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Lambert vehemently disputes suggestions that he is motivated by sexism (or racism, as the case may be). He cites principles of Wikipedia categorization: arguing, for example, that huge categories should be broken up and “diffused” because they... [more]
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You have read Peter Beagle's The Last Unicorn, right? Also his The Folk of the Air. Both are very good, gentle, funny, left-leaning, and Folk of the Air, though not perfect, actually has major characters of color in it -... [more]
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That's awful! I mean, first off they want projects to be "groundbreaking" but they don't want actual scientists to peer review them, so "groundbreaking" is presumably subject to all kinds of political hackery. Second,... [more]
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Obviously there's a lot in play, though, and I expect that some of it is misogyny - woman judged harder and expected to be nicer; woman married to heartthrob [heartthrob to some, at least in my circles anyway] Neil Gaiman must be run down as... [more]
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Oh, and you might enjoy Lud-In-The-Mist - it isn't feminist though it's by a woman and its class politics are dreadful, but it is dreamy and strange and has lots of wonderful visual images; truly a tour-de-force of the field - and certainly no... [more]
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I think I will rig up a combination of earplugs and a bigger, better fan (noise cancelling headphones would be great if I wanted to listen to music, but mostly I want to read and I can't concentrate with most kinds of music playing). I was hoping... [more]
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Lisbeth Salander, the heroine of the popular The Girl With a Dragon Tattoo series, is emotionally stunted but, damn it, she actualizes herself! She punishes the people who hurt her, she sleeps with whomever she wishes, she zips around on a... [more]
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Okay, look, I understand that I am late to this thread, but Minneapolis has had banh mi at least as long as I've lived here - so that would be, like, since 1997, courtesy of Vietnamese people living here. Banh mi is just one of life's eternal... [more]
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Blaming one half of the party based on the other half's intentionally vague story doesn't solve anything. It's not even blame, though. It's that it always happens - it's as though I have only to admire a male intellectual or... [more]
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To respond to far upthread: if you haven't read about the miners' strike that was basically Thatcher's defining moment, it's simply unbelievable. Troops, police infiltration, people getting shot - it's like the 1968 Democratic convention, or one of... [more]
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How to drown out neighbors' loud music?
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At least in the 90s, you could see capybara at the Shanghai zoo, pent up in a rather horrible concrete enclosure with a sort of moat. I had never seen any before and had no idea what they were; as we approached they all jumped into the water and... [more]
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Don't get me wrong - I'm all for allowing people who have gender-reassignment surgery switch the bathroom they use. These people have made significant sacrifices to change their lifestyle, so I'm willing to assume good faith on their part.... [more]
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Another couple of things that occur to me: 1. You might ask yourself why trolling sincere anti-racists or anti-homophobes is so funny. Even if someone is all choked up with sincerity or being kind of straight-laced about it, ask yourself why it's... [more]
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The union contract will cover all of this. It will be negotiated to outline volunteer responsibilities and how they differ from paid staff responsibilities. I mean, presumably there is a reason that the paid staff are paid, right? Either most of... [more]
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You can conclude therapy with this person if you want; it's okay. I agree with everyone else that her response was probably much more "I am worried that shiggins thinks I am horrified by her problems and perhaps that I see her mostly as a... [more]
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I had the most depressing conversation with my father recently. My dad has always been sort of a climate optimist - "oh, global warming is happening, but I lived through predictions of Soylent-Green style overpopulation and followed by... [more]
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Your friends would probably be horrified to find that their casual venting had been noticed and had hurt you that way. I know that if I were to find out that a friend had heard some of the casual comments that I might have made, I would feel awful!... [more]
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Is this kind of idiocy really your best response to this kind of situation? OmniWise, I've just realized that I tend to view "people in a less privileged position getting kind of depressed about that situation and speaking with some... [more]
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I find it incredibly depressing that the split turns out to be the result of the male half of the couple having an affair. (One assumes with a younger woman.) I had hoped that it was just, you know, a divorce, not a "famous dude can't... [more]
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It looks European - German or possibly English or Italian - to me, based on nothing but the fact that I used to collect vintage ceramics before the thrift stores around here got too picked over. The English stuff I've seen is more finely detailed... [more]
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I feel like I've noticed some increased anxiety around clothing-conformity in recent years - the thing about how some people will throw out your resume if you interview in nylons and some people will throw out your resume if you interview without... [more]
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But anyway! In retrospect, I recognize that I should not have turned this in the direction it's going! I will personally stop going this direction! And hope others will too, except it would of course be fair for OmniWise to reply. On that note,... [more]
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My sense of this question is that you want permission to break up your marriage but don't want to feel like a bad guy about it. If that's the case, go ahead - no sense in staying married if you aren't into it. But I would do some thinking, myself,... [more]
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I worked for a nonprofit bookstore and they sold things for what they could get for them, which was closely tied to the price of the books online. The store had an Amazon store and entire online order fulfillment department. I worked for a... [more]
