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In the cases of Dan Savage and RuPaul, I see a combined five or six decades of improving our lot being thrown entirely out of the window. That merits some questioning and soul-searching. But the thing is, folks are not writing a biography... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Following this harassment of being singled out in the crowd and hurled slurs at, Cox took over. She told my sibling that she “[felt] sexuality is a lot deeper than gender because you can’t tell a person’s sexuality from just looking at them.”... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

(Just on the reductio "if you don't like that OitNB is about prison, that must mean that you don't want there to be art about bad things ever": To me, the tricky bit is that prison isn't just a bad thing like a typhoon (or an alien... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Perhaps it is good to distract from some readers' "comprehension" - as Rory Marinich pointed out in, I think, the misogyny thread, sometimes communication that makes people uncomfortable or uncertain or that they find challenging is... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

For instance, there was a recent transit strike in my area and the dominant narrative seemed to be "I'm a precarious worker and these greedy unionists are inconveniencing me from making money at my job!" Yeah, maybe it would be better if... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I think pizzas and a keg might be the best solution. Or what about pizzas and fancy drinks? Put your energy into making a couple of fancy fruit punchbowl drinks - maybe one boozey and one non-. Serve ice cream and sorbet for dessert, maybe make... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

How can one offer opinions about which is better without offering opinions about which is worse? How can one make informed decisi ons about, say, whether or not one should opt for heroic measures in an end-of-life scenario unless you listen to... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Have you watched this show yet at all since you were hilariously misinformed about it in the first season's thread? I was driven to watch it from very shame, actually, although I only got midway through season one. I'm just not into it,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

No one who ever died of anything lived to tell what it was like (with a few debatable exceptions). That doesn't mean it's either wrong, cruel or illegitimate to hold opinions about which of the many possible deaths we may face we would prefer and... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

To my mind, the main reason not to have sex on the first date - especially with internet dating - is simply that you haven't built up any trust with the person and you don't really know them. So you run the risk of sleeping with a jerky... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Things that have dramatically changed up my eating: 1. I buy a two-pound bag of baby carrots every week and a couple of handfuls every day. 2. I buy a tub or two of the fanciest little cherry or grape tomatoes they have - the best ones vary... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

There's a reason that DeLillo hasn't put this book back into print, and that's because, honestly, it's embarrassing & misogynist. It's hard to get around that. I remember seeing a copy of this kicking around and it did have that gross,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

And an utterly unremarkable one at that. Well, it's obviously a big deal to his particular community, and presumably his reasons stand out to those people - just like quitting being an election judge, or buying white flour, or leaving the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I wonder how much chronic pain could be prevented by better working conditions, earlier and better access to medical care, better access to mental health care and better pay which could provide better food, gym memberships, etc. All the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

If you can stretch a point and read some dysoptian near future semi-woo, The Fifth Sacred Thing, by Starhawk, is explicitly about nonviolence and its uses. There's violence in the plot, sure, but it's not a major theme. The... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

This seems fake or just some silly prototype without real-world application. Shooting paintballs (or other compressed air projectiles) at rioters from a drone is idiotic and couldn't reasonably be expected to disperse a crowd of enraged miners.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Oh, and the Three Californias trilogy by Kim Stanley Robinson, I just love those. You might also enjoy Delany's Babel-17, which is much more with the space and the interstellar excitement. I have only the haziest notion of what is... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Wow, dating has changed a lot since I was last doing much of it. When I was in my twenties, it would have been considered rather odd to be sleeping with someone regularly and still to find the "are we actually dating"... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

My cat (four years old, had her for three years, follows me around and generally sleeps part of the night on my bed) goes through phases where she is obsessed with a thing or a place. Normally she sleeps on my bed, but sometimes she'll spend a week... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I get where you're coming from, but I'm having difficulty seeing the difference between passing as straight at work during the week and partying it up with fellow queers on the weekend, you know? A lot of work environments are incredibly toxic to... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

(No government can survive pyrrhic victories like that. Ultimately, no government rules without consent. Even the North Korean government depends on the effectiveness of its mass brainwashing. Similarly, there's a reason why the Chinese government... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I think I'd refer to them as "they" for now. What will happen will either be that someone will correct you or someone will ask and you can say "I just don't know what pronoun they use". While it's a bad idea to use... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Back when I had an entirely different gender presentation and had grown my very thick and coarse hair long, I used to use these expensive barrettes from France Luxe. The ones they have now are much prettier and more various than the ones I used to... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

This whole "only hot young people with late model cars can be hired to schlepp techbros' laundry" business: what it's really about is the decline of available work and the decline of regular wages. Even people with jobs are eager... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I'm not clear on why this is more sinister than other delivery services. But I'm a Bay Area software engineer with a philosophy degree, so I guess no more could be expected. See, this is one reason that I actually want to do my own... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

