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I think "should we blame or exonerate this woman" is the wrong kind of question. If there's ever some thing that's just....blank, horrible testimony to the limitations in being human and the overdetermining nature of history, surely this… [more]
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I've mentioned before in other threads that, yes, I was pretty horrifically bullied (my 'best friends' told me the summer before middle school that they couldn't be my friends anymore, because now we were going to go to a real school, where things… [more]
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Homeless guy sleeping under the hedge? We (in Minneapolis, not a particularly suburban part) find people's stuff all the time. Sometimes I think it's just stuff that people abandon - for some reason they don't want it or can't carry it any more… [more]
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Oh, how about Eartha Kitt? Of course, she was the Catwoman, but she also actually told the president during a White House visit that she was against the Viet Nam war and weathered the ensuing publicity storm. She was generally involved in… [more]
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Cashew spread and sliced bell peppers. This spread, made with raw cashews soaked for about an hour, is really good. You can adapt the ingredients if you don't have something, although nutritional yeast is really needed. In fact, there are lots of… [more]
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Han Su Yin, also. The Wikipedia article is kind of crap [well, really it just doesn't get at how interesting she was], you really need to read her memoirs - but she was a Chinese and Flemish doctor, author and political agitator who was really… [more]
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Oh, fuck a bunch of that. Pretending that there are lots of Christians running around wearing giant crosses solely so that you can claim that your ban on Muslim and Sikh religious garb isn't racist - oh, fuck that. This isn't going to actually… [more]
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Do you mew back and forth at them? My cat and I have a lot of acknowledgment noises as described by bleep. (Which sometimes get totally out of hand in terms of loudness and number of times we have to mew at each other before Dr. Cat will chill out.)… [more]
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They tend to be one of the few public places that allow the homeless or otherwise marginal to stay inside during the day. Also, when they're big and underfunded (like the main Washington, DC library was until very recently), they have a really… [more]
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I feel like it's not just about culling, though - I think there's been a change in the theory of how books should be shelved. Between when I left for college (and thus was using academic libraries, which are quite different) and when I… [more]
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Structure! Can you schedule a weekly meeting with him? Really put in on the work calendar and don't let it deteriorate into a "nah, nothing new this week" over dinner? List the things you need to talk about in the meeting - your upcoming… [more]
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Janelle Monae's video for Dance Apocalyptic has the four horsemen in it. A lot of reggae uses images from revelation - Babylon in particular. PJ Harvey's Written On The Forehead, which is a very sad song, makes use of a sort of oscillating… [more]
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I have also been straightforward with B about my not experiencing timeliness in relationships the same way as he does, and possibily the way most people our age do. He answered that he really wanted to see me again, and that he wished to learn the… [more]
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I am not Asian, nor was I pushed toward a high-paying career. I was, however, pushed very hard toward a career and way of life that were absolutely unsuitable, and like you I grew up with a very strong family culture of "this is worthwhile and… [more]
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Seriously, people, did you know that Derek Jarman made music videos? I mean, Jubilee Derek Jarman, CaraveggioDerek Jarman, revolutionary queer artist Jarman, that Derek Jarman. They range from quite, quite famous (Dancehall Days)… [more]
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I'm going to disagree with everyone! You're three people living in a small apartment - that can send anyone up the wall. As a result of the small apartment, you don't have very much privacy/alone time. If you're at all like me, this sort of… [more]
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The article points to some interesting stuff. I think, though, that painting these movies as a response to an entitled generation is pretty silly (and the essay does skew towards blaming a bunch of little kids). If anything, I notice… [more]
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It sounds like the biggest problem here is that the paying-for-lunch system is bad. Especially because there's a line in there about how some students who qualify for free or reduced cost lunches are not enrolled in the program for whatever reason… [more]
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I get the sense that there's some underlying stuff happening here: There are already-existing splits among GLBT people along lines of race and gender expression; white people and masculine-presenting people, especially white men, not only get… [more]
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I guess I just don't understand the market for $300 shoes (even used). If you're walking around on sidewalks at all, aren't you going to scuff them and get them ruined in about a week? I guess boots make sense, because they're expected to wear,… [more]
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(Not to quibble in the comments and assuming that the suggestion is not trollery, but the Dead Kennedys' "I Fought the Law" - at least the version I have - is about the assassination of Harvey Milk and is not, IMO, a positive song. Come to… [more]
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I'm not sure where the award-winning Japanese pizza chefs cook, but all the pizza I had in Japan was not great. Corn, seaweed, and a sausage that looks like hot dogs were not uncommon toppings. And the cheese...the cheese was wrong so often. Never… [more]
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Go back to HR and tell them that you cannot wait three weeks to be paid. I mean, tell them nicely - but no reputable company will let a new young hire wait three more weeks for a check. Have you told your supervisor or your mentor/training person… [more]
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As a “lady adventurer,” a female traveler, I have never had that particular privilege. I am an intruder; I am a stranger; I am a woman in public spaces – tea houses, street corners – often deemed the exclusive provenance of men. I do not have the… [more]
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And yet, where's the compensation for twenty years? Where's the punishment for the cops? It is wonderful that he's exonerated, but people acted with malice in order to convict him and they took two decades of his life, permanently altered his… [more]
