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Living in Minnesota, we probably would be hard pressed to keep up too. I've lived in Minnesota since the early nineties and I have not seen anything like what folks are dealing with in Boston. Last year was bad, yeah, but we didn't… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Frowner, before I digest what you've written, I just want to say, that I read your first comment as very flippant, and I reacted rudely. However you meant it, I apologize. That's okay. I could definitely have been a bit clearer about the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Something I've noticed, from knowing friends who are or have been dancers: a lot of the guys who go to strip clubs like to imagine, on some level, either that the women are super into it and super into just being so hot or else that… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Frowner, there are some Shanghai-style restaurants in NYC that seem great to me, as a person who has admittedly never been to Shanghai. Mostly in Chinatown and Flushing. But in New York! That might as well be on the moon. When I win the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

If this were me, I would get a thank-you card and write something nice about the restaurant and the staff and then provide an extra large tip to be divided amongst the servers. (Perhaps discuss this with the manager beforehand to make sure it's split… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Brutalism isn't ugly, it's utopian. It's beautiful. (There are certainly individual ugly brutalist buildings, and I am a bit skeptical of all buildings shaped like tall tin cans.) I used to hate it and make fun of it, but I… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I never had Beijing duck (I just can't call it Peking duck) in Shanghai - I'm sure you can get it and at pretty good quality too, but there's so much delicious Shanghai food to eat that...I mean...why not just eat All The Shanghai Food? You can get… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Roast yam fingers - can be served room temperature and taste good with hot sauce. Roast cauliflower florets, the same. [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Something I happened across from what I did not know existed, David Wojnarowicz's autobiographical comic: Words can strip the power from a memory or an event. Words can cut the ropes of an experience. Breaking silence about an experience can… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago


This is a dynamic that you need to break, or it can recur over and over again. (You- clingy; them - frustrated and maybe rude; you - sad and dramatic; them - withholding; you - angry) At any point in this dynamic, whether it's when you feel… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 2 months ago

The anti-humanist mix tape (or really, playlist; I'm old, it's always a mix tape to me even though I haven't had a cassette player since 2007) in its present iteration is basically a lot of acid house and the very coldest-sounding untz-untz dance… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I have my reservations about children acting out parental political causes whether it is "radical brownies", "antiabortion picketers", "children's crusade for christ or ....(you name it)", manning picket… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

A friend did know a guy who had read quite a lot of continental theory as basically a lonely little nerd in the provinces and for whom Michel Foucault was "Michael Fuckallt". Which seems appropriate in a number of ways. Also, seriously,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I do admit that I envy people who just basically step up their exercise and knock off the potato chips and lose weight. I have a friend, for example, who started going to the gym and biking everywhere and changed nothing about her diet at all (she… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

They're very difficult. Oh my god yes, of course they are. They're like if you took a split squat and made it even harder. And it's not like I'm some kind of split-squat-doing champion; I still wobble a lot. What's amazing… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

The horrible ex-girlfriend "fucking around with gross and terrible people" Yeah, I did not care for that. I am willing to write a certain amount of it off as "at the time I felt like my "horrible"… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

The funny thing is that I started going to the gym and stopped caring about dating - not friendships or doing stuff, just about dating. I mean, really stopped caring. It makes me question what I was doing dating people in the first place, since… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Today I woke up, blearily picked up my cell phone, and read this: Racism no longer exists now that all of humanity has banded together to speak English, vote democratically, adhere to 20th-century American social standards... and wanted to roll… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

(I take remote risks very seriously, for the record. My doctor knows this only too well. But on the other hand, I was the one who said "hm, I bet that faint thumping noise means something really bad about the engine" and… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I read this as "animals getting high, getting drunk and tipping", and started wondering what gratuity-like process existed in nature. "Animals are amazing!" I thought. "First with the tool-using, now it turns out… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Okay, but if we didn't vaccinate most people for tetanus in advance, could we give them a rabies-like post-exposure vaccine? (That would have its own drawbacks, right, since probably a lot more people get unexpected punctures than get bat exposure.)… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

It disturbs me that this person appears to be doing some of the same obscure-yet-snob reading that I am doing (Sebald and Wojnarowicz in particular - I mean, there are lots of difficult names in the world). I wonder if we've read the same… [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

The issue isn't, I think, that it might cost rich people a little bit of money; it's that letting climate change play out is actively beneficial. Look at the interview with the developer - climate change brings investment opportunities!… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

