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“Every single aspect that you can imagine that affected the airplane or our behavior in it was controlled by Abercrombie & Fitch, specifically, Michael Jeffries and Matthew Smith.” The four male crew members (models provided to Abercrombie)… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

A nice thought, but if that were really the motivation, the US probably could have been more effective at appearing to be non-monsters to the developing world by, you know, actually not being monsters in the developing world. No, it's not… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This makes me wonder if "working class" is defined differently in the UK. I'm assuming a council estate is similar to a housing project, and the "working class" people I know are very proud to NOT live in housing projects. Like,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

IIRC, the only really, indubitably working class wizard we actually see is the guy who drives the Night Bus, and he has a comic prole accent and spots. And the actual shit work is all done by the happy house elves - so happy in their servitude that… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This reminds me of a Pat Barker novel, The Century's Daughter (also published as Liza's England. (Pat Barker wrote the Regeneration trilogy about WH Rivers, Siegfried Sasson, Wilfred Owen, anti-war Britons, shell shock, WWI and stuff.) It… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

In a couple of years, you can either look back and say "oh jeez, why did I open that can of worms? I realize now that I was making it all about me and my feelings" or you can say "wow, I was so mature and exercised such… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(The idea that you have to make teenaged girls jump, shriek, and then giggle every 180 seconds I really, really wish we were not socialized to imagine the "bad consumer" as a teenage girl all the time. Who is responsible for… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I wonder what this writer would think of a book with an even more complicated and longer-ago setting and which follows even more distant literary conventions - maybe Moby Dick or Great Expectations or something. Gutting the floating… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

There really isn't enough in this question to say anything for sure, and thus I'd recommend therapy - I'm not sure whether high-class talk therapy would be best since it might help you dig stuff out or whether it would just reassure you of your… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

while in another context the criticism of CH would elict howls of 'stop the victim blaming' At the same time, in other contexts, saying "you just don't understand their culture, this thing which looks racist or homophobic or misogynist… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

How are you in your personal life? It's the rare person who is a pushy loud-mouth only at work. Or even a chatterbox only at work. Ask a trusted friend if you're not sure. How is the criticism delivered and what is being asked of you?… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Um, how is religion being mocked, or a target in any way in that (shitty) cartoon? My point was that I think that if we examine what folks are defending as "it's okay to mock Islam", it's very often stuff like this, that is racist… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Frowner...but they are also very familiar figures to me, some of them in the personal sense as friends of friends, but also as people I've read and enjoyed for many years. I feel devastated - both on a personal/emotional level, but also because I… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Not that I want to get in the way of a high-end Arthur Conan Doyle porno or anything, but you don't need to use a quarter scale leather-covered rhinocerous with cute little button eyes for anything; you just put it in the corner of the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Did I really just read an entire article about the creation of Oregon as a whites-only territory that did not mention the indigenous people who were already living there? It did mention violence against native people in passing, but yeah… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Frowner, let's be less vague in talking about the history of the French left. What party was resolutely, presciently, against holding onto the colonies, and defied racism before it was fashionable to do so? The communists. Which party is least… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This was a very specifically political set of killings - Charlie Hebdo ran a long series of cariacatures of Mohammed, produced an issue supposedly edited by Mohammed, reprinted some of the Danish cartoons that caused so much controversy, etc… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I think comparing Israel to Nazi germany, while tasteless and insensitive, is not necessarily anti-semitic, depending on whether the behavior your talking about is actually comparable to something that happened in Nazi germany. What I… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 months ago

O hey, I hear you! I am not in IT, but I share a lot of your stresses. I hope you are actively working on getting a therapist. I mean, when I decided to find a therapist, it took perhaps three weeks from getting recommendations to sitting on… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I'll also just go ahead and throw it out there that literally nobody in my life has ever said "you looked better before you started working out!" to me. Before, people mostly told me they were "concerned" about my body or… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

On the other hand, have you ever thought about what it would feel like to be hugged by Chris Evans? Because I have. A lot. Long ago I dated a guy who was really built - he lifted heavy objects for a living, had played sports in… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Also, if you want to read a really interesting book about the UK in the seventies, which was when the groundwork was laid for Thatcher and her horrible ilk, you could do worse than When The Lights Went Out: What really happened in Britain in the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Karl Lagerfeld has a sad life, I always think. He's so brilliant and talented - and he really is, I have never really liked contemporary Chanel, but he is awfully, awfully good and zeitgeisty - and all this skill and brilliance and being-widely-read… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I'm not entirely happy with saying that because Aaronson is uncomfortable with certain aspects of masculinity he has a lot in common with trans people. He seems uncomfortable with masculinity because he can't succeed at it - he's denied what he sees… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago


