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This is because I don't have a huge number of people in my life and my monkey brain is desperate for all of them to think I never make a mistake or put anybody off, so I mistakenly feel that if I can explain or justify the behavior in question... [more]
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I don't care for this "someone harasses me on Twitter and the crowd cheers as I go off to [implicitly] beat him up" business - and I was bullied quite severely in school, have various issues about feeling safe around strangers, etc. I... [more]
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(If someone described me as "an emotionally complex anti-hero" type, I would be over the moon, personally. And if I described someone that way it would be even more complimentary than "you are dazzlingly handsome, brilliant and... [more]
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I'm not actually worried about the whole "you live in the city what will you do when there is less food" thing, or the "buy farmland and train your kids to [do useful thing]" line. What do you all think is going to... [more]
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Yeah, I am 100 percent certain that if this were a story about some nearsighted video-game designer doing exactly the same thing, MetaFilter would cheer roundly. It's only because Woodhouse is a boxer that people feel differently, and most are... [more]
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My goodness, how weird make-up is. Also, those giant doll-eyes that seem to be a tumblr make-up standard - I had no idea that you can have fairly small eyes and still do them, I'd just assumed that all those girls had large eyes to begin with. I... [more]
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They just want to be pretty, to be looked at and admired, while the machinery that turns lost girls into profit for unscrupulous men churns and grinds away their lives. See, I'm really uneasy about this logic - certainly it's a better... [more]
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It is fascinating how much of that look we consider conventionally sexy and beautiful is just... paint. Which is kind of neat, actually. I bet you could put a ton of make-up on me and squeeze me into some sort of sequin corset and I'd look.... [more]
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I mean, everyone will look different with make-up on. Sure. But some of these, I recognized them with make-up on, but totally didn't recognize them without. Like could not recognize them. How many porn stars am I passing every day, but just not... [more]
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Vis-a-vis reddit: well, the whole point of the social economy of sex work is to have a class of women it's safe to hate and mock in the "daylight" of regular life who are then also sexually available at "night". I'm not sure... [more]
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I add too that I am on the outside of a current activist situation, affecting many dear friends, where a local group should have distanced themselves from someone years ago based on that person's behavior, but allowed pity, lack of group... [more]
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You know, I bet a lot of us know women (or guys) who have done a little porn. I know I know a reasonable number of people who have done sex work, ranging from a fairly trivial "I did a little go-go dancing at a club when I was 20"... [more]
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Absent something unique to your situation - R's connections will work to destroy the group if he tells them to; R's connections will threaten violence against activists; R is currently protecting the group from violence or harassment because of his... [more]
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The dance "craze" at the time was best described as "white man's overbite"—if you've seen it, you know what I'm talking about. What is the white man's overbite? I must know. I've played music at some dance... [more]
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Nowhere, at all, does he suggest that we should not care about or attempt to alleviate the sufferings of people in other countries. See, what I was trying to get at is this is the wrong way to frame things - the idea that... [more]
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Besides the impracticalities of such redistribution, the problems here are also conceptual. Say I bought a fancy pair of shoes for my son. In light of the one-tribe calculus of interests, I should probably give these shoes to someone who doesn’t... [more]
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Actually, IIRC, we could bring small pocket knives to school when I was in high school. We actually did have a stabbing (bullied kid turns on the bully, chases him down the hall, stabs him in the chest; bully had also bullied me pretty badly and... [more]
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But what do you do when someone whom you like goes the extra distance and puts on make-up for a special occasion? I don't need to enforce my prejudices but it's hard to feign excitement when you are thinking to yourself "Well, I'm GGG but I'm... [more]
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One thing you might want to bring up in therapy - are you sending signals that you will not set boundaries effectively, hence attracting creepers*? Can you learn some interpersonal skills to tip people off right away that you set your own boundaries?... [more]
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Wouldn't it be awful if he had taken these same pictures but he and especially his girlfriend were just average-looking? Or his girlfriend didn't like to wear really short shorts? Or worse, if they were old? Or still worse, fat? That would... [more]
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One reading of your question is "Matt told me that he used to like me but does not anymore because he found out from his friend that I had made out with the friend". Is that what you meant? Now, everyone is entitled to like who they... [more]
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Can you maintain friendships with just some of these people? I mean, I'm part of a loose agglomeration of...well, probably a more political version of the people you describe, and even when I was younger I was never one for making the scene and... [more]
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I have stolen a tray and used it as a sled - admittedly, this was in 1993 and it was a different world. The practice was called traying, and it was wonderful - trays make great sleds. College students today probably just take trays to make... [more]
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At this rate, why should I bother putting money in my 401k? I was just talking with a friend about whether we thought things were going to be bad enough fast enough that we didn't need to worry about retirement. Our consensus was that we... [more]
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Yes, we can all say that if I dance at all to popular music I am dancing styles originated by African Americans and therefore [reducing arguments about race, context and specifics to a flat abstraction]. But I'm still going to look and feel stupid... [more]
