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The thing I have observed about non-violent communication is that there has to be a certain level of trust, either in the process or in the group involved, for it to work correctly. Non-violent communication is totally like therapy, in that... [more]
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A side note: lots of people have break-up sex, which is what you describe with the boots/chips/cider situation. You may not have thought of it as break-up sex, but it's pretty normal, things are charged, you're still partly attached to... [more]
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(The difference between, say, beginning with "Charlemagne in Sweatpants, you are one of the fightiest people on Metafilter" and "CiS, you get in fights several times a week.") And yet, there's also the discomfort that... [more]
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If you are generally in favor of those horrible policies that hurt people, it makes sense that you would prefer people to discuss them with the first formulation rather than the second. People are making such interesting observations that I... [more]
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"Why do you feel that X word is particularly important to you? Does it convey a particular meaning that you feel Y word is insufficient for?" I would just like to throw out there that this sort of response at best puts me immediately... [more]
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To return to the passport thing: Australians get a minimum of four weeks of vacation per year, plus public holidays. The last time I had a week off work was 2008. My "vacation"? Well, I am fortunate enough to be allowed to take two days... [more]
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An excerpt from Daniel Dennett's new book, Intuition Pumps and Other Tools for Thinking, outlines seven of Dennett's tools for thinking. His second tool is "respect your opponent": As I know only too well from academia, though,... [more]
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You mean conversations like this? Those are the funniest cartoons ever. They validate my experience! [more]
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I really liked corb's explanation of the principles, though. That makes sense and I can see how a general application could be of use. One thing I remember my dad telling me, though, is that the book(s ?) have a list of what is "really"... [more]
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That would be a great conversation, but what I saw was less talking about the subject of the conversation and more talking about the conversation itself. Instead of "what qualities do you assess to determine value?" it was "your... [more]
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It's worth noting that Gray is the child of a dockworker and went to Oxford - as far as I can tell due to the massive "progressive" post-war reforms in the UK education system. I doubt very much that a dockworker's child, no matter how... [more]
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When I look back at your past questions, this seems to have been a pretty high-drama, lots-of-wrong-on-both-sides relationship. And you're in your late teens/early twenties, right? These two facts together suggest several things to me: 1. You... [more]
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Is this what Daily Fail readers see in their heads all the time? Only you know, caused by the gays/the immigrants/the "immoral" pop stars? I was thinking of it more as a yearning for ruins - a yearning for apocalypse. It's... [more]
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I'm sort of sick of the trope that dorks are particularly misogynist. I think it's a sort of 'just world' fallacy. Women don't typically like dorks and lots of dorks are lonely so it must be their fault for being bad people. I'm not saying dorks... [more]
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Sorry to get all Sigmund Freud on you, but the 'feelings' you think you have for this new woman are really just a release of your own inner tension and have nothing to do with love for this person. You've always known you were going to repeat... [more]
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1. I found it fascinating that the book's ubiquity stems - in part - from its distribution to servicemen during WWII. What led to that particular decision, I wonder? Classy enough not to offend, yet debauched enough to interest? Upholding... [more]
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They met a few weeks later at Boskone, the Boston science fiction convention. Isaac had been asked to present the E. E. Doc Smith Award. Somewhat maudlin, he addressed the crowd, saying, "Right now, among all my societies, it is you — and... [more]
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Here's a thing: I used to sigh and get all upset over nonstandard names. "Madyson!!! Emalay!!! Those are barbarous, non-standard spellings!! And why the fuck would you name a child Galadriel?" And then I started spending time in... [more]
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I was definitely expecting something much worse by way of the terrible tenant. I mean, I've had housemates worse than that. It mostly struck me that this person - who had the means to buy in the Castro in 2004 - has super-snowball-ish... [more]
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Reading this thread, it strikes me that people have much higher expectations for poetry than for most other genres - for instance, I read a lot of fancy-pants snob science fiction, but it does not bother me in the least that there's far more... [more]
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Karma Chameleon. I hadn't seen this for years and years and had remembered it as a vaguely utopialy multiracial costume-heavy piece, and it totally is! I really, really love how the story is very much about a collective rather than an... [more]
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And some Public Enemy videos: Black Steel In The Hour of Chaos, Fight The Power, a bunch of other ones. And Camper Van Beethoven, Take The Skinheads Bowling. Take them bowling! I sing that one to my cat a lot, only with "kittens"... [more]
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Actually, I suspect that the political kicker for this guy may be his open boasting about wealth - his own ambitions toward it and the endless "when I had lunch with my kazillionaire friend" routine. While I'm sure there are plenty of snob... [more]
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The reason people dress like this is because of the halo effect of prepatory clothing and propriety. It's basically just a cargo cult of class and pretension and signifies that the wearer is both highly out if his league and aware of it. A craven... [more]
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It seems as though one could solve a lot of the problems around marriage by increasing the social status of women such that women were equal to men both economically and psychically. In an equal society, rich dudes can only "hoard"... [more]
