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Wow, dating has changed a lot since I was last doing much of it. When I was in my twenties, it would have been considered rather odd to be sleeping with someone regularly and still to find the "are we actually dating"... [more]
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My cat (four years old, had her for three years, follows me around and generally sleeps part of the night on my bed) goes through phases where she is obsessed with a thing or a place. Normally she sleeps on my bed, but sometimes she'll spend a week... [more]
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I get where you're coming from, but I'm having difficulty seeing the difference between passing as straight at work during the week and partying it up with fellow queers on the weekend, you know? A lot of work environments are incredibly toxic to... [more]
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(No government can survive pyrrhic victories like that. Ultimately, no government rules without consent. Even the North Korean government depends on the effectiveness of its mass brainwashing. Similarly, there's a reason why the Chinese government... [more]
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I think I'd refer to them as "they" for now. What will happen will either be that someone will correct you or someone will ask and you can say "I just don't know what pronoun they use". While it's a bad idea to use... [more]
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Back when I had an entirely different gender presentation and had grown my very thick and coarse hair long, I used to use these expensive barrettes from France Luxe. The ones they have now are much prettier and more various than the ones I used to... [more]
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This whole "only hot young people with late model cars can be hired to schlepp techbros' laundry" business: what it's really about is the decline of available work and the decline of regular wages. Even people with jobs are eager... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I'm not clear on why this is more sinister than other delivery services. But I'm a Bay Area software engineer with a philosophy degree, so I guess no more could be expected. See, this is one reason that I actually want to do my own... [more]
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“I’m positive that we could go on Craigslist and post an ad for a delivery driver, and find plenty of people with crappy cars who would work for minimum wage,” he says, grabbing his laptop and flopping onto a couch in the Washio break room. “But I... [more]
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I second doing stuff on the way home from work - gym, groceries, errands. This frees up more weekend time. I tend to get home and just collapse, but luckily I collapse and read so I at least get reading done. Simplify your weeknight meals -... [more]
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Best way to sell assortment of fine vintage clothes and items?
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I think that if the very bad results are very bad, you need to consider cutting off contact with the parents. If what is going to happen is there will be really ugly yelling at every meet-up, constant mean/scary remarks, harassment by phone... [more]
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What? Bottled/pourable salad dressings (as opposed to things like Miracle Whip, which used to be explicitly labeled as a salad dressing) are solidly mid-century middlebrow. By the '80s they'd been around long enough for some previously-common... [more]
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Frowner, agree, also the weird neotenous pastel thing that is going on in internet gender circles straight up gives me the creeps and while I'm willing to assume at least part of that is my internalized misogyny something is awry there. I... [more]
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Can I go back to this derail for a second? Snow grew up in a low-income, Jamaican neighborhood in Toronto, and worked with a Jamaican-born DJ to record a lot of dancehall songs, including some that became hits in Jamaica. He's a lot closer to... [more]
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And to triple post: you wipe the salad bowl (which is a hard wood like olive) completely after eating the salad. If you're just using vinegar and oil, it doesn't seem to go rancid, or at least ours did not. If you start adding dairy to the salad... [more]
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I've seen this chart before - I believe it's from a book called The Tastemakers and it was in the context of trying to figure out how "taste" itself came to be a big deal in US culture and how this intersected with class. It's not a... [more]
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(To wit, saying "highbrow people tend to like these things and claim that's Natural and Right" is a way of taking apart the notion that "what's actually highbrow is not giving a damn what other people think because you know you're... [more]
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On the other hand "uh, I don't have time, we play racist and sexist stuff all the time so chill out, I can't do anything about it" and "no one else has complained" are really, really crap answers from a customer service standpoint.... [more]
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Most people just don't have the ability to hear lyrics when they're focusing on something else. They just automatically tune the words out. Some small percentage of us are cursed with the inability not to hear them, just as we're... [more]
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I'm not really sure where this is coming from, perhaps the fact that he doesn't tend to do a big recant but just changes the way he talks about things. The way he talks about, in particular, bisexuals and trans people, is massively different now... [more]
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I don't at all. I don't think I even have it in me to refer to a person as "it". It seems very dehumanizing to me--I mean, that's how Buffalo Bill talked to his victims in Silence of the Lambs FFS. I really hope "it" doesn't... [more]
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(I just want to point out that actual people of color got upset enough to walk out of an event when I played "Informer". We can debate all day long about the finer points of cultural appropriation, just as we could talk about how... [more]
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(One other quick response - I actually think it's important for white women (and people like me, who are white and not-cis-men) to remember racism when we're complaining about misogyny. Feminism has a long history of positioning itself as The... [more]
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I mean seriously, people, this stuff is getting more and more powerful and pervasive. Each change is relatively small - just a faster, more precise way to access what was previously sorta-kinda accessible with effort - but there are a lot of... [more]
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Inevitably, when someone starts talking about issues that affect "everyone", they mean "issues that affect people who are privileged and secure enough already that they are not affected by, for example, sexual assault, transphobic... [more]
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This utterly profound change came from exactly the focus that is turning out to be inconvenient for people who like stinky cheese, the obsessive adherence to evidence based hygenic practices like Clean-In-Place technology and rigorous... [more]
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The whole "craft cheese is too small a threat for Big Cheese to bother" - I don't think that this is how government tends to operate. I have not noticed, for example, that tiny useless hippie groups get left alone because they are... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

