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I did not realize until this moment that Holden was supposed to be a phony. I thought I just found him phony. Admittedly, I think I read the book when I was 15 and haven't looked at it since. I've always had trouble with picking out... [more]
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There are a lot of different ways to read literature, and now that we're beyond the New Criticism, it's okay to read for different things. I think one of the confusions people get into about reading fiction (let's just say fiction, eh?) is... [more]
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It sounds like you need women friends who are where you are. This girl on the other side of the planet - yes, that's precisely a recipe for an emotional affair. If I were in your shoes, I'd be kidding myself just a little, sort of an "oh this... [more]
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So they conducted an experiment and remotely collected data from a population that they had no buy-in with, didn't make any efforts to co-design with, and never collected consent from? Isn't the language in this article deeply, deeply... [more]
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Okay, I have skipped the comments as I have only anecdotes to relay: I know two men who to my virtually certain knowledge have been in long-term straight relationships, do not have any interest in porn or strip clubs and are not particularly... [more]
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I already live in a bat house. We have had four bat intrusions into the main house during the past few years. I've had rabies prophylaxis twice - as per CDC guidelines since I was asleep in a room containing a bat - and our little cat has... [more]
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(Just as a side-note - I find Milan Kundera's books not only intensely misogynist but just about as squicky and gross as novels can be - I feel like I'm covered with a thin film of ick after reading them. So I mean, don't take Kundera as your model... [more]
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Seriously? What a hugely uncharitable interpretation, of course not all women are the same. Of course women can be nerds too. I am not substituting dork for male. I am participating in a conversation where we are talking about a piece that... [more]
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Oh hey, I will tell a tale of my youth in order to illustrate what I mean by "taking up space". Okay, once I was a young punk college student. Now, I was as unhappy as the dickens, and I did have a part time job, but I was also... [more]
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I'm a gay dude, and the best sex I have is with my best friends One thing I notice: when gay dudes' sexual practices are explained for straight people, not only is it usually in homophobic terms ("gay men! so promiscuous! and they... [more]
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Guys who want kids or want to get married, become extremely unattractive to me....I just couldn't put myself in that situation again. Now it is possible, that maybe someone I'm with could change their mind, but that has happened and it made me... [more]
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Frowner: Maybe you should consider if you are in fact a kind of bat? Perhaps some kind of bat-human hybrid? A bat-man, if you will? Or in my case a bat-woman. I wonder if I could turn my strange powers - if any - to the benefit of... [more]
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I'm not from the UK, but there's a tumblr I read a lot by a woman in London, Buttercup's Frocks, who wears plus sizes and who looks pretty original. She dresses with a lot more patterns than you do, but she likes brights and dresses and tights and... [more]
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I've never, ever wanted a baby. My partner has never wanted a baby. I have a visceral reaction of panic and distress at the thought of being pregnant. I don't really understand how/why other women do it, but I recognize that this is my... [more]
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I was just looking for a woman to share her experience without asking one of my female friends. thanks for contributing anyway. To digress a moment, I think it's actually kind of great that your first impulse is to gather data before... [more]
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I'm kind of a "when in doubt don't" person on matters of racism/cultural appropriation, so I would not wear such a costume. White/mainstream culture has a long history of treating voudoun as sort of an exotic prop even though it is a... [more]
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But because girls have only been presented to you as first this "mysterious Other" with these weird, inferior interests (shopping, dresses, dolls, playing house) and then as sexual/love objects once you're a bit older - and not so much... [more]
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Living in the era of 'friends with benefits' and finding yourself locked into the role of friend without benefits is bound to be even more galling than usual. Anyone who finds it galling way over and beyond the call of friendship gets not a drop... [more]
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awkward... really? did I accidentally Spoonerize? I do that a lot because I was raised in a profanity/innuendo-free household and a lot of words that are hiLARiously sexual to others aren't to me. Amusingly, some of the French I learned... [more]
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Thank you, aggrieved international, for recalling that the United States is not the world and that Americans (or shall I, in deference to your sensitivities, use the execrable "USians"?) are not global citizens. And yet, how... [more]
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Also, should we really be drawing such sweeping conclusions about a bunch of people aged between 18 and 23? Also, should we really assume that culture and socialization have nothing to do with how people experience their feelings and how... [more]
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Yes, interviewing a group of US college students in 2012 totally explains every social interaction between all straight men and women ever. Just think of the topics we can settle by studying these kids! I bet we'll discover that women expect to... [more]
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I just want to jump back in and say that I don't think this reads as humblebrag. I think it reads as "I have conflicting feelings about this situation - happy! anxious! shame! - and I get a lot of messages from my culture that my... [more]
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Okay, I freely admit that I like meat analogues. I do. I love wheat gluten/mock duck-in-a-can, I really like those Tofurkey italian sausages, I am a total sucker for many of the mock-meat things you find in a large and well-stocked pan-Asian... [more]
