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(Just to add - I have never heard that any closure was correctly followed by "Mr. Letter Writer", "Ms. Letter-Writer", etc. It would always be "James Letter-Writer" or "Mary Letter-Writer, PhD" or… [more]
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How do you meet people you feel you click with? Your question really resonates with me. It took me a long, long time to make friends when I moved here, and even now, when I have friends, there are times when I am still so lonely… [more]
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I think there's this whole difficult-to-let-go-of logic of collecting and saving that gets tied in to the market and to fear of death. Leaving aside the colonialism aspect because it's been covered upthread - I think we have to let go of the idea… [more]
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Perhaps this is the place to mention that in a recent class, my professor (a grown man!) recounted that he had twice (recently!) been physically threatened by students over grades. This at a perfectly conventional large university and in a rather… [more]
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"Birthday Cake" was a mix tape staple for me in college, back when my thirtieth birthday seemed really far away. Time passes. [more]
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I am almost 40 years old. You make as much as I do (and I make more than almost all my friends). My benefits are probably better than yours and my job has no heavy lifting, but seriously, don't underestimate making good money. As a single… [more]
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This really is so much like Oryx and Crake, only actually kind of worse. Pleeblands, here we come. Actually, what frosts me the most is that sure, Google will develop some kind of radical life extension and so on - for the 1%, and the same… [more]
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Also, honestly, in these days of super-sophisticated photography and other imaging, we don't actually need to have All the Artifacts to still provide a rich museum experience. It's nice to see things in the flesh - and it's important to be… [more]
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It's in that spirit that I dislike this piece. It reads to me like a rejection of imagination and rapture and transcendence and an embracing of...I don't know, exactly, status and prestige. I'm not actually into Super Post-Feminist Girl… [more]
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You're right that there's a lot to be known, but wrong that it's unknowable. When C. S. Lewis was 16, he met Arthur Greeves, who was his best friend (after his brother). They corresponded for literally the rest of Lewis's life. Obviously the early… [more]
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This always bugged the heck out of me - the idea that Narnians know about Christmas. What exactly do they think they're celebrating? Shouldn't they be celebrating "Aslan-mas" or something? I really feel that this is a problem… [more]
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What I mean about Girl Power Susan is that what she suffers always and only makes her succeed. It's like an equation. [more]
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I work with someone who is unusually successful in their field, demonstrably brilliant and popular - and who has a last name which is routinely pronounced in a very unfortunate (and also incorrect) way by English-speakers. As socially skilled… [more]
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I think kids can "fight their own fights" if they're old enough to have metacognitive skills about social relationships and if they're coming from a place of self-confidence and support. Little kids need all that "you… [more]
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If you're looking for the best cashmere scarf, you don't want an LE scarf - their cashmere is cheaper and tends to pill. Not to say that I'd turn down an LE scarf, just that if you're really buying for long-term use, that's not what… [more]
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And, this is why the Cuban community didn't watch Lucy, and those in the south never watched The Andy Griffith Show, and bus drivers didn't watch the Honeymooners...... Oh, wait, they DID watch, they just weren't so thin skinned about the humor… [more]
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Perhaps this is a good place to mention Maria Nikiforova and her armored trains full of anarchists. Nikiforova was a great power in Ukraine in the years around the Russian revolution - apparently eclipsing Mahkno - but has largely been written out… [more]
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(IME, people do leave, by the way. Even shouty people.) [more]
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I started doing some yoga-derived stretches for my back and I "grew" about 3/4 inch - but this was because I had had some kind of messed up back problems before. If you have a lot of stooping/compression/desk-job-ism, I would recommend any… [more]
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This tumblr is one of the best tumblrs out there, IMO. It really uses the medium to the fullest, the writer is extremely smart and has great instincts for relevant scholarship, and the subject is just awesome on many levels, artistically,… [more]
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Here is something I wonder: Are you bad with dealing with strong feelings? I ask because I have a tendency to get all flat and "oh, I don't like ceremonies and I don't have a lot of close connections or strong feelings"… [more]
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Try to picture how this conversation would go. "Oh, yeah, I wear a size four too." "No you don't. You're much too big." "What?" "You're too big. When I look at your waist and chest, I can tell that… [more]
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That Heiko Julien thing reminds me of the Sick Puppy story in Girl With Curious Hair crossed with Generation X with a little bit of Kathy Acker and her general cohort. That is, I don't think it's new in some kind of… [more]
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THAT SAID, I’ve been saying on MeFi for actual years that if you know any young people who’ve grown up with social networks as a way of life it is sort of astonishing how interesting and witty and sharp the a lot of them have turned their local… [more]
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Will this be another thread where we all humble-brag about how we don't really care much for refrigeration and would be happy with a dorm fridge did circumstances permit? I like having a decent sized refrigerator. I do not like… [more]
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Bring a cooler for the food - let those who want to eat the Indian food eat the Indian food, and let her know that you're looking forward to junk snacks. Here is a thing: often on metafilter people give advice that's basically "each table… [more]
