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What I hear from these internets is that Housman's in London has hosted book discussion groups. I am in Minneapolis, though, so I have no idea if that's true. I know that Richard Seymour, author of American Insurgents, has given... [more]
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Women's bodies are always regulated as part of a nationalist impulse. I'd argue that the obese body is implicitly "feminized" in popular discourse and regulated in the same way. Women and feminized people can't be trusted with their... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Er – did you notice that that study says that eating tofu seems to prevent breast cancer? Okay, we are talking totally at cross purposes here. The point I was trying to make was precisely that tofu seems to prevent breast... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

See, fun's fun and all, but as a female-type person I get really tired of left-wing dudes (Self, Tim Wise, Derek Jensen...to name a few) whose automatic way of symbolizing what is wrong with the world is to point to a weirdly sexualized image of a... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I hope the above will be taken for what it is: a lightly poeticised account of the mental state of an average young woman negotiating her way through the urban environment There is a certain type of man...often he writes for Adbusters, but... [more]
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Racialicious True Blood roundtable. Caution: they are not always superfans. [more]
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I don't think "hipster is about appropriation" is sufficient - while there are certainly people wearing "Indian" costumes to house parties while drinking Pabst, there are plenty of culturally-appropriating groups (New Age folks... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I agree with The AV Club on why it's time to stop using white as a pejorative. Just as a clarifying comment again (this stuff is pretty tricky to discuss online among strangers, I find): I feel like there's a difference between 1.... [more]
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Okay, I'm just gonna threadsit here: if folks want to talk about cultural appropriation as a thing itself, let's make a post for the blue! There's lots of stuff that could be linked. Right now, just assume that my belief is that cultural... [more]
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White person here! But, um, white person who has a lot of experience of the culture you're talking about? And worries a lot about the way it works and the whiteness angle? And has their own issues vis-a-vis queerness and... [more]
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And it is "trends" like this that make me never, ever want to have sex again. When I get past the depression about how I'm inadequate, I'm just filled with rage that the world really, seriously expects me to spend all this precious time... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

(Just to clarify - I didn't mean to imply that people of color are all creepily, magically, movie-stereotype caring (although I think it's reasonable to read my comment that way and I apologize) - I was thinking specifically of an... [more]
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I thought the part about how you "resent" us for things that I didn't see anyone saying here, and the things that we "bang on about" that nobody said here either, were meant to convey rage, but I apologize if I misread that.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

She's still breastfeeding her 3 year-old. I know someone who breastfed her kid until he was, uh, I dunno, three-ish? Older than three? I know a lot of people who do all that new age parenting stuff. The lesson for me has been that... [more]
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Back before fans and air conditioning, I have it on reliable evidence from my father (who actually was just poor), people sweltered. And slept badly. People also slept outdoors - there was a whole culture of sleeping on the roof or in the... [more]
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That last interval is 5 years?! Looks like the fellas hit a bit of a rough patch ... yikes. I am not looking forward to 50... Well, the light in the last photo is falling really differently and casts a lot more shadows/deepens lines.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Have you asked her what she wants from you about this? Is it something that she is really ready to talk about? Does she have good friends who are masculine-of-center (that seems to be the hipster catchall term right now)? Or good male... [more]
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But, like, Twilight is full of really fucked-up, abusive relationships. So, fer cryin' out loud, is every Orson Scott Card book, not that those are porn but they are really creepy about sexuality. In fact, I'd infinitely rather someone... [more]
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I think that anyone who thinks this is weird is spending way too much time with the interior decorating magazines. The idea that each room should be painted a separate and noticeable color is very, very recent - when I was growing up, it was typical... [more]
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Now there is an article that could jinx a life - talking about how you're in love with some famous musician fellow and what it's like being with the band, that's practically a guarantee that the guy is seeing some European music journalist on... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

By the same token, you could say that destitute young women are currently economically "coerced" into having children, because of income assistance available to mothers. It's counterintuitive, but if we paid young women as much to not be... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Oh god, you HAVE to read the Mina De Malfois stories. They aren't fan fiction, they're a bunch of stories about people who write fan fiction and the various subgenres therein. They start out as stand-alone stories making fun of a specific... [more]
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Also, Frowner, just because women see making their own decisions about hygiene, dress, and gender presentation without taking into account anyone else's opinions, wishes, or feelings, as being feminist (because how dare a woman just do what she... [more]
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What I notice looking at pictures of these is that the softness of the fabric means that the fit is a little off, the legs look a little baggy, etc. The fit looks kind of nineties to me - not the way jeans are conventionally worn right now. For... [more]
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(Also, "rage"? Really? We're disagreeing on the internet and that's rage. If we want to unpack how women are expected to behave, I find it interesting that it seems natural to be told not to express anything that even hints at anger.)... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I guess what I'd tend to say is that there are crushes and crushes. I'm queer, mostly date non-cis-men and have at one point or another had teeny-tiny crushes on most of my friends, but more in the "oooh, I have a crush on the cute bus... [more]
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Also, I would be absolutely astonished if all my straight male friends have wanted to sleep with big ol' butch queer more-fat-than-thin me. Flattered, yes, but mostly astonished. (Again, I think this question becomes a lot less clear-cut if you stop... [more]
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This is both feminine and elegant. And this number on Mademoiselle Perry is vraiment chic. Leaving aside the fact that neither of those is a work dress for most values of work... Really? Really? A ruffled polyester shirt dress that I... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Eh, of all the product placement BS that goes on, this seems pretty minor. Most women applying for this job are going to be expecting to be dressed and made up to a standard. Makeup is a normal part of many dress codes, as horrible as that is.... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

