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Also, while it is a tradition to always take the knitting and always be productive, it is not the only tradition. Consider the little minatory rhyme quoted in Margaret Atwood's Cat's Eye - "Walking, riding, standing,… [more]
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Something that's getting overlooked here is that it's not super important whether each individual instance is accurate*; what's important is that the vast majority of the time, in any material not produced for a specialist audience, Europe has… [more]
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I really think there is actually something to this, if you can get past the fact that the slideshow only features stylists. People do seem to be striving to look as much like each other as possible and I find it a bit disconcerting. The 'look at… [more]
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What people take for relentless minimalism is a side effect of too much exposure to the reactor-cores of fashion. This has resulted in a remorseless paring-down of what she can and will wear. She is, literally, allergic to fashion. She can only… [more]
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It's also so weird to realize that I actually was there - I mean, I remember that shit. I went to shows - although not really the important shows, except for Huggybear - I read all those fanzines people talk about like Hungry Girl and… [more]
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You can still get copies of Huggybear CDs if you are willing to pay. Or, if you are me, you still have your "Weaponry Listens To Love" CD" and your Bikini Kill/Huggybear split EP and an old, old Huggybear spraypaint… [more]
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If this thread gets distracted into a general conversation about whether or not Communism failed - i.e. the same conversation that conservatives and idiots always attempt to start every time someone discusses improving progressive organisation -… [more]
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Complaining that it's a poorly designed game when that's pretty much explicitly what she was setting out to do seems weird to me, as I don't see what making Quidditch a well-designed game would add to the experience of the books. Maybe a… [more]
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The Our Troubled Youth EP wasn't shit. It was just about the only riot grrl production which really spoke to me - all the other stuff seemed to be for, like, cool non-abject girls who wore cute vintage dresses and were adorkably trangressive… [more]
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Your cats sound lonely to me. Two things occur to me: One, I like the idea of paying a "cat friend" from the neighborhood to visit and play with them - if you have a posh pet supplies place nearby you could advertise there if you… [more]
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A constant problem in these conversations is that most people don't actually have any kind of accurate understanding of left history, particularly but not uniquely communism. (I mean, it's difficult enough to have an "accurate"… [more]
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general cruelty and all-around inefficient weirdness that Hogwarts has It's not just cruelty and inefficient weirdness, it's the way those are normalized. Like, if you read Orwell's essay on his private school experience, "Such,… [more]
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What I'd actually do? Exchange some minimal small talk, feel horrible about myself, relive the original incidents repeatedly over the next couple of days and then continue in dread of seeing her. (Ask me how I know!) What you… [more]
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Of course not, but it definitely drives the conversation one way or the other. I have very few friends who are parents who spend a lot of time talking about things other than their children, at least at first. See, the thing is, I don't… [more]
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I just want to reiterate that there is no situation where you can't decide not to pursue an affair. If you pursue an affair, it is because you decided to pursue it - even if that just means "I really wanted this, so I put myself in… [more]
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The thing I thought about during all this was how if you are a trans woman, particularly a trans woman of color, and you're in an altercation, you really could die, someone really could go from harassing you to killing you pretty easily… [more]
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I'm really open about sex, and really think that it is performative, and that anything between consenting adult goes, and it's a spectrum, and all good and all of that--but it takes so much work to present a pro pleasure, fairly free… [more]
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Two things, one directly related: -if you are making frosting, coconut milk (added gradually in place of the liquid and part of the fat) will make your frosting glossier and more coconut-y. -it is possible that you are just in a coconut mood… [more]
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And, btw, women don't just need to worry about 'locals' I've heard multiple reports of women being assaulted in hostels by fellow backpackers. Aw, dude, when I lived in China it was the white people I worried about, and the white people… [more]
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You might want to read up on the history of science. I find that when I remind myself of the Tuskagee study or eugenics or the whole "women have wandering wombs" or Charcot's lectures, for instance, or just the many recent instances of… [more]
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Of course there are quacks practicing and espousing these things. Western medicine has the same number of quacks (e.g., Dr. Oz). But dismissing entire systems of thought based on a few quacks is not exactly critical thinking, either. That… [more]
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(My point being that while gay men can actually be married now and have always been able to be dads, I've encountered a lot of fishing about marriage and children in a homophobic context, since frankly that type of homophobe tends not to grasp the… [more]
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I would tell HR - after the interview process. My immediate fear, given some familiarity with admin hiring, is that this dude was trying to find out if you were gay because he is homophobic and would use that to advocate against you. You must be… [more]
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Other spoiler: it's just like Doonesbury cartoons from, like, the seventies. As nice as it is to have my prejudices gratified (that, at the highest level, capitalism - meaning actual capitalists, a small group of actually-existing people -… [more]
