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Who do you expect to attend the class? Can you find out anything about them in advance? Or even poll them about what they already know and what they'd like to learn? Two things I've learned from teaching workshops: 1. People know less than... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I believe Zimmerman viewed Trayvon as a "threat" most likely because of the color of his skin and the way he was dressed, but I also believe if he saw a too skinny white guy with a shaved head and punk piercings, he probably would have... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Before I have read any of the comments: I was reading the Racialicious round-up of coverage on this case and they posted a tweet that said basically "When Rush Limbaugh called Sandra Fluke a slut, white women invoked the language of 'family'... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I hope that Trayvon Martin's death is the thing that finally brings racist abuse into "official" "public" speech. Before the Catholic Church abuse scandal broke, everyone I knew was aware that many priests abused children and... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I know that, hippybear, but le morte de bea arthur upthread asserted that it wasn't necessarily a racist impulse that prompted the murder, it could have been a classist one. Racism is so tied up with classism that they're really hard to... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Also, move your feet! If you're of average height, you should be able to wriggle your ankles and flex your calves without moving too much otherwise. When I fly, I try to do this every 20 minutes or so when I'm awake, and I get up in the middle of... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

A neighbor of George Zimmerman and fellow neighborhood watch captain in their Florida gated community came to his defense Tuesday, saying Zimmerman shot Miami teenager Trayvon Martin after numerous burglaries at The Retreat at Twin Lakes. Frank... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Those interested in Mr. Lagerfeld might enjoy The Beautiful Fall, a book focused on the late sixties through early eighties but also containing material about Lagerfeld's childhood and his various renarrations of it. He actually does seem to... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Also, I know from friends (some who made bad choices out of need, one who I dissuaded) that it's easy for young women (and young queer folks) to get into situations that they don't know how to handle. If you're young and too good-hearted, it's easy... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Another important quote that gives some policy details: Success for Kony 2012 would mean increased militarization of the anti-democratic Yoweri Museveni government, which has been in power in Uganda since 1986 and has played a major role in the... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

One thing I noticed with interest - the article quoted three people saying, essentially , "we Americans have a right not to live like [Nigerians or indigenous people who get so badly exploited]." Of course no one means "it's... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

And I'll just keep right on going. It's just barely possible that in conversation with a close friend I would say "yeah, and the only reason I'm dating [person] is, well, you know us queer women - we're all too fat and ugly to get a man!"... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

You know what? I don't think you should have to split things 50/50 when you're unemployed. Especially unavoidable expenses like the plane tickets. Would it be possible to have categories of expense that you split equally and categories that you... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I was just thinking about this sort of thing today! The only justifications for style are necessity and pleasure. All other forms of snobbery, judgement, etc, are just playing into the bullshit of capitalism - pretending that it "means... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

You sound like a stand-up guy. Tell your friends that you're not hanging around with these guys because the one is violent and harasses women and the other one tried to feel up a friend of yours when she was asleep. You may be surprised at how much... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Maybe high prices lead to mobile phones in part, but I think mostly it's got to be driven by the inmates' desire for secrecy. They "randomly" monitor land-line phone calls in and out of prisons. This is not true at all. It just... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

And why are you so bent on keeping up with them that you're willing to sacrifice your health? Because in the past I've needed to push myself to do things - not that I want literally to "sacrifice my health" but I want to... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

The toilet question surprises me. I mean, how do you figure out who cleans the toilet in your home? If you spent your time doing a job you enjoyed, is it really that weird to think that the toilet in the location of your job would be cleaned by... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I would expect that if you could steal any kind of soap you could sell it or trade it - lots of folks are on foodstamps and you can't buy soap and stuff with those.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Don't "report" this kind of thing to your boss. I was expecting some kind of coercion scenario, or some kind of professor-student sex-for-grades creepiness or cheating or something, not fairly routine bad judgment. Others have given a... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

The thing is, even a "Freudian" slip can happen for a lot of reasons - as Freud would have said. There's a lot of reductionist Freudianism out there by people who have read little or no Freud. The unconscious is weird and subtle.... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Pushing the moral burden of action upon those who would likely suffer the most and are already among the most marginalized and victimized among us isn't a solution. I think y'all are missing a point about organizing. One of the best ways... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Also, it's very easy to turn this into 'divide and be ruled'. There's no reason we can't demand a society in which everyone has housing, regardless of whether they are students, mentally ill, a little bit lazy, chronically ill, etc.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I don't think it's really appropriate to trash on this kid, for pete's sake. He's doing what he needs to do to achieve his ends, hurting no one, making no larger program. If anything, to me he's a symbol of how much more students ought to get -... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Weird how much hostility this list seems to be generating - I feel like there's a lot of "I didn't have nice things, so kids today who want them must be spoiled and lazy". Well, I had a kind of lousy, miserable school experience, and a a... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