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I'd say that no marriage/long-term partnership really looks happy from the outside - at least I've never seen one. And yet I've talked to a couple of friends very frankly about their relationships and they value and want to preserve them, despite... [more]
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I'm going to echo schmod and throw out my theory (as both a cyclist and a driver- some of us do both!) that many instances of cyclists behaving badly are as much the result of infrastructural design flaws as 'asshat' cyclists. Bikes aren't built... [more]
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My immediate thought is "that waitress was afraid of the bartender or else the work climate is such that she can't address mistakes because people get so horrible". That may be sexism of a different kind, directed at the waitress, of... [more]
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They contrast "minority" with liberal and well educated and just generally do a piss-poor job of everything. What a good point! I was uncomfortable with that but could not express it so well. Also not impressed with the bit... [more]
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You know why? Because I've timed my speed to allow you to go. I know it's your right of way. There's no car behind you and when you take your right of way, I can then proceed through the stop. However, you don't. You sit there and wait for me to... [more]
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I am, however, perfectly happy to moan about people on Nice Ride bikes (our Boris bikes). Granted, those things are so heavy that I don't think they can be anything but a nuisance, no matter who's riding them. I actually like the Nice Ride... [more]
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If everyone involved was happy and having fun and enjoying themselves, why should it be gross to you? Ah, that question was precisely what I was trying to get at! Why does it seem gross? Because it does - not the sex, the anecdote... [more]
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Yeah, one of my friends, who's Finnish, makes her babies take naps outside in the winter. It's apparently a Finnish (or Scandinavian) thing. And it does seem to be true that the babies don't mind at all. People at least used to do it in... [more]
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This is interesting, and I hope they get somewhere. Although I'm not sure they should focus primarily on the avatar part. If they manage to get mind uploading working (even imperfectly), I don't think people would necessarily want to confine their... [more]
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I winter bike! I am a transplant! I love Minneapolis! (I mean, St. Paul is okay too, if you're into that sort of thing.) I have lived in Chicago. Minneapolis is not an east coast style city. It's not big and stony with lots of public spaces... [more]
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I hate to break it to you, but what was Current Frowner when you wrote that comment doesn't exist any more. There is only what used to be Future Frowner. Ah, see! The new Current Frowner just ceased to exist as well, and became Past Frowner.... [more]
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I'm a bit curious about the politics [or the zeitgeistyness, if you'd rather] of all this, although I don't have any theory. 1. I've noticed a lot of "autistics, they are smarter than the rest of us" stuff kicking around the internet.... [more]
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Oh god, you have to look at his campaign blog. It reads like something written by a fourteen-year-old. I don't understand why he doesn't have a competent staffer who could at least put some gloss on it. And look at this piece of... [more]
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The second pair was an eBay acquirement How do people end up writing like this? Vis-a-vis style blogs and racism/misogyny/general assholishness: the people I've seen consistently not be racist jerks are the guy at Affordable Wardrobe... [more]
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O lol. And his awful house, too, with the faux-tiques and the cheap para-antiques. He would have been better off with good, honest modern styles in decent materials rather than the bits and bobs he has. And the occasional posts about going... [more]
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The thing is, sometimes I felt sorry for him because he'd have a few really lovely things - a nice pair of belgian shoes, I'd love a pair of belgian shoes - and he'd put everything together so badly, in such a jumble. Again, back before I saw... [more]
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I was kidding about the horse, and I am good with Nightingale (i do have a problem with the ECLA and the episcopals canonizing MLK jr, but that's another point), but this is so ahistorical: Bacchus wasn't gay for one example; Herschel and Frank as... [more]
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You will never find a perfect girl, but you'll probably find a girl whose imperfections are appealing to you. That's the key. Relationships are like apartments - there is no perfect apartment, but for some people lack of closet space (so to speak)... [more]
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It feels like they have all the leverage and advantage and potential to hurt me if they wanted. It's especially painful that i am having trouble finding a christian friend who is willing to share regarding her christian walk. with my... [more]
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Being visibly "checked out" does not always mean what you think it means, either - I've noticed that since I cut my hair and started dressing in a dapper, sort of effeminate-butch manner I've started to get lots of checking-out-like... [more]
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Clear and patient explanations never have any success, because then you're accused of being patronizing and condescending, or you're just ignored by people who think they know better no matter what, or you're dismissed simply due to the fact that... [more]
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Oh god that was creepy. It grew creepier as it went along. Perhaps I have not read enough of This Kind Of Thing for its effect to wear off. But yes, that was creepy! I kept picturing it written by a monstrous crocodile with opposable thumbs.... [more]
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( I have a lot of discomfort with the "health at any size" movement, because it seems pretty obvious to me that some sizes are inherently less healthy. But I have come to the realization (in part through reading these threads on MeFi)... [more]
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I love that soap - it is my one fancy beauty product. If you're going to an independent co-op (ie, not some kind of Whole Paycheck/Wild Oats place) ask them if you can order a case through them. My old co-op used to order cases of stuff for... [more]
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And honestly, you have a gift to offer radicals of a younger generation. As poisonous as the anti-communist rhetoric was in the US during the Cold War, people grew up with some knowledge of how bad mass political violence was. I think the younger... [more]
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