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Use whatever words you like, but I think it's disingenuous to imply that people who avoid a word are doing it because we/they have a problem pointing out anyone's failings. Now, I am perfectly willing to believe that here on Metafilter,... [more]
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Yeah, Frowner, that's pretty weak. The "cracker isn't nearly as insulting as other words" thing is probably a valid argument. "It's okay to insult white people because white people are awful" is bullshit and terrible.... [more]
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That's the exact excuse racists use for using "n****r". Yes, and some people say that the earth was created 4,000 years ago while the rest of us assert that it wasn't; some people say that men are the real victims of feminism; et... [more]
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If the actual MOOC-ification of higher ed is likely to be a dead-end, in other words, MOOC’s do enable us to ask a question that we’ve often been too defensively crouched to think about: what should or could “higher education” look like, if it... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

I'm sort of sick of the trope that dorks are particularly misogynist. I think it's a sort of 'just world' fallacy. Women don't typically like dorks and lots of dorks are lonely so it must be their fault for being bad people. I'm not saying dorks... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

It is not required to back up your personal opinion with any sort of evidence. But it helps. Huh. Well, although I'm an adult now, I don't think I have an actually lower tolerance for lousy working conditions than I did when I was... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Also, these fortress schools weren't built -as the linked article misleadingly says - to protect students from riots; they were built to control students and keep them from rioting, so students were figured as potential rioters first and... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Like, I could see conceding that I'd like to have sex with my female friends in the abstract, and sure, it'd be an ego boost to think that they're all one hot second away from jumping my bones Also, I submit that since the social cost to... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

I always wondered how much of the mockery actually had to do with his ethnicity, actually. I mean, I've watched a lot of these horrible, horrible situations play out on the internet and it seems like the victim is very often someone who is already... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

It's called The Saturdays. I had a copy. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Last year

When people have made "jokes" that aren't funny to me, I've talked to them - usually pretty gently, since if someone I like, who is basically a good person and who I know does not want to hurt me, made a remark in poor taste, my assumption... [more]
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When I was really, really depressed in my twenties, I read a bunch of YA novels by Diana Wynne Jones (they are older, so they're more original and more geared to teens than contemporary YA). These are all light and charming fantasy: Howl's... [more]
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I'm often really surprised that some white people don't have non-white friends. I'm Indian, and I have a very diverse group of friends from all over the country and the world. I went to an elite college in a boondock-y place and I live in DC now.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Why is Girls a focal point for criticism about under-representation of people of color on television? Arrested Development didn't have any significant non-white characters* but it was never called out like Girls. Tons of shows could be criticized... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Rather than focusing on compromise (since why bother attempting to compromise with somebody who thinks I'm horrible?), my analytical mind instead starts searching for ways to take them down if they get in my way, and it's difficult to mentally... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

What about bleach? Either bleaching them as one might bleach whites (and of course in the washing machine) or just adding a little bit to kill germs as you might if you were cleaning up in a food service environment? Or is that deprecated now and... [more]
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1. Brushing is what you do to get ordinary day-to-day dirt off the shoes. Supplement with a damp cloth if there's serious mud/grit/salt. Keep the brush and the shoe trees where you take your shoes off when you come in, or you can easily get lazy... [more]
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Did you not think that's how it was handled in Season 2, episode 2? How you characterize the breakup scene? See, I actually think that if the show carries on in that vein instead of letting everyone off the hook or pulling a "nothing... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Hold the phone, OP - libertarian seasteading projects did not inspire The Scar. (I mean, unless Mieville directly says that they did...but The Scar came out in summer 2002, and thus was planned and written well before this seasteading... [more]
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"Why, what a strange question." [crickets] Also Miss Manners-approved. [more]
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Wait, hold the phone...you're saying that your brother, who is a POC child of immigrants, was suspended for three days for saying something like "those crackers in Neighborhood X would probably flip out and say [inappropriate thing] if we went... [more]
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Part of becoming a therapist is to realize that stuff like this will happen. In fact, in lots of situations, the therapist will ask you how you would like to handle it if you meet them in public - do you want to pretend you don't know them?... [more]
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I'd suggest asking her what she needs to make this right - on the one hand, it's only a drawer; on the other hand, the broken drawer really impacts the value of the whole bed. Can she replace the drawer via the manufacturer? Can a local... [more]
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It sounds like a first step would be to actually meet her - or actually, your first first step would be to talk to the person who met her and find out why they invited her to stay and what they know about her. It's possible that this... [more]
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Oh, holy crap, don't give her money. [more]
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You know, it's funny - I actually took a good look at my first 2013 pay statement and, unlike this whole WSJ line of nonsense suggests, it's neither painful nor confusing. Because I am not a plutocrat, I make a modest amount; my taxes have gone up... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

