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He does contextualize it really well, though, Frowner, given what Burns said: Yeah, but there's still a sort of whiff of "you are a disgrace to the civil rights legacy of the state/our society", which is just not something... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

All good enough, although I really wish that white folks would not do that whole "anti-gay person of color, gay is the new black!" thing. It is very rhetorically tricky to compare oppressive situations without derailing or... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Hilariously, I thought to myself "this has to be either Jacobin or New Inquiry" and lo, it was! [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Oh, the saddest songs? The saddest songs are, in no particular order: Tom Joad The Water Is Wide/Wild Geese (Ann Hills, can't seem to find it online) A Pair of Brown Eyes, which is much sadder than Waltzing Matilda to me although it too has... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

You can make the case that that isn't necessarily as true of fiction as it is of technical writing, but it struck me as a good idea. And DFW is most definitely writing to impress his audience. How do you prove this? See, I find Wallace... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

You sound like you're conceptualizing dating in a really unusual way and I wonder what about your upbringing caused that. That's where I'd start. You sound like you're hung up on an abstract idea about a "check list" and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Okay, this has convinced me that I am going to get an ereader. I love physical books and I don't like the idea of having no books if I break the reader or if, you know, total social collapse happens and there is no more tech support. But I hate and... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

> So this means that when you meet someone who refers to themself using they/them pronouns, To themself? Not "we"? See, this type of thing is precisely what I mean about not getting it. Look, I promise you... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Okay, I am feeling fiercely crabby this morning. But I will never, ever, not in a million years, be able to accept the singular "they." So this means that when you meet someone who refers to themself using they/them pronouns,... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

What would have helped me a lot was knowing that my parents (and, for preference the school system) had my back - that if there was a way to intervene and I needed it, they would have. Also, it would have helped if my parents had said "tell us... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Remember that your kid will also obtain benefits from growing up somewhere cosmopolitan - it's not as though your daughter won't get anything out of living in a city/college town. And unionized jobs with good health care? Your daughter will... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

New miseries, new potentials - that's what I'd expect. The point would be to take as much advantage of the new potentials as possible while minimizing the miseries. In which case, honestly, being aware of the "ooh look new shiny!" tendency... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago


Not that it's not cute and charming, but it sure does sound like "while my wife is pregnant I will do three pieces of light housekeeping and refrain from making unnecessary mess, but once she has a baby to raise I go back to doing no light... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I don't know a better word for 'has a large vocabulary and uses it precisely'. If you have a suggestion, I'm all ears. See, this is where one needs a sense of social context. Yes, Obama is an extremely gifted speaker (and that's... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Er, that was perhaps a little too long. Sorry about that. [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Wear something your grandpa would have recognized as being in good taste and hope that civilization holds together enough that your grandchildren would likewise think so. My grandfather would have disowned me if he'd lived long enough to... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

The problem with stuff like this is, if you truly take it to heart, if you really feel the guilt like the authors intend that you do, you start to be afraid of opening your mouth and restrict yourself to speaking to people outside of your cultural... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

It's funny, "The Cool, Cool River" isn't sad to me at all*. In my head, I picture a people under tremendous pressure and moving towards revolution - it makes me think of the indigenous and labor organizers in Mexico, like in Chiapas or... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

It's really hard to make and keep friends, especially if you're at all introverted or awkward - I mean, it's hard for everybody. You aren't broken. A lot of people who seem to have many friends really have many friendly acquaintances. I... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

But the whole point of this kind of article, culturally, is to bully people into liking or disliking something through fear of being a hipster, of not being hip enough or of having their identity challenged in some way. Economically, it's... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I think, also, people are reading this differently from me, e.g. Frowner's summation of "I want to get laid tonight doesn't matter who as long as she's attractive enough that I can get it up" is not how I read it—I read it as "I... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Okay, this is probably not what you're looking for, but activists and punks do this all the time. Sometimes it's just one group of people living together and the name is temporary; sometimes the name lasts through innumerable tenants. Sometimes... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

In my experience it all seems a lot more okay when you're 18-19 and lack the life experience to know better and the men in your social circle are all telling you it's okay because we've known him forever and yeah he's a little weird but he's... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Oh, if you are looking for a relationship song that is sad, No Looking by the Raincoats has always struck me as pretty darn sad. It's a translation/reworking of a poem by Jacques Prevert, but it is about a million times sadder than the poem.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

This is just off the top of my head, based on some journalism I did a while ago about the Oaxaca strikes and indigenous movements - it's not proof. But Oaxaca is an extremely heavily-policed state where many indigenous folks live in poverty and... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

