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I lived in Newport, RI, and there is some unimaginable old-money wealth still hanging around town. I mean, set up for generations and generations of multi-millionaires or billionaires wealthy. Do you know what kind of car they drive?… [more]
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I think that "I would line up to dance on her fingers" is pretty blatently hyperbole. But she struck me as a truly vile human being. [more]
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I had never ever even thought of saying "totes emosh" and now I am going to start. I feel totes emosh about lots of things lately, so it will come in handy. [more]
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Regardless of what else you do, don't spend a bunch of money on plastic surgery in your twenties (unless you have some genuine medical abnormality). I thought about doing this - and I guarantee that you are better-looking than I am, because… [more]
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Exercise accident/back injury and PT? I actually did have an old injury kick back up and needed weekly PT appointments for a while, and because it was an old injury, I wasn't actually visibly injured. [more]
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(This sounds like depression to me, honestly. Wasting time on the internet, not motivated to go anywhere, fibbing to family about how you're doing, believing that everyone else is better than you and thinks you're boring, believing that mefites… [more]
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Oh, geez, why have none of us mentioned Emma Goldman? I mean, talk about a paradigmatically adventurous life - anarchist, factory organizer, prisoners' rights activist, lecturer, threatened Johann Most with a horsewhip for being a misogynist, exiled… [more]
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When I was younger, and hadn't learned about etiquette, I was still trying to please everybody. Someone told me they hated it when someone said "excuse me" because it was just a polite way of saying "get out of my way". And… [more]
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And some people are simply trying to make conversation. If you have just met, they need to find some place to start. It's only nefarious if, beneath the civil exterior, they are really, deeply assholes. I have a really, really different… [more]
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It seems like "oh, there might be a man in the dressing room, we must avoid even the appearance of gender ambiguity" really does stem not just from not-thinking-of-trans-women-as-women but from not thinking of them as people… [more]
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People watch movies for a sense of escape and fantasy, and what is more "fantastic" that an older man screwing a much younger woman? I am only one data point, but "escapist fantasy" for me pretty much requires things… [more]
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Exactly. Shaving is a personal choice, and I believe strongly that whatever people do or do not shave should not invite comment by anyone else. But it's disingenuous to think that we make these choices in a vacuum and that our perceptions as… [more]
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That article was so depressing. But also hilarious! The interviews which boil down to "Oh, everyone should make their own choices and we are all free to do that, but I would never do that because I think it's gross and unfeminine… [more]
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For a long time, I thought that "totes magoates" had something to do with moving one's goats around, though. [more]
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You know what? I think you should leave her. I really do. I looked at all those other questions and I think you should split up. Think about this - you're my age, you're getting on for forty. We don't have infinite time in life, our risks… [more]
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Buried in the article is the fact that if her family had been able to afford brain surgery when she was a child, she would have been tall but not a giant, and would presumably be alive today. But they weren't insured, so they just never went back to… [more]
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(To my mind, nice pans and knives make a difference in cooking for two reasons. The first is easier to compensate for - heat distribution. A well-made heavy pan distributes and holds heat much better than a cheap one, so it's easier to cook things… [more]
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Okay, hold up, what about this from the Racialicious article: Peterson was frustrated that the school didn’t investigate her anonymous attackers, even after another scary incident in the winter, when someone sent an email to the freshman class… [more]
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Don't say "personal brand". I would infinitely rather have to recite a list containing all the usual suspects ("moist", "adorkable", etc) than have to hear people refer to their "personal brand". Every time I… [more]
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I would look at all the "essential wardrobe" pieces and then do some thinking. (They always tell you that you need white shirts, frex, and white shirts aren't flattering on many complexions and are best worn under a suit unless white is a… [more]
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I actually dislike "what keeps you busy" and "how do you spend your time" because they seem to me to be transparent workarounds for "what is your job", and they [mostly] elicit the same type of information, since in most… [more]
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Aside from the other issues people note, there are a lot of sex workers who don't "sleep with multiple strangers every day." As I understand it, one of the big advantages to the safer and more comfortable kind of sex work… [more]
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The thing about "the left eats its own, why can't we focus on [whatever, usually class but sometimes race]" is that it's precisely what has always been trotted out by whoever is on top of the movement heap at the moment… [more]
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It makes me laugh that Jack Halberstam is a director of feminist anything - you have only to read his cultural criticism to see what a pass he gives to sexist crap as long as it validates his ideas about trans male identity. (Note, in particular,… [more]
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Honestly, I occasionally watch an imperfect movie because friends want to see it or there's some other reason to watch it (so I saw an X-men movie a couple of weeks ago because a friend who teaches junior high promised his students he'd watch it)… [more]