All these people go to the expensive espresso bar with a hipster, rockstar barista. That’s not what we do. We want people to relearn what was lost.” Martijn and his friends thought the first step in this reeducation was breaking down walls.... [more]
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Seriously, what do people have against leaves? This is like the "Slate says YA is dumb" thread only for food. I like leaves. I grew up eating iceberg lettuce salads every night - and when I asked my parents about it later,... [more]
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I think that it's useful to consider this stuff from the point of view of outcomes. You don't have to agree with someone to not be a jerk - Savage can think whatever he likes about language. But if you know that something... [more]
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Actually, also, I think "it" pronouns are pretty neat. I find it annoying that Dan Savage sort of relies on "this person is such a weirdo that they use this pronoun, therefore their arguments are invalid".... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

You know what's even worse? I've heard there are services where you can call someone or even go online and order food to be delivered to your house! Yeah, and most of those are shit jobs dependent on a long chain of shitty food production... [more]
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So wait, there will be no more imported aged cheese? No more real parmesan? No more aged gouda? This is awful. I mean, I'm vegan about 95% of the time, but when I fall off the wagon, I want to fall into the parmesan, so to speak. And not... [more]
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Frowner, I skimmed the wikipedia entry on it just now and that reminded me that one review I remember clearly was by Spider Robinson. I don't remember him mentioning the breeding aspects at all -- he just presented it as an anti-social decision,... [more]
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(We have hundred-year radiators too and everyone told us not to do this - that it was miles and miles more trouble than it was worth. Yours may be worse than ours, so this may not apply, but I was genuinely surprised by how much, much better they... [more]
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See, I'm going to disagree a bit here with the idea that this type of writing is just someone being herself, because writing isn't just a transparent placement of the personality on the page. We choose our tone, in large part, and this seems to me... [more]
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Also weirded out by the idea that a naive approach to records is necessarily an internet-mockery style approach - like if you don't know anything about something, the best and most interesting way to approach it for an audience is not necessarily to... [more]
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I don't know, the first person the author talked to doesn't sound very deft, but is actually significantly more honest than I think might be hoped for from a customer service person. "It’s just like the radio in your car. There are all kinds... [more]
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That's totally not what the reviewers at the time made that book out to be about. They presented it as just sort of dull nihilism. Now I need to go find it. Hm, I suspect they presented it as a sort of dull nihilism because it didn't seem... [more]
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I would assume that's the novel Darkover Landfall, which describes the first years of colonization, including the obligation of all the women to breed. It is, now that you mention it. And now that I remember that, I think there's some... [more]
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In this case, I have no idea. I worked there two years and was never approached by anyone interested in unionizing the ushers. Except for the ticket booths, all workers' tasks were segregated by job category. I know I'm posting a lot, and... [more]
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I have found that if you tell people that you don't want them to take a picture RIGHT THEN AND THERE and then flip out on them if they do, they tend to stop. I'm with you - I hate surprise photos, I don't want people putting my pictures to god knows... [more]
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Cheerful, intelligent anime and cartoons - dubbed or in English
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"Colored" can be used in a racist way, but is there racism in the song because of it? I have heard many, many unfavorable remarks about this song from women of color. I'm not saying that every person of color on the planet is... [more]
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(On the jump in obesity - it's worth noting that in 1998, the standards for overweight and obese were changed, lowered by about ten pounds each. So people who were not previously considered overweight became overweight overnight, same with people... [more]
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Or, you know. Indian schools, where this shit was still happening in the 70s. That's true, and I knew about it, and yet I didn't think of it. Racism in action in my own forgetting.... [more]
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I am also interested in the trigger warning as a cultural pattern, though, both in the ways that it oversimplifies and fetishizes consent and the ways that it figures the individual as always-ill. Like, it's totally okay to... [more]
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In all fairness, that idea of complete "interest in [your] own agency"-- that you exist for yourself, you belong to yourself, you don't owe nothin' to nobody and nobody is the boss of you-- is pretty much the textbook Christian... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

...become like the average person in the US and be filled with constant, trite, simplistic and completely generalized ideas about life, struggle, possibility, while calling it "optimism" and a "good attitude". I am... [more]
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