Activity from Frowner

Show Favorites Activity: Fuzzy | Precise | Popular
I don't know a better word for 'has a large vocabulary and uses it precisely'. If you have a suggestion, I'm all ears. See, this is where one needs a sense of social context. Yes, Obama is an extremely gifted speaker (and that's... [more]
favorited 11 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Er, that was perhaps a little too long. Sorry about that. [more]
favorited 1 time
MeFi comment - Last year

Wear something your grandpa would have recognized as being in good taste and hope that civilization holds together enough that your grandchildren would likewise think so. My grandfather would have disowned me if he'd lived long enough to... [more]
favorited 7 times
MeFi comment - Last year

The problem with stuff like this is, if you truly take it to heart, if you really feel the guilt like the authors intend that you do, you start to be afraid of opening your mouth and restrict yourself to speaking to people outside of your cultural... [more]
favorited 2 times
MeFi comment - Last year

It's funny, "The Cool, Cool River" isn't sad to me at all*. In my head, I picture a people under tremendous pressure and moving towards revolution - it makes me think of the indigenous and labor organizers in Mexico, like in Chiapas or... [more]
favorited 1 time
MeFi comment - Last year

It's really hard to make and keep friends, especially if you're at all introverted or awkward - I mean, it's hard for everybody. You aren't broken. A lot of people who seem to have many friends really have many friendly acquaintances. I... [more]
favorited 15 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

But the whole point of this kind of article, culturally, is to bully people into liking or disliking something through fear of being a hipster, of not being hip enough or of having their identity challenged in some way. Economically, it's... [more]
favorited 7 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I think, also, people are reading this differently from me, e.g. Frowner's summation of "I want to get laid tonight doesn't matter who as long as she's attractive enough that I can get it up" is not how I read it—I read it as "I... [more]
favorited 151 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Okay, this is probably not what you're looking for, but activists and punks do this all the time. Sometimes it's just one group of people living together and the name is temporary; sometimes the name lasts through innumerable tenants. Sometimes... [more]
favorited 9 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

In my experience it all seems a lot more okay when you're 18-19 and lack the life experience to know better and the men in your social circle are all telling you it's okay because we've known him forever and yeah he's a little weird but he's... [more]
favorited 20 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Oh, if you are looking for a relationship song that is sad, No Looking by the Raincoats has always struck me as pretty darn sad. It's a translation/reworking of a poem by Jacques Prevert, but it is about a million times sadder than the poem.... [more]
favorited 2 times
MeFi comment - Last year

This is just off the top of my head, based on some journalism I did a while ago about the Oaxaca strikes and indigenous movements - it's not proof. But Oaxaca is an extremely heavily-policed state where many indigenous folks live in poverty and... [more]
favorited 14 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

What The Experts Say: The team has released their investigation to the public and for a limited time you can view a private airing of it online. Learn the steps you can take to prepare your wealth, investments and way of life for this looming... [more]
favorited 11 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

Ooops, posted too soon. I've been reading the links round-ups at Naked Capitalism for a couple of years. The woman financial person who pulls them together seems to know what she's talking about and to rely on a good mix of sources, from... [more]
favorited 2 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

I would have somewhat more confidence in this article if it didn't try to draw an analogy between this condition and "autogynephilia", that old canard about how trans women who are attracted to women want to transition as a sexual fantasy... [more]
favorited 6 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Samuel Delany actually wrote a fantastic and somewhat under-read series of, yes, sword and sorcery books (Neveryona, Escape from Neveryona, Return to Neveryona, one other one) in which the dominant people who run the fancy slave-holding,... [more]
favorited 6 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Oh my god, I read that Requires Hate thing linked upthread. This book is so much worse than anything I had hitherto read about it suggested. It's just un-fucking-believable. I swear - if you have not read extensive excerpts from this book... [more]
favorited 6 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I'd rather pay extra than submit my medical records to my employer - and in fact, next year I will be paying extra. It's demoralizing, but this is how I think of it: 1. I don't trust the average employer to keep private data secure 2. All... [more]
favorited 14 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

Perhaps I shall tell you about my local Target. I live in Target's home town, and if I choose to bus to downtown Minneapolis, I can go to the palatial flagship Target on the main shopping drag, where they have everything plus a few extra... [more]
favorited 7 times
MeFi comment - Last year

(I'd suggest that there are also 'whitesplaining', 'cisplaining', etc - that each word highlights the particular form of privilege in play, and that's why it's valuable. The dynamics that drive racism rhyme with the dynamics that drive... [more]
favorited 6 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I love several of my exes, and might conceivably tell them so on an important occasion. However, I love them in a particular post-relationship way based on our past intimacy. It's great, in fact, to be able to love someone in that almost... [more]
favorited 24 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

I am not certain that unsourced suspicions about social services, and a sense that the people who work at them shouldn't get paid for their work, helps the homeless either. I can only offer the critique in The Revolution Will Not Be... [more]
favorited 4 times
MeFi comment - Last year

(I add that I was "aggressively panhandled" by a drunk and broken-toothed guy a couple of years ago and it was scary. I totally, totally believe it happens. And honestly, I get tired of the "and I just need ten dollars to get... [more]
favorited 3 times
MeFi comment - Last year

When they left they go into an almost new mini-van. I have problems with things like that. You can't - you really can't - judge how poor people are by their immediately obvious possessions. There was an article linked here not long ago... [more]
favorited 18 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Some people are just private and remote; some people need a LOT of time to build trust; some people's "trust" doesn't look like other people's. (I have a friend who trusts me a lot - as I've seen over many years - but that trust isn't... [more]
favorited 10 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

(Just a comment - I don't think "private person" and "introvert" are always the same thing. I know people who are very introverted but very open with close friends, and I myself am actually a bit extroverted but rather private... [more]
favorited 4 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

