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It may also be that HR lady does not want to admit to people up the ladder that she didn't submit your card - there's probably a small fee to the company (like $20) associated with a rushed check. This isn't an incredibly uncommon situation - I've... [more]
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The union contract will cover all of this. It will be negotiated to outline volunteer responsibilities and how they differ from paid staff responsibilities. I mean, presumably there is a reason that the paid staff are paid, right? Either most of... [more]
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And it is "trends" like this that make me never, ever want to have sex again. When I get past the depression about how I'm inadequate, I'm just filled with rage that the world really, seriously expects me to spend all this precious time... [more]
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Absent something unique to your situation - R's connections will work to destroy the group if he tells them to; R's connections will threaten violence against activists; R is currently protecting the group from violence or harassment because of his... [more]
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This....does not sound like a great idea. You sound like you don't especially want to be friends with him, for one thing. You also sound like you're lonely enough that you might possibly get pulled into something with this guy out of inertia.... [more]
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Why not find someone via the CP, though? Surely there are some young organizers or union members or campus socialists or something. Frankly, anyone outside of activist culture is going to find the CP thing really, really weird and maybe even... [more]
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Don't let her push you out into some disastrous situation. Looking at your past questions, it seems like you have had some really rough stuff happen recently. If the stress of dealing with your emergencies did in fact push her back into a PTSD... [more]
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I think fine-tuning just what kind of "improvements" you want might be helpful, and who you want them from. The secretaries could probably tell you how to improve the reimbursement process, for example - speaking as a secretary - and might... [more]
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Also, I was thinking about how cis women (almost always women, and including me) have this weird anxiety about trans people supporting patriarchy through gender performance - trans women who are "too girlie" or trans men who are... [more]
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It feels like they have all the leverage and advantage and potential to hurt me if they wanted. It's especially painful that i am having trouble finding a christian friend who is willing to share regarding her christian walk. with my... [more]
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I am a queer woman who has been known to date men. The ones who were attractive to me were the ones who could be read as gay by some people - by which I mean, dudes who were not super-repressed or super macho, dudes who were able to gesture... [more]
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Sounds like your husband's department may be full of nasty people. Some departments are - the tone can be set by a couple of snob/abusive faculty or a couple of charismatic asshole students. If your husband's department is horrible, your husband is... [more]
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Here is a thing (and I think I may do this myself, although my family didn't arrive until after the Civil War - but we benefited materially from racism and Jim Crow because we had less economic competition and a clear narrative about whiteness as... [more]
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With most of my intimate friends, the intimacy is not constructed out of secrets. That's not to say that we never reveal secrets to each other, but the friendship is built rather than transactional. Like, we're close because our... [more]
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One of the things I did not realize until I grew old...or older anyway: I had always assumed that "Emotionally I am not ready for a relationship even with someone I really like and so I just can't right now" was twee, emo,... [more]
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There is just an outside chance that she's not mad at you but scared and embarrassed. Is there some reason why she might think of you as intimidating or cold or judgmental? I know that when I am worried that I have offended someone (or that I am... [more]
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Oh, and one more thing about men and cars, although I'm not a man: when I was growing up, many of the working class and lower-middle-class men I knew were always basically suffering from having cars. Cars were, in fact, a matter of dread to... [more]
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I know a lot of newish parents right now, many of them pretty far from typical in terms of jobs, transportation options, money, gender presentation, sexuality, politics and social habits. What strikes me (as someone who has never, ever wanted to... [more]
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I know this is marked answered, but I wanted to say that my first thought, when I read about your kid's continuing minor-yet-stupid behavioral troubles at school, is "how much of those troubles derive from or are reinforced by your ex's bad... [more]
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The thing is, if you genuinely don't like someone because they are poor, that's kind of shitty. But if you don't like someone because they either are demonstrably lazy and a moocher or have incompatible life goals (they want to work at the... [more]
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