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(As a side note, we had to try several home aides for an older relative before we found one - who was great - who clicked with my relative and could do the work. If you have the funds to hire someone, absolutely keep trying until you find someone... [more]
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Don't do anything! They may have to report it if you make a fuss, for one thing. Really, this is like cheating on your partner once in a moment of careless foolishness - if it will never happen again and there's no risk of harmful consequences,... [more]
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Hey [Sexy yet Passively Sexual Girl], You're awesome, and I love spending time with you. I also love that we haven't rushed our physical relationship because getting to know you has been amazing. I'm cool doing things at your pace, but I just... [more]
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I just mean that I don't wanna falsely advertise to guys (and we all know the idea a dude gets from seeing a girl dressed in outfits that reveal a lot of cleavage, leg, etc, naturally) who would give me attention solely due to the sexual nature... [more]
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He sounds like - at best - he's conflicted about what he wants. He doesn't want to date you, but he doesn't want to lose your attention. Is this because he's messed up? Is it because he wants NSA sex only? (that's the reductionist answer.) Is it... [more]
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Give your friend a way to respond to all this with dignity. Crushes can undo the best people - she may not realize or have control over how silly she's acting, for one thing. And if she doesn't understand that you're not just hanging out with the... [more]
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I go extremely abrupt and cold with them - to forestall any idea they might have that I am attracted to them! It's a defence mechanism I developed in school when I had a crush on a kid who then made fun of me for being fat. Oh hi! I do... [more]
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Hey, PFL. I went through an extended period of being uninterested and bored by others and being troubled about it. It wasn't exactly as though I was uninterested - I wanted to be interested, I wanted to remember to ask about the baby or the... [more]
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Help me take care of these kids when I feel ambivalent and lack resources and experience!
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This guy doesn't seem like he's on the same page about being friends. He sounds like he has some kind of crush on you that he's working out in really fucked up ways - putting down the other girl and then putting you down (implicitly via the... [more]
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Recommendations for cheap, lightweight rain jacket-y thing for biking
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See, this (from here is the very type of contemporary poetry that I don't like much, even though obviously it speaks to plenty of people: I strike, then from the moment when the matchstick conjures up its light, to when the brightness... [more]
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You treated the young woman well and politely; you had protected sex and adhered to the terms of the transaction. Good for you. Were you "played"? Not really. Will a sex worker ever actually like/be attracted to their clients? I am... [more]
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1. Therapy, as we say here. It would be good to have a non-friend adult around to unpack specific interactions and brainstorm strategies. 2. Sometimes I come up with specific listening strategies - ie, "I am going to let this person... [more]
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(Oops, I see that you're working with your union. What have they advised in general? Does your union have actual clout in the workplace?) Also, maybe sit down and make a list of goals and a list of things you like and don't like in a job and... [more]
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(The difference between, say, beginning with "Charlemagne in Sweatpants, you are one of the fightiest people on Metafilter" and "CiS, you get in fights several times a week.") And yet, there's also the discomfort that... [more]
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I'm (too) intelligent, she's much more middle of the road which makes conversations sometimes one-sided and I keep a lot from her I don't think she would understand. I'm going to buck consensus here and say that there's a reading of this... [more]
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(Also, once she has a car, her employment options will probably open up a lot, maybe leading to being able to drop the sex work. I'm sorry that this is happening - the economic situation now is so cruel and unjust, it's like a science fiction... [more]
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Short advice before I sleep: try to figure out why you are still in pain over this. Do you find it hard to trust her? Are you afraid on some level that what she said was true or that you deserved it? Did something like this happen in your earlier... [more]
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I feel like I've noticed some increased anxiety around clothing-conformity in recent years - the thing about how some people will throw out your resume if you interview in nylons and some people will throw out your resume if you interview without... [more]
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