As far as I can tell, it shouldn't generally be possible for adults to live anywhere without a job. Housing ain't free. I'm looking forward to the house-to-house paper checks, the rousting of homeless folks, the expulsions of squatters and... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Now, if you want horrible foreign cuisine in a state where there's probably few to no natives of that cuisine around to cook it, try eating Chinese food in Montana. No, seriously, try it. That will make your Olive Garden whining look like nothing.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Don't tell someone who is dating someone else that you're interested! It will absolutely come across as creepy, because it will read as 'I am asking you to break up with your boyfriend and/or cheat with me'. (If she were poly and looking, she... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Blurting out this revelation is quick n' easy compared to that and it's mentally harrowing enough the OP could tell himself it's proof he's really trying hard to fix this issue he has when he really isn't in any way. I guess I'd reframe... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Now, it has been a long time since I went to an Olive Garden, and I've certainly eaten quite a lot of fancier food since then. However, I was recently at Lou Malnati's, considered by many amongst my Chicago acquaintance to be a local... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I loved Olive Garden as a child. I had my first-ever slice of cheesecake there, for one thing. Plus there were various pasta dishes that my parents never served - manicotti, that sort of thing. And if you're under the illusion that back in my... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

But how does one come into a conversation where you feel like everything that's talked about is something outside your own range of knowledge? This is counterintuitive but easy! You ask a question. Almost everyone loves to look like an... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I'd suggest making sure that your dates are dates - that they're not pick-ups or hook-ups, that is. When you meet a new person at a bar/party/etc, set another time to meet - don't just trail along with him. If you're using OkCupid or similar,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Vis a vis the poly thing - although it doesn't sound like the dude is poly/open- even if he's poly, you shouldn't default and assign all cheaty behavior to poly-ness. I'm in an open relationship, and I tell people precisely... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

"Facilitation" I think can be a lot less labor-intensive than the traditional model where the teacher is on stage singing and dancing for 50 minutes out of every hour. I actually had a 'facilitated' class like this in junior... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Personally? I'd really accept that in my region/market you're not getting the treatment that you should, and resolve to do a little educating as part of getting what you want. Ask for the specials, ask for the menu. And if you're offered a table... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

[An unemployed computer programmer, welfare recipient and legal guardian of two young children, Monsegur did not go to college and is a self-taught hacker. Although his skills and intellect could command a lucrative salary in the private sector,... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Surely those of us who are...um...not awkward black girls could remember back to times when we felt represented, known, recognized - and how that felt. And those of us who are often represented might try to imagine how the world... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

It's really scary watching the UK sink into actual fascism. Normally I'd bracket that with some big disclaimer about how the US is always worse, except I don't think the US is worse any more. In fact, whenever I see news about the UK, I find myself... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

To go further: having a reasonable population of teachers of color, working class teachers and immigrant teachers would have helped in these situations: 1. Dealing with immigrant kids who were refugees - family needs, cultural issues, potential... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

But weren't the charity benefits provided prior to the 19th century extremely uneven and ideologically contingent? In the Middle Ages and Renaissance, IIRC, many were administered through guilds, which meant that the "masterless men",... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

“Story-truth,” Tim O’Brien wrote, “is truer sometimes than happening-truth.” Eh. Let's look at some "story truths that are truer than happening truths". How about the stories about the plantation south with happy slaves? For... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

This is what I neglected to mention in discussing the reliance on lists and rules. I think an important aspect of these guys is that they're self-consciously style bloggers, not fashion bloggers. Aside from a few favorites like Michael Bastian,... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Fear that people will change and that they won't care about you anymore, or that your relationship will change and that you'll lose something. Guilt - we live in a society where we're always bombarded by messages about 'self-improvement' and the... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

(I want to add that the unconscious is not the "truth" of the personality. We often talk about unconscious impulses as if they reveal something truer and more meaningful than the conscious ones - "oh, you unconsciously want to [do X],... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Sandman: A Game of You by Neil Gaiman? That particular comic makes me so angry, because it's really, really clear that Gaiman thinks he's being super progressive in his treatment of the trans and lesbian characters. But... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

“Ah, deep fried lamb testicles with noodles. Who doesn’t remember the silky sauce, the firm noodles, the savory lamb testicles with their savory batter coating. But the reality today is that even if you can find deep fried lamb testicles with... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Just to chime in--it's perfectly possible to be very, very active on ~900 calories a day and lose very little weight. When I was all eating-disordered in high school, this is how it was for me--a fairly fast initial weight loss of twenty pounds and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

You could wear a shirt with fine red stripes (as someone with navy pants, I hate the fact that this color combo looks patriotic). Pink shirts, pink striped shirts, light blue, light blue stripes, etc etc. Checked shirts in blue, pink,... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Okay, there is something I don't understand here: why does living with people (other than children for whom you are responsible) mean that you can't eat what you like? Surely you aren't living with housemates who get really judgey about what you... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

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