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China has a long, long way to go before they can have an anti-establisment movement that empowers individuals. I guess I want to add that China has had all kinds of mass movements that empower individuals, from the awful and scary... [more]
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Perhaps remember that you're asking for someone to do what is potentially kind of a lousy job - one that is very finicky, requires remembering a lot of information for one person and a lot of "managing the boss" time....and yet is only a... [more]
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"The most common racist behavior is white liberals lecturing everyone else on racism during Black History month. I mean, I think there's some truth to this - that when white folks talk about racism, we need to be pretty careful and... [more]
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Here is a thing: as a white person who has spent their whole life on the fringes of the middle class, I grew up without learning certain kinds of manners. And people like me, when we enter worlds where certain kinds of manners are normal and... [more]
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"and because I am so thrifty, I do all of this on part time wages so I have more time for my art!" So I should have continued and said that this type of admonitory figure is one that's about thriving under extremely adverse and... [more]
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I don't know that I disagree, but it's not as simple as just playing reverse-the-sexes, because men doing this to women would be doing so with the full force of thousands of years of patriarchy behind them. See, here is a thing: it's true... [more]
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I had a strangely good meal at a well run Red Lobster a couple of years ago - I mean, the food was not startlingly original or amazingly high in quality, but it was all competently cooked and seasoned. If memory serves, I had snow crab legs and... [more]
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Can someone explain what is meant by the fuss/controversy about reblogging? I suspect that there are many controversies over reblogging. Some include: 1. Reblogging while stripping away a key portion - ie, someone has written a... [more]
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This sort of mass event ... is more about feeling good about yourself than anything constructive. I'm all activist-y and I didn't hear about this until yesterday. That tells me that it's organized by people outside the usual channels... [more]
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I know this is marked answered, but I wanted to say that my first thought, when I read about your kid's continuing minor-yet-stupid behavioral troubles at school, is "how much of those troubles derive from or are reinforced by your ex's bad... [more]
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Oh, that's a thought: you might want to find some friends who are older than you and who will find your "wolf plus computer brain" approach gently amusing and sort of touching and who will always reciprocate because they feel that you need... [more]
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I have lived in group houses for most of my adult life and I do sympathize, but I think you're stuck. Honestly, I view this as their fuck-up more than yours - if you are looking for housemates whose lifestyle and ethics match your own unusual ones,... [more]
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I am somewhat confused about why you'd hire Card to write Superman anyway - I mean, none of Card's work that I can think of is about Superman figures (Ender isn't superman; the kid in the proto-Mormons-plus-magic isn't Superman...maybe... [more]
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I know this specific campaign is new, but Eve Ensler's been doing Valentine's Day (V-Day) performances of her Vagina Monologues (usually with proceeds donated to charities supporting women's interests) for a long time now. I wouldn't say that it's... [more]
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Oh, and I add that noting "we are mostly white" came from a place of "the androgynous model is tied in with whiteness, colonialism and the disparagement of indigenous and people of color gender patterns" not "white people are... [more]
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In the world of touchy-feeling organizer-trainers, there are very few actual insults, but if someone says to you, "[it's possible to do thing], but know that...." then things are very bad. Also "I hear that you are... [more]
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(I guess I should clarify - "if your therapist understood that your son is sleeping on the floor as punishment" - as is pointed out upthread, not having a bed because you are struggling to stay afloat financially is really different... [more]
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Another thought: your therapist is virtually certainly a mandated reporter, and the "mandate" is pretty strict. If your therapist understands that the kid is sleeping on the floor, I am surprised that this did not trigger a mandated... [more]
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Oh, I wanted to add that "androgynous egalitarianism" is not "the best"; there's a whole bunch of stuff about, for example, butch/femme relationships...and often people think that in order to be power-equal, a relationship has to... [more]
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I mean, I have no opinion one way or the other about Prince's music; I'm just glad that he seems to have stayed merely local and eccentric rather than leaving and messing up his whole life the way Courtney Love did. (Now there was a girl - or at... [more]
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What strikes me immediately is how the corrupt and violent state of our prisons is used to pressure people by the very state that runs the prisons and makes sure that they are violent and corrupt. "We run our prisons in such a way that... [more]
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Also, one thing our union won - the end to keeping people on as temps for years. Before the union, you could work your whole career here as a temp with no benefits and wages lower than everyone else's - now, with the union, if a position is going to... [more]
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But the motif of "heroic melancholy", that depression clears away the illusions and lets one see true reality and that it somehow fuels creativity, that's just so much Romantic bullshit and cheerleading on self-destruction, all while... [more]
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What I don't see in your diet is anything definitely fiber-dense - not all vegetables and fruits have a lot of fiber, and the best sources of fiber IME are certain grains, beans and tubers. Can you look into that, figure out if you are... [more]
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I mean really, dairy meat and eggs have almost no fiber, nuts have a tiny bit, you probably aren't eating that much chia - that means you have to be eating, like, a ton of vegetables to get a meaningful amount. See, this is why I am... [more]