There's a lot of leather totes on Etsy, and as it's a fairly simple shape and doesn't require as much labor, the prices are generally much better than the one you link.... [more]
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Leaving aside all other aspects of the matter, that's a lovely dress. It would certainly be nice if such kind of dresses became acceptable replacements for suits in the workplace, since they're more comfortable, more washable and come in a greater... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I'd say that there was a lot of stratification in my high school by class and race, and that this contoured most of the other interactions. My school was overwhelmingly white, with a small number of Latin@ students coming in when I was a junior.... [more]
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but it's not necessarily a bridge going backwards toward racism. Also, hipster racism doesn't need to build a bridge back towards racism; it is racism. It's a way of speaking and acting that causes pain to marginalized people,... [more]
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Frowner, would you care to expand on, "Cory Doctorow, for example, routinely writes stories that purport to be feminist but have truly terrible, coercive, cruel ideas about how women should live" at all, please? I haven't read any of his... [more]
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Fans and creatives have a duty to remain accessible and relevant to future generations because they are not the owners of the ideas and institutions that they employ. Fannish and creative endeavours only have value in so far as they contribute to... [more]
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Since you pull it into the open, Frowner (checks, yes, Frowner), That's another sort of oversight from the original article that I was less inclined to pull out: the extent to which he avoids the basic question of generational conflict going on:... [more]
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Remember that this is work - it's a transactional relationship with emotional components, not the other way around. If they needed to fire you to balance the budget, they would. At the moment, they want to retain you (or avoid procedural... [more]
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It's really interesting that the aunts in the story are all "ooh, we don't approve of homosexuality and gay marriage and OMG I hope they don't kiss in front of the children" and then turn right around and say "....and we got them [some... [more]
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Priceless, Frowner. Sadly, not my funny - Biggest Dreamer for the win. [more]
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The title should have been "Old Man's War Story". But the thing is, bad ideas afflict every generation. Science fiction written by young, cutting-edge people is full of terrible ideas. Cory Doctorow, for example,... [more]
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Oh, and there will be a lot of lies about what the 'dangerous' people are up to. In 2008 during the run-up to the Republican National Convention here, there were a huge number of actual, bald-faced lies told by the state and the police to the media... [more]
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Olympics organisers have warned businesses that during London 2012 their advertising should not include a list of banned words, including "gold", "silver" and "bronze", "summer", "sponsors" and... [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Some bog-standard tips: 1. You are more average than you think - you are not a special snowflake, for good or for ill. I wish that when I was young and insecure I had been able to shake the belief that I was both Much Worse and Much More Unique... [more]
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As I understand it, a lot of the people who get it worst from the Olympics are the very people who are already disenfranchised and who are thus 1. unable to articulate what is likely to go wrong and 2. unlikely to be believed. Ie, homeless and... [more]
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I've heard this style of scam a lot - I bet the whole phone number thing was about verisimilitude, not scamming per se. I've had people ask for my phone number before (back when cell phones weren't so common). Since I usually give people (some)... [more]
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I don't really think that's true, the whole thing with "your momma" jokes is that people get offended when you slag off on their moms. But people don't make "your mamma" jokes to mammas, they make them as part of... [more]
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I'm really interested in the structures that support this sort of thing and the structures that could be used to disincentivize it. Mobbing is common in internet communities, regardless of the focus of the community and apparently regardless of the... [more]
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(I doubt it. Even for real fans of Chumbawumba (that is, people who know them as a band worth their salt regardless of "Tubthumper"), they are still just kind of an 'also' band. Had Fugazi signed to a major you might have something... [more]
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Oh, the bitterness that my father still feels about Dylan "going electric"! He also refers to Joan Baez as "Joanie Phoney". He was a little bit older than the real hippie generation and a big fan of that whole late fifties/early... [more]
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You know, now that I think about it, it might be useful to consider why one gets visibly checked out (as opposed to discreetly). I've had very, very few experiences with this, which I used to read as meaning that I was ugly, and I used to feel... [more]
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