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As I was thinking about this, two more things occurred to me: 1. I wonder if you have some control stuff going on - maybe you have trouble accepting that plans aren't always going to come together and decisions will be made on the fly, or you have... [more]
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I have avoided the SweeTango because it's called the SweeTango. I can deal with buying something called "Honeycrisp" but SweeTango is just embarrassing. Although the apple before the SweeTango was the "Zestar", which sounds like... [more]
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As a person who struggles with being out to my parents*, your letter suggests that you may not quite be able to recognize where your girlfriend is as with her family, maybe because you have invested so much energy and thought into your own... [more]
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That's not aging, except in the sense that we're all aging. My brother's 30-something friend got hit by a truck crossing the street and had a devastating head injury, which she was in no way economically or otherwise equipped to deal with. My... [more]
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But the theme that girls stop being interested in cool/fun/interesting stuff and become "boring" when they start being interested in boys is certainly not a hard one to pick up on, either here or across the board in all kinds of texts... [more]
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Here's the thing: as stated, almost everyone has issues with their parents, and almost everyone finds a way to come to terms with that eventually, with or without their parents continued involvement in their lives. By contrast, I think that... [more]
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(And again, that's where personality and access to care come in - I don't like avoidable risk, personally, and I don't trust this society to do right by me when I'm vulnerable. As un avoidable risk starts to climb, there comes a point where... [more]
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(As someone who has been varying degrees of secretarial, I want to add that if you are expecting your secretary ( who is undoubtedly not trained to do this and probably makes a lot less money than you) to stop the people who you cannot stop, you need... [more]
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When I was younger, I actually got a kick out of going to the laundromat - I could carry a week's worth of clothes and towels using a big backpack and a bag, and I would just bike over. I'd spend 1.5 hours reading and idly people-watching and then... [more]
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I can see the argument that says, We don't want random dudes walking in here, claiming to be transgender and then scoping the women in back. People need to be real thoughtful about this line of reasoning. First, because I (generally read... [more]
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I think you're imagining that a "normal" situation in a business is "everything is going perfectly because everyone is here 100%, fully trained, etc". Kind of like imagining that your "normal" commute should be twenty... [more]
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I mean, show me a muslimah who isn't as beautiful as a model and who maybe has glasses and likes to read and for some reason wants to date an atheist raised Lutheran, and I'm absolutely there. I feel like this article tries to compress too many... [more]
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Does anybody use Tinder and think "why swipe 'yes' on someone who is way better looking than me"? If I were still dating dudes, I would absolutely have swiped yes for poor old Junior, on the theory that as a fat guy who likes fancy events,... [more]
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It's really pushing it to be fifty-something and say you're Gen-X. Usually I see Gen-X as defined as born 1965ish to 1980ish. I had always thought that the defining factor was coming of age in some form during the 1980s. If you were born in 1960,... [more]
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It also occurs to me that most of the people I know who do that "oh, you!" little smack, or elbow someone to get them to stop telling off-color jokes or whatever - are women. And that the underlying issue is "a gentle poke can be... [more]
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Here are some things I have observed: 1. It is possible to have a need for work, family and partner relationships which will fail. It is possible to seek out, over and over again, men (these are all men, right?) who will criticize... [more]
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I could totally throw a $200 dinner party without having it look particularly costly - good ingredients from the co-op, enough reasonable wine for a mid-sized group, good coffee for afters. I can remember spending north of $100 on a dinner party for... [more]
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I only really have experience with Red Lobsters - it's been many years since I've eaten at an Olive Garden - but I have several relatives who live in places where Red Lobster is the only non-fast-food restaurant option, and they like to go out to eat... [more]
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I don't quite understand about these tiny New Statesman columns - they're clickbait and all, but it would be so easy to make a good rather than polemical and sure-to-be-ignored argument here. I can't imagine that Self hasn't read all those... [more]
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Also, many commenters in this thread seem not to know that as a writer Will Self is a well known provocateur and satirist. I've never cared that much for his books, honestly, but I would never take his writing at sort of naive face value.... [more]
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Man, nothing i love more than people who think a specific exception/possibility negates an entire class of lifestyle. Christ, what an epic exercise in missing the point/lacking empathy. I think the issue is that we're talking about a bunch... [more]
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They are. They are building a highly armed force to protect them and giving that force the freedom of action to suppress the poor. This is really important. I think it's easy to fall into a sort of Hunger-Games mentality, like... [more]
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I really, really want to like Will Self, partly because as far as I can tell he looks almost exactly like Magneto, my very favorite mutant, and partly because his most recent novel really looks awfully interesting, and partly because going... [more]
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Do people gather in very large groups at restaurants, then? Except when I lived in the maybe 175-square-foot place, I don't think I've lived anywhere where I couldn't entertain three or four friends. Going to a restaurant does mean that... [more]
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So the cultural kingdom is, once again, Brooklyn. Huh. I'll be sure to mention that next time it comes up. Admittedly, it would have had a lot of chuckle value in 1960, and will no doubt have some incredulity value in 2035.... [more]