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I think that, for pretty much anyone who hasn't grown up in the US, PETA will probably always seem like a bunch of nutters. They perfectly encapsulate how Americans will often take an ostensibly sensible idea (not being cruel to other animals) and... [more]
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When you don't use your sick days, you help create a culture where people are expected not to use their sick days. (I work in a place where no one takes vacation; I haven't taken an actual vacation where I took a whole week off since 2007.)... [more]
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And non-texters: What's so wrong with frequent-ish, low-level contact? What's wrong with it? I'm concentrating on something and I don't want to be pestered with beeps every two seconds. When I'm working or writing or reading, I... [more]
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I do like the way that this points to the "labor" of constructing a social personality - and that it is labor, paid in scrip (becoming "mayor" of a bar? is this the immortality that the poet promised?). I mean I know... [more]
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I find the NYT a fairly conservative paper, honestly. It does not spout Tea Party talking points, but its basic outlook is rightwing. Bear in mind, by the way, that just because something is endorsed by a Democrat does not make it progressive, left... [more]
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How have we not already accepted that slave owners were rich money-grubbing assholes, that cared absolutely nothing at all for people who weren't part of his family. Why is this a thing all of a sudden? Did these people not take history classes in... [more]
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Regarding those who say they don't give a damn what they look like: My father-in-law buys Folger's coffee in giant containers from Sam's Club. He doesn't want to try anything better because it gets the job done and it's cheap. But he doesn't know... [more]
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It's worth noting that the guy apparently had quit Zoloft shortly before all this happened. I don't know, honestly. I had a friend who did a moderately bad thing (no violence or sexual assault, no racial aspect, not related to a romantic... [more]
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Can you talk to them? Knock on the door or leave a note saying "My dog and I ran into you this morning, and I'm afraid we all wrong-footed each other - she is a nice, safe dog but a little nervous. I would love to take a few minutes to meet you... [more]
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I add that the "moderately bad thing" was bad enough that it broke up our friend group. The friend who did it vanished for a couple of years, then suddenly started sending money for restitution to the injured parties. And now we're... [more]
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But the point is that no one is really a hipster. The hipster is a symbol. [more]
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Hm. I have often said things like, "I am glad you're here because I don't know how to hook up the projector!" or "I know you're going to be so helpful because you have extensive experience with this process!" In the first... [more]
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But who is going to work all these delivery jobs, boxing up our razor blades for same day delivery and so on? They are going to be making shit wages under very precarious conditions with probably almost no ability to predict which days they'll be... [more]
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It sounds as though you work at a bar or a theater or some place where there's a lot of crossover between social and work life in the normal course of things, and where it would be sort of weird to go all "professional" all of the sudden... [more]
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I cannot guarantee that it is anxiety, but I will say that as someone who has had periods of intense anxiety, I have caused myself symptoms like this. I have had all kinds of lumps in my throat and difficulty swallowing, for example, plus... [more]
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Here are some things I have observed: 1. It is possible to have a need for work, family and partner relationships which will fail. It is possible to seek out, over and over again, men (these are all men, right?) who will criticize... [more]
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Oh, I wanted to say two more things: 1. The bout of twitching that I referenced earlier took a while to die away, even after I had become convinced that it was benign and taken steps to address my anxiety. Even now, I occasionally get bouts of... [more]
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Oh, I add that if someone says, "But I don't know how to hook up the projector either!" or "I'm sorry, the Dean just asked me to go to this meeting so I have to run", I am perfectly happy to respond with "I'll call the IT... [more]
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It's a fundamentally better model if you want your neighborhoods to be desolate crime-ridden wastelands full of shuttered shops. So everyone who works retail (itself not that awesome a job) will either be totally jobless and destitute or... [more]
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Minnesota liberalism was, I think, always pretty much skin deep. What finally tore away the facade? I think it was 9/11, more than racism. (Minnesota has been racist for a very long time; many Minneapolitans once proudly considered the city to be... [more]
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In the 'realities of being a Hungarian Roma in Canada" article, they point out that the generous, lavish benefits that people are allegedly emigrating to scam off the Canadian government are something like $1100 a month, out of which you have to... [more]
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Oh, another thing: I've found that when interacting with younger guys (I'm a queer person who occasionally dates guys, so my situation is different from yours) that very often they want a close, supportive, non-sexual relationship with an... [more]
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a.) A mentor b.) A friend c.) Not in their age group Yes, this! By happy coincidence, I too am in my thirties and spend a lot of time in a [political] scene that skews young and where I tend to take on a lot of certain kinds of... [more]
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Use whatever words you like, but I think it's disingenuous to imply that people who avoid a word are doing it because we/they have a problem pointing out anyone's failings. Now, I am perfectly willing to believe that here on Metafilter,... [more]
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Yeah, Frowner, that's pretty weak. The "cracker isn't nearly as insulting as other words" thing is probably a valid argument. "It's okay to insult white people because white people are awful" is bullshit and terrible.... [more]
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