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Oh, and one more thing about men and cars, although I'm not a man: when I was growing up, many of the working class and lower-middle-class men I knew were always basically suffering from having cars. Cars were, in fact, a matter of dread to… [more]
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I have had lumpy sore spots that were just...lumpy sore spots (that hurt when I pressed). I actually usually ignore them now after racing off to the doctor a couple of times. Stress, cartilage stuff, dietary changes, hormonal changes - those can… [more]
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Do you have women friends? I mean just friends - not women who are related to you and hang out with you or women you wish you could date. So much of this question seems like the product of not really being friends with women and thus not… [more]
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Vis-a-vis administration: administrative costs are significantly driven by reporting requirements. Schools have to do a great deal of reporting about grant and contract funds for research, much of which is appropriate and some of which is… [more]
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Is he wearing the right size? Has he been professionally fitted at a real shoe store? If he needs a wide fit or a half size, he'll be wearing shoes out faster. [more]
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(With the herbs - start small. Bay leaves, rosemary, thyme and other "twiggy" herbs are often quite strong, so more than a bay leaf or two or a sprig or two (or a sprig's worth of leaves) will be too much. Basil and dill and other… [more]
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Have you thought of incorporating fresh herbs? They are not unlike spices (I say this because back before I used to cook much, I had a "plant pieces that you use to flavor foods" category in my mind which I sometimes called… [more]
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I dunno, 1940's fashion still looks pretty damn classy to me. THAT look would be super cool to come back in style. Like in Blade Runner! But forties fashion used to be considered frumpy-crazy in, say, the sixties or even the… [more]
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(Vis-a-vis Chernobyl, too, remember that the response to Chernobyl was everything that a huge authoritarian industrial empire could muster - they had guys in radiation suits doing thirty-second shifts shoveling radioactive debris, they had… [more]
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Why not make a cake and order pizza? Seriously, make a layer cake - everyone loves those. Use the good old Joy of Cooking recipe here and make a vanilla or chocolate buttercream. One recipe of this cake makes two medium thick layers in 8 or 9 inch… [more]
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They did have a "Don't have a cow, man!" shirt in there, which wasn't far off from "Let's Fart!", based on the reactions I got to my Bart Simpsons t-shirt. Oooh gosh, remember all those late eighties/early nineties pop… [more]
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It would be a kick if the caldera erupted - it might kill enough people and derail enough industry to permanently slow global warming. Of course, I'd probably die - but that's going to happen eventually anyway. [more]
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I tend to assume that anything I try to do on this front will be either very small-scale or pretty useless. Like, it makes sense to try to insure that my house is in good condition - I want to refinish the basement so we have a comfortable space… [more]
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I'm still waiting for ultra-wide-leg jeans to come back. I have a friend who didn't wear shoes for most of summer 1996 because her feet were always hidden inside her jeans. Interestingly, I think those derived from Northern Soul styles… [more]
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Also, of course, just what is revived varies. Everything that the fashion kids today are reviving as "grunge" is (with very minor exception) actually what we would have considered boring and risible back in the day, certainly not… [more]
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(I should clarify that I owned a number of things not just from the JCP catalog but from the JCP clearance catalog - I remember one particular semi-cropped striped pullover, some vests and a pair of button-fly jeans. We were not especially… [more]
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I'm sorry, but no. I was widowed at 33. What happened to me was shitty, and was definitely Loss and Tragedy, but I am in no way damaged. But society kept telling me I should be, so it took me a hella long time to realize that I wasn't, and maybe… [more]
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You should read Gene Wolfe's Book of the New Sun. It pulls together a lot of threads - it's set in a far future (no really) "dying earth"-style world with sorta-medieval elements (swords, guilds, no telephones, picturesque attire, exotic… [more]
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In a weird way, this makes me think of the lack of care given to young women of color in the music industry whose personae are based on exaggerated sexuality. Miley Cyrus is named in this letter as a vulnerable young woman and this is, I… [more]
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With most of my intimate friends, the intimacy is not constructed out of secrets. That's not to say that we never reveal secrets to each other, but the friendship is built rather than transactional. Like, we're close because our… [more]
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Why does it sound so unlikely that that individual Hopi member who first sold the masks may not have made masks themselves and sold them to traders, realizing that traders found them valuable? And if the Hopi claim is that they held property in… [more]
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I want to add that only you know if this is drama-llama stuff or not. If you really, truly hurt the guy intimately, frankly it's not "drama llama" to be unable to forgive that. There were a couple of things that were done to me in… [more]
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Maybe you could productively explore whether you think that men and women can be friends/have platonic relationships. It sounds as though your assumption is that if he has any contact with a [straight?] woman, it's in danger of tipping over into… [more]
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You might talk to your city council person about a permanent memorial on the site - they probably won't say yes, because there are a lot of accidents and violent deaths. You comment on "gentrification" as if that word is a… [more]
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(Just to add - I have never heard that any closure was correctly followed by "Mr. Letter Writer", "Ms. Letter-Writer", etc. It would always be "James Letter-Writer" or "Mary Letter-Writer, PhD" or… [more]
