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Oh, dude, you need to read Shirley Jackson's Life Among The Savages. Unlike the rest of her writing, it's very gentle and funny. You might also enjoy the non-humor but domestic, sometimes comic and personal mid-century writing of MFK... [more]
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Don't let her push you out into some disastrous situation. Looking at your past questions, it seems like you have had some really rough stuff happen recently. If the stress of dealing with your emergencies did in fact push her back into a PTSD... [more]
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But running around with a big megaphone saying "Aaaaauagh!! The world is unfair!! This is an emergency!!" is not sustainable (or effective). I know that it's not doing me any favors personally to be keeping score with people around me,... [more]
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She's the one with the gross Evelyn-Evelyn fake conjoined twins thing, right? And the vaguly "sex workers are gross and risible" song titles? And the snarking on fat people via Twitter? I mean, I've never heard a good thing about her... [more]
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It's extremely unlikely that this will work. When I was still in my twenties, guys occasionally asked me out at random and my thoughts were always these: - At best, I don't know anything about this guy and it will be awkward to extricate myself... [more]
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partly because my pronounced queerness meant I was generally off the hook I never really thought about it until now, but....the reason no one has ever asked me when I'm going to have kids is because I am exceedingly visibly queer, and get... [more]
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But that's across the board. Science fiction is massively popular in certain areas, like video games. And most all the highest-grossing film franchises are science fictional in some way, if not outright science fiction, so it's not like people are... [more]
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...aaaand I anticipated precisely this kind of reaction, which is why I qualified the statement as carefully as possible But you didn't qualify it as carefully as possible. You phrased it in a relatively patronizing way - the phrase... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

"Don't feed the troll" is a tried and true internet adage. It works. There are trolls, they want attention, they want people to disagree with them. It's been proven time and time again that if you don't engage with them, they go away.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

I want to see this so bad. I wish stuff like this got released in the Midwest - we have, you know, the gays here too. Interesting though not unexpected that the politics gets downplayed. That's something I've noticed in almost all semi-popular... [more]
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MeFi comment - 2 months ago

Is there a comprehensive online resource for DTWOF strips, or will I need to buy actual made-from-paper-usually-stored-on-a-bookshelf books? The comic as it exists today is semi-comprehensive - I think all the actual sequential strips are... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Perhaps someone in this thread will know the answer to this: About seven or eight years ago, I read an essay by a gay historian in which he theorized that Conan Doyle actually wrote Holmes with a lot of textual cues that readers were... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This would be pretty cool in a sort of 1960s science fiction utopia setting - think of it, a future earth dotted with arcologies, interesting farming initiatives and artists, hermits and vacationers in their little dumpster houses. It is... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Things that occur to me : First, why not visit the doctor for a complete blood panel, etc? Ask about any impact that your current thinness might have on your health. It should be possible to establish, roughly, whether your current weight is... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

When I worked in China and friends taught me home-style cooking, we'd always use MSG. I've often wondered why, if MSG is in fact such a dietary trigger, we don't see tons and tons of MSG syndrome in Asia. I find all this cook tough-talk... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Would you have a good idea, then, about how to refer to the small handful of loose cannon protestors who pull that kind of loose-cannon shit? Because on the one hand I absolutely don't want to contribute to a protest-tone-argument thing, but on... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I suspect that people are going to say that no one is ever "completely honest". How could we be? We're a constant mess of various thoughts and impulses, most of which have to be canalized so that we can function as a coherent self in the... [more]
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I don't like it when someone asks me leading/pedagogical questions. If I ask "where's the THING?" and you respond like it's your job to help me deduce where the thing is, it feels very patronizing. If I ask you for information and... [more]
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I think I liked Are You My Mother? best because it doesn't have nearly as coherent a narrative, and it doesn't wrap itself around family the way that Fun Home does. They're both fantastic, amazing books that absolutely expand what... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This is a dynamic that you need to break, or it can recur over and over again. (You- clingy; them - frustrated and maybe rude; you - sad and dramatic; them - withholding; you - angry) At any point in this dynamic, whether it's when you feel... [more]
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What this says to me is that a well-intentioned organization has to have their ducks in a row before there's a call for a policy to be put into effect. I could easily see my younger, more naive self become very focused on "how can we... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

This is a great post! It reminds me of a hilarious misinterpretation that some friends and I made when we were working in Shanghai and none of us had much mandarin. We all arrived via Hongqiao airport, of course, and one of us (armed with a... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

