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What do you do if they are?
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Some side observations:
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I know I’m not really all that smart, and I’d prefer people to see me as the average person I am.
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I am a vegan and spend a lot of time with Really Hard Core Vegans (as opposed to the feeble kind who fall off the wagon occasionally and aren't all that fussy about honey, like me) and I have never heard of carob as a "healthier... [
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A thousand pities. It's funny - when I read that story, I think about what it must do to a kid to see his friends die in front of him, to see the bodies after violent death, as happened to this boy. I think about the men I've known who've grown up... [
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I find it pretty difficult to talk about this aspect of hipsterdom--which is pretty trivial and doesn't matter much to, well, anyone when it comes down to it--without talking about the sister crime which comes along with it, namely gentrification... [
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I dunno, phrases like "[THING] increases the black crime rate" seem weird and instrumental somehow.
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I add that chore day works - as long as you put in the project managing to implement it. It really pisses me off that we can all agree that 10am on Sunday is Weekly Time For Two Hours of Chores but I still have to knock on people's doors and get... [
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Also, have a conversation about what you each care about and what you can let go. If your partner doesn't care about getting the dishes washed or the toilet cleaned, that's a problem and he has to belt up; if he doesn't care about dusting once a... [
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If we're almost entirely a population of well-educated young people, often thanks to the efforts of, say, our parents who lived a more conventional lifestyle to get us there--but we refuse to buy into the same system and instead propose to live to... [
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And I add, Serious Living Under Capitalism changes you - you get emotionally involved with your work in middle management at Dreary Industries, Life Insurance Division, and you find yourself yelling at subordinates because their body piercings go... [
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If you want to hold the cops accountable, find a way to make more money and send it to Glenn Greenwald. He's a professional holding-cop-accountable person and he's better at it than you are. And so on and so forth. Every valuable cause,... [
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This is a wonderful kindness - and something I'll look into doing myself - but I wish that we as a nation didn't lean so heavily on private charity/generous people to compensate for inequality, layoffs, poverty, injustice - there simply aren't enough... [
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Right--but many of the gentrifying populations very solidly don't care a whit for protecting displaced populations. This is a case where appropriation--in this case, of a place, and the cheap rents typically enjoyed by those living there--has a... [
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Oh, dude, you should get him Detroit: I Do Mind Dying. Or the new David Graeber, Debt: The First 5000 Years. Or if you're not looking for totally contemporary US history, Peter Linebaugh's Many- Headed Hydra and The London Hanged.
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I don't see them often, but whenever I notice a stop-and-frisk, especially in my neighborhood, I like to observe. Just as an impartial third party, to make sure no one's rights are violated.
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What do you do to exercise your back/upper body? Your chest is
heavy if it's large, as I know from personal experience, and I bet your back pain is coming from back
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I
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You have to wonder how much of this is about our increasingly cut-throat economy and about conformism - parents (like Dias in the first article, who talks about not wanting her son to be an outsider) getting so scared that their kids won't be... [
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This is a great story, but I hate that it starts with one of the most blatant cliches of gender stereotypes. I hate, hate, hate hearing that someone is "all boy." Being "all boy" is always defined as liking culturally... [
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I think you should see a gynecologist or an endocrinologist - or both if needed - who can look more carefully for PCOS and hormone imbalances and who will be open to treating you even if your levels are at one end of the normal range. Also, make... [
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All that "click" means is that there is
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I think texting while driving is incredibly stupid because it's so fiddly, and talking on the phone while driving is probably foolish because IME when one is on the phone in a car one is paying a LOT of attention to the call - whereas when chatting... [
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This mid-thirties queer woman really likes Epileptic, even though it's not about journalists or queer people. It's funny, sharp, dark and has amazing art.
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(The thing is, it's stupid to try to hold up our time-bound, socially and environmentally- conditioned lives as "proof" of something eternal and essential. In a hundred years (assuming that industrial society is around in a hundred years)... [
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Two thoughts:
Have you tried different dating websites? A friend of mine (who is actually kind of chubby and also
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Something I have noticed about myself -
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On that note, Chiune Sugihara, the Japanese consul in Lithuania who hand-wrote thousands of exit visas on his own initiative and against his orders so that Jewish refugees from Poland could travel to/through Japan to escape the Nazis. He was... [
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People get really strange about money after a death. I've seen people I care about basically cheat someone out of a moderate inheritance of property, relying on that person's reluctance to go to court - and that too was a "you each inherit a share... [
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But he's not nerdy! He's a hipster! I mean, nice job and it's funny and all and yes, I concur that he is white, and "kid" is a flexible term (since communist "youth" organizers just need to be under 40)...but he's a hipster!... [
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Emma Goldman, Alexander Berkman - both anarchists who were arrested, imprisoned and ultimately deported for their political activism. You might enjoy Living My Life, Goldman's very frank and interesting memoir. Berkman did a tremendous amount... [
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Do you know anyone who can
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"I See Weak People"
In my dreams? No. In gyms? Yes. Walking around like regular people. They don't see each other. They only see what they want to see. They don't know they're weak.
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Is it possible to care deeply about and be deeply interested in something without turning into a snobby jerk about it? Like, why go through life thinking scornfully of all those people
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Christmas music in the forties and fifties was secular, commercial and consumption/experience-oriented yet wasn't cynical about or critical of Christmas - secular culture was growing stronger but sort of post-Christian secular culture was still... [
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I notice that you're 21 - you are still very, very young although you've been through some big life changes (living on your own, college, serious relationship). When I was 21, I was not good at making friends or at finding places where people like... [
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to be acutely aware that women in general have a much shorter window in which men in general find them attractive
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So I notice that the Very Worst Present In All The Land is a fairly average, not especially "skanky" girl doll with light brown skin who wears fashions not unlike those teen girls have worn since I was a teen back in the dark ages. I feel... [
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I'm reminded of something that happened when I was in high school - something that seems related to the other discussion about Mumia Abu-Jamal.
There was this bully, see. Eddie H----. In retrospect, he was obviously from a messed-up working... [
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Oh, and if "work" is a lab, especially a lab that skews young - jeez, I have seen some really toxic lab groups. (Although I work near a couple of super-nice ones with good, long-term lab managers who are friendly and approachable) If... [
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You know, when some dude claims to be all feminist and sensitive and stuff and basically says "men are naturally so lazy and selfish and incompetent and dirty and women are naturally so clean and pretty and unselfish and helpful"....well, I... [
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When I get up in the morning, for instance, they're already dressed, with their teeth brushed and looking nice. I'm not capable of any of that.
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I've been feeling this way for a while now. In some ways "civility" is simply a weapon of the powerful against the powerless.
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"The end of gay culture" - that depends so much on how you think of gay culture.
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I think it's worth asking what the "Free Mumia" case says about various activist cultures - it certainly has been a knee-jerk kind of thing and a lot of people's commitment to it is pretty shallow. Here's what springs to mind:
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And also, would you say the same of someone who was convicted of raping a child?
If you're going to have courts,
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That is a super
disingenous NY Times article. The Mumia case doesn't make any sense unless you talk about MOVE and Abu-Jamal's previous political work, and about the political climate in Philadelphia prior to the case.
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(That damn "limerance" again - look, we are not machines or Pavlov's dog; we are not compelled to become giddy about someone and then on schedule precisely 18 months later have those feelings transform into boredom. There is this internet... [
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