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How do you meet people you feel you click with? Your question really resonates with me. It took me a long, long time to make friends when I moved here, and even now, when I have friends, there are times when I am still so lonely… [more]
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I think there's this whole difficult-to-let-go-of logic of collecting and saving that gets tied in to the market and to fear of death. Leaving aside the colonialism aspect because it's been covered upthread - I think we have to let go of the idea… [more]
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Perhaps this is the place to mention that in a recent class, my professor (a grown man!) recounted that he had twice (recently!) been physically threatened by students over grades. This at a perfectly conventional large university and in a rather… [more]
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"Birthday Cake" was a mix tape staple for me in college, back when my thirtieth birthday seemed really far away. Time passes. [more]
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I am almost 40 years old. You make as much as I do (and I make more than almost all my friends). My benefits are probably better than yours and my job has no heavy lifting, but seriously, don't underestimate making good money. As a single… [more]
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This really is so much like Oryx and Crake, only actually kind of worse. Pleeblands, here we come. Actually, what frosts me the most is that sure, Google will develop some kind of radical life extension and so on - for the 1%, and the same… [more]
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Also, honestly, in these days of super-sophisticated photography and other imaging, we don't actually need to have All the Artifacts to still provide a rich museum experience. It's nice to see things in the flesh - and it's important to be… [more]
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It's in that spirit that I dislike this piece. It reads to me like a rejection of imagination and rapture and transcendence and an embracing of...I don't know, exactly, status and prestige. I'm not actually into Super Post-Feminist Girl… [more]
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You're right that there's a lot to be known, but wrong that it's unknowable. When C. S. Lewis was 16, he met Arthur Greeves, who was his best friend (after his brother). They corresponded for literally the rest of Lewis's life. Obviously the early… [more]
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This always bugged the heck out of me - the idea that Narnians know about Christmas. What exactly do they think they're celebrating? Shouldn't they be celebrating "Aslan-mas" or something? I really feel that this is a problem… [more]
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What I mean about Girl Power Susan is that what she suffers always and only makes her succeed. It's like an equation. [more]
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I work with someone who is unusually successful in their field, demonstrably brilliant and popular - and who has a last name which is routinely pronounced in a very unfortunate (and also incorrect) way by English-speakers. As socially skilled… [more]
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I think kids can "fight their own fights" if they're old enough to have metacognitive skills about social relationships and if they're coming from a place of self-confidence and support. Little kids need all that "you… [more]
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If you're looking for the best cashmere scarf, you don't want an LE scarf - their cashmere is cheaper and tends to pill. Not to say that I'd turn down an LE scarf, just that if you're really buying for long-term use, that's not what… [more]
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And, this is why the Cuban community didn't watch Lucy, and those in the south never watched The Andy Griffith Show, and bus drivers didn't watch the Honeymooners...... Oh, wait, they DID watch, they just weren't so thin skinned about the humor… [more]
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Perhaps this is a good place to mention Maria Nikiforova and her armored trains full of anarchists. Nikiforova was a great power in Ukraine in the years around the Russian revolution - apparently eclipsing Mahkno - but has largely been written out… [more]
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(IME, people do leave, by the way. Even shouty people.) [more]
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I started doing some yoga-derived stretches for my back and I "grew" about 3/4 inch - but this was because I had had some kind of messed up back problems before. If you have a lot of stooping/compression/desk-job-ism, I would recommend any… [more]
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This tumblr is one of the best tumblrs out there, IMO. It really uses the medium to the fullest, the writer is extremely smart and has great instincts for relevant scholarship, and the subject is just awesome on many levels, artistically,… [more]
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Here is something I wonder: Are you bad with dealing with strong feelings? I ask because I have a tendency to get all flat and "oh, I don't like ceremonies and I don't have a lot of close connections or strong feelings"… [more]
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Try to picture how this conversation would go. "Oh, yeah, I wear a size four too." "No you don't. You're much too big." "What?" "You're too big. When I look at your waist and chest, I can tell that… [more]
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That Heiko Julien thing reminds me of the Sick Puppy story in Girl With Curious Hair crossed with Generation X with a little bit of Kathy Acker and her general cohort. That is, I don't think it's new in some kind of… [more]
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THAT SAID, I’ve been saying on MeFi for actual years that if you know any young people who’ve grown up with social networks as a way of life it is sort of astonishing how interesting and witty and sharp the a lot of them have turned their local… [more]
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Will this be another thread where we all humble-brag about how we don't really care much for refrigeration and would be happy with a dorm fridge did circumstances permit? I like having a decent sized refrigerator. I do not like… [more]
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Bring a cooler for the food - let those who want to eat the Indian food eat the Indian food, and let her know that you're looking forward to junk snacks. Here is a thing: often on metafilter people give advice that's basically "each table… [more]
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