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I mean, really they weren't "swinging sixties" - they were student radicals. But they were pretty swinging compared to dear, dear Teddy. [more]
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I actually have some related knowledge (and I too am at a large midwestern research institution, know what a P01 is, etc etc). Our senior person is a member of NCURA; someone else who is up-and-coming is a member of SRA. I would suggest joining,... [more]
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Here is the thing: you are insecure about your ability to be an adult, because you are still getting used to being successful at it. (And good job, by the way - I struggle with some of the same type of things in terms of upbringing and lack of... [more]
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This is actually how it worked in the early days of flight. Then the airlines realized that they'd get more customers if they didn't force people to confront their weight every time they flew. This is one of those ideas that appeals to a... [more]
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I make vegetable puree soups without broth - using a heavy pot with a tight-fitting lid, start with garlic, shallots, onions and/or herbs cooked in butter (well, really I use Earth Balance Buttery Spread TM and olive oil, but you'll probably want... [more]
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Book of the New Sun is all about a Chosen One and it's pretty misogynist (like all Gene Wolfe, really). And yet it is absolutely worth reading. It is one of very, very few books where I am both willing to tune out the misogyny... [more]
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It's called the workhouse, and to be honest it's better to have them working and contributing to society than sitting on welfare/charity doing nothing. LOL! Have you actually read the history of workhouses? Or any statistics about how a... [more]
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What if this same kid spent ten hours a week volunteering to help families get fresh produce and meats and cook good food? Is he more ethical because he is contributing, or still unethical because he is not EARNING? Indeed. Folks... [more]
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1. Best friend and good friend - she is in her late thirties, he is in his late twenties. They have been together for several years, live together and seem likely to stay together - it's a serious relationship in which both seem very happy. She... [more]
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I am a queer woman who has been known to date men. The ones who were attractive to me were the ones who could be read as gay by some people - by which I mean, dudes who were not super-repressed or super macho, dudes who were able to gesture... [more]
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: "I feel like maybe you have a problem with gay people, do you?" When they start backpedaling you can wish them luck on their journal of personal discovery This is truly excellent advice.... [more]
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Have I got a recipe for you! I just made this sweet potato gratin and it was incredibly delicious - all who partook praised it. It says to use a mandoline - I just slice the potatoes as thin as I could. I would sub in half and half for... [more]
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As a general issue, I tend to care more about fiction being good than it being inclusive, and can see over-anxious inclusiveness as something that can mar quality (not that I'm calling QC over-anxious) I do think that seeing yourself in... [more]
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There's also Transgender Health Services Network of Central New York, which seems to offer general medical services, albeit in Syracuse. You might try giving them a call too - they might have recommendations closer to you. And I totally feel... [more]
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Asking about the rules is good. I will say that my late great aunt had a wonderful, selfless carer for the last year of her life - a genuinely nice woman who really brought her whole self to the task. We were all incredibly thankful that my great... [more]
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Howard Cruse's Stuck Rubber Baby. [more]
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I will be interested to see how all this stuff works into the popular culture discourse of "women are naturally sexually fluid and men are naturally not, so basically straight chicks can totally get into making out with each other or having... [more]
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The trouble with dress boots is that they're such an odd item that there just aren't a lot of makers, and they don't even turn up used very often. Most men who wear suits don't wear boots with them; most men who want a pair of boots for wear with a... [more]
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Dapper butch woman here. I too would break up with you over this, and I wouldn't look back - in fact, I'd be astonished that someone who wants to date a femme woman had wasted my time and led me on. Look, you sound like you could stand to do some... [more]
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I add that needing to use a friend's address seems to me to be a pretty common and noncontroversial working class/poor person thing that many middle class people view as incredibly sketch. There are a lot of things like that.... [more]
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You're fine, but lord, don't get married. Of course you want to date other people - that's totally reasonable, and your average late teens relationship lasts for a few months or a couple of years and then ends. It's a slightly tricky thing to... [more]
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Ask him why he needs it. It could be some kind of jurisdictional thing with food stamps, for instance - a friend of ours lost her food stamps for a couple of months when she moved counties because of the address change, for instance. It could be... [more]
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When Camper moved their operation to China, they claimed that it wasn't for the cheap labour, but because the quality of the workmanship was better. Fluevog made the same decision for some of its shoes. Take that with as much salt as you like,... [more]
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The first thing I'd do is take them to a shoe guy and get a topy/sole cover put on - maybe a more textured/winter boot one. Rich fellows like to talk about how leather feels best and sole covers ruin it, but leather wears through if you walk long... [more]
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When I am successful at eating appropriately at work (which is not always!) I bring about 1 C of baby carrots, a small apple and a red bell pepper chopped into 1" pieces. These things are all sweet, crunchy and take a while to eat. The minute I... [more]