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So wait, with this quinoa business - as I understood it, first world demand for quinoa was making it unaffordable to the Bolivian peasants who actually depend on the stuff and thus helping to shift them onto a crappy grainy diet. Won't declaring a... [more]
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So I feel like you have some stuff in the back of your head that is like "if I go on this date I will have to Date Him" or maybe "if I go on this date I will have to hook up with him", like agreeing to meet up for pasta is some... [more]
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As soon as you mentioned this, I immediately thought, "Wait, was the Spell of the Sorceror's Skull also by this guy?" It was, and I remember being very scared by that book back in grade school. THen again, Castlevania 2 scared me about... [more]
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When I have thought people were older than they actually are, it's almost always been because I assume that they have authority and associate authority with age. I am 38 and there are people who are younger than me that I still assume are... [more]
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Also, as a woman who has had many, many male friends, I would be absolutely fucking astonished if even a fraction of them had any sexual interest in me whatsoever.... [more]
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If the gay scene offers any insight, it's that the two are not mutually exclusive! And this is where the stuff flex was talking about - the part where straight dudes are raised to think that women are... [more]
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I'm much more worried about improper sharing of medical information with the employer, not the insurer. I tend toward the paranoid side, but I've decided to forgo the health assessment option at work - my employer has hired a really amateurish... [more]
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And also there's this question of for whom. For whom is this story being reported? Is it for white people and the Hmong guests are a kind of sideshow? What is the purpose of this story? Why is this angle on this story being taken? Why is... [more]
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"I don't discriminate based on looks." I find it very hard to believe that a woman with this level of specificity in who she is looking for does not have a single preference when it comes to looks. That, to me, feels like further... [more]
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Whenever these questions get posted here, everyone sort of jumps on the people involved - it's dishonest to do this, the other person obviously enjoys having women "fighting" over him, etc etc. That isn't always my experience. I've been... [more]
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Freud? He's just wrong. Only brutal honesty will suffice now, I see. So I must sadly admit that I have only read parts of Anti-Oedipus and two of those little Semiotexte Deleuze/Guattari books, and my ability to talk about Deleuze is.... [more]
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As it were. [more]
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Sorry, how stupid do we need to be to pretend that this is a surprise? This is exactly what the NYPD, and police departments across the country, have been doing to citizens, but especially to minority men, since before I can remember. If you are... [more]
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And also, what about button-front shirts in femme patterns? If you're thin, you should be able to find men's vintage shirts from the 60s/early seventies that have lovely floral pattnerns (just look at this Brooks Brothers one - I would be all over... [more]
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There are a whole range of expressions I picked up from books as a kid that hinge on "fair" as a conflation of white and good/beautiful: "He's the department's fair-haired boy so of course he'll get that section";... [more]
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On September 24, 2012 Radiolab aired their Yellow Rain segment in an episode titled “The Fact of the Matter.” Everybody in the show had a name, a profession, institutional affiliation except Eng Yang, who was identified as “Hmong guy,” and me,... [more]
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Hi everyone--this is my first comment. I registered for an account because I've been waiting for years for someone to ask me this very question. A simply fantastic magical battle can be found at the end of the extremely under-rated,... [more]
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Willing to put up with a control freak who organizes her personal life around lists. Also, I have a beloved friend who organizes their life around lists, maps and charts. Having a list and strong standards does not mean that you're a jerk... [more]
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This? Is pretty awesome. Although also sad, because people, it is sad that a woman has to specify "don't become violent", "treat women equally", etc. Those things should be like "must be carbon-based life form".... [more]
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Oh, I love the Otto Dix lady! As a short queer person of indeterminate gender, I feel that I look a lot like the famous pre-war Otto Dix self-portrait. So anyway. I threw a Cold War themed party for a bunch of radical history types - the... [more]
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And also, there are a lot of people out there who view their almosts and the people who had crushes on them as a sort of relationship-bank, from whence they can extract admiration and sex when they get bored. You were an "almost"... [more]
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You should go in! You'll feel better about yourself, for one thing. Tell yourself that if it's really unbearable after X number of shifts, you can give notice and quit. Then see how it goes. If you really, really can't handle it, give yourself... [more]
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I am a woman and not only is being "treated as a woman" not really important to me, I have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. Perhaps the problem was that I meant to write "trans women often feel" and did not... [more]
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Personally, I feel like there's an undercurrent in the essay of the the idea that male penetrative sex is inherently uncomfortable for women See, the sense I got from that part of the essay was "women are too non-revolutionary to... [more]
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I had Lyme disease when I was 13 (and it was still new, exciting and there was much less fear-mongering on the internet). I had neurological symptoms and a course of IV treatment. I never found a rash and only discovered that something was wrong... [more]
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The funny thing is that in broad terms I actually agree with the premise of the article - sex in a white supremacist capitalist patriarchy doesn't escape the norms of white supremacist capitalist patriarchy! The increasing respectability of sex toys... [more]
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