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Mieville himself notes this isn't a "best of" list. Which Gentle do you think better belongs on a list of SF which socialists should read? I think Ash is clearly a much better book but it doesn't seem like it would fit this list better... [more]
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I read in an interview that he felt revolution changed a society, changed language and changed thought so utterly that you couldn't write it unless you had been through it. And, in books like Iron Council, he wanted to avoid falling into the... [more]
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a) "The whole idea of 'gender' is a social construct and completely meaningless/damaging, especially to gay men and all women" b) "My child is VERY firm in being a male/female and must be treated by these same norms as he/she... [more]
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I wrote a big post but then decided that I'd simply observe that I was a fat kid who rode my bike a lot. It's worth remembering that biking has lots of health benefits (and regular exercise mitigates a LOT of health problems that come along... [more]
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You know, as someone who has been part of running some collective spaces, I think it's quite reasonable to kick things up a notch, for the reasons cited by jon1270. I'm not totally into some of the anger you're showing and I'm not totally sure that... [more]
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I've never, never understood why helmet laws were such an issue. I cycle a fair amount (although that's gone down a bit since I got a motorcycle), grew up where helmets were mandatory until the age of 18 and wearing one just seems normal. The... [more]
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We always used to call them crusties or gutter punks around here until a few years ago - but I have been told that "crusty" actually used to be a specific music subculture ("crustcore"?) and "gutter punk" was an... [more]
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The biggest concern I can think of in feminism is intersectionality - how does feminism (or how can feminism) be a useful framework for all women, especially including women of color, native women and trans women? The biggest internal issue in... [more]
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end up with a working Okay, that was a hugely bad way to phrase that. "Working" genitals are the ones that do what you want them to do. I was trying to get at "some folks would prefer not to have a surgically created penis... [more]
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I actually would like all the biological details. I know that surgery is expensive, and I have friends who can't afford it and have fundraisers and such, but I do not have any trans friends who do not want the surgery on anything but financial... [more]
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This is a bigger problem than helmets. Why should safety suffer because your cops are racist? If the public safety benefit is marginal (which it obviously is, or the research would not be so equivocal), and there's no way to reign in the... [more]
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Kissing people without some kind of clearly stated "we are both into the kissing thing now, right?" is pretty high-level dating technique. I'm not saying that no one should do it, but it requires a lot of ability to read non-verbal cues... [more]
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I assumed they meant Rainer Werner Fassbender there for a minute, and I was thinking "a quart low on reliability, yes, but mystery?" [more]
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Have you ever just asked him to stop? I know you're asking what the behavior is called, but since people are giving you advice, I'll jump in: I had a couple of crucial conversations when I was younger where people said, "please stop doing... [more]
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....and guess what gender and race good old S. Asma belongs to? And his general physiognomy? Short, swarthy and chubby or blond, blue-eyed and thin? And his social class? Is he one of the few proles teaching at Columbia? A short look at Wikipedia... [more]
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Frowner, that was meant to be an argument for left-wing misanthropy, which can have more beneficial impacts on humanity than all the pious sentimental pity in the world. Another problem: Asma's idea that the civil rights movement and feminism are... [more]
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Zizek and Badiou, who are both communist philosophers I'm assuming that "who are both communist philosophers" is not meant to be some kind of "see, see, left wing philosophers take a similar tack to Asma" (who I keep... [more]
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These days middle class liberals seems far more concerned with equity than equality; with ending discrimination on the basis of irrelevant characteristics like gender and sexuality rather than ending poverty. It's certainly worth reading... [more]
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I mean, the whole problem is that it is just so blindly selfish and privilege-y to frame the whole "what do we do about human suffering" matter in this way - it's the "have you stopped beating your wife yet" of philosophy... [more]
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If you want a "little bit of funk" on a dressy men's shoe, buy a pair of not-too-sleek Allen Edmonds and take them to your cobbler. Have him or her remove the heel piece and add a chunky vibram (or similar) sole on top of the existing... [more]
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Er, are these really all that weird? Or were pre-Nevermind major labels going through a very conservative phase? Yes, actually. That's why all these "weird" albums are so male and/or straight, why a lot of them hinge on the... [more]
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Oh wait, he's at Columbia Chicago, not real Columbia. [more]
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I wonder what responsibility David Foster Wallace bears for all this? Everyone is name-checking Sedaris, but when I read all this "I am behaving badly just as anyone would" worm's eye view of humanity, it seems like a lazy person's... [more]
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China has a long, long way to go before they can have an anti-establisment movement that empowers individuals. And there's a lot of labor organizing and environmental stuff going on in China, or so I hear. Plus, of course, let's remember... [more]
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Honestly, the actual articles make it sound like women are gaining power and choices and there's a lot of cultural pushback, but the power and choices are nonetheless real. I suspect that a lot of government rhetoric about leftover women is rooted... [more]
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