“I’m positive that we could go on Craigslist and post an ad for a delivery driver, and find plenty of people with crappy cars who would work for minimum wage,” he says, grabbing his laptop and flopping onto a couch in the Washio break room. “But I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I second doing stuff on the way home from work - gym, groceries, errands. This frees up more weekend time. I tend to get home and just collapse, but luckily I collapse and read so I at least get reading done. Simplify your weeknight meals -... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Best way to sell assortment of fine vintage clothes and items?
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Ask MeFi post - 2 months ago

I think that if the very bad results are very bad, you need to consider cutting off contact with the parents. If what is going to happen is there will be really ugly yelling at every meet-up, constant mean/scary remarks, harassment by phone... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

What? Bottled/pourable salad dressings (as opposed to things like Miracle Whip, which used to be explicitly labeled as a salad dressing) are solidly mid-century middlebrow. By the '80s they'd been around long enough for some previously-common... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Frowner, agree, also the weird neotenous pastel thing that is going on in internet gender circles straight up gives me the creeps and while I'm willing to assume at least part of that is my internalized misogyny something is awry there. I... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Can I go back to this derail for a second? Snow grew up in a low-income, Jamaican neighborhood in Toronto, and worked with a Jamaican-born DJ to record a lot of dancehall songs, including some that became hits in Jamaica. He's a lot closer to... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

And to triple post: you wipe the salad bowl (which is a hard wood like olive) completely after eating the salad. If you're just using vinegar and oil, it doesn't seem to go rancid, or at least ours did not. If you start adding dairy to the salad... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I've seen this chart before - I believe it's from a book called The Tastemakers and it was in the context of trying to figure out how "taste" itself came to be a big deal in US culture and how this intersected with class. It's not a... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

(To wit, saying "highbrow people tend to like these things and claim that's Natural and Right" is a way of taking apart the notion that "what's actually highbrow is not giving a damn what other people think because you know you're... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

On the other hand "uh, I don't have time, we play racist and sexist stuff all the time so chill out, I can't do anything about it" and "no one else has complained" are really, really crap answers from a customer service standpoint.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Most people just don't have the ability to hear lyrics when they're focusing on something else. They just automatically tune the words out. Some small percentage of us are cursed with the inability not to hear them, just as we're... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I'm not really sure where this is coming from, perhaps the fact that he doesn't tend to do a big recant but just changes the way he talks about things. The way he talks about, in particular, bisexuals and trans people, is massively different now... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I don't at all. I don't think I even have it in me to refer to a person as "it". It seems very dehumanizing to me--I mean, that's how Buffalo Bill talked to his victims in Silence of the Lambs FFS. I really hope "it" doesn't... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

(I just want to point out that actual people of color got upset enough to walk out of an event when I played "Informer". We can debate all day long about the finer points of cultural appropriation, just as we could talk about how... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

(One other quick response - I actually think it's important for white women (and people like me, who are white and not-cis-men) to remember racism when we're complaining about misogyny. Feminism has a long history of positioning itself as The... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I mean seriously, people, this stuff is getting more and more powerful and pervasive. Each change is relatively small - just a faster, more precise way to access what was previously sorta-kinda accessible with effort - but there are a lot of... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Inevitably, when someone starts talking about issues that affect "everyone", they mean "issues that affect people who are privileged and secure enough already that they are not affected by, for example, sexual assault, transphobic... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

This utterly profound change came from exactly the focus that is turning out to be inconvenient for people who like stinky cheese, the obsessive adherence to evidence based hygenic practices like Clean-In-Place technology and rigorous... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

The whole "craft cheese is too small a threat for Big Cheese to bother" - I don't think that this is how government tends to operate. I have not noticed, for example, that tiny useless hippie groups get left alone because they are... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

All these people go to the expensive espresso bar with a hipster, rockstar barista. That’s not what we do. We want people to relearn what was lost.” Martijn and his friends thought the first step in this reeducation was breaking down walls.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Seriously, what do people have against leaves? This is like the "Slate says YA is dumb" thread only for food. I like leaves. I grew up eating iceberg lettuce salads every night - and when I asked my parents about it later,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I think that it's useful to consider this stuff from the point of view of outcomes. You don't have to agree with someone to not be a jerk - Savage can think whatever he likes about language. But if you know that something... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Actually, also, I think "it" pronouns are pretty neat. I find it annoying that Dan Savage sort of relies on "this person is such a weirdo that they use this pronoun, therefore their arguments are invalid".... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

You know what's even worse? I've heard there are services where you can call someone or even go online and order food to be delivered to your house! Yeah, and most of those are shit jobs dependent on a long chain of shitty food production... [more]
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