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If you have not watched Pom Poko (also known as Heisei-Era Raccoon Dog War, apparently), you totally should. It is the best cartoon movie about tanuki and social justice that there is, and I really admire the way it lays out a lot of stuff. It's… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Thanks for all the great comments! I'm especially excited to look at some of the books and readings you mentioned. There are some challenges in the teaching I'm doing, so I will need to tweak some of your suggestions when incorporating them -… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I think it's worth looking at this guy as a product of a system more than as an individual. If you have a lot of money and few social constraints, you get weird and your norms get weird. It's not because of you; it's because of the… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I think just looking at this through the lens of your paid job is rather limiting. Plenty of people are involved in organizations outside of work that this can be applied to. Organizations that you care about are a potential source of future… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I knew a guy in college who actually did this. He is extremely charismatic and managed to get an entire restaurant kitchen donated, and installed in the basement of his rental house. Over 100 people were involved in dumpster diving, cooking, and… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Also, is there a lot of corruption or dodginess with your cops locally? (I know - is water wet?) This could easily be some kind of scam, essentially, but a scam organized by the cops. There could be a shake-down aspect to this, or some kind of… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

If you get really desperate, there is a National Lawyers' Guild chapter in New Jersey. They will be familiar with dodgy cop stuff and will probably be able to direct you to legal resources. Remember to sit tight. The cops do not have a… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Cops showed up at my house when I wasn't there alleging (totally wrongly) that someone they were looking for lived/had lived there. (I mean, we'd been living there for a while and we knew the people who'd been there before - there was some mistake… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Your cheap shoes are glued, not stitched. You can have a cobbler glue a protective 'topy' or some other glued layer onto the sole to extend its life if you do this fairly early in the life of the shoe. Even if they are stitched, they're… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I add that one reason I stopped dumpstering is that I can afford my own food, and I didn't want to be drawing attention to dumpstering locations and taking food for myself when there were others out there who really needed it… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

If you gave a dinner party and everyone was talking over dinner, someone's chicken might sit on their plate for an hour while they chatted, and they'd take a bite of it every once in a while. Honestly, I have trouble believing this whole… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

One story about his search for a new wife certainly bolstered this view. Shortly after his divorce, Frampton, then 64, expressed concern about finding a wife between the ages of 18 and 35, which Frampton understood to be the period when women are… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I don't know how bad it is in America (I'm sure it's much worse), but many supermarkets in France will even pour bleach into their dumpsters at closing time to make sure no "bad elements" (i.e. impoverished and starving people) will show… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I student-taught in our local sixties fortress high school - and the experience put me off teaching permanently. I have no idea whether you get technically better outcomes from more humane architecture - maybe grades and learning are too complex… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

My college went from having (when I was there) real staff who got paid meaningful wages and benefits and who were employees of the college (and therefore, whose kids got the employee tuition break) to being an outsourced service (shortly after I left)… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

What I remember too, when I was little, was reading "The Shabby Lands" and, later, That Hideous Strength and feeling just absolutely baffled and betrayed. I'd really, really liked the Narnia books (since I'd totally ignored… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

She also told me that strained muscles are typically worst on the 2nd/3rd days after the strain. I dunno, this all seems pretty reasonable to me. I did climb a lot of stairs in Seattle. So let's hope it's all good. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Okay, I have gone to the urgent care clinic at the Large Land Grant University where I work. The doctor said she generally didn't bother with D-Dimers for calf pain - she felt that it should be an ultrasound or nothing. But then she looked at my… [more]
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In my experience, people like to talk, they like to kick ideas around - but they're often worried about being dignified, group norms, etc. (I mean, I hate people/parties/fun times/extroversion myself - really hate them - and yet I've been to… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I think it's really difficult for everyone to form and maintain close friendships as adults, and that this is particularly true for men. It's harder to find time, for one thing. But as our lives become more complex (and often harder!) it's… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

"Ayn Rand was similar to Martin Luther King in the sense that she taught the power of an individual who stands up to popular convention ... in order to advance a cause which is noble or purposeful," Claypool said. "And that… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Also, you cope with feelings of self-loathing by telling yourself that you do not deserve to feel them. Are you history's greatest monster? No, you're not. Would you tell a friend who got bad information and made a mistake that they should… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I mean, what would be nice would be if people could work through their anxieties (which I think are kind of about homophobia and toxic ideas of masculinity and femininity) to the point where people could genuinely try this whole pegging… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I read the Hugo "planning to murder his ex" piece when it was live. This is what I remember: That he decided that he and his girlfriend would both be better off dead - both were depressed and messed up and drunks, if I remember… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago