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We might look at the past - what about societies where it was pretty normal for many men (a far greater percentage than are considered "gay" in contemporary terms) to have same-sex relations? Obviously, ancient Greece, also samurai Japan,... [more]
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I really like Joanna Russ and Samuel Delany, both SF writers famous for their prose. Russ's canonical, difficult work (not that difficult!) is The Female Man, in which I warn you that she tries to make a subsidiary point about gender in a... [more]
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I might conceivably pay good money to have a Fancy Thing (probably not coffee, as I'm not really fussy about coffee) made by someone at a Fancy Hipster Shop provided that there didn't have to be a lot of ideology associated with it. Like, what about... [more]
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Perhaps. I didn't get that from it though. It read to me like a microcosm of what life in the United States has become for so, so many people. Shitty jobs in service industries with little or no opportunity for advancement or wage increases, for... [more]
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All my supermarket check-outs are "guilt-free", because feeling guilty about food is not helpful. Some days I think "hey, it was entirely nutritionally appropriate to buy what I bought, including that chocolate bar" and... [more]
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Capitalists are such frauds. They appeal to "market logic" when it's for themselves - "oh, we can't offer benefits, we can't afford it!" or whatever - but when people who are not desperate economic refugees refuse to work for... [more]
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I began to feel hurt and to have real doubts about whether we were a good match. I said this to him. He then said it was very important to him to have me in his life, I am special, he likes the reflective conversations we have, but I was blowing... [more]
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What about Finn Comfort? I've seen them and they look like good quality, plus they're made in Europe. I will also plug the non-sandal Trippen Vivienne just in case what you're looking for is merely "sturdy somewhat feminine shoe that can be... [more]
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I kinda chuckle to myself when I see chicks on the subway with huge tattoos of birds on their arms, really hairy legs/armpits, and a short cropped haircut, buzzed in the back and heavily styled in the front. Oh yeah.. the legs and armpits really... [more]
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I know you marked this "answered", but I thought I would add a bit: 1. You're living with a fellow who does not understand that looking for work is work (kind of like a lot of mefites, I guess) and who assumes that because you're... [more]
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So did I totally misread the linked story or did Facebook take down somebody's comments complaining about Fox? That, to me, is actually creepier than the business with the hats. Just now, I was walking back to work from a work-related... [more]
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Yeah - I think the "Thatcher Destroyed Industry" narrative misses where the UK was in 1979. Rampants strikes, blackouts, demarcation, inflation up at 30%. The Labour party was in freefall, and industry was on its knees. But the... [more]
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She was a woman ahead of her time. There's nothing she did that political leaders around the world aren't doing today; they're just doing it in a more stealthy and underhanded manner. At least she was open about it. It's not just that - it... [more]
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Join organizations - whatever grabs you. There are undoubtedly intramural sports teams, film societies, volunteer groups, religious groups - pretty much anything you could want to do, there will be some relevant group on campus. Here is what I... [more]
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I have had this problem! In fact, I'd say this problem defined my romantic life until I was...um...about thirty. Or rather, until I'd had enough relationships to have enough distance for reflection. Here's what I think: I grew up with... [more]
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Here's the thing: as stated, almost everyone has issues with their parents, and almost everyone finds a way to come to terms with that eventually, with or without their parents continued involvement in their lives. By contrast, I think that... [more]
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That's not how it works. It's not a zero-sum game. You should be ripshit because this racism crap is taking money out of your pocket - if people were given truly equal opportunities, more people would be producing at their best potential, which... [more]
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"Unrelated adults" clauses have historically also been used to discriminate against regular poor people, immigrants (people who arrive without their families and who share housing) and GLBTQ people who have been unable to achieve... [more]
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Books and online resources about complicated music wanted, also listening recommendations
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Help me be peppy!
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"Go on" and "tell me about that". I think you're right not even to introduce the concept of "judgment" into the conversation, since even bringing it up as "I am not going to judge you" calls up the specter... [more]
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Not a survivalist, but I think if I was going to be the cold woods that long I would've dug into the earth, like those folks in KC. I find it absolutely fucking hiLARious that the cops in that story are all like "we had to clear this... [more]
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Me! Me! I did this! I mean, sort of. That is, I tend to be very focused on external approval, find it difficult to access my own intrinsic motivations, have fear (instead of envy), and have difficulty having self-esteem. (Actually, I hate the... [more]
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She is someone where, if I thought it would do any good, I'd be dancing and singing that she is dead. All I can think is that she lived a long, rich, easy, honored life - with a comparatively flattering propaganda movie about her just recently - off... [more]
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And I add that when majority-white unions are complicit in racism, we are totally screwing ourselves over. White people don't need Louis CK's [kind of rape-y and homophobic] ideas about what "they" will do to "us" in revenge;... [more]
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