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I do say "knock knock" when I'm standing in the open door of someone's office because it seems sort of peremptory to just, you know, knock, what with the door being open, and it's helpful in performing secretarial...uh...adorkability… [more]
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But but but...you have the hair part that god gave you. Or I do, anyway. Whenver I try to part my hair anywhere but the one spot that it's always parted naturally, even if I apply a lot of product in the morning it's reverted by noon. Change… [more]
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(my point being the if you're a certain type of oddball, you may think "this is a neutral observation" when it is totally not experienced that way, and you - like me! - need to watch that so as not to hurt others.) [more]
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I would really, really hesitate to stay with someone who cut me off totally when something bad happened in his life, particularly if it left me financially vulnerable. (How does he expect you to pay his half of the rent?) I would hesitate even… [more]
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It doesn't? That is clearly toting only one goat, and is thus invalid. [more]
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I think you should tell him that if he won't take steps to get some kind of treatment, you'll leave him, and if those steps are not taken by [time], you'll leave. Don't drop out of school. Leave him first, if that's what it comes down to… [more]
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I do not like the sound of this at all. I'm assuming that by "hit the side of his body" you mean "gently poked at him" - kind of like kicking someone gently under the table to get them to stop being rude or elbowing them for… [more]
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I know JKR joked about no one wanting to read about Harry Potter and the Midlife Crisis ...but there are hundreds of thousands of words of fanfiction suggesting that everyone wants to read precisely that. [more]
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I like the checkerboard tile floor on the last one. And the way that the lab equipment seems overwhelmingly large, clearly to represent its psychological weight. I think I may get a set of these for the office. (I am not a scientist, but lord… [more]
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The way you describe this makes me very uneasy. Do you feel that in general your wife respects your boundaries and this journal-reading/intrusive-questioning thing is only about this one topic? Or is she this way about a lot of… [more]
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I add that the biggest thing I had to do in order to be able to figure out and pursue my own intellectual interests was to stop the narrative I had about myself as someone who was a priori unwelcome, excluded, incapable and useless in a world… [more]
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This is great - I've often wondered about those very kind of images, since they're posted on men's style blogs all the time, collected in manly-man men's style books, etc, and yet are so obviously the product of a gay sensibility. There are… [more]
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I would never, ever leave my cat at someone's house if I thought there was a possibility of the cat getting loose - and it seems like a cat in an unfamiliar place with unfamiliar people is much more likely to bolt and then really run away, as opposed… [more]
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This type of internet humor depresses me so much. [more]
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It's actually making me tired of complaining about straight white cismen, in fact. Because it seems to eviscerate the critique. [more]
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(I add that I was once stranded in an ice storm and I called my ex - he was the only person I knew who had a car, was local and was home and there were no tow trucks/other help because the storm was so severe. He helped me without question in… [more]
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The difference between a white activist with a master's degree who runs an art studio in San Francisco and her white Google employee neighbor is indeed vanishingly small. Sorry. But as I understand it, a lot of the people who are dealing… [more]
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This guy needs some sort of therapy, self-administered or otherwise. I can relate to a lot of what he writes, but there is not a single thing in that entire piece about taking steps to mitigate his issue. He does however spend a whole lot of… [more]
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Personally, if I were a black kid hearing white people using the term "Trayvons", hearing from my fellow students of color about the shit they had to deal with, saw fucking Confederate flags hanging on campus, and had already had a… [more]
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Wow, Frowner, that analogy is so ridiculous that I'm out. Enjoy the discussion everyone. Well, I'm sorry to hear that. Just a week or two ago, someone posted that essay about the woman who took part in the dolphin experiment (and I can't… [more]
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Would any of these justifications be acceptable for keeping humans in zoos? I mean, we've had human zoos, and you could trot out the same rationales - conservation dollars, city dwellers seeing "nature", the thrill experienced by… [more]
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1. Forgive yourself. Forgive your past self. You didn't know how to be responsible - that's disappointing. But no one got hurt! You slacked off on trivial responsibilities. That's the up side. You made a minor social mistake while still young,… [more]
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"nastiness toward Sikh student" = determined to be faked tweets, not anything she did. (See the Racialicious article.) [more]
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Yeah, this seems very much like a "build a relationship first, then ask permission" situation. There's an awful lot of stuff that comes up on metafilter - like asking people about their jobs or where they are from, asking about their… [more]
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As a secretary, I found the "you too can work late and assist in parenting the boss's daughter" section particularly amusing. Secretaries, of course, never have children, so we're happy to be "trained" to support the boss's… [more]
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