I am just not sure what kind of "harassment" we're envisioning here. 1. I was harassed by girls in the girls' bathroom when I was a bullied child. 2. If a boy is going into the bathroom claiming that he identifies as a girl… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

It's astonishing how slavery persists and reestablishes itself in new forms. There is a very interesting book, The Overthrow of Colonial Slavery, which is once again available after being out of print forever, which talks about how long slavery… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I'm not sure you're reading this article as it's intended. Men associate questions with weakness. I don't think this means that men "feel weak" if they are asked questions and you thus need to avoid challenging and… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

This is because I don't have a huge number of people in my life and my monkey brain is desperate for all of them to think I never make a mistake or put anybody off, so I mistakenly feel that if I can explain or justify the behavior in question… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I don't care for this "someone harasses me on Twitter and the crowd cheers as I go off to [implicitly] beat him up" business - and I was bullied quite severely in school, have various issues about feeling safe around strangers, etc. I… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

(If someone described me as "an emotionally complex anti-hero" type, I would be over the moon, personally. And if I described someone that way it would be even more complimentary than "you are dazzlingly handsome, brilliant and… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I'm not actually worried about the whole "you live in the city what will you do when there is less food" thing, or the "buy farmland and train your kids to [do useful thing]" line. What do you all think is going to… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Yeah, I am 100 percent certain that if this were a story about some nearsighted video-game designer doing exactly the same thing, MetaFilter would cheer roundly. It's only because Woodhouse is a boxer that people feel differently, and most are… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I mean, everyone will look different with make-up on. Sure. But some of these, I recognized them with make-up on, but totally didn't recognize them without. Like could not recognize them. How many porn stars am I passing every day, but just not… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Vis-a-vis reddit: well, the whole point of the social economy of sex work is to have a class of women it's safe to hate and mock in the "daylight" of regular life who are then also sexually available at "night". I'm not sure… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

I add too that I am on the outside of a current activist situation, affecting many dear friends, where a local group should have distanced themselves from someone years ago based on that person's behavior, but allowed pity, lack of group… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

You know, I bet a lot of us know women (or guys) who have done a little porn. I know I know a reasonable number of people who have done sex work, ranging from a fairly trivial "I did a little go-go dancing at a club when I was 20"… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Absent something unique to your situation - R's connections will work to destroy the group if he tells them to; R's connections will threaten violence against activists; R is currently protecting the group from violence or harassment because of his… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

The dance "craze" at the time was best described as "white man's overbite"—if you've seen it, you know what I'm talking about. What is the white man's overbite? I must know. I've played music at some dance… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Nowhere, at all, does he suggest that we should not care about or attempt to alleviate the sufferings of people in other countries. See, what I was trying to get at is this is the wrong way to frame things - the idea that… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Besides the impracticalities of such redistribution, the problems here are also conceptual. Say I bought a fancy pair of shoes for my son. In light of the one-tribe calculus of interests, I should probably give these shoes to someone who doesn’t… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

Actually, IIRC, we could bring small pocket knives to school when I was in high school. We actually did have a stabbing (bullied kid turns on the bully, chases him down the hall, stabs him in the chest; bully had also bullied me pretty badly and… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

But what do you do when someone whom you like goes the extra distance and puts on make-up for a special occasion? I don't need to enforce my prejudices but it's hard to feign excitement when you are thinking to yourself "Well, I'm GGG but I'm… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

One thing you might want to bring up in therapy - are you sending signals that you will not set boundaries effectively, hence attracting creepers*? Can you learn some interpersonal skills to tip people off right away that you set your own boundaries?… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Wouldn't it be awful if he had taken these same pictures but he and especially his girlfriend were just average-looking? Or his girlfriend didn't like to wear really short shorts? Or worse, if they were old? Or still worse, fat? That would… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

One reading of your question is "Matt told me that he used to like me but does not anymore because he found out from his friend that I had made out with the friend". Is that what you meant? Now, everyone is entitled to like who they… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

Can you maintain friendships with just some of these people? I mean, I'm part of a loose agglomeration of...well, probably a more political version of the people you describe, and even when I was younger I was never one for making the scene and… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - Two years ago

I have stolen a tray and used it as a sled - admittedly, this was in 1993 and it was a different world. The practice was called traying, and it was wonderful - trays make great sleds. College students today probably just take trays to make… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

At this rate, why should I bother putting money in my 401k? I was just talking with a friend about whether we thought things were going to be bad enough fast enough that we didn't need to worry about retirement. Our consensus was that we… [more]
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MeFi comment - Two years ago

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