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Try to picture how this conversation would go. "Oh, yeah, I wear a size four too." "No you don't. You're much too big." "What?" "You're too big. When I look at your waist and chest, I can tell that… [more]
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That Heiko Julien thing reminds me of the Sick Puppy story in Girl With Curious Hair crossed with Generation X with a little bit of Kathy Acker and her general cohort. That is, I don't think it's new in some kind of… [more]
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THAT SAID, I’ve been saying on MeFi for actual years that if you know any young people who’ve grown up with social networks as a way of life it is sort of astonishing how interesting and witty and sharp the a lot of them have turned their local… [more]
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Will this be another thread where we all humble-brag about how we don't really care much for refrigeration and would be happy with a dorm fridge did circumstances permit? I like having a decent sized refrigerator. I do not like… [more]
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Bring a cooler for the food - let those who want to eat the Indian food eat the Indian food, and let her know that you're looking forward to junk snacks. Here is a thing: often on metafilter people give advice that's basically "each table… [more]
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Have you ever lived in a culture dramatically different from your own? It can be pretty stressful and intense, although fluent English is probably a help. It's quite possible that working and living in the US (you sound US-ian, right?) and dealing… [more]
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I was thinking about this on the way home the other day, because so many things contour our perception of fashion and all kinds of rather ugly or at least unwanted sentiments can creep in. Clothing access, for one thing - dressing… [more]
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It sounds rather as though you might want to read Put This On - here is a very short post on "IT dressing" and here is their take on the "essential man's wardrobe". Put This On is a pretty solid style blog in that it does not… [more]
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It just so happens that I live with a guy who is somewhat older and somewhat larger than you, and we talk about clothes from time to time. In my opinion, he looks good in slightly structured clothes that fit well - so mostly button-front shirts,… [more]
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Okay. A sportcoat/blazer/odd jacket - those are all the same thing, a jacket that is not part of a suit. I am assuming in the advice below that your husband isn't going for some kind of Raf Simons or Yohji Yamamoto or otherwise really avant-garde… [more]
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No no no! Totally break up with this therapist! Transference is a two-way fucking street - the shrink's job is to manage that stuff, not berate you about it. The best-case scenario is that your particular personality and situation… [more]
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Also, bear in mind that if you bring this up, you are foregrounding how much time you are spending scrutinizing this woman's body, deciding she's actually a twelve or a fourteen, etc. You will come off as at least as odd as she is,… [more]
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I don't really understand the weird dig about baristas being "class-mixed" and I certainly am not going to get into one of those arguments about who is a "real worker" but I promise you that beard prohibitions are common in… [more]
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A thing to remember: he is probably in love with you because you are straight, thus unavailable. In a sense, any unavailable person would do instead, because the whole point of the exercise is generally to create a kind of miserable stasis… [more]
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The thing is, it seems extraordinarily unlikely that the Movember people thought "aha, let's reinforce traditional masculinity and racism under the guise of working on men's health." What they almost certainly thought was "we have… [more]
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With large numbers of minority-ethnic men—for instance Kurds, Indians, Mexicans—sporting moustaches as a cultural or religious signifier, Movember reinforces the “othering” of “foreigners” by the generally clean-shaven, white majority. Imagine a… [more]
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As you decide what to do about this situation, maybe you should make a list of things you will not do and things you do not want to happen. I know that when I am faced with a friend in need, it is very hard for me not to make promises… [more]
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Shit, I am a USian and this statement seems ridiculous to me too. Saying that nothing that happened before 1750 "mattered" rules out not only the founding of all the worlds' major religions, but also nearly all the scientific achievement… [more]
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It's not merely play; it's play with an implicit message. Regarding it as merely play seems like the same kind of reductive attitude seen in phrases like, "It's just a joke," or "I like what I like, so what?" What I'm… [more]
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I'm pretty sure that we wouldn't be friends IRL, and that's fine. when my choice of employer gets in the way of being on the same team regarding a social issue that we both care about. I'm not fine with that. But it would depend on the… [more]
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You don't do the cops' work for them? Oh, so you don't avail yourself of the resources of the state when it comes to sexual assault? You wouldn't support giving police officers more cultural competency training for dealing with rape victims? Or to… [more]
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I sometimes feel like people don't grasp that anarchism means something, radical politics means something. This Vahid character (and I think I've been hearing bits of this through informal channels for a while) actually did… [more]
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I agree that I don't really see how it says anything about people who want to emulate the Capitol makeup styles (if those people even really exist in any significant numbers) other than that they like the aesthetic. I can see an argument in this… [more]
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We like to dance fast!