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I think that this guy may have the wrong kinds of friends. I once was young and now am not so old, as the fellow says, and I can testify that it's perfectly possible to run around in snob bohemian circles while still doing things you... [more]
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One of my dreams in life is to have enough time to spend in an area like this to "get in" with everyone, photograph them all, make a book and use the proceeds to help them. But I'm quiet and white and not very social, so all I'd wind up... [more]
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(Just as a clarification - what makes the story strange to me is the robot head of Martine's wife and its sad weird interview straight out of New Wave SF, the transhumanism, Martine's apparent miraculous agelessness, the "transhumanism is... [more]
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That...is a story so strange that I actually googled Martine Rothblatt to be sure she exists. "A powerful trans" is not the happiest phrase to use. On another note: I suppose all these rich people want to live forever because they... [more]
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The same study I found actually did that. And one woman's response was quoted, and was something like, "okay, imagine a guy is a scoop of ice cream. One scoop is good....but two is better." Sometimes it's purely about two hot guys... [more]
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Hi all. OP here. I am mortified that I posted this exaggerated, self-pitying version of what's going on. You're all so nice and caring, and sympathetic, but I am seriously having emotional regulation problems that are entirely my fault, and my... [more]
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Don't go MTM. You don't have time, and honestly, unless you are applying to Oligarchs Are Us, it won't make a difference. Dink around with mail-order MTM later, or if you get the job, get on the roster of one of the Savile Row guys who visits the... [more]
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Oh my god, baijiu. I don't want it to have a western equivalent, because then I might once again face social pressure to drink it, and that stuff will knock you back. As much as I've often, often wished I was in a position to go back to work... [more]
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Oh hey late-twenties Frowner! I tell you what, this time don't have a breakdown at 29, lose a year to depression and then have a slow, miserable climb back to functionality! No, seriously: 1. If you are having truly intrusive and painful... [more]
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If you're assuming that all characters on a show like Star Trek are straight because none of them are shown to be queer (let's assume shows with quite large casts that obviously aspire to represent wide swathes of humanity) then you're almost forced... [more]
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What is really frustrating to me is the fact that our society has to spend umpteen squillion federal dollars running surveys and studies to establish that yes, people are traumatized when they see extreme violence even if they are black and poor... [more]
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I also really like Fireside apples, introduced by the University of Minnesota in 1943. I have University of Minnesota headcannon where we are a stalwart, sincere, uptight and resolutely non-commercial land-grant institution dedicated to things... [more]
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What I'd like to know is, are there many bisexual or gay men who feel that a Sherlock/Watson relationship will validate them? If this is about the representation of bisexual women, why doesn't Mary Moran come out as bisexual and hook up with one of... [more]
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She embodies a tremendous amount of privilege, and as a young, cute white girl, all she had to do was get noticed by the Fame Fairy to be whisked away to a life of even more intense privilege. Of course she's acting now. Of course she is. It's the... [more]
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You're over thinking this. Women who are attracted to me enjoy gay erotica for the same reason that men attracted to women enjoy lesbian porn: it's two hot people getting it on. If you're exclusively straight, you might prefer this to opposite sex... [more]
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Or, perhaps, what that says about how women/straight relationships are portrayed by mass media, and why many women don't find those portrayals relatable or compelling. Well, yes, but we're not talking about femme slash or straight romantic... [more]
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Though there is something quite scary about a guy who can not only perform against orientation, but so well as to be regarded by the other as not only a great bang but an insatiable one, But one could easily say that Sherlock is bisexual,... [more]
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What interests me is why "YA" has taken off among an older demographic. It isn't more sophisticated, as far as I can tell - I have a bunch of YA books from the seventies and early eighties (Norma Fox Mazer, ME Kerr, etc) that... [more]
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The thing about bad tomatoes is that you can roast them or bake them or make them into a sauce. Red Delicious don't even make a good pie. I remember when I was little, every once in a while you'd get a good Red Delicious and all the other ones... [more]
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Ok, I must confess: I purchase my apples over the internet. You...get your apples by mail? Do you get weekly deliveries? I cannot even imagine, since I eat about ten apples a week all on my lonesome and would eat more but apples already... [more]
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I realize that you mean it's particularly galling that you can get paid to study poverty, but not to, like, do anything about it, and I understand (but disagree with) the claim that getting paid to study it doesn't directly help improve the... [more]
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Basically, I'm well into UMN AU by now. [more]
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Sugar Cream Pie SUCKS; it's a dessert where the only ingredient is basically sugar, for Christ sakes. The proper Indiana dessert should be persimmon pudding, which is awesome, flavorful, and made from a little known but native fruit.... [more]
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When I'm not disorganized and eating my feelings (like this week), I have a number of pantry dishes similar to those described above* but I also pick up things for a snacky supper: Good crackers - I usually get Dr. Kracker ones because they are... [more]
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A thought - it's puzzling that it's tacky to ask for cash but not tacky to have a registry, at least if the rationale is "it's in poor taste to indicate that you expect a gift". If it's tacky to say that folks who want to get you something... [more]
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