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I know a lot of newish parents right now, many of them pretty far from typical in terms of jobs, transportation options, money, gender presentation, sexuality, politics and social habits. What strikes me (as someone who has never, ever wanted to... [more]
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Also, if you are the new person - are you, like, a junior scientist or some such classification? - please trust me when I say that you have not been hired on the assumption that you already have eighty million kinds of lab skills. You've been hired... [more]
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Netbooks for the helpless
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Also, do you have someone to check in with? I helped a friend who was in the throes of depression once by having a "debrief and planning" meeting with them every night (we lived in the same house, but you could do this by email). For a... [more]
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I add that La Roux's Bulletproof goes over best with my crowd, and Santigold's Go rather than Disparate Youth. And Janelle Monae's Tightrope or Dance or Die - I like to dance to Tightrope and am baffled about why it's not the album's dance hit.... [more]
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they're just folks who are quite similar to me but who have sex with people of the same sex. Ok, the sarc answer is "well, that's because you're straight, duh, and the queerer folks are ( the less likely they are to be... [more]
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Wait, what? How are "love" and "want" differentiated? I guess "men don't worry about being 'wanted' because they assume that they are desirable because patriarchy, whereas women constantly feel inadequate because... [more]
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O hey, I hear you! I am not in IT, but I share a lot of your stresses. I hope you are actively working on getting a therapist. I mean, when I decided to find a therapist, it took perhaps three weeks from getting recommendations to sitting on... [more]
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SF writing, like all genre writing, aims first to satisfy the conventions of the genre, second to be actually good writing. One of these conventions is having some interesting ideas. If your story has those, SF fans will excuse your bad writing,... [more]
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Some people like to engineer psychodramas to reenact certain situations that are important to them. There are parts that have to be cast. The bully who creates your victim status (and who is, if you're choosing the cast, not going to be somebody... [more]
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Is there an immigrants' association for people from your parents' background? Maybe they could help you navigate these visits? I have been to the ER a lot, some time ago due to an ongoing health issue and more recently due to a ridiculous... [more]
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Honestly, I think all of this "I hate the ironic hipsters" business is motivated by fear - fear that someone might "see through" your own pretenses; fear that someone is having a better time than you; fear that you have invested... [more]
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This is one that stood out to me given that one of those increases was the CEO's salary going up to $2.55 million from around $750,000. (Another link if the WSJ one doesn't work.) That sounds to me like looting - as if they knew that the... [more]
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Leaving aside how I eat a chopped up bell pepper every weekday, here are some things I find helpful: 1. Bagged baby carrots. At my grocery store, a 2 pound bag runs about $2.50. They're made from the less beautiful carrots that would otherwise... [more]
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Also regarding Tumblr (and with apologies for multiposting), see these three excellent comments from Frowner. Thanks, er, oops, er...those comments said pretty much everything I said in the comment I actually made in this thread...except... [more]
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Man, it is hard to say this without sounding like I'm crying 'Political correctness gone maaaaaad!!!' But I think that we respond to art most perceptively when we have more than a checklist, and some of this criticism feels like it doesn't have... [more]
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I actually fixed a jade bangle with krazy glue and it looks good enough - I can see the break when I look, but it isn't dramatic. (I too dropped it on the bathroom floor.) But what about calling a Chinese jeweler? There must be one in DC, they... [more]
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Here's the thing: an aggregate problem still has individual solutions. In some ways, I think your father is right: ie, we live in a depressing society where a lot of the things that humans need - a community, strong connections with... [more]
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(I don't know how The Girl Who Owned A City's graphic novelization plays out, but you might want to check - the book is a straight-up libertarian parable. I grew up right next to where it's set, the author was local, I read it a ton of times... [more]
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Oh, dude, you need to read Shirley Jackson's Life Among The Savages. Unlike the rest of her writing, it's very gentle and funny. You might also enjoy the non-humor but domestic, sometimes comic and personal mid-century writing of MFK... [more]
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Lasagna! We have a late and small breakfast and a mid-afternoon casual meal of fancy cheese, fancy coldcuts, fancy crackers (a general theme of fanciness emerges) and cut up vegetables and fruit. Dinner would be lasagna, tasty bread, a really... [more]
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Is this real? I mean, he didn't make it up? We could have swapped - he could have spent a year at my house in the US and bankrolled me to spend a year in China and we both would have been happier, I guess. Wish I was walking between Nanjing... [more]
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I think it's super interesting that the enlightened souls on metafilter are so quick to call a guy racist that's reporting on his experiences in rural China where he's a *victim* of racism..one of four or five westerners in a city of four or five... [more]
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I mean, I add that there were days when I felt what I even then knew to be irrationally angry - trying to negotiate a complicated bureaucracy when your Mandarin breaks down at "Which one is cheaper? I would like that one please!"... [more]
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Another thing that seems to make more and more sense as I get older is that it seems that much if not most of the Cold War was propelled entirely by the US "reactions" to threats that didn't really exist - either through bad intelligence,... [more]
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