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Yeah - I think the "Thatcher Destroyed Industry" narrative misses where the UK was in 1979. Rampants strikes, blackouts, demarcation, inflation up at 30%. The Labour party was in freefall, and industry was on its knees. But the... [more]
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She was a woman ahead of her time. There's nothing she did that political leaders around the world aren't doing today; they're just doing it in a more stealthy and underhanded manner. At least she was open about it. It's not just that - it... [more]
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Join organizations - whatever grabs you. There are undoubtedly intramural sports teams, film societies, volunteer groups, religious groups - pretty much anything you could want to do, there will be some relevant group on campus. Here is what I... [more]
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I have had this problem! In fact, I'd say this problem defined my romantic life until I was...um...about thirty. Or rather, until I'd had enough relationships to have enough distance for reflection. Here's what I think: I grew up with... [more]
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That's not how it works. It's not a zero-sum game. You should be ripshit because this racism crap is taking money out of your pocket - if people were given truly equal opportunities, more people would be producing at their best potential, which... [more]
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"Unrelated adults" clauses have historically also been used to discriminate against regular poor people, immigrants (people who arrive without their families and who share housing) and GLBTQ people who have been unable to achieve... [more]
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Books and online resources about complicated music wanted, also listening recommendations
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"Go on" and "tell me about that". I think you're right not even to introduce the concept of "judgment" into the conversation, since even bringing it up as "I am not going to judge you" calls up the specter... [more]
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Not a survivalist, but I think if I was going to be the cold woods that long I would've dug into the earth, like those folks in KC. I find it absolutely fucking hiLARious that the cops in that story are all like "we had to clear this... [more]
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Me! Me! I did this! I mean, sort of. That is, I tend to be very focused on external approval, find it difficult to access my own intrinsic motivations, have fear (instead of envy), and have difficulty having self-esteem. (Actually, I hate the... [more]
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She is someone where, if I thought it would do any good, I'd be dancing and singing that she is dead. All I can think is that she lived a long, rich, easy, honored life - with a comparatively flattering propaganda movie about her just recently - off... [more]
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And I add that when majority-white unions are complicit in racism, we are totally screwing ourselves over. White people don't need Louis CK's [kind of rape-y and homophobic] ideas about what "they" will do to "us" in revenge;... [more]
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Hey remember that excruciating scene in Snow Crash That was actually the first thing I thought of. Is it just me, or has the dystopianization of These United States sped up recently? **** I add that the assumption behind this... [more]
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Oh, and I want to add that having kids and buying a house have not always been some kind of kee-razy, spoiled upper class dream; in many more egalitarian parts of the world, raising a child in some kind of comfort and having stable long-term housing... [more]
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And the moon will be yours to do whatever you like
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Okay, and now I found it. It's "Moon Fragment" by Everett Maddox: A man squats by the railroad tracks tonight eating a moon fragment: not cheese at all, but a honeydew melon. His hands are fuzzy. A train roars past. In... [more]
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I'm a high school dropout who never intended to go to a "real" college, with a single mom that never pushed me to do anything academic, and even *I* knew that you needed extra-curriculars, leadership roles, and damned lies IN ADDITION to... [more]
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I am no treehorn + bunny, but it sounds like the person doing the blood draw mildly damaged the vein and blood sort of "leaked" - at least that is how I understood it when something similar happened to me. It took quite a while to resolve... [more]
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Perhaps you have encountered Mike Davis's City of Quartz and his Ecology of Fear? I enjoyed those, anyway. [more]
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Your subordinate yelled at you in front of the whole office? Jeez, that would be a firing offense in my job (I mean, you probably wouldn't get fired for it, but it would fall under "gross insubordination" and you could be... [more]
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And at this point in my life, I have driven myself to a state where I won't read anything unless it's by Terry Pratchett, Daniel Pinkwater, or J. R. R. Tolkien, or Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency; I won't watch anything besides My Little... [more]
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One of the things I did not realize until I grew old...or older anyway: I had always assumed that "Emotionally I am not ready for a relationship even with someone I really like and so I just can't right now" was twee, emo,... [more]
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The rest stayed in their cabin and played Bananagrams. I guarantee you they all came back claiming their minds had broadened. If you'd sent me - a nerdy little social outcast - on a "work trip" with my classmates to a part of the... [more]
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This individual girl sounds awful, it's true - but I'd like to point out that back in the early nineties I was accepted everywhere I applied (and I applied to pretty good schools - Carleton rather than Harvard, so not absolutely the tippety top, etc)... [more]
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Actually "incubate children in artificial wombs" was a relatively common idea among futurist-minded second wave feminists - you see the idea in the anti-racist utopia in Marge Piercy's Woman On The Edge of Time and in the intro to... [more]
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Most people I know on the market aspire to an upper middle class life. They're after a secure gig that allows them to own property and have kids. And if that's what you want, then getting a PhD in the humanities is indeed a big gamble (for most... [more]
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One of those turns out to be 'slow motion visit to an extremely nice upper middle class home with a really beautiful persian rug". [more]
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Documentaries and other films about writers, libraries and books wanted!
