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1. If the bites are just itchy and swollen like a bad mosquito bit or something, she probably does not need additional care - especially if she's had them for a few days and they are not getting larger. It sounds like they'll take a long time to... [
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(Oh, to clarify - here's what I'd do when on getting home). Enlist the help of a friend who can bring contractor bags and twist ties to the airport (if you're being met). Bag and seal your coat and luggage. Use a zip-lock for your purse. Make... [
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Hey, PFL. I went through an extended period of being uninterested and bored by others and being troubled about it. It wasn't
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Don't do anything! They may have to report it if you make a fuss, for one thing.
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what a strange sort of sexism. and visual stereotyping. and profiling, maybe?
Okay, let's lay this out: this is a queer thing (...um, early nineties reference: "and you wouldn't understand")
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I bet you could do some really interesting survey stuff about responses to this blog with questions about where the viewers live, what their community is like, how old they are, where they grew up, probably how much attention they pay to fashion,... [
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Well hey, I'll weigh in on this as a....hm....I guess sometimes I describe myself as butch, sometimes as genderqueer. Back before I got it all sorted out, I used to refer to myself as a butch straight woman. Funnily, in my twenties when I was... [
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(Also, I happen to know from friends who have worked security that it's just not considered worth it to chase down/sue/hassle everyone who does something dodgy - chronic shoplifters or people who are lifting the sterling, yes. They simply aren't... [
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I'm coming right back to a kind of Pascal's wager here:
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Ugh. Did you notice how he leads with a bunch of random slut-shaming about Princess Diana (yes, the whole "oh it's so tragic" thing was stupid; no, it isn't okay to be all "and she was a slut") and then goes all "and crying... [
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Aragorn was black. Tolkien just forgot to mention it.
You know, I wish this were true.
Everyone has read The Last Ringbearer, right?
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I'm a fully functioning adult - and no crazier, I think, than many mefites - but I ask my friends to keep me out of pictures that they're planning to post on the internet. I don't trust Facebook even a little tiny bit and I don't want to have every... [
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Is it poor form to comment after the post has been marked "answered"? I've been thinking about this post since before it was checked off, does that count?
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Isn't it interesting that in these same battleground states, the GOP has been making it harder and harder to register, you know,
black voters - to the point where some voter registration groups have given up.
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(Just a thought - if his family is rich and important, a deal may have been cut to allow him to work at this place, regardless of his behavior. I've learned through a surprising personal experience (that I can't detail here, due to scariness!) just... [
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This whole business of "but everyone was racist in the past, why are you picking on [PERSON]"...well, actually,
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Hey [Sexy yet Passively Sexual Girl],
You're awesome, and I love spending time with you. I also love that we haven't rushed our physical relationship because getting to know you has been amazing. I'm cool doing things at your pace, but I just... [
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Surely there are mefites besides me who have been in large protests? I mean, I haven't been in a
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I worked in coastal China in the late 90s and early 2000s. Things have changed some, but here are a few things I wish I had known:
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And also, I have ZERO understanding of US (or really, ANY, but US seems the most pertinent here) union/labour laws... If a company finds that a union is completely unwilling/unable to meet their demands, is the company required by law to keep... [
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(Oh, hey - one thing that entrapping these kids did was substantially discredit the protests. Even on this thread - with people who are fairly well informed, three years later - there's quite a strong subtext of "folks at the protest would have... [
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(It's funny, only now do I realize that I'm actually
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I'm from Minneapolis and know a lot of folks who organized the anti-RNC protest, plus a bunch of folks who worked with Darby. I attended the protests and was peripherally involved in activist institutional support for them.
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Guys, Orson's a jerk and all, but he wrote Ender's Game so he'd have a character to seek redemption in Speaker for the Dead. It's in the afterword and everything.
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Certainly his portrayals of male/male relationships I've read are far more interesting and touching than his straight ones. And combined with the above, my conclusion is "So far in the closet he can see Narnia." And my understanding of... [
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Polenta (cornmeal with butter and cheese, basically) with a red sauce with greens in it.
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Read (and I'm on my way out the door, so I leave teh googles to you) the blogs Put This On, A Suitable Wardrobe, Men's Flair, Permanent Style and Most Exerent (yep, like that) until you have a lively sense of what suits you might like - especially if... [
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Also, longshoremen are, like, the pin-ups of the radical labor movement. What surfers were to Arthur Russell, so longshoremen are to them/us. [
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I think you and I would disagree, however, on the legitimacy of protestors shutting down streets in order to interrupt the US democratic process. Bringing riot gear to the party makes the job of the police that much more difficult and,... [
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(And there's a world of difference between a punch-up and firebombing something. Someone who is willing to block the street - seriously block it, push back against the cops, etc, go to jail if it comes to that, etc - is almost certainly NOT someone... [
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(I would be, in general, much happier if the police would bust people for actually breaking the law rather than pre-emptively arresting them or inciting the more isolated and naive among them to commit crimes. Bust me for locking down in the street?... [
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Let's be honest: you make a riot shield to help you win a street battle with police. That's what these guys were planning, and whatever the ultimate value of said shield, having a bunch of them on hand says a lot about one's intent.
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Funny, I got the impression that it was a desperate cry for help from someone who was a bad day away from shooting up his high school.
It might be useful to
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“For some reason some kind of force filled me,” testified one of the rioters during his trial. “Until this day, I do not understand how I got into this. What kind of devil was it that asked me to go and forced me to enter into the police... [
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(In a situation where you can't return something, you can often salvage the item (if it's mostly/all cotton) by using fabric dye fractionally darker than the original color - so if your pants are medium blue, use navy, etc. I've done this with... [
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Ooh, I hit post by mistake...
If you really are abrasive, it will take a while to change - if anyone is looking for an overnight fix, that isn't happening.
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I don't know exactly how to resolve this, since it sounds like there's a lot of problems in the organization if your absence alone is really pissing people off. However, as someone who volunteers for a couple of time-intensive things and is always... [
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Okay, I'm not trans but I have a lot of trans friends. I'm not speaking for trans people; I'm basing this on what I would do if I were to date a girl under these circumstances (except that I wouldn't actually care whether my girlfriend was trans -... [
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Just because a problem affects only a small number of people doesn't mean it's not a problem.
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I figured out why I hate the "I heart Nerds" branding
Just yesterday, but
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nadawi: I totally agree there are women whom date geeks out there. I fell in love with one of them and we were together for over a year, until unrelated problems involving physical distance ended it. We still talk daily though. The problem is the... [
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(Oh, if worst came to worst you could probably set up a conference call or request a letter from the funder to get them to reiterate that you spend the money the way you wrote the grant - that would tip your hand about the disfunctionality of the... [
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Your comments could just as easily be coming from someone who into a band "before they were cool" or any other situation where something becomes popular.
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It's not targeted at white dude-bros. It's targeted at offending hypocritical liberal-moralists. Their denunciations are what drives the campaign, and pushes it out into the smaller niches where it finds people who are willing to think about the... [
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yes, Frowner! exactly! "why does popular girl only date jerks?!" - well, doofus, she's a jerk. that redhead dude i lap grinded on? he spent any time he wasn't talking about gaming talking about the girl who would never, ever notice him.... [
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Do many people think like this? I kinda got in the habit of hiding my nerdiness.
Many people are shallow, yes. I mean, he also went for someone much younger and...er...blonder than, um, him. (No, really, he's about my age; she's got to be... [
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I'm nearly sure this relationship has no long-term future
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