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This is why I refer to groups as "folks" or "you-all", ie "those folks over there had some extra plates" or "hey, do you-all have any more spoons?" I also use a gender neutral singular "they" if it's... [more]
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The thing I have observed about non-violent communication is that there has to be a certain level of trust, either in the process or in the group involved, for it to work correctly. Non-violent communication is totally like therapy, in that... [more]
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Think about this alpha-nerd-who-doesn't-want-you thing. That may be your problem right there - or at least it was my problem. I have this thing, see, for mean intellectuals. Historically, mean intellectuals do not want me but are happy to... [more]
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Do you have other relatives who can run interference for you? A sibling or an aunt or something who will stand up for you, who could tell your parents that they support your choices? I'm sorry that you feel gross. There's at least a possibility... [more]
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It's very obvious which answers in this thread are coming from people who have ever taught and which haven't. I sympathize completely with the desire to be supportive, but it's nonetheless true that by far the most likely explanation here is... [more]
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Noooooooooo! Seriously, please do not do this unless you have very specific permission from the church or for some reason know someone who invites you. I have lost count of the conversations I've heard and things I've read on the internet... [more]
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Honestly, if it's not me with the situation, I sometimes say to the person, "Please don't say that to PERSON. It will make her feel like you want her to be grateful or happy that TERRIBLE THING happened." I came to this decision... [more]
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Kids are a lot smarter and more sophisticated than I was when I was 13. I am torn between being glad I am not a teen growing up into the Great Recession and kind of wishing that I could have grown up with more cultural and intellectual resources and... [more]
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I bring it up with the partner, who tends to be slothful. "Partner," I say, "How can we handle this?" Sometimes it's things where realistically I have to nag - partner needs to call the doctor, take meds, finish a project that... [more]
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As someone who's seen the same thing - do you honestly think it's the women being worried about turning their rapists over to a shitty court system, or do you think maybe it's the fact that some of the victims were being socially pressured not... [more]
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Coming from a not-even-that-rural area where there's only street lighting on some parts of the main roads, I am surprised by the gnashing of teeth over this. Ambient all-night-long outdoor lighting kind of seems like an antiquated idea to me, it's... [more]
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@frowner -- the "thing" quote is in the post. Oooh. My eye totally skipped that paragraph. I hate that paragraph. I think about that appalling person thinging any of my trans friends and my hands itch for a brick.... [more]
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I too am tired of the perpetual idea that kids these days have it "too easy", are solipsistic, etc. It's very easy to think - once you have some adult perspective and a little bit of security in life - that kids should have those... [more]
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Does she know what steps she'd need to take to get it hosted elsewhere? If she doesn't, she may be so uneasy about what it would entail that she's letting herself keep putting it off. I've found that I do this kind of thing. If she plausibly... [more]
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Personally? I'd really accept that in my region/market you're not getting the treatment that you should, and resolve to do a little educating as part of getting what you want. Ask for the specials, ask for the menu. And if you're offered a table... [more]
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Read (and I'm on my way out the door, so I leave teh googles to you) the blogs Put This On, A Suitable Wardrobe, Men's Flair, Permanent Style and Most Exerent (yep, like that) until you have a lively sense of what suits you might like - especially if... [more]
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Is it poor form to comment after the post has been marked "answered"? I've been thinking about this post since before it was checked off, does that count? To me, there's nothing wrong with being sincerely serious or earnest (as it were).... [more]
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You know, if you want to support your mother in being healthy, you might want to look at the stress in her life - if someone is miserable at work, frantic about bills, in a lousy relationship or simply bearing the entire weight of taking care of the... [more]
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I'm female and most of my friends are guys, which honestly has a lot more to do with my internalized misogyny. I really grew up thinking that boys were better, "masculine" stuff was better, etc etc and so ended up very much a man's woman...I've... [more]
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