I like that all reports on Assange are so 100% sure that this is a CIA fit up that the word rape is never mentioned. I don't think that's it, precisely. I think it's that several things are true in the US public mind: 1. We don't really... [more]
favorited 13 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I'm not really sure how picking the normal, socially-rewarded option - the option that does not get you hostility and mockery and make every job interview an even more vexed situation (even if you're wearing pants, ankle slippage is always a... [more]
favorited 5 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Oops.... and I suggested we go and see the show. Whilst this was generally considered a good idea I then was cautioned about the kind of topics and language I might expect 'because you don't talk about that kind of stuff'. I was going to... [more]
favorited 1 time
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

No, this is a terrible, terrible idea. (I have some expertise in research funding) Here's why: 1. It will add an INSANE amount to university research expenses - that means either that a $250,000 NIH grant will suddenly be $150,000 for the... [more]
favorited 13 times
MeFi comment - Last year

yeah? How about if target gave your neighbor 10% off, because he's wealthier and more likely to be a lucrative customer? Is that still cool? I feel like we all really, really need to internalize how contemporary capitalism/government/legal... [more]
favorited 24 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I thought about this a lot more on my way to work and decided to make another comment. 1. Before you do anything think very carefully about what you want the outcome to be versus what's likely to happen. At best, you're going to shame the... [more]
favorited 19 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

(A momentary derail: Sometimes I read blogs by POC and they are upsetting to read. I wanted to clarify that the upset that I might feel in that situation is nowhere near how upsetting it is when some poor kid gets shot by the cops,... [more]
favorited 6 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Russian Ark is awesome - I've watched it twice and it's really definitely a big-screen film. I assumed that there were allusions that I could not get, but the feel and sweep of the film is amazing. I am not a skilled film person, so my opinions... [more]
favorited 3 times
MeFi comment - Last year

What do you mean, "contemporary"? That's the way it's always worked. That statement is no more true of twenty-first-century America as it is of fifth-millennium BC Mesopotamia. Doesn't have anything to do with capitalism. Or, if it does,... [more]
favorited 10 times
MeFi comment - Last year

To be fair, I (and I'm pretty sure elizardbits, too) was saying that the lulz come from vegetarians who say that they're so much more ethical and healthier because they don't eat meat when actually they're junk food fiends No, people -... [more]
favorited 7 times
MeFi comment - Last year

This interview with Dongpin Han, a historian who grew up in rural China during the cultural revolution, discussing his book, The Unknown Cultural Revolution: Life and Change in a Chinese Village was interesting, and there's a transcript of an... [more]
favorited 3 times
MeFi comment - Last year

The other thing I want to add - I have a relative whose health isn't good and who can't wear anything but elastic waisted pants. She usually wears denim ones because they're sturdy and warm. I'm okay with saying "fitted jeans are more... [more]
favorited 15 times
MeFi comment - Last year

A boy who insists on wearing a skirt seems to be asserting the importance of gender norms, not eroding them. See, this risks slipping over into "but trans women are just reinscribing teh patriarchy" reasoning - where when someone... [more]
favorited 15 times
MeFi comment - Last year

"See, what we need is a couple of really big, scary, near-invincible flying narcotic cyborg wildebeest. Then the whole city will come together - black, white, man, woman, sentient orchids, severed demon ninja feet, badger paralegals - against... [more]
favorited 9 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I don't see how it's possible to read his deep investment in appearing "girl-like" as something that is not "based on some kind of Deep Truth About Gender." At least, based in some kind of Deep Truth about his perception of his... [more]
favorited 7 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I've just had a thought: when I took child development classes as part of an abortive attempt at teacher-training, we were told pretty clearly that around age 3 kids "naturally" developed a lot of anxiety about which gender they were and... [more]
favorited 7 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Didn't people make noises like this in the seventies when d'Estaing was elected? And few of them fled. The people who are actually willing to up stakes and leave France, its culture, the amenities available to the wealthy, its education system and... [more]
favorited 13 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I've never heard any meat-eater (except for myself, because I'm a terrible, hateful person who talks about how delicious piggies are to anyone who will listen to me and how they are wrong for not eating the delicious piggies) proselytise... [more]
favorited 13 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I swear to you that if you continue to beat yourself about about this, you'll be looking back when you're older and saying you wasted your youth. I've never been thin, I've always had stretch marks, and a circulatory condition has left with with... [more]
favorited 4 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

IME, mice seem to smell a cat and come in less frequently - we went from having a very mousey house and no cat to a couple of mice a year. Our cat is a very show-offy hunter who likes to bring me the mice to see before she kills them, so I'm pretty... [more]
favorited 1 time
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

(Also, most of the kids I know mostly wear hand-me-downs or thrift store stuff or presents - it's actually cheaper to be able to use a wider variety of hand-me-downs rather than a gender-restricted sort. You don't need "two... [more]
favorited 1 time
MeFi comment - Last year

You should read some queer femme tumblrs! I am a butch queer person of indeterminate gender who isn't really attracted to femme women and reading a lot of those totally changed my feelings about bodies and femme presentation. Sadly, I... [more]
favorited 27 times
Ask MeFi comment - Last year

And dentists, come to think of it! You could improve the lives of MANY homeless people by staffing a free, full-service dental clinic....but of course, if we started giving free and desperately needed care to homeless people, it would be... [more]
favorited 4 times
MeFi comment - Last year

I'm torn because while I feel homeless people probably have the right to beg, makes signs, loiter downtown etc., it really kills urban centers. Directly or indirectly the homeless have been used to justify the nonexistence of benches, closure of... [more]
favorited 28 times
MeFi comment - Last year

Page: 1 ... 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 ... 58