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(Oops, I see that you're working with your union. What have they advised in general? Does your union have actual clout in the workplace?) Also, maybe sit down and make a list of goals and a list of things you like and don't like in a job and… [more]
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Okay, I'll just lay this out: I feel guilty right now. I feel shame. I have been thinking about and worrying about this thread all day, wondering why the hell I participated when I knew that it would cause me a huge anxiety flare-up. I say… [more]
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I feel like there's some enormous miscommunication going on here, because I cannot believe that what's going on is that people are getting upset because some folks are [we're all assuming for the sake of the argument] dressing up as the bad guys from… [more]
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(I add that if you're in radical activist circles, you don't care the same way if the Tea Party hates you as you do if your radical peers decide that you're a shitty person. The state (and its Tea Party members) has enormous and dangerous… [more]
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The thing is, though, there's so many different lefts (or anarchisms, etc). Failure to talk about that is one of the problems with this piece, I think. So for instance, a space that was truly aiming at welcoming and protecting sex workers… [more]
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That was not like what I remember of Mark K-Punk's earlier writing. I notice he's writing a book on depression; I wonder if he's been through the mill. One thing I have noticed - there's a LOT of infighting in a particular couple of… [more]
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I get it. A lot of people use fashion as a way to try out new identities. That's all cool if you live in the suburbs and don't actually have to be around anyone who might actually have something to say about how you might be misrepresenting them… [more]
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I have observed that most moral panics involve things-centered-around-women, things-centered-around-"femininity" or things-centered-around-poor-people. Although in this case, the poor get married in insufficient numbers, so that's not… [more]
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Seriously, I just have to reiterate the absurdity of his outrage machine assessment. A niche segment of bloggers (or even more terrifying, microbloggers) vs. the worldwide Murdoch apparatus? Fundamentalist Christian churches? The Tea Party? Untold… [more]
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Something I experienced that was not about suicide: I was in DC for work (I travel once a year for an event) and going for a little walk before getting the metro to the airport. Up ahead of me a block away I could see that someone was stretched on… [more]
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I think the guilt thing arises from the discomfort one feels when one's worldview changes. It's generally not a pleasant experience. It requires you to reassess your own behavior, past and future. Those things are also true of guilt, so that's… [more]
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Open relationships are difficult enough to get right for many people - even well-intentioned, thoughtful people for whom they basically work! - when they're starting from a good place. If you start opening up the relationship now, you'll probably… [more]
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People in this thread might find the interestingly-named British academic Nina Power's book One-Dimensional Woman of interest. She observes, "Objectification implies that there is something left over in the subject that resists such a… [more]
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I have heard from men for years that it's such an awful shame that women aren't into casual sex the way men are, and why can't heterosexual relationships be more like the kind of ultra-casual ones that a lot of gay dudes have. This is… [more]
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Holy crap that Russell Brand prank call thing is gross. I'm amazed that in all the criticisms of Brand I have seen that has not been the top thing on the list, as it certainly does cause one to be like "to hell with him and the horse he rode in… [more]
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And I also find it kind of strange that you don't see supplying "new ways to dress, new selves to perform, new things to buy" as the point of a narrative as problematic on its own, since I tend to think of you as a member who's at least… [more]
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See, I always have a book with which I am obsessed and which is my personal Greatest Book of All Time [of the moment]. Right now, I am obsessed by A Stranger In Olondria, which is just excellent. My default Best Book Evar is Franco… [more]
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I'm curious about the screaming/throwing/humiliating business. Is this what your child reports or what you've seen? If other parents are saying this, where is their information coming from? IME, "good" kids can experience… [more]
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As usual, the solutions are money, time and workers' rights, so nothing will get fixed. What will happen - if anything! - is that schools will attempt to extract more labor from their underpaid cafeteria staff (incredibly, someone up thread was like… [more]
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There are pretty well-defined practices for non-profit accounting (and thus for government accounting). One of them is auditing, both internal and external. This isn't an accounting issue or a government issue, it's a Pentagon issue… [more]
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I add that I am cool with people not wanting to be my friend because they don't agree with my political choices. Honestly, I'm pretty sure there are people in town who find my politics really compromised and wishy-washy, and I know for a fact… [more]
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How interesting it is that if a friend were to recount the fairly ordinary break-up conversation of some random strangers to you in great and spiteful detail, you'd think your friend was mean-spirited and change the subject, and it would quickly get… [more]
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I'd of course prefer to think he was pulling the wool over the reporters eyes but I don't think it's the simplest scenario. See, back when I was fifteen, I knew some kids who fibbed to stupid reporters who had showed up at our high school… [more]
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Speaking as an older person, I am generally pleased to be able to help promising younger people - it gives me a sense that I am able to use my experience and age instead of just feeling that I am old and behind the times. Also, being asked to write… [more]
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At first I thought this was really creepy - and I still think it's kind of horrible in a broader neoliberalisation-of-everything way! - but then it occurred to me that this is sort of an UMC,… [more]
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The only thing that's "new" in this is its instantaneity. The New Yorker has been doing "overheard in..." columns for decades and you could find similar kinds of things in Punch in the nineteenth century. It's interesting,… [more]
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