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Seriously, if someone treated me disrespectfully when I was trying to buy something from them, then I'd certainly consider writing a review explaining what happened. Me, I'd let it go unless I thought it was motivated by misogyny or... [more]
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I have been thinking about this whole question (even though you've marked it answered! It's such an interesting one.) First, I wanted to recommend some bookcases: these folding stacking ones. You can get them from many vendors (the Container... [more]
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I don't begrudge anyone the urge to complain, even at length, about a job that involves finding less-than-fresh corpses. YMMV. I'm sure it was horrible, and I don't mind people complaining - but he writes as if somehow there were... [more]
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That's obviously an absurd parallel, though, and that fact kind of makes me doubt the one you've made here. If online reviewing has introduced perverse incentives, then the incentives in question are probably more oriented towards gaming reviews... [more]
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Also, I will add that if you're going to talk about race, you're going to make mistakes. Even advanced triple-plated anti-racist activists say screwed up things that make people uncomfortable - partly because people of color aren't, like... [more]
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I'm not sure I know the difference. A button-front shirt is any standard dress shirt that has buttons all the way along the front to open and close the shirt. A button-down is a sub-category of button-front - the ones that... [more]
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I think one of the problems here is that there's a pervasive cultural narrative made up of 1000 tiny things that basically goes "Hip-hop is a universal musical language and no one race deserves the credit! But when black people do hip-hop, it's... [more]
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I live in Minnesota and plenty of people do this. Other people double up on tights or wear leggings under jeans or pants. But so much of this stuff is what you might call "invisible subculture" stuff. There are little social circles... [more]
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Actually, I think a problem is that this essay can't decide whether it wants to focus on evoking the texture of his experience or making a big complaint about how awful it was. It sounds like a very strongly felt, eerie and evocative short-term job,... [more]
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Oh, it's Cathy Brennan, the incarnation of evil. That makes total sense. Seriously, she's like someone crossed Camille Paglia with Henry Kissinger and stripped away the last few molecules of humor and generosity.... [more]
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How plugged in to the local left network are you? Do you do local activist stuff? It is unlikely that you are in Minneapolis, but if you are, I know several young and reliable people who would be glad of such work. A young activist-y type... [more]
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Or else some more personal stuff - maybe this was uniquely horrible for him in a way that it wouldn't be for others. Maybe he has some childhood trauma, physical limitation, anxiety or something. But sharing that so that we understand that... [more]
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You are now, in 2013, talking about a song written in England in the late '80s. Things were different then. I heard that song within about two years of its release - I remember borrowing the album from someone who'd just gotten it. It... [more]
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To totally skip (momentarily) all the comments that have been written so far: when I read this article, it really illustrated for me that "enclosure" is the best way to understand capitalism. What happens is that there is a realm... [more]
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It would be Utopia Armed and Utopia-With-Indentured-Servants, that's what it would be. Picture all these guys (and a few women) - they'd import trophy wives and sex workers and butlers and scullery maids, they'd have to have guns at the border to... [more]
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I don't actually believe that for a second, it's just hilarious coincidence, but still... wow. A comparison of this screed to the actual show should appear in their press packet, because DAMN. Well, actually, when I was going home yesterday... [more]
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That said, Frowner makes it more cut and dried than it is in practice with BDSM/poly stuff, which has a broader (non-theory) queer usage (at least around here) than they're giving credit for, and since I don't really consider myself queer, I don't... [more]
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Also, if I could make a suggestion about maximizing your SFnal enjoyment: google around a bit for "New Wave science fiction" - most of the people you've enjoyed are basically post-New Wave writers and you would probably find a LOT of stuff... [more]
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In what way are you "in over your head" when reading contemporary SF? Is it because you'r reading hard science? Is it because you're reading metatextual SF? I always recommend Nicola Griffeth's novel Ammonite, which I see was... [more]
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The thing is, there's almost no way to know - even the kind of limited and imperfect knowledge that a historian might have - about something personal like this. So we're left with the person who is still alive, who is famous, who can be... [more]
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I can understand it as interesting as a philosophical question, but since most of the work that I do starts with the assumption that whether choice or genetics (or even nurture/environment), it's a legitimate identity — and that the behaviors have... [more]
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You know what really kills me? I, a total snob who (let's face it) prides themselves on their unusual taste and general above-the-herd-ness, am totally taken with all the names that kick in once people of my generation really start having... [more]
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Make a berry crisp with some of them? Four pounds is a lot, but if you mixed them with some frozen blueberries or cherries and made a crisp - well, fruit bakes down a lot, and I always seem to wish my crisps had more fruit in them.... [more]
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Bengali in Platforms is just another example of pointing out an ugly emotional reality: the difficult failures of an immigrant's urge to belong. It's just like Henry Miller writing talking about the emotional world of whores while calling them... [more]