Karl Lagerfeld actually did a lot of very interesting fashion-y stuff - if you want a trashy yet very informative book that's equal parts Karl Lagerfeld bio, Yves Saint Laurent bio and general popular culture in late sixties through… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

When I see a movie about an actual person or event where a queer life situation has been changed to make it more comprehensible/relatable for a straight audience, I feel really upset. It's as though the actual events of queer lives are not… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Isn't this really basically a bad singularity? Where we all teach ourselves to comply with feelings that machines want us to have? I mean, if we're all having appropriate feelings in sync with what the Google-NSA-Facebook-industrial-complex… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Frowner brings up several other matters in comments -- how Marxism and other ideologies fare with respect to the ties between real movements and intellectuals; why certain ideologies appeal to certain demographics; how sucessful various historical… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

"how do you know it wasn't police PRETENDING to be black bloc guys?" My answer would be that anyone who knows anything about how undercovers operate would know that this is not how the cops would do it - if cops were… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The thing is, yes, activism can get pretty depressing, and it's certainly important to be able to look at stuff and say "this situation is toxic" or "this group work is not something I can healthily do right now". And this… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Template: I have [radical credentials that make me authentically oppressed; avoid mentioning advantages]. Sad anecdote. In the past I was so radical! I used to do [medium-difficulty things that will seem extreme to a non-activist audience]… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I personally would not rush ahead to do something very fancy and special that a friend wanted to do but was too broke to do and that had never occurred to me until my friend talked about it. That's bound to provoke hyper awareness of… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Especially a extremely intelligent guy like the one in this example, is born to be very attractive to women. So the lesser gifted men have no choice but break him emotionally. I do not normally lol, but I lol'd. Yes indeed, this lines up… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I've gotten emails/memos like this my entire working life. whats the story here? My immediate assumption was a story of "wow, creative class people working at fancy places with expensive chairs are supposed to be catered to… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Well they certainly are shooting themselves in the foot if they decide to cut SSI disability. There are millions of people who could not find employment during the recent economic shitfest and decided to get on disability. Cut them out and you… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I really appreciate the comments about the pervasiveness of anti-Semitism and the comments from Jewish mefites in this thread. I feel like recently in my non-internet life, I've heard non-Jewish people say some really weird things about… [more]
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MetaTalk comment - 3 months ago

I imagine that if your basic financial life trajectory is "broke and working a shitty, precarious job", then adding a couple of kids and just getting broker and more precarious doesn't seem that bad on the face of it, plus then [assuming… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I think it's worth noting that at least IMO, having talked to a lot of these kinds of guys over the years(and been friends with, or lived with them) that i think this guy is sort of the magneto to the young xmen of terrible nerdy dudes… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Oh, hey, I just thought of something about Aaronson's apparent inability to move past his "but I have really, really suffered" thing even when plenty of people have written to say that they recognize that he has suffered. And of course,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I just...I remember feeling the same way about race as he writes about gender in his response post. "I tried so hard to be committed to anti-racism only to be rejected and criticized....Can't you see that you're tearing me… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The thing is, I would have a lot more sympathy with Aaronson if these were conversations he was having with close friends rather than blogular authoritativing. "I am in pain and I am sad, friend, can we talk through my feelings with the… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I've been reading some fantasy novels by Melissa Scott (Point of Hopes, Point of Dreams, etc - don't let the incredibly cheesy covers put you off) and her very interesting verbal strategy is to refer to all groups by default as "women",… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

My observation of academia suggests that it is full not of absent-minded professors who just can't remember where we keep the toner or how to check their voice mail but of very bright people who do not want to know how to do what it is inconvenient… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This really is not just lack of care or accountability; it's not just that black lives are held "not to matter" by the state. If it were any other society at any other point in history - apartheid South Africa, Weimar Germany,… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

A big part of the thrill (not the only) was the idea of finding places unexplored by my group of friends and bringing those experiences home to share. And I will quickly add that I get this - it's legit to want to be able to be like… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Do not quit. Do not quit. Nope nope nope. I've been through this temp agency stuff. Your first assignments will be the yuck assignments that that no one wants - partly because they don't know what kind of a worker you are. If you quit this,… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Okay, everyone is going to tell you to go to...therapy! IANYT. It's pretty common, though, to try to replicate the relationships we grew up with. It's also pretty common to try unconsciously to destroy successful relationships because the… [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I don't know if "saving" was the right word, but I probably would have eaten them for breakfast if there had been any left. But no, there was just a sad empty bag on the counter with a few crumbs rattling around within… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The trouble is, I have a lot of possessions and they mostly do give me joy. If I got rid of all the (inessential - can't get rid of the interview suit or the hairdryer or the doing-unpleasant-muddy-tasks shoes, etc) joyless things I would still have… [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

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