You know what? I bet that coat is a woman's coat and the props department switched the buttons in some clever manner. You should troll around on ebay for vintage fur-collared women's coats - I used to have a seventies-ish one not unlike that.... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I like a big meal at the end of the day. I've found that (when my life isn't augh off the rails like it is right now) I manage this well by two strategies: 1. The "get home and have dinner instantly" strategy, in which my dinner... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Also, I find that if I eat a super high-protein meal in the late morning I am usually good until dinner. (I am, unfortunately, sliding off the vegan wagon because cheese is so helpful.) I find that about 1.5 servings of nuts, a couple of hundred... [more]
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Of course, it would be a bidding site. Not enough to be a place where broke and displaced academics sell their work, it has to be a place where broke and displaced academics strive to undercut each other so they can sell their work for the... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Everyone always asks for the recipe for these streusel bars. The recipe as given calls for raspberry jam, but I've used pretty much any sort of jam I had. Use whatever kind of fruit sounds good, as long as it's relatively juicy and you mince it if... [more]
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You know, when I am in an environment where I have to hear a lot of misogynist pop culture stuff just to do some ordinary thing, you could envision my experience as a cartoon panel where I am walking through a space and all the open area is... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Aging isn't the same as disability, even though there are overlaps in experience. I know younger people with disabilities and, for the most part, their conditions are relatively stable and fairly predictable - a decent and well-run society could... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

That linked "Homejoy" story is quite something. Walker sits at 13 out of D.C.’s 42 cleaners with a 4.6; almost all 5s, except for a woman who complained that he hadn’t gotten the mildew entirely out of her shower grout. Yes,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

You don't have to wonder too much what happened to him, we know most of it. His dog died, his mother died, he had a crazy headmaster, WWI freaked him out and he recommitted to atheism, then became an academic and Tolkien and Dyson dragged him back... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

The thing I always wonder about these capsule wardrobes: how do you handle office work? Like, I can sort of repeat my less noticeable pants once a week, but unless I want to wear only black pants all the time, I need at least four pairs of... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Or consider a May 2014 report from 2020health, another thinktank, proposing to extend tax rebates to Britons who give up smoking, stay slim or drink less. "We propose 'payment by results', a financial reward for people who become active... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

If anything, the pernicious part is the mass idolization of extreme wealth and luxury. I used to look at Sea of Shoes, years ago, because they used to show some interesting vintage clothes and I looked at a lot more blogs then. The whole... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(The thing is, as the middle class declines, being able to save up for a $500-$1000 "treat" twice a year becomes a rarer and rarer thing. Spur-of-the-moment international getaways? All that stuff? The only people I know who can really do... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Well, the balloon sounds like an ill-conceived thing, it's true - but isn't the problem with these things the way they represent inequality rather than the things themselves? They're all wonderfully silly, of course, but they also have this... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

So the woman mentioned in the FPP would apparently rather starve than wash a soiled cloth diaper. I can't get worked up over this... It just so happened that I lived with a friend who was using cloth diapers and was...well, let's say,... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

There is however a lot of innovation in tech for government, like Code for America, that Govtech Fund thing, etc. It'll help enormously if we can "disrupt" government bureaucracies, meaning employ fewer people administering them.... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

(I am not a doctor or your doctor and can't provide a diagnosis. It's worth considering that someone can have both gender dysphoria and schizophrenia - your friend may be a trans woman or gender non-conforming in some way and also be struggling with... [more]
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Just like how in Victorian households they wouldn't want to learn the maids' names, or maybe the maids would have lower class names or ethnic names, so they'd just call them all "Jane", etc. One thing I like about the one percent - they... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

I'm not rich and I'm never going to be rich. If I could be assured of decent health care and enough money to live on, sure I'd want to live past 75. But as it is, I'm pretty sure that I'll be left miserably alone and disabled in a warming world, or... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

To my mind, the main reason not to have sex on the first date - especially with internet dating - is simply that you haven't built up any trust with the person and you don't really know them. So you run the risk of sleeping with a jerky... [more]
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As I was thinking about this, two more things occurred to me: 1. I wonder if you have some control stuff going on - maybe you have trouble accepting that plans aren't always going to come together and decisions will be made on the fly, or you have... [more]
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I have avoided the SweeTango because it's called the SweeTango. I can deal with buying something called "Honeycrisp" but SweeTango is just embarrassing. Although the apple before the SweeTango was the "Zestar", which sounds like... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

As a person who struggles with being out to my parents*, your letter suggests that you may not quite be able to recognize where your girlfriend is as with her family, maybe because you have invested so much energy and thought into your own... [more]
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Ask MeFi comment - 3 months ago

That's not aging, except in the sense that we're all aging. My brother's 30-something friend got hit by a truck crossing the street and had a devastating head injury, which she was in no way economically or otherwise equipped to deal with. My... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

But the theme that girls stop being interested in cool/fun/interesting stuff and become "boring" when they start being interested in boys is certainly not a hard one to pick up on, either here or across the board in all kinds of texts... [more]
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MeFi comment - 3 months ago

Here's the thing: as stated, almost everyone has issues with their parents, and almost everyone finds a way to come to terms with that eventually, with or without their parents continued involvement in their lives. By contrast, I think that... [more]
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(And again, that's where personality and access to care come in - I don't like avoidable risk, personally, and I don't trust this society to do right by me when I'm vulnerable. As un avoidable risk starts to climb, there comes a point where... [more]
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