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There are quite a few trans people who are also gay or lesbian or queer or bisexual. These aren't exclusive identities. I think framing it as a choice between battling movements or placid reconciliation isn't very helpful, but I think remembering... [more]
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Where are you? You need to find other gay/queer/lesbian folks. If you're not near a big city, you can google around for queer youth services in the nearest city and they will probably have some suggestions. There are probably coming-out support... [more]
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Ok, sincere question here. Is homosexual the wrong term to use now? Is queer acceptable? Or does it apply to only one group? Can straight people use the word queer or is that taboo? We are trying to be sensitive at my workplace and need to keep up... [more]
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Find a job and then think about that job - even if it's a terrible job or obviously unsuitable or just a temp gig. Start thinking about what you like, what you hate, what you do well. Sit with that a while. I am embarking, late in life,... [more]
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The whole choice versus genetics thing seems like such an odd orthogonal question I don't think it's orthogonal at all - I think that one reason that the language "we" use about gender and sexuality is such a complicated question... [more]
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Chains of Love by Erasure - all that stuff about "remember once there was a time" seems to me to be about pre-AIDS gay communities. Red Hot + Blue was a benefit album for HIV research that came out in 1990 - it's not precisely what... [more]
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Most of those surprises and so on are not that pleasant - I was perfectly willing to suspend a little disbelief, for instance, when listening to that song that references the Kray brothers - but they were not nice to know. There's a certain kind of... [more]
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Technical fix for the laundry - put his laundry in the dryer. Tell him that you're going to do so if he doesn't. Set it at low/medium. Get a cheap laundry basket. Dump his dry laundry into it. I've been in this very situation both as the owner... [more]
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You don't have to give a laundry list about why you don't want kids. In fact, giving a laundry list just gives people the impression that if Magic Kidney Cure was invented, you'd be off to have children and isn't it tragic that there is no Magic... [more]
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1. I am pretty much past the age where I could easily have a child. I, like you, have always viscerally not wanted a kid - as soon as I realized the girls did not have to have babies, I knew that was the route for me. Everyone I have known... [more]
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I'm a little surprised by the hostility expressed over my opinion. People are hostile because you sound like a right-wing talking point, and because the monstrous poor person who doesn't use their food stamps right is a propaganda... [more]
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I never received government assistance or asked for it. I want to point out that it would not exactly have been the world's greatest tragedy if you'd gotten some food stamps and bought some groceries here, nor would this have turned you... [more]
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Honestly, I'm about as liberal as a person can get, but when I see items being purchased like this with funds that are meant to be feeding people who actually need assistance, it boils my blood a little. As if poor folks - and how many of... [more]
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It is all about pushing back because of the massive increases in SNAP since 2008 Yep. What they want is a large body of people who are very, very poor - barely able to feed themselves - and they also want these people to have as little... [more]
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I have a friend who wears socks with Sperry-ish shoes. My friend is a lovely person and their practicality and accompanying slight eccentricity of dress are two of the many characteristics I like about them. That said, it is an eccentricity,... [more]
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Take the class! I mean, unless it's a tiny seminar. Do you think that you are going to bring bad energy to the class, or do you think that you'll have an awkward first half hour and then everything will be fine? Is he the kind of guy who will... [more]
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I don't have "excuses" for most of the way I live my life. I have "excuses" for when I hurt other people, break promises or replicate systems of oppression. I don't have "excuses" for things that are not moral... [more]
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Also, almost every time I've heard this line of reasoning, it has turned out that "pedantic moralizing" involves either a complicated understanding of history or pointing out that white dudes even on the left don't always know how it needs... [more]
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And Cole Carter is what, ten years old? Okay, which left? I'm pretty sure that I'm not part of what Carter thinks of as "the left" - which seems to be the lefter half of the Democratic Party, such as it is. Now, I don't mind him... [more]
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A concern I'd have: if he is withdrawing from the children, for whatever reason, will he treat them acceptably when they visit? Is he the type of man who would neglect or be cold to them for five weeks when they're visiting him in a foreign... [more]
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We Love Colors has tights in a lot of colors. I've found the quality to be quite good. They also have plus sizes, but I assume that since that dress doesn't run too large you are probably looking at regular. I would wonder if baby blue would... [more]
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You seem like a person who would enjoy Montaigne. [more]
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(If I may add - I would like it very much if those of us who actually are secretaries were not treated in crappy, sexist ways either. This conversation very often has a strong undercurrent of "it's so sad that women who are smart... [more]
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I think my favorite thing about this is that it's aggressively post-war. It's a grocery circular for an alternate universe where the 60s never happened and everyone just kept liking Apple Pan Dowdy. No arugula. No fair trade coffee. No artisanal... [more]
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Columbus may have been an awful person (sounds like it), but him being less awful wouldn't have saved 90%+ of the Native Americans, who died of disease. Well, of course. And if it were merely a series of accidental pandemics like... [more]
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