I'd be interested in hearing how the "Planned Parenthood is a plot to bring on the eugenics of the Blacks" 'theory about a conspiracy' fits into the meme of 'conspiracy theories are all about white privilege' The people funding... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Yet when trans women actually do reject this plastic surgical standard of beauty and are disinterested in hyperfeminine dress, they suffer the indignities of being treated as "men posing as women" because their bodies do not appear... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

It's interesting too just how many physical cues there are. It's not just "tits/no-tits" or "beard/no-beard." It's really subtle stuff like the distribution of fat on a person's face and neck, or the structure of their jaw and... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

What I hear, anyway, is that it's best to do all this stuff while you're young (but have finished growing) - you're more resilient and heal better. I know everyone means to be complimentary to this girl, but I wish the conversation didn't keep... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

The Wired article (after talking about how Graph search leverages one's "relationship with brands", god why are people such suckers on the internet, you do not have relationships with brands) talks about how this can be used in... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

I think you've just given yourself away as living in Minneapolis. I don't think Chicago suburbs have rings. Yes they do! What do you call Oak Park then? (Which is not where I grew up.) "Inner ring suburbs" are the first couple... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Minnesotans couldn't imagine moving away from family/support networks to live somewhere new. See, I actually moved to Minnesota and stayed - voluntarily! - and the "Minnesota" that gets described in these articles is never... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Can you check in with another faculty member or your department head to get guidelines for how to respond? Particularly if you don't have tenure/are adjuncting or are in some other way vulnerable (visibly GLBTQ? Person of color in a majority white... [more]
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Well, yes, but on the other hand Minnesota is something like 87% white. When you're almost 90% white it's not a big surprise when the popular view of your area is that it is lily-white. 'Cause it mostly is. I think you misunderstand me. The... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

It sounds like you're anxious about your son's gender expression and/or sexuality, and you're concerned that his concerns are making him secretly depressed or ill-at-ease in the world and that's impacting his social life. Vis-a-vis the dolls... [more]
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It includes MPR. It's like 'real' Minnesotans are descended from Swedes (which I think isn't even true of the majority of Minnesotans descended from that wave of immigrants) and everyone else is a unicorn, regardless of how long their family has... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

Using My Words, as Captain Awkward would say, and telling people that I'm happy to talk about it, but I need a bit of time to process and/or don't quite feel like I can hug them and make it all better yet. In these situations, that's when things... [more]
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I mean, did she talk about the surgery at all? Or talk about any after-effects? Conceivably someone could have a really fast, great recovery, but it would just be weird to have been really upfront with your friends about the diagnosis and the... [more]
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If your friend had a double mastectomy, recovery time is the the 3-6 week range. None of my friends have required this surgery so far, but everyone I know who had a big surgery which required a hospital stay (you're in the hospital for three or... [more]
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Fiorentini & Baker is absolutely canonical for high-quality all-leather women's boots. Gimme Shoes stocks some; you can also order from Ped (at the link), who are very reliable and helpful. That link goes to one pair of boots but the sidebar... [more]
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Can you just tell them, "Listen, I know it's upsetting to you that you've hurt me - I appreciate that you care about my wellbeing. But I need to process this myself - I've got to ask you to work through your feelings on your own or with someone... [more]
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Also, if he told his little brother "f**k you" and is punished for swearing, does that mean that it would have been better if he'd said "I hate you, you ruin everything"? Honestly, virtually all of the most hurtful things my... [more]
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I have handled Aurora shoes - they were very nicely made and used great leather but seemed prone to stretching as they are unlined and also if you have a high arch or a foot that is thick top to bottom, they may not be a good fit - they have a very... [more]
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Such a pity. Actually, hanging out in a beautiful place for a month eating banana pancakes and Laotian food and swimming and tubing sounds deliriously nice. Relaxing with the occasional drink or lightweight substance would also be nice. But... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

(I add that I am the child of two very, very bright people - one of whom was admitted to a grad program at Harvard - and test extremely well. I've always been at the top of every class, graduate and non-. I've always known I'd be going to college.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Last year

There's a decent chance you can talk your office job into letting you take another week or 2 unpaid vacation... I have never heard of such a thing! What is far more common, in my experience, is the pressure not to take any of your... [more]
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Often when I have a head cold, I then acquire a chest cold/bronchitis/something with chest symptoms right away afterward. I have also had some wicked lightheadedness from dehydration. Do you have anxiety about medical issues? Like, chronic... [more]
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I am like you - it's very easy for me to spend all my time having crushes, looking for "signals", etc. And mysteriously, I have dated a lot less than other, more direct friends in my social circle. It's fatally easy to get into the... [more]
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This does sound very graduate school, and it sounds like a mess. My gut response is "be wary of graduate school guys who send mixed signals to younger women". The difference between 25 and thirty isn't unbridgeable, but it's enough to... [more]
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