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Cooking stuff. Over the years I have bought (on sale admittedly) three really nice knives, a Le Creuset stock pot (ding and dent at Filene's, which is a great place to get them), a couple of other nice pans and implements, and I've had them all… [more]
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Oh, actually - that's a thought...why not earmark X percentage of it for donations? I find that I'm always wanting to kick in a little money for all kinds of things (Black Girls Code, for example; someone who is fighting deportation; kickstarters… [more]
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Are you, by chance, a graduate student? Or maybe the UK is just meaner than here, because that "your opinions are trite" thing sounds like comp lit graduate student bullshit. So my immediate thoughts: what is your field? Is it one with… [more]
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When someone who's had a set of awful experiences writes about them, I am always surprised by how much hostility this provokes, how much denial. Here's something I have learned: You do not have to identify with the oppressor. All you need to do… [more]
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Surely there has to be some other way to deal with these things than just leaving the families to raise the money. That seems really wrong to me - private citizens should not be helpless and forced to negotiate as individuals with kidnappers. I mean,… [more]
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I mean, of course people have affairs, and relationships are troubled and children cause stress, and I imagine that if we all knew the truth we'd realize that there was a lot more cheating going on than we thought. And of course monogamy is difficult… [more]
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Christ, what an asshole. I mean, seriously, to write (metaphorically) to the wife, "he didn't break up with me because he loves you, he broke up with me because he didn't want to hurt me [so suck it, you deluded b****]". And… [more]
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It may also be that HR lady does not want to admit to people up the ladder that she didn't submit your card - there's probably a small fee to the company (like $20) associated with a rushed check. This isn't an incredibly uncommon situation - I've… [more]
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Hey there! I can answer this as someone who is rising forty and has a bunch of twenty-something friends whose parties I occasionally attend. I could, if I wished, spend many nights of the week partying and drinking pretty hard, and probably some… [more]
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Also I can't tell if you are in Chicago now rather than Minnesota, but if you are, there are various people here who can make some suggestions about food and stuff in Chicago too. I know for a fact that there are some food distribution projects… [more]
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That's a huge cop out. I mean by all means cash your paycheck but you're working for a big exploitative business; don't make excuses for yourself. Some day you're going to have to choose between your paycheck and solidarity with someone getting… [more]
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Here is a thing: I would not want to kiss a guy who "found most people boring" and rationalized his inability to tell people apart as "I am not interested enough to bother", the way you describe yourself doing in your other… [more]
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I was once at a labor event back when all this Syria stuff started and a derailing debate broke out about whether US intervention ever does more good than harm. Someone raised their hand and asked us whether our debate would actually make any… [more]
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(And let's not forget that US intervention has been fucked up, destructive and self-interested pretty much always, and that at least since Haiti, it's been conducted under the guise of liberal humanism but that hasn't stopped it being fucked… [more]
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And this suggests to me the death knell of dapper queer fashion. I mean, the last one with the suspenders? That's, like, what every masculine-spectrum young queer woman wears out on the town, right down to the floppy haircut. Oh well, I never got… [more]
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Just take money from elsewhere in the budget, like administrator salaries or new construction. New construction, sadly, often comes from earmarked funds - the legislature, a foundation, alumni, the city, corporate funders - which can't be… [more]
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What kind of definitive proof is there at all that this isn't a cleverly constructed media persona by someone whose been raised since birth with the toolset to game the system and get lots of media attention? She's literally getting completely top… [more]
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As far as STEM post-docs and grad students being conservative - as I understand it, they were the ones who were strongly against a grad student union here and as a result, two campaigns failed. Now, that's a bigger issue - at least here, they're… [more]
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If I recall my eighties and early nineties correctly, Madonna's sex photo book was hugely controversial both amongst feminists and [much more so] in the broader culture. And has everyone forgotten the whole late eighties/nineties culture war thing… [more]
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To further clarify: I don't think it's some kind of failure of radicalism to say if there's declining resources, the problem of declining resources is not going to be solved by arguing that everyone should get tinier and tinier but equal slices of… [more]
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And the simple fact is that if you're trying to get Billionaire X to give the campus a gaudy gift you're going to get a lot further if you can put them in the room with Famous Important Person Y rather than with Super Competent but Basically… [more]
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(How does one go about choosing their name once they have decided to live as the gender that they identify as? What kind of factors go into a choice like that? I've seen a few different models (the opposite-gendered version of their birth name,… [more]
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You mean the white minstrelry of Cyrus' act? Yeah, I'm with you. Yes, exactly - that having an opinion about that is a political thing, and it's not inconsequential, and the idea that it's embarrassing or trivial or boring is… [more]
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Except people's at lives are at stake in Syria, and no one dies when Cyrus twerks. Except that - as far as I can tell - there isn't a fucking thing we can do about Syria. You might as well have an opinion about twerking instead,… [more]
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