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Have you ever lived in a culture dramatically different from your own? It can be pretty stressful and intense, although fluent English is probably a help. It's quite possible that working and living in the US (you sound US-ian, right?) and dealing… [more]
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I was thinking about this on the way home the other day, because so many things contour our perception of fashion and all kinds of rather ugly or at least unwanted sentiments can creep in. Clothing access, for one thing - dressing… [more]
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It sounds rather as though you might want to read Put This On - here is a very short post on "IT dressing" and here is their take on the "essential man's wardrobe". Put This On is a pretty solid style blog in that it does not… [more]
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It just so happens that I live with a guy who is somewhat older and somewhat larger than you, and we talk about clothes from time to time. In my opinion, he looks good in slightly structured clothes that fit well - so mostly button-front shirts,… [more]
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Okay. A sportcoat/blazer/odd jacket - those are all the same thing, a jacket that is not part of a suit. I am assuming in the advice below that your husband isn't going for some kind of Raf Simons or Yohji Yamamoto or otherwise really avant-garde… [more]
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No no no! Totally break up with this therapist! Transference is a two-way fucking street - the shrink's job is to manage that stuff, not berate you about it. The best-case scenario is that your particular personality and situation… [more]
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Also, bear in mind that if you bring this up, you are foregrounding how much time you are spending scrutinizing this woman's body, deciding she's actually a twelve or a fourteen, etc. You will come off as at least as odd as she is,… [more]
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I don't really understand the weird dig about baristas being "class-mixed" and I certainly am not going to get into one of those arguments about who is a "real worker" but I promise you that beard prohibitions are common in… [more]
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A thing to remember: he is probably in love with you because you are straight, thus unavailable. In a sense, any unavailable person would do instead, because the whole point of the exercise is generally to create a kind of miserable stasis… [more]
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The thing is, it seems extraordinarily unlikely that the Movember people thought "aha, let's reinforce traditional masculinity and racism under the guise of working on men's health." What they almost certainly thought was "we have… [more]
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With large numbers of minority-ethnic men—for instance Kurds, Indians, Mexicans—sporting moustaches as a cultural or religious signifier, Movember reinforces the “othering” of “foreigners” by the generally clean-shaven, white majority. Imagine a… [more]
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As you decide what to do about this situation, maybe you should make a list of things you will not do and things you do not want to happen. I know that when I am faced with a friend in need, it is very hard for me not to make promises… [more]
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Shit, I am a USian and this statement seems ridiculous to me too. Saying that nothing that happened before 1750 "mattered" rules out not only the founding of all the worlds' major religions, but also nearly all the scientific achievement… [more]
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It's not merely play; it's play with an implicit message. Regarding it as merely play seems like the same kind of reductive attitude seen in phrases like, "It's just a joke," or "I like what I like, so what?" What I'm… [more]
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I'm pretty sure that we wouldn't be friends IRL, and that's fine. when my choice of employer gets in the way of being on the same team regarding a social issue that we both care about. I'm not fine with that. But it would depend on the… [more]
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You don't do the cops' work for them? Oh, so you don't avail yourself of the resources of the state when it comes to sexual assault? You wouldn't support giving police officers more cultural competency training for dealing with rape victims? Or to… [more]
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I sometimes feel like people don't grasp that anarchism means something, radical politics means something. This Vahid character (and I think I've been hearing bits of this through informal channels for a while) actually did… [more]
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I agree that I don't really see how it says anything about people who want to emulate the Capitol makeup styles (if those people even really exist in any significant numbers) other than that they like the aesthetic. I can see an argument in this… [more]
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We like to dance fast!
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(Oops, I see that you're working with your union. What have they advised in general? Does your union have actual clout in the workplace?) Also, maybe sit down and make a list of goals and a list of things you like and don't like in a job and… [more]
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Okay, I'll just lay this out: I feel guilty right now. I feel shame. I have been thinking about and worrying about this thread all day, wondering why the hell I participated when I knew that it would cause me a huge anxiety flare-up. I say… [more]
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I feel like there's some enormous miscommunication going on here, because I cannot believe that what's going on is that people are getting upset because some folks are [we're all assuming for the sake of the argument] dressing up as the bad guys from… [more]
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(I add that if you're in radical activist circles, you don't care the same way if the Tea Party hates you as you do if your radical peers decide that you're a shitty person. The state (and its Tea Party members) has enormous and dangerous… [more]
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The thing is, though, there's so many different lefts (or anarchisms, etc). Failure to talk about that is one of the problems with this piece, I think. So for instance, a space that was truly aiming at welcoming and protecting sex workers… [more]
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