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(I just want to say that, like, I have met people from Sudan. This idea that "we can't actually import women from a crisis area who are themselves in crisis and therefore it's okay to have no Sudanese people here speaking about this… [more]
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What exactly are you advocating? Instead of printing this report, should the Nobel Women’s Initiative have compelled Sudanese rape victims to do a speaking tour in which they repeatedly recount the horrors they've gone through? I bet there… [more]
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I'd suggest reading more Wolfe and doing a little research about other Big Important science fiction, since some of what he's doing is responding to those. (I've heard Jack Vance's Dying Earth referenced in this context, but have not read it… [more]
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Frowner, I think you and I define poly differently. I have been in many poly relationships where I was only involved with one other person (who happened to see others as well). We may move in different kinds of social circles or just… [more]
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I was thinking about this profile on the way to work this morning because I couldn't put my finger on why it didn't work for me. On reflection, it seems like a very distant profile - it's all about your intellectual interests, jokes about… [more]
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Your profile seems really, really specific. It does not match up with the "dating is a numbers game" thing - I get the sense that you've crafted a profile so that one highly literate woman with a very, very specific background will… [more]
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Also, here is a thing I learned late in life: many people, unlike me, don't develop huge crushes on people before going out with them so that they go into the relationship with a lot of feelings already. They just start dating someone who they like… [more]
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Oh my god yes, this is a massive, massive classic. Worth seeing on the big screen if you ever get the chance, absolutely. It's such a weird movie, and it has this bizarre optimism about frontiers - consider the ending sequence. I think part of… [more]
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I have acquired pretty much all my friends through volunteer work/political activism and through teaching or taking small, specialized community-ed classes. This is partly because I am more likely to meet people who share my values, partly because I… [more]
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Up to that point in the article, I just thought it sounded, for my mostly-introverted self, exhausting. And really the province of the young, all those parties and late night shows and seeing in the dawn together. Not that this couldn't be part… [more]
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How do I tell when I'm being invited along as "the ugly friend"? I am never invited along as the ugly friend, although even in my young day I was plain, and now I'm butch and queer and of zero sexual interest to dudes. Why is… [more]
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I know you marked this as "done" but just in case - look, I hear you. I love to dance but I feel pretty self-conscious because I am basically kind of a weird-looking moderately fat person, so I worry a lot about dancing at least well… [more]
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Sure, I don't think anyone is disagreeing with that. But ignorance abounds in the world, so that very worthy goal doesn't seem attainable at this point. Remember during the last presidential election when lots of white people would say… [more]
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That's a delightfully idealist and not at all practical idea. But it's especially non-practical when people who have the skills and time to become educated, and who have the sophistication to understand why it's kind and polite to do… [more]
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This is something I hear people complaining about, but I'll be damned if I've ever actually encountered it in the wild. I think that it's a left internet gestalt thing - I don't think anyone is all "la la I shall create guilt to gain… [more]
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I think a lot depends on climate and the nature of your work. I am a total clotheshorse, so I have a lot of clothes anyway - but I have probably 1/3 more than I would in a less extreme climate - I have to have a small but complete wardrobe of… [more]
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I cannot even imagine. My precious and well-selected volumes - my first edition of Always Coming Home, my priceless sixties radical publications, my fascinating collection of minor feminist novels of the eighties - commingling with… [more]
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I don't quite understand this. What exactly does your self-deprecating sense of humor consist of? How does your stepson encounter it? Are you working in the living room when he is there? Is this more "I sometimes call myself The World's… [more]
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Every "Ask A Nurse" line I've ever called has always told me to go to the ER or the urgent care, regardless of my actual symptoms. They have never told me "keep an eye on it". I think there's liability concerns if they tell you… [more]
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But then of course there's the whole contemporary trope - which we might call the "transgressive bourgeois" - of someone who Has Their Own Taste, and is too Bold! and Individual! to like what the "tastemakers" approve of. I… [more]
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(Also, the Wolverines are made in the US and the Fryes are so very not made in the US that they do not even specify where - so it's unlikely to be Italy or Mexico or anywhere with a reputable artisan shoe industry, more likely to be India or… [more]
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Also, what other changes has your presence made in the home routine? If the children are in school, they should be gone during most of the work day, right? Or do you work an off schedule? Prior to your moving in, did the sons have a lot of… [more]
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You sound like maybe you are relatively young? And maybe you have not dated a ton? Being relatively young and not having dated a ton do not entitle you to free cheating, of course. However, I think it's possible not to realize how much your… [more]
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I mean, my immediate guess based on my own adolescence would be "the kid is really stressed and angry because of the family situation and he feels a lot of ambiguity about his own father; you come into the picture, complicating things and… [more]
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