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But people did grow up in those houses, I assume? I'd always thought that the floating-stairs/scary-water-feature ones were mostly either architects' houses or second homes for rich people - that's the impression I get from my stacks of... [more]
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One thing I notice here - your initial question and follow-up mimic your problem. Your initial question is very mild and gives an impression that you're a total milquetoast; your follow-up is much stroppier and gives more facts. It sounds... [more]
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Perhaps some people reading this thread might enjoy Dianna Wynne Jones's Tough Guide To Fantasyland. [more]
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“I'm trying to visualize how much hate I would be subjected to if I said anything like this as a straight male...” You know, it's true that if a straight male friend said something like "how do lesbians know they're on a date or if... [more]
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One thing you can do, mentally, is this: decide for yourself the point at which you will fling caution to the winds and invite her to stay with you. For example, you might say "I would be willing to take her in if she were literally... [more]
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I would submit that perhaps this "giving" model works for a professor at a non-profit university. Good for him (I mean that sincerely). Sounds like a lovely guy. I do think it's worth asking why the NYT is running a profile on a... [more]
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If you have not watched Pom Poko (also known as Heisei-Era Raccoon Dog War, apparently), you totally should. It is the best cartoon movie about tanuki and social justice that there is, and I really admire the way it lays out a lot of stuff. It's... [more]
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Thanks for all the great comments! I'm especially excited to look at some of the books and readings you mentioned. There are some challenges in the teaching I'm doing, so I will need to tweak some of your suggestions when incorporating them -... [more]
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I think it's worth looking at this guy as a product of a system more than as an individual. If you have a lot of money and few social constraints, you get weird and your norms get weird. It's not because of you; it's because of the... [more]
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I think just looking at this through the lens of your paid job is rather limiting. Plenty of people are involved in organizations outside of work that this can be applied to. Organizations that you care about are a potential source of future... [more]
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I knew a guy in college who actually did this. He is extremely charismatic and managed to get an entire restaurant kitchen donated, and installed in the basement of his rental house. Over 100 people were involved in dumpster diving, cooking, and... [more]
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Also, is there a lot of corruption or dodginess with your cops locally? (I know - is water wet?) This could easily be some kind of scam, essentially, but a scam organized by the cops. There could be a shake-down aspect to this, or some kind of... [more]
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If you get really desperate, there is a National Lawyers' Guild chapter in New Jersey. They will be familiar with dodgy cop stuff and will probably be able to direct you to legal resources. Remember to sit tight. The cops do not have a... [more]
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Cops showed up at my house when I wasn't there alleging (totally wrongly) that someone they were looking for lived/had lived there. (I mean, we'd been living there for a while and we knew the people who'd been there before - there was some mistake... [more]
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Your cheap shoes are glued, not stitched. You can have a cobbler glue a protective 'topy' or some other glued layer onto the sole to extend its life if you do this fairly early in the life of the shoe. Even if they are stitched, they're... [more]
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I add that one reason I stopped dumpstering is that I can afford my own food, and I didn't want to be drawing attention to dumpstering locations and taking food for myself when there were others out there who really needed it.... [more]
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If you gave a dinner party and everyone was talking over dinner, someone's chicken might sit on their plate for an hour while they chatted, and they'd take a bite of it every once in a while. Honestly, I have trouble believing this whole... [more]
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One story about his search for a new wife certainly bolstered this view. Shortly after his divorce, Frampton, then 64, expressed concern about finding a wife between the ages of 18 and 35, which Frampton understood to be the period when women are... [more]
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I don't know how bad it is in America (I'm sure it's much worse), but many supermarkets in France will even pour bleach into their dumpsters at closing time to make sure no "bad elements" (i.e. impoverished and starving people) will show... [more]
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I student-taught in our local sixties fortress high school - and the experience put me off teaching permanently. I have no idea whether you get technically better outcomes from more humane architecture - maybe grades and learning are too complex... [more]
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My college went from having (when I was there) real staff who got paid meaningful wages and benefits and who were employees of the college (and therefore, whose kids got the employee tuition break) to being an outsourced service (shortly after I left)... [more]
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I loathe CS Lewis, even though I'm awfully fond of certain aspects of his books, and could probably quote bits and pieces of them. I do really love the parts in Perelandra where Ransom is wandering under the mountain. Why? The endless... [more]
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