My ex and I also liked to pronounce Leicester in an "American" accent - "Say, can you tell me the way to Lie-Chester Square? Is it near Edin-boro?" (We were easily amused.) In America, we feel that you people are… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Goethe on the other hand... Amusingly, my father made much of the correct pronunciation of "Goethe", "Maugham" and "Evelyn Waugh" and as a result no one in my English classes ever knew who I was talking about. [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Most people just don't have the ability to hear lyrics when they're focusing on something else. They just automatically tune the words out. Some small percentage of us are cursed with the inability not to hear them, just as we're… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I think I am thinking of Dez Playnes. It's been a while, and around here everything is named all kinds of rural-utopian names - Eden Prairie and so on - which are unevocative but easy to pronounce. Dez Playnes!!! I never actually went to Dez… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

That Roald Dahl piece linked by Artw is just unbearably sad. I never thought that I would feel particular pity for Roald Dahl, but now I do. [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

It still seems strange to me, because I have zero interest in the first thing and think of the second one (caring for each other) as the basis of any relationship, but maybe I already have non-traditional relationships. Oh god the emotional… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I mean as a history/politics/culture dork I'd love to read science fiction where everything is mostly hunky dory but we have some obscure political scheme that is not commonly understood by early 21st century Americans, but I also understand that… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I am in the process of losing my own mother to early-onset dementia. We were not close, and I know this hurt her. There are a variety of reasons for our lack of closeness and I don't feel especially guilty about this, but I do feel… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I would like fewer single-link-Toast posts, just because, I mean, I read The Toast. I like discussing The Toast at metafilter, but maybe not quite as often... But I wonder if some Toast-Posts could possibly be embiggened - like… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 months ago


Also, is there stuff you can do to make her feel loved that would be easier to schedule, etc? Like sending her silly postcards every few weeks? Or do something that you initiate - maybe both agree to watch a movie and talk about it? Send her… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

As for race, gender, etc...all I can say is that it gets very, very tricky to actually write that well when you are both trying to show the future as being better on that score, while still respecting those differences and showing empathy for your… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I wonder about the symbolic importance of Greece - it's this country on the periphery of Europe, it's small, it hasn't been rich in a very, very long time, it has some symbolic weight because of its ancient history, it's weak in international… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Actually, this looks pretty good to me! I have an old and battered bike, so no one is likely to break out any plasma cutters (seriously? is that a thing now?) and I would love not to have to dink around with a U-lock. Basically, I need to lock… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Hilary Mantel has written more than the Cromwell books - I just finished Beyond Black, and it was also gripping. Pat Barker's Regeneration trilogy and her other WWI books are also engrossing. (I really like The Century's… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

You know what really gave Communism traction in the developing world? Popular opposition to the mass-murdering authoritarian juntas installed by the CIA. Yabbut we are totally talking at cross purposes here, and I am really confused about… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

"Your body is not appealing to me" is not the same as "your body is disgusting [as a body]". Admittedly, "shaming" people for having a highly socially-desirable body type isn't quite the same thing as shaming… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The male youth of Greece is up in revolt. Anarchy, riots in the street, etc You know, there are women activists in Greece, some of whom are anarchists and riot in the streets. And the implication that all these women - whoever they're… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Honestly, I would like it if I never had to hear bullshit "that body is so gross" stuff ever again. I would love it in particular, in fact, if I didn't have to hear it about old people, the disabled, and significantly fat people,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

“Every single aspect that you can imagine that affected the airplane or our behavior in it was controlled by Abercrombie & Fitch, specifically, Michael Jeffries and Matthew Smith.” The four male crew members (models provided to Abercrombie)… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

A nice thought, but if that were really the motivation, the US probably could have been more effective at appearing to be non-monsters to the developing world by, you know, actually not being monsters in the developing world. No, it's not… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This makes me wonder if "working class" is defined differently in the UK. I'm assuming a council estate is similar to a housing project, and the "working class" people I know are very proud to NOT live in housing projects. Like,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

IIRC, the only really, indubitably working class wizard we actually see is the guy who drives the Night Bus, and he has a comic prole accent and spots. And the actual shit work is all done by the happy house elves - so happy in their servitude that… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This reminds me of a Pat Barker novel, The Century's Daughter (also published as Liza's England. (Pat Barker wrote the Regeneration trilogy about WH Rivers, Siegfried Sasson, Wilfred Owen, anti-war Britons, shell shock, WWI and stuff.) It… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

In a couple of years, you can either look back and say "oh jeez, why did I open that can of worms? I realize now that I was making it all about me and my feelings" or you can say "wow, I was so mature and exercised such… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(The idea that you have to make teenaged girls jump, shriek, and then giggle every 180 seconds I really, really wish we were not socialized to imagine the "bad consumer" as a teenage girl all the time. Who is responsible for… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

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