What The Experts Say: The team has released their investigation to the public and for a limited time you can view a private airing of it online. Learn the steps you can take to prepare your wealth, investments and way of life for this looming... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Ooops, posted too soon. I've been reading the links round-ups at Naked Capitalism for a couple of years. The woman financial person who pulls them together seems to know what she's talking about and to rely on a good mix of sources, from... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I would have somewhat more confidence in this article if it didn't try to draw an analogy between this condition and "autogynephilia", that old canard about how trans women who are attracted to women want to transition as a sexual fantasy... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Samuel Delany actually wrote a fantastic and somewhat under-read series of, yes, sword and sorcery books (Neveryona, Escape from Neveryona, Return to Neveryona, one other one) in which the dominant people who run the fancy slave-holding,... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Oh my god, I read that Requires Hate thing linked upthread. This book is so much worse than anything I had hitherto read about it suggested. It's just un-fucking-believable. I swear - if you have not read extensive excerpts from this book... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I'd rather pay extra than submit my medical records to my employer - and in fact, next year I will be paying extra. It's demoralizing, but this is how I think of it: 1. I don't trust the average employer to keep private data secure 2. All... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Perhaps I shall tell you about my local Target. I live in Target's home town, and if I choose to bus to downtown Minneapolis, I can go to the palatial flagship Target on the main shopping drag, where they have everything plus a few extra... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

(I'd suggest that there are also 'whitesplaining', 'cisplaining', etc - that each word highlights the particular form of privilege in play, and that's why it's valuable. The dynamics that drive racism rhyme with the dynamics that drive... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I am not certain that unsourced suspicions about social services, and a sense that the people who work at them shouldn't get paid for their work, helps the homeless either. I can only offer the critique in The Revolution Will Not Be... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

(I add that I was "aggressively panhandled" by a drunk and broken-toothed guy a couple of years ago and it was scary. I totally, totally believe it happens. And honestly, I get tired of the "and I just need ten dollars to get... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

When they left they go into an almost new mini-van. I have problems with things like that. You can't - you really can't - judge how poor people are by their immediately obvious possessions. There was an article linked here not long ago... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Some people are just private and remote; some people need a LOT of time to build trust; some people's "trust" doesn't look like other people's. (I have a friend who trusts me a lot - as I've seen over many years - but that trust isn't... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

(Just a comment - I don't think "private person" and "introvert" are always the same thing. I know people who are very introverted but very open with close friends, and I myself am actually a bit extroverted but rather private... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I like that all reports on Assange are so 100% sure that this is a CIA fit up that the word rape is never mentioned. I don't think that's it, precisely. I think it's that several things are true in the US public mind: 1. We don't really... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I'm not really sure how picking the normal, socially-rewarded option - the option that does not get you hostility and mockery and make every job interview an even more vexed situation (even if you're wearing pants, ankle slippage is always a... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Oops.... and I suggested we go and see the show. Whilst this was generally considered a good idea I then was cautioned about the kind of topics and language I might expect 'because you don't talk about that kind of stuff'. I was going to... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

No, this is a terrible, terrible idea. (I have some expertise in research funding) Here's why: 1. It will add an INSANE amount to university research expenses - that means either that a $250,000 NIH grant will suddenly be $150,000 for the... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

yeah? How about if target gave your neighbor 10% off, because he's wealthier and more likely to be a lucrative customer? Is that still cool? I feel like we all really, really need to internalize how contemporary capitalism/government/legal... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

(A momentary derail: Sometimes I read blogs by POC and they are upsetting to read. I wanted to clarify that the upset that I might feel in that situation is nowhere near how upsetting it is when some poor kid gets shot by the cops,... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Russian Ark is awesome - I've watched it twice and it's really definitely a big-screen film. I assumed that there were allusions that I could not get, but the feel and sweep of the film is amazing. I am not a skilled film person, so my opinions... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

What do you mean, "contemporary"? That's the way it's always worked. That statement is no more true of twenty-first-century America as it is of fifth-millennium BC Mesopotamia. Doesn't have anything to do with capitalism. Or, if it does,... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

To be fair, I (and I'm pretty sure elizardbits, too) was saying that the lulz come from vegetarians who say that they're so much more ethical and healthier because they don't eat meat when actually they're junk food fiends No, people -... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

This interview with Dongpin Han, a historian who grew up in rural China during the cultural revolution, discussing his book, The Unknown Cultural Revolution: Life and Change in a Chinese Village was interesting, and there's a transcript of an... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

The other thing I want to add - I have a relative whose health isn't good and who can't wear anything but elastic waisted pants. She usually wears denim ones because they're sturdy and warm. I'm okay with saying "fitted jeans are more... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

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