costs a lot. Re the story linked in mr vino's comment - those costs are bizarre and atypical. I'm not sure if that's a regional… [more]
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I've had rabies shots after exposure to a bat. It was Not That Bad. I had two shots in the ER - the first regular shot and the large immunoglobulin shot, which was miles less uncomfortable than I expected. I had the other two shots at my doctor's… [more]
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A counterpoint: the second photo is cute! I mean, you're a bit too young and way out of my league looks-wise - and in New York! - but I think it's nice to have a non-make-up, non-party photo. Profile reads as a bit hyperactive to me, maybe… [more]
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"Ideological diversity" doesn't mean "hire contrarian [member of group] who cozies up to the right". That's either extreme privilege, cluelessness or tokenism going on - Klein probably hasn't bothered to familiarize himself with… [more]
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The American, without really being able to explain it, insisted on an entirely massive double-door thing, and would not allow it to be covered to look like the rest of the kitchen. I've seen pictures of really nice, fancy kitchens where… [more]
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Latkes - actually I was thinking about this and it might be nice to have a post on the blue with some good links about some of the whole "gender presentation/masculinity/misogyny/privilege" business. There's so much there - how to talk… [more]
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I mean, I'm not actually "a masculine gendered woman"; what I am mostly is a fat person who has trouble being touched, that's a far more accurate and important statement about my embodiment than anything specific to gender. I'm usually… [more]
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but I'm curious about why the second topic should be verboten Because it moves the discussion from how a particular group of queer people become visible through clothing choices to a general "if only we didn't have gendered… [more]
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Just for information's sake: ways that I, a white person who is frequently read as a butch woman, am invisible/hypervisible: People sometimes just plain old look away. I am sometimes in situations where people are embarrassed by me or for me… [more]
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Could we not turn this into a referendum on the reality of this woman's experience or a diatribe about how awful clothes are? For preference, I would rather not talk about how the company's dress code is illegal - butch women (or people like me who… [more]
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Oooh, everyone should read the Berlin comics by Jason Lutes. Although since they have been coming out at longer and longer intervals since 1996 I'm not sure they'll ever be finished, which makes me sad. But there are several simply great queer… [more]
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Perhaps, too, as an anarchist I can say this: capitalism is popular because, in part, it makes life better and easier. It also makes life worse and crueler and in the main I do not care for it, but the anti-technology strain in this kind of article… [more]
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I just had another listen to "Tubthumper" and it occurred to me, first, that it is basically "Timebomb" (which is off their last "non-sell-out" album) recast in a more melancholy mode - "Timebomb" is about… [more]
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I am frequently read as a woman. I am not a woman. I have trans woman friends who are sometimes read as men when they are not men. It behooves one to be a bit thoughtful about offering things to "ladies" - if you offer me something… [more]
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The general situation I am looking to avoid is when I stand and embarrass the other person or myself or both when they refuse the seat and I remain standing. So wait, they refuse the seat and you don't